| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 3/9/2007 6:31:23 PM | East Indian men I have to agree have a lot more complexity to them if they have been raised up to a good degree in the East. Sure there is the whole attitude about women they may harbor, keeping the traditional homemaker model of a woman in mind, but that's not the case with everyone. Look at my case for example, raised up for more than half of my life in the East (Saudi Arabia) where there's an extreme difference in culture, but it hasn't changed my perspective of women in a negative light. It has though, unfortunately you can say, shown me a different breed of woman, a different culture that promotes a tottally different lifestyle and a certain kind of character.
East Indian women are raised up under the pressure of being more family oriented, looking after children, and espousing conservative values. I'm sure India is a lot more liberal on the values than the countries I've been raised in, but nevertheless the family culture still permeates throughout our kind. Drinking, clubs, and the party lifestyle is somewhat looked down upon.
So when it comes to a man who has a conservative personality to him (being a Cancer who are known as being homemakes), the East Indian woman can be a perfect match, to mirror what he would want. Not to say I would limit any freedom or impose any sexist rules out of sudden, but more of a congruence in lifestyle. She likes romantic Indian movies and poetry as do I.
Did you know that Urdu/Hindi have a phenomenal number of adjectives to describe the feeling of love and intimacy? It's a shame East Indian descent individuals that have been raised up here can't speak the language, they're missing out I feel.
As for the whole white women and indian men? Well look at it this way..
HOw many East Indian women are in Holly wood or in white TV shows? I'm sure you can think of a few...
But what about East Indian Men?
What about East Indian men that aren't portrayed as the 1) Quick-E -Mart Owners 2) Taxi Drivers 3) Horny college boys?
That's my point exactly, There isn't much representation of our kind (East Indian Men) to allow some level of "media connection" for white women to feel comfortable with. I mean come on, how many Indians have you seen starring in a lead role in Dawson's Creek or Smallville to be noticed? There are none!
East Indians are seen as more of a mystery, as an eccentric oddity for the white woman to figure out. It figures they can understand blacks, hispanics, and almost every other race, heck even our brown women, but how about putting up a respectable Indian male on the screen for once? And make him famous!
NO sir, the only East Indians on shows or Movies are East Indian Women being thrown at White Men.
It would be nice if it was the either way around ya know?
We're not all that different from your kind.
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| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 3/9/2007 10:10:08 PM | | Sandhil Ramumurthy as Mohinder Suresh in "Heroes" as well as Naveen Andrews who plays Sayid Jarrah in "Lost" (Although Sayid is an Iraqi) They are the only 2 roles i can think of where East indian actors are portrayed in a non stereotypical and positive light. I agree east indian men are still very much misrepresentated in the media. We're not all cab drivers, or conenience store owners! | |
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Posted: 3/10/2007 4:19:38 AM | It's hard for me sometimes to consider it but the reasons are I am half Aghan and grew up around that environment. Even somewhat Americanized, my dad's side of the family (mom's side is American), do the somewhat arranged marriages, and traditional values and my "serial dating" made them give up on me, and blame my mom for raising me badly (parents divorced in my early twenties). I do have a very non-traditional lifestyle for any ethnic person to understand, one being my need to have friends, and yes, many of them are male (not necessarily by choice, I have tried to get more female friends, even putting out ads on Craigslist, but they never respond to me or write me). I always try to make friends first, let people see me as I really am. I am just not the type to be very traditionally family oriented, but I never rule out getting to know someone. But even with a cultural background, my future desires put me where I don't care if I ever marry or have kids. I think that would scare the East Indian men away right there! LOL
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Posted: 3/10/2007 3:32:24 PM | Switch of the computer and go outside and play. 
I have found two types of mentalities of people who would not be interested.
1. Natural attraction or lack off.
2. Fear and insecurity out of ignorance.
In the end there are a few billion people in this world, move on. It is a waste of time thinking about why someone would be attracted to another person or not. However unfortunate that there seems that there are more people in the fear and insecurity group.
Oh well that latter group do not know what they are missing out in the world in general.
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Posted: 3/27/2007 9:07:25 PM | I've dated quite a few women from different races - I don't think the girls I dated ever had a problem with me being east indian. I'm in a similar situation as you - where I was born in India, but travelled a lot when I was a kid, and grew up both in the states and canada (amongst other countries.)
I find that being of another culture attracts a lot of women, and it acts as a conversation point..Of course, there are always the women who want to know about the kama sutra ...  and I have no problems explaining that!
On the flipside, I have dated some indian women, both americanized and from india, and trust me I walk away pretty fast from them now. It has been my experience that many of them require a lot of handholding in a relationship due to their insecurities or from being princesses ( spoiled as kids by their parents...)
But anyhow, good luck wiht your dating..
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Posted: 3/28/2007 11:29:26 AM | bboy,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. It certainly appears that you and I have shared similar experiences with regards to women in the US. I too find myself not being too compatible with East Indian girls due to the same reasons you stated. I was actually married to an East Indian girl and it lasted only about one year and we got divorced. I am sure I had my issues by she was also very spoiled, needy and extremely jealouse. Ever since my divorce I have actually dated quite a lot of really wonderful women (mostly white). In that regard, I have no problem meeting women of other races in real social scenarios but I still feel that women are somewhat reluctant to open up to an East Indian man in the online context. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 11:45:37 AM |
I still feel that women are somewhat reluctant to open up to an East Indian man in the online context
That is because, a lot of guys from the race mass e-mail women looking to get laid, and they have no tact and are very domineering, they won;t take no for an answer and are very pushy about it!
Not all are , but there sure are a lot! | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 3:11:49 AM | Nobody can come even near to India man. We should saltute them. In Europe, North America and othe countries, the divorce rates have reached 60% and touching 70%. India is the only country in the world, where divorce rate is less than 1%.
Ladies and gentleman, a standing ovation for us. People should respect good things about other's. Like in infrastructure, hygene, and others, we see America's and Europe's as a model... But about marriage, nobody can come even near to our culture and loyalty... India is a country of 1 billion and still look at success in marriage.
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Posted: 5/6/2007 8:26:11 AM | East Indian? You guys are crazy. Got a major screw loose, and no sense of humor. And you make your women wear ugly clothes and they have to walk a few feet behind you . IF I was from there I'd be dead because I wouldnt be able to live under those conditions of kissing ur butt. I dont wanna smell it when you fart. And your ass is ugly.  | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 8:33:04 AM | | CUTEBOY, that is because if they try to divorce their husbands they end up dead. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 12:55:09 PM | Casperella, you are funny. I am sorry that indians do not look like Brad Pitt etc.
Ouch, ingnorance must be bliss for you.
You have just generalised an entire population for the action of a minority, rare occurances.
I am pretty sure that murder by the cause of sociapathic people in marriages is not limited to a country. But in your world who knows.
Walk a few feet behind, you have confused India with parts of Suadi Arabia. I guess though people of color look all the same to you.
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Posted: 5/7/2007 7:44:53 PM | | I dated an East Indian man when I was way younger..he was wonderful to me, treated me like a princess and loved me a lot. I told this to an East Indian friend of mine and she was shocked..her exact words were "East Indian men treat their women like dirt". She had an arranged marriage and most if not all of the East Indian ladies I know have had the same..maybe it's different when you can actually choose your mate? I had a good experience, apparently that is rare? | |
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Posted: 5/7/2007 7:50:41 PM | | I like Indian women (ie women from India). East India is a country I am not aware of. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 7:38:31 PM | Actually, I quite like Indians (and Eastern Asians). Love those beautiful brown eyes, and the fellows I've dated have been wonderfully intelligent. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 8:14:51 PM | I'm with ya on that one Casperella
I know of two cases (here in Canada) where 'she' married an East Indian, and in both cases were threatened. One was forced to their religious beliefs or she would 'pay'. The other was completely cut off from her family, or their lives where threatened. One of these woman was on W5 (news TV) about a year ago.
News media isn't shy in displaying this level of mindless control either. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 9:26:12 PM | where are all these men who desire east indian woman. I'v always felt it was almost a drawback........ I never approach a guy because my friends are always so beautiful with blond hair and blue eyes....sooooo
where are these men you speak of???????????? have them contact me lol | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 9:33:35 PM | dollandahalf
You're so beautiful, I hope my son marries and Indian lady, it'll keep our gene pool pretty (and smart)! | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 4:19:54 AM | Lol, never new how some people can dislike the human race so much because of their ignorance. Funny how something simple as a color of the skin can allow for stupid generalisations. I suppose white guys have never mis-treated their women, never happens does it.
I've got to go now and **** slap some of my indian whores in to submission. 
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Posted: 5/9/2007 5:54:23 AM | ecaepydal-thank you, i wish more people thought like you, maybe it is more of a personal barrier, my whole family I grew up with on my mothers side is all white because I'm half hungarian and well I guess my father would be an east indian jerk but there are many male jerks of all different races.........
hmmmmm how old is your son? hehehe! | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 9:49:28 PM | | Honestly, why would you want to marry a "white" woman? Generally speaking, they lack honour, dignity, and any sense of sacrifice for the well-being of their family or loved ones; mired in a decadent mind-set. Why do you think so many white men seek South-East Asian wives? | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 11:10:54 PM | in other words, we lack the stupidity of submission to some self-appointed god that bashes our head into the wall because we didn't bow and kiss his ass when he entered the home
I'm hungry
which one of you is gonna cook me a steak? | |
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Posted: 5/11/2007 11:34:35 PM | Unfortunately I had a very frightening experience involving a middle-aged East Indian man. I was visiting another city and did a bit of work in a graphics shop, but the owner began to make comments that weirded me out... such as how good it felt to ride a horse, etc.. and just the way he eyed me up and down, well, with him between me and the door, all I wanted at that point was to get away from him. I didn't even wait to be paid, I just managed to get near the door, and then ran away. He yelled and followed down the block a bit, but I was very relieved to get out of there and as far out of reach as I could.
I'm sure this has to do with your item:
3)Do East Indian men treat women differently than the Indian men that grew up in the states?
ANSWER - Yes they do. East Indian men who were born and brought up in India have a very different attitude towards women than someone like myself. Unfortunately that attitude is not at all good.
and does not blanket each man who happens to be of this nationality. However, as a result of my encounter, I'm very leery of them and in the odd occasion when I have a chance to make a good friend of one, I can't help being blind to his culture: I just see him as not East Indian. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 2:53:21 AM |
Honestly, why would you want to marry a "white" woman? Generally speaking, they lack honour, dignity, and any sense of sacrifice for the well-being of their family or loved ones; mired in a decadent mind-set. Why do you think so many white men seek South-East Asian wives?
Thank you for making that retarded generalisation. That is just as bad display of ignorance as some of the other posters.
Frankly sacrifice is not such a helpful trait. You cannot help anyone if the first thing you do is sacrifice yourself.
Having bad experiences should not be a cause to paint a broad assumption for an entire group of people. It is not healthy for the human race, just look at history when that happens in the extreme cases.
in other words, we lack the stupidity of submission to some self-appointed god that bashes our head into the wall because we didn't bow and kiss his ass when he entered the home lol, you gone into some fantasy land, getting a bit carried away?
Jerks and ***holes have not racial borders, did you not know that? | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 10:14:36 AM | | No, you lack the resolve and empathy to understand that relationships are based upon give and take. It's not a matter of bowing down and kissing someone's butt or being subordinate to your mate, but rather the ability to prioritize your responsibilities as a wife and a mother instead of engaging in a lifestyle fit for a teenager or someone who is their early twenties; partying, drinking, going out constantly at the expense of your marriage or children- those are the sacrifices I am referring to. Also, I explicitly stated that I was speaking in general terms, this is by no means an absolute, but this mentality seems to permeate an inordinate amount of "white" women. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 11:16:58 AM | ...as does the mentality in the East Indian culture, suggest the domination of men over women.... not to mention media - special investigative reports .... the list goes on
There is one thing we agree on. The lifestyle of a wife/mother "engaging in a lifestyle fit for a teenager".
...judgment on a mere photo does, in fact, speak clearly of your own inability to draw an accurate assessment of ones character...
nice try tho  | |
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