| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 6/19/2009 3:21:12 PM | | My parents with a big decision like marriage express their views also, they also think I am an intelligent adult and will tell me what they think and say the decision is mine to make. When I told my parents Prashant asked me to marry him, my parents said great when can we meet him? When they met Prashant they hugged him and welcomed him and said to me later he seems to really love you and is very sincere. Prashant's parents on the other hand said to him when he asked what if he married a lady from USA, his mother said- How can I live without my only son? No we do not want that. Never asked can we meet her, what is she like, ect. I do not know you or your family, but I can go only on my own personal experience and to other women's experiences. I also have a friend who is married to an Indian guy and they lived toghter for 5 years and he took her to India with him to his sisters wedding and said she is a coworker. They loved her and his mom told her that she feels like she is her daughter. When Sachin told them he wants to marry her a year or so later, all hell broke loose. Told him to immediately break it off with her, told his friends to get him away from her. lHe ended up marrying her and they have a baby girl now. He went to India to visit, bought them a new car. Then he told them he had gotten married and they yelled for hours and said they dont beleive him and he left next day back home . Since then- Nov 2008 they have not spoken to him. Anyways what Im saying is these things do happen and women need to know that the culture is completely differnt before dating a man born in India. | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 6/21/2009 9:05:30 PM | I felt really sorry for you,well again it depend upon family to family..if i tell my mom and dad about a white gal whos in love with me, they will be happy to meet her, and of course in first meeting if they like her they will tell me ok, if they dont, they will tell me what they dont like ..thats it. They wont interfere if i want to marry her. Its simple, they will feel happy if i involve them in major decisions of my life :)
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 8/20/2009 5:09:12 PM | The plural of anecdote is not data.
<div class="quote"> AmeliaMD I don't think I could date an East Indian guy because I'd be too afraid that his parents or grandparents would have me murdered for being an African (Habesha) dating their East Indian son.
Did you hear about the story where an Indian man's father had his son's African-American fiance killed?
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 8/20/2009 5:12:47 PM | | As you can see im a Black woman and I've dated East Indian men and it was one of my better dating experiences. Very sincere and just a complete gentlemen. He ended up relocating because of work but we still keep in contact and the "feelings" are still there for the both of us. | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 10/20/2009 8:31:08 PM | Being a girl ,I was always put first in my family .That applied to all the girls whether they were younger or older....in the west or in India.Today or 30 years ago. Girls came first. Everything was given to us first and thats kind of made it a difficult act to follow for any ordinary man.
If anything women have the upper hand in most Indian families.
This made me want to vomit. How disgusting.
And you see why so many indian men want to date outside the race? II don't blame them if so many indian women like you are nothing but spoiled princesses. you don't want an ordinary man. you want a prince right? | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 10/21/2009 9:50:38 AM | what is the difference in east indian and just indian from india or pakistan? a woman who is from jamaica but east indian or indian that works at the library near my house told me the other day that men from india will date her but will not marry her because they want muslim indian women and she is hindu. she went on to say that the indian men are not suppose to marry outside their race because they have to carry the bloodline. indian families are not that concerned about the indian women marrying white guys, etc.
well, i don't know much about all this but i have seen a lot of good looking indian men since i like dark men. this religion stuff (muslim /hindu) is scary and is what make women hesitant to get involve since i have seen in the news about those mercy killings, throwing acid on women trying to go to school or for their dowry money and racial tensions between blacks and indians. i watch a lot of those bollywood movies that the indian librarian recommends , its hard trying to follow the captions.
i met a very nice, well educated and good looking indian man a few weeks ago who is half italian or german (mom) and indian (dad ) side and he speaks 5 languages. i was complaining about having difficulties in finding a good job due to most wanting "spanish" speaking counselors. well, we didn't exchange numbers after he told me he was going thru a divorce (questionable). | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 10/25/2009 5:53:10 AM |
This made me want to vomit. How disgusting.
And you see why so many indian men want to date outside the race? II don't blame them if so many indian women like you are nothing but spoiled princesses. you don't want an ordinary man. you want a prince right?
How cynical and over the top reaction ! What the heck ? I read the original post and your quote and all I saw was a girl talking about HER family and THEIR good treatment OF HER .Its nice to know that some girls appreciate their own loved ones.Its great to know some families like hers CARE. Its wonderful to know that love is floating in the air be it family or of a couple...... She didn't say she wanted a prince or was looking for anybody.Certainly not you.
but yet that makes YOU VOMIT ? Your reaction was sick Get a life mate.And grow up . | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 10/25/2009 9:41:48 AM | I have been asked out by quite a few indian guys.. I think because i tend to hang out at the library computer lab too much(lol) but i exclusively dated one for some time.He was quite older but was childless and had never been married srilankan guy. He was awesome, intelligent (i love nerds and he was ONE) and he was very expressive and sensitive to my feelings. He definitely could pick on my energy, and he was a very kindred soul. We were both pretty quiet, non confrontational, and affectionate. Needless to say it ended because his parents whom lived in the UK got sick and he wanted me to just pack up everything, and go with him to get married...in my life at that time i couldnt, but now since im older i do regret not taking the chance....but he was a great guy plus he loved me for who i was and didnt ever try to change me. | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 10/25/2009 8:04:11 PM | Its not digusting that women come first and are treated better. If a man wrote that the men in his family came first and that indian men have the upper hand in most familes and no ordinary women could compare to the woman who gave him everything first we would be saying that he is a douchebag and pig.
I don't apply different standards to men and women. Sorry I'm not an woman worshiping wimp like you.
Caring family? Obviously the men aren't very cared about or they wouldn't come second in the family. | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 10/25/2009 8:45:15 PM | Hell yea man, I love Indian women. Just a matter of finding one around here.  | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 10/26/2009 8:31:18 AM |
Its not digusting that women come first and are treated better. If a man wrote that the men in his family came first and that indian men have the upper hand in most familes and no ordinary women could compare to the woman who gave him everything first we would be saying that he is a douchebag and pig.
Oh really ? Maybe you are that "wimp" instead that wants all women to look after him first and foremost.I can look after myself since I am acturally an adult rather than a inmature windbag. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder and I wonder why that is.
That poster is talking about HER family and her life.Seems like she appreciates her family.That illustrates care.Caring family includes men and women in it.You don't know nothing about that individual apart from her saying that she is treated so well that she would like the same type of guy as she knows.Thats something for the people in her circle to be proud.End result seems that care is all around in that family .
Now normally its like they say Indian families mistreat girls....maybe thats what you wanted to hear and was disappointed ? Yet I know loads of Indian girls and guys treated just normal like everybody else.I rarely see or hear of Indian guys wanting to go out with white women if at all. All the guys I know are westernised and born over here .
You have personal issues of loathing or something ? Keep them to yourself. | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 11/1/2009 6:38:01 AM | Oh really ? Maybe you are that "wimp" instead that wants all women to look after him first and foremost.I can look after myself since I am acturally an adult rather than a inmature windbag. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder and I wonder why that is.
That poster is talking about HER family and her life.Seems like she appreciates her family.That illustrates care.Caring family includes men and women in it.You don't know nothing about that individual apart from her saying that she is treated so well that she would like the same type of guy as she knows.Thats something for the people in her circle to be proud.End result seems that care is all around in that family .
Now normally its like they say Indian families mistreat girls....maybe thats what you wanted to hear and was disappointed ? Yet I know loads of Indian girls and guys treated just normal like everybody else.I rarely see or hear of Indian guys wanting to go out with white women if at all. All the guys I know are westernised and born over here .
You have personal issues of loathing or something ? Keep them to yourself.
I never stated I wanted women to look after me first. I said it should be equal. Learn to read before acting like a douchebag. Your the insecure idiot who has nothing better to do than attack people for using common sense. How insecure do you have to be to think this makes you tough?
How would you what an Indian family is like? Families are diverse. But if the guys ever came first in a family wimpy worms like you would scream patriarchy. If the women come first suck ups like you are ok with it.
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 11/3/2009 1:58:15 AM |
I never stated I wanted women to look after me first. I said it should be equal. Learn to read before acting like a douchebag. Your the insecure idiot who has nothing better to do than attack people for using common sense. How insecure do you have to be to think this makes you tough?
How would you what an Indian family is like? Families are diverse. But if the guys ever came first in a family wimpy worms like you would scream patriarchy.
Are you always so charming ? What charm school did you go to btw ? I can see that you have major issues but you try to pass them on to others. So you want me to read your email ? I did.Why not re-read your own response and ask yourself why YOU made the deduction that someone who is well treated by her own family would neccessarily mistreat a guy ?
You didn't read anything of that girls post yet you made massive assumptions didn't you.
I made assumptions based on what YOU said .
You come across as wanting to be treated special somehow and women maybe have kicked you to the kerb. Hows that for reading exactly what you wrote. My job comes in useful for many cases such as yours. | |
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| Dating East Indian Men Posted: 11/3/2009 3:22:32 AM | To the OP.
A few years ago, I met and dated an -amazing- East Indian man. He is easily, the smartest, most gentle, genuine person I have ever met. To this day, I still find myself happy to have met him, even though, we could have never worked out. He is Hindu, and his family is very traditional. Despite our best attempts to open up their hearts, and make them accept his decision in dating me, we ended it to prevent any more problems. Perhaps, it's because I am from Canada, and, there certainly seems to be more Asian cultures prominent in the communities, but, there was no resistance or hesitation in accepting him or his nationality in my networks.
However, should you date someone outside of your culture (Read: if it has any possible way of creating conflict with your friends or family.) then, resolve those issues before hand.
That's really all I can comment on/add.
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