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Posted: 5/12/2007 11:43:41 AM | ...judgment on a mere photo does, in fact, speak clearly of your own inability to draw an accurate assessment of ones character...
Your profile states that you drink more than three times a week lol and you use a beer as an emoticon, I think my assessment as to your character is pretty precise, boss. A few "special investigations" conducted by the media pale in comparison to the sheer government statistics regarding divorce and **stard children being born by white women in Western societies. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 12:03:20 PM | Engineer28 doesn't want a woman, he wants a doormat, subservient.
And believe me, I know what these white guys are looking for when the pursue Southeast Asian women...Their own little servant girl. I've seen it happen. And I just love it when those 'little flowers' take charge and show those guys who's boss. Cracks me up...Here's to you Hui Chin!! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 12:11:30 PM | A glass of wine at most eves at dinner - 7 nights in week (that'd be more than 3) - why lie? Amazing how many comments I get for not fibbing on that one.... but again, thanks for playin ;)
The only reason the East Indian culture doesn't have as many **stard children as the Western, is because they make them ALL their wives, which legitimizes their birth... we're only allowed one here. Legally.
....although last I looked, the thread wasn't about '**stard Children' - it was about 'Dating East Indian Men' ....or did my current drunken state from that glass of wine last night during the Hockey Game completely impede my conciousness?  | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 12:28:04 PM | The only reason the East Indian culture doesn't have as many **stard children as the Western, is because they make them ALL their wives, which legitimizes their birth... we're only allowed one here. Legally.
Sadly you confuse Indian customs with Arab or Islamic customs with respect to the number of wives you are permitted; I am not surprised that these obvious variances are beyond your scope. What about your beloved Mormon Christians brothers? The last time I checked they are allowed to practice their polygamy in North America (Utah and parts of BC). Dating ultimately leads to marriage, well, in Indian culture it does, so the topic of illegitimate children and divorce are well within the sphere of this conversation. Also, I am not looking for a door-mat wife, but rather one who understands that equality doesn't mean you have carte blanch to behave like a whore. Regardless, enjoy your copious glasses of "wine" while you babysit and relish your mired state of ignorance in good ole Albertucky, Boss! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 1:01:53 PM | Actually, you're right. I know nothing about the customs of multiple wives ... really. That was a small attempt at getting you back on the track of this coversation.
90% of my knowledge of how East Indian men treat their wives, is my next door neighbor. A wonderful, stunning woman, and a very good friend. Albeit, only while her husband is at work. ....'nuff said there....
I'mna go get grunk now 'n chew on my fasination of engineer .... wanna come join yer boss?  | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 3:22:30 PM | | I happen to like Spanish and Indian men more than American. They seem more attentative :) | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 3:36:44 PM | | I as well love east indian men or those of indo decent. Some from Pakistan and Bangladesh as well. The only problem i have encountered there was that they were very young. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 8:46:54 AM | | A lot of East indian men do tend to be very attracted to older women...not sure why exactly that it....even I find myself often being very attracted to women much older than myself. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 9:04:47 AM | I am jealous of east indian men, because their women are so damn incredibly exotic, seductive, and beautiful! Plus they make fun movies.  | |
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Posted: 5/20/2007 1:26:51 PM | 1) Indians (and not the ones born in US) are more sucessful in life than those who are born here. Justification? Well, I havent heard of many successful American-born Indians in US so far, all those top-notch white-collar people in Silicon Valley , Wall Street and other companies are those who came here after their Bachelor's . Its a known fact. I dont say Indians are smarter from birth, but the conditions and competitions faced in India make you smarter, whatever way that may be.
2) US born Indians are confused; They cannot mix with Indians ,and, Americans dont take them as Americans....harsh fact, but true, and this was told to me by Indian born here (after he was on beer lol).
3) The Indians who have so-called conservative attitutes towards their wives or gf's is a past now. I am not sure what you meant by this, but, incase you meant we dont want our gf or wife to "open her thighs" for any man that she comes around, then , isnt it true for everyone else too irrespective of race? Do Americans want their gf's to **** around? Better, do girls of any race want guys to **** around? LOL...Incase you meant US born Indians are open to these, then i might consider shifting next door to such a person soon LOL. And regarding other things, if you think Indian men had attitude problems, why dont you see Indians girls having relationship with other races? Ever wondered on this? All Indians friends of mine have very open attitudes towards women, afterall, everyone is equal, whats "between your legs" doesnt decide anything.
4) I think Indian men can hold a meaningful relationship with American women, atleast from my experiences, it doesnt depend on race or other things...it depends on two people and how they connect with each other....
5) You have clash with your parents doesnt show anything...American kids have clashes with their parents too...Does that mean American parents have attitude problems too?
6) I have dated whites, blacks and bowns....every girl is so different yet similar ...atleast i dont care what race is my gf, so long as, she is attractive to me and I am attractive to her and we go along well with each other.
7) Online dating? I think its justified why you dont get much responses. Well, for one, you are a foreigner and every person (or girl) prefers men of her race first. Would an american post in India get any better responses? Heck no. Second, most american women think of India and Indians as still a poor country with attitude problems, and unfortunately, your post (third) added to this widespread false impression, which buddy, isnt going to do any good to you too. Thats why i took so much time out on a rainy sunday afternoon to type down this post ,meanwhile, waiting for my pizza. Thanks, if you have reached so far. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2007 1:56:28 PM | | I think East Indian Men are attractive. I always thought I was going to marry one. lol | |
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Posted: 5/20/2007 5:10:51 PM | Just be yourself. The right person will be attracted to you. There are Western women like me who have become Hindu and you likely would have much in common with someone in that position.
Remember that some of the traditional Indian values of spiritualism and volunteerism may fit with some types of North American people.
Good luck.
Judith | |
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Posted: 5/20/2007 8:31:02 PM | it abso-friggin-lutely tickles me ...
" I think East Indian Men are attractive. I always thought I was going to marry one. lol "
" I as well love east indian men or those of indo decent. Some from Pakistan and Bangladesh as well. The only problem i have encountered there was that they were very young. "
" I happen to like Spanish and Indian men more than American. They seem more attentative :) "
........................^^^^^^oh how shallow^^^^^^ ..........................................
Y'kno, I think East Indian men are attractive too .... when they grow their hair long (and not for religious reasons) .... and don't look for a mommy figure to beat into submission to raise their spawns to treat women as they do.
American East Indians and Canadian East Indians are very different. Our insanity, that we call "multi-cultural", has allowed Canada to watch Indians practice their culture far more freely than the Americans do. Thus .... (as my next door neighbor and close friend has freely admitted) ... "we're just as much in a prison here, as we are in their home country." <----- as spoken by a Canadian raised East Indian woman.
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Posted: 5/20/2007 8:47:58 PM | I was employed with one for over a year- endured put downs in appropriate touching from him. I am very hesitant about dating or being employed by another again (I only stayed because I was in a abusive relationship and needed the money to get out) Not saying the are all like that I have met a few not so controlling as my ex- boss. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 10:01:19 AM | Excuse me ladies for adding my 2p worth...lol... and no I am not interested in Indian guys !
My interest is in the social aspect of this PC of the Indian guy is soo controlling etc hence give him a wide bearth .To be truthful I feel Indian guys are less interested in other race women than the other race is interested in him .The reason being that I work with a fair few and I see a fair few around and usually their first choice is an Indian girl.....from the looks, point of veiw rather than anything else ..
Then they are a complete diverse set of peoples .Indian is a wide ranging term .
They are not one people or race ,language or culture so I have now found out. They have diverse norms.
But but but..............this business of say, having an Indian boss who was controlling causing one to suppose that most if not all Indian guys are the same.............lol................ok....................take it to the fact that MARYSEVILTWIN..you say that you were in a abusive relationship therefore you needed the job.....................would you label the race of the guy you were in a abusive relationship with ? Would you label all guys of that race as abusive because he was abusive to you ? no.......? Why no...............?
If you look around you.................you see a lot of mixed race kids usually black/white and the father has done a runner......................meaning he is long gone . If you go on the statistics all told....................you will see hundreds of thousands of black/white mixed race kids in single parent families . Would that lead us to suppose that every last black man was not receptive to being in a two parent family ,even though 60 % of such are in a single parent family ??
Nope.......we wouldn't suppose that at all and we wouldn't NOT get into that situation again because its racist if we don't.........lol . The fact that there's a split means that there was strife...hence he is gone . Do we take heed from it? Do we blame that race or culture ? I don't think we do.Its racist if we did..lol
Same with a white guy....certain things..abusive,irresponsible etc..but not all are like this.
Coming back to the cultural aspects of Indian men .They have bad points I have no doubt but theres plenty of men a lot worse out there and plenty of womens libbers have allowed themselves to be rubbished and left holding the baby without so much as a by your leave or house,home or maintaince.
Like I said on another one of these topics................you rarely see a single parent Indian girl and you rarely see a Indian /white girl put in this prediciment by an Indian .
There's a certain responsibility there . | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 10:07:14 AM | | The women in england seem to have no problem dating dark skinned men. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 5:12:40 PM |
watch Indians practice their culture far more freely than the Americans do.
Which indians practice which culture?
There are hindus/buddists/muslims/sikhs/christians/persian/and a few other ones.
For one thing the world would be a boring place is everyone was the same in thinking.
For that I truely respect you missanthropic, I kind of find you interesting in your thinking. I am sorry you have not seen much of the world.
Another thing I cannot stand this one culture identity bs. This world is far too interesting to be stuck with playing with one culture for life. All the universe has to do is sneeze and the entire planet could be wiped out in a blink of an eye. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2007 6:29:03 PM | | And i wouldn't peg all Canadian women who knew of someone who had a bad experience with an Indian man as a bigot either. Those who wrote about liking east Indian men aren't those that had bad experiences. And if i'm not a peaceloving liberal openmminded non racist feminist, i don't know what i am | |
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Posted: 5/27/2007 5:45:21 AM | | Forget EI men....i just want to know where turbaned Sikh men like me belong in the dating pool of white ladies? | |
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Posted: 5/27/2007 12:08:07 PM | | OP, east indian men might not be one of the "major minority races" (as you put it) where you live, but where i'm from (vancouver, bc, canada) we have very large east indian and chinese populations. i've gone on a few dates with east indian guys, it's just never gone anywhere...but i'm not put off by a difference in cultural heritage. i think it's less about how he and i would get along with eachother, but rather how our more conservative families might react to our relationship that becomes the greater issue. i personally don't let my parents influence me in that regard, but many east indian families can be quite traditional, and this could make things a little awkward. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2007 5:04:00 PM |
you rarely see a single parent Indian girl and you rarely see a Indian /white girl put in this prediciment by an Indian .
I've learned from the Indian men I have talked to (one interested in my being his 2nd wife, lol) that Indian women accept their men having other wives and/or women in their lives. They stay. The men get whatever/whoever they want. Could this be why you don't see single Indian mothers? The same could be said of women of any race--some stay regardless of how they are treated. This type of thinking is beyond me, but it is hardly uncommon, nonetheless.
:) Cali | |
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| on being Indian? who gives a s------?!
Posted: 5/27/2007 5:37:37 PM | I am of East Indian ancestry, raised in Trinidad where they're half the population.
I am also "a chocolate eclair", ie brown on the outside, white on the inside. Yes, I get smart-ass lectures from unwanted advisers about what they think is wrong with my attitude regards my origins. I tell them bluntly to go drown themselves in the Hudson River. I hate old-fashioned Indian culture and ideas just as much as I hate Archie Bunker and the white racists. Both are equally enemies of my freedom, privacy, and happiness.
Just as gay people are gay, I am strictly inter-racial. I would never, never date a woman who is also of Indian background, not even one raised in the US or Canada. Why? Because my heritage too often has tried to control my life, and if you marry someone, there's simply no way that you can totally prevent her famiy from entering your life. I have no problem being Indian with black people, white people, or anyone not Indian. But with the older generation from India I feel "threatened" the same way Canadians feel their national identity and economic autonomy threatened by the United States. Just as Canadian law mandates "Canadian content" in their media and educational system, I decide that I need to put up stern fences between me and my origins. Yet I still retain what I cherry-pick from my Indian heritage, and share it with non-Indians. As I always say: "I don't belong to my past, but IT belongs to ME."
If any woman doesn't want me because of my ethnicity, that's the least of my worries. There are plenty of other fish in the ocean. Neither does it make her a racist; damn, she has the same right as anyone else to choose what makes her happy!
Understand: What I really hate is not the actual country of India. Poor thing never did me any wrong. I wish it well so long as it's a million miles away, and I can just forget that it exists. What I really hate is persons who have tried to force my heritage down my throat, just as I virulently hate Jehovah's Witnesses, born-again Christians, and Islamofascists.
I'm Indian in the exact parallel sense that somebody from a Jewish family who marries a "shiksha" and won't give you a wooden nickel for Israel and High Holidays
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Posted: 5/28/2007 4:29:50 AM | POST 122.....CALISPARKLE
The men that have said that its acceptable to have 2nd wives to you have told you wrong .Its not acceptable in Indian culture or Indian religions unless you are Muslim .
Maybe they wanted to lull you into a false sense of security....thats it acceptable and that its part of Indian culture .Its an individual excuse from individual men and the key point is that THE MAN in question was not willing to leave his wife either .Ask why not- rather than why the wife would accept a situation that she probaly does not know of .
India is a diverse country made up of smaller countries.You get various races,tribes,religions,cultures and languages so Indians do not act as one but certain cultural norms are right across the board .Hindus make up majority population,then Muslims and Christians . I am a Sikh and divorce is not accepted although it does happen on occasion .Second wives are unheard of .Not a single person in my family has been in that situation and not a single girl in my family or social circle is a single parent as in unmarried single parent .Its just not done .
Obviously nobody needs to go out with Indians.Thats a personal choice and its no problem at all. I know only from my dad ,bros and cousins how gentle ,caring,loving respectful a man can be. I have had real problems finding that in any other man be he is Punjabi like me or white . No one has come close and I dont know why . I don't need to settle and I know Indian girls don't have to. I have a Catholic English friend and the things that she will accept off her husband-I would never accept and she is an educated career woman too.
Point I am making is not about all Indian men- only Punjabi Indians as in the form of my dad,my bros and cousins who are my role models of men in general --- as in qualities of their person --as in their looks. Also I want to challenge the assumption that Indian women put up and shut up for security .Thats not true today.It may have been in the past but it was never the way in my family at all. Not then and not now . Being a girl ,I was always put first in my family .That applied to all the girls whether they were younger or older....in the west or in India.Today or 30 years ago. Girls came first. Everything was given to us first and thats kind of made it a difficult act to follow for any ordinary man.
If anything women have the upper hand in most Indian families. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2007 8:53:08 AM | ^^^^^I have always wondered about the womans point of view on things, as i have always thought that "indian women" had no voice, thanks for sharing that info----it changed my ignorancy!^^^^^^^
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