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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/19/2008 11:46:45 PM | A friend is a friend :) If your friend is in a wheelchair, it means nothing.
A friend is a friend, if the person is really your friend, you wont mind the extra little oddities that generally goes with a wheelchair :) | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/19/2008 11:55:47 PM | I have a daughter in a wheel chair and so being in that position I know many people with disabilities.
I for one do not even think about the chair nor do I even see it when I talk to her.
When I sleep at night and I have a dream with her in it I don't even see a chair.
I have asked out two women on dates and I was turned down I think due to the fact they thought I felt sorry towards them, Quite the contrary.
As far as places to visit, we get everywhere. If we can't get in some place I just stop going there even if my daughter is not with me. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/20/2008 1:53:53 AM | If it is considered "work" then the relatinship is a waste of time.
This is a bit like my rant about motherhood.
Goes thus
- a good mother spends every possible waking hour caring for her children, puts every last red cent towards their future, neglects herself for their sake, and enjoys every minite of it.
The reaction polarises the female listeners. Half of them throw tantrums.
The other half, the mothers, usually say something like. "Yes! Whats your point?"
To them I'm stating something so obvious they wonder what I'm really on about. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:52:16 AM |
I have asked out two women on dates and I was turned down I think due to the fact they thought I felt sorry towards them, Quite the contrary.
Justcauz...
I admit I've had bad days and when people are being "friendly" towards me I've snapped at them. It's frustrating when all people want to talk about is the disability you have. Imagine having a hugeass growth on your face. You live with it all day every day, the last thing you want to talk about is the growth. You probably just caught them on a bad day where everyone's staring... whispering.... asking.... and making a big deal out of it in general. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/26/2008 1:41:04 PM | I admit I've had bad days and when people are being "friendly" towards me I've snapped at them. It's frustrating when all people want to talk about is the disability you have. Imagine having a hugeass growth on your face. You live with it all day every day, the last thing you want to talk about is the growth. You probably just caught them on a bad day where everyone's staring... whispering.... asking.... and making a big deal out of it in general.
I know what you mean about this. I myself have a disability. I'm not gonna post it on here or in my profile cause it's not who I am. Though I will tell people about in the first few emails so there is no surprise later. If some one who reads this wants to know about it feel free to send me an email, I'll be more than happy to tell you. I feel that unless you ask you'll never know. One of the worse things for me to hear though after I've told people is "I'm sorry to hear that." Its not there fault that I am the way I am.
Also going along with what the tread was started about... As long as the persons mind was intact I wouldn't have a problem being friends or dating her. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/26/2008 5:59:21 PM | The only fear that would exist against dating someone in a wheelchair would be my toes, but I'm sure the person connected to them would forgive you if you ran over them.
Also, so long as you tolerate the muffled ramblings and moaning afterwards. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 8/23/2008 1:37:58 PM | I am in a wheelchair and i have tons of friends. I do not feel that I am a burden on them in anyway. It just makes for more interesting adventures. 
But also these were friends i had before my injury...... | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 8/23/2008 2:12:28 PM | too bad for people who feel 'uncomfortable' around someone in a wheelchair. I volunteer with United Cerebal Palsy in California. A good friend of mine who had MS, and sadly passed in October 2003 was in a wheelchair the last few years of his life.
I look at it this way...most of us are one car accident, one stroke, one heart attack, one head trauma away from this.
Not related, but my brother has Downs Syndrome, and I saw the cruelty in people at a young age concerning people who are 'different' from themselves.
Have I met people with challenges who are as*holes? Yep, but actions and deeds before judgements. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 8/23/2008 7:48:13 PM |
Are people in general OK with having a friend in a wheelchair? We're so much more hassle, you have to think of things to do that are accessable, and some people just seem uncomfortable with it in general. How is the general feeling here? No problem at all. I go through lots of effort for all my friends be they handicapped or not. When I got married, we made the dinner be diabetic friendly and also have a few vegetarian options, since we were going to have both diabetics and vegetarians attending. When hiking, some need more forgiving trails or trails that are more like roads or sidewalks. I had a friend who was in a wheelchair, and we all had fun times out just hitting the bars that were handicap accessible. (We also sorta learned that a cute girl in a wheelchair could nearly go out without the chair, some guy was always ready to carry her around to get her to where she needed to go. ..but that's off-topic.) The uncomfortableness is from not really knowing the person well yet. We don't want to offend anyone or make them feel bad about their handicap and it's hard to tell how the person will be. The first time I ever tried to help one out when I was in high school, she purposefully ran over my foot with her wheelchair and told me to f***-off, and then later ran into the corner of my leg from behind at full speed. Admittedly, I spent a while making myself scarce when any handicapped people were around after that until I met some different people. It wasn't the handicap, of course, it was the person. | |
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