| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:56:01 AM | | There is one thought out there that East Indian men only want to have sex with women of other races (i.e. white, black, asian, hispanic) but in the end they will only marry a girl of their own race - - i.e. an East Indian Girl. Well I would say that this is some what true because I do know that some of my East Indian friends certainly feel that way. However, in my case I will marry who ever I fall in love with and that is not restricted to just my own race. | |
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| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:41:20 AM | I was married to a man from Calcutta. I found that those qualities that attracted me to him were the same qualities that attract me to a man of ANY race. After our divorce, the men I dated included East Indians, and the same things turned me off as would men from any race.
Anyone whose message to me is difficult to decipher will have a hard time attracting me. Your posts were coherent and not full of atrocious grammatical errors or the "u r 2 sxy" kind of message. Many messages I've received from Indian men are difficult or unpleasant for me to read. I think that may be part of what turns women off about many East Indian men online. I get those illegible messages from men of all backgrounds, certainly, but in my experience the mix seems to run a bit rich from the subcontinent. I'm not sure why.
Good luck to you! You seem like a nice guy, and smart to boot. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 8:07:31 AM | I have simple criteria for all potential dates...they must be nice...respectful...intelligent...kind...have a sense of humour...common sense...and a job.
Race not an issue...
I want to be treated kindly and respectfully...as I treat others.
There are good people and bad people in all races and walks of life.
I am just looking for the good ones...period. | |
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Joined: 9/20/2005
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Posted: 1/8/2008 10:07:32 PM | "Good luck to you! You seem like a nice guy, and smart to boot"
Being nice and smart is good,
but it won't get you laid trust me, | |
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Joined: 1/29/2008
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Posted: 2/4/2008 6:36:09 PM | | tcky123 - why do most of your comments have a self-righteous feel about them??? i'm a)sorry for using this thread to b*tch about someone b) using 'most' as frivolously as tcky123 (seeing as i haven't read all of her comments - but enough of them to get my back up! and c) ... getting back to the thread... convinced ross that you're a nice guy and your perfect match will be along soon. Till then, keep fishing. Al | |
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Posted: 2/7/2008 8:34:54 AM | Ohhh I lovvvvveeee them.
I found they generally love a women with plenty of meat on their bones so I never feel self conscious.
Im a BIG fan of Bollywood, lets go dancing......haha | |
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Joined: 6/1/2007
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| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 2/15/2008 3:55:15 PM | | I date ONLY east indian men. For the last 5 years now, I've had the pleasure of dating several men from all parts of India/East that are Indian. I've dated Hindus, Muslims, and Christians. The East is where its at! Being and/or acting like a jackass doesn't discriminate when it comes to race. Boys will be boys. Have you ever watched a Bollywood film? I know it sounds terribly cliche. But all that singing and dancing DOES translate to some of the most romantic men I have ever encountered. I have never been so swept off my feet time and time again. The culture has truly enriched my life. One bad apple doesn't spoil the entire bushel. All varieties of fruits have spoils. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 2:53:01 PM | I have to agree. I prefer to date East indian men only. I have got some grief for it, but you know opinions are like ***holes, everyone has one and some stink.
I find E I M to be way better looking , more social and quite frankly WAY better lovers and they have treated me way better then some of the white men I have dated in the past. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 6:48:58 PM | | Ok , i probably will never understand why on earth would Indian men go SEEKING non Indian women . Sadly today dating is a game and relationship is a transaction,in that perspective ,an Indian woman rooted well in her culture beats anything western women has to offer to her man. Thats a pretty generalized statement but planes dont crash generally either. Indian woman are generally not confrontational and dont take pleasure in giving someone a hard time . .My friends are almost all white so i dont need a big lecture i have seen it all.... | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 6:57:48 PM | OP:
I'm a guy, so I can't answer for women, but your profile looks like you should be able to attract American women. I would ask one thing: are you sending out enough introductory emails to women you are attracted to? I've found that it takes a lot of introductions to start getting responses.
You may want to try sending 10 - 20 emails a day to prospects you're attracted to. Expect back about 3 or 4 replies. Repeat that pattern each day and go from there until you find your match. As the guy, you have to be really assertive in order to start getting feedback from women. Good luck! | |
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Joined: 9/20/2005
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Posted: 3/6/2008 4:53:52 PM | | Indian guys don't go actively seeking non indian women. It's because in western countries non indian women are the majority. Why should any man limit himself? especially if you live in a city with hardly no indians in it. If I were to date an Indian girl she would have to share the same western values I have. I don't care much for the "traditional" mindset. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2008 5:57:28 AM | | To the traditional India men,women are mere objects and the more they have the better.If u r contacted by an India man then rest assured he is married but on the chance he isn't then u can bet his family has his marriage already arranged.These folks culture is very important to them and they won't relent on it for u so keep that in mind when u are chatting with one.The women are all dolled up for seducing purposes because she knows at an early age that she is just there to pls a man and she takes this part of her life very seriously.Independent women are as funny as screen doors on a submarine to the India men. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2008 8:28:22 AM | Wow Lee4!! You have certainly made some very intense accusations agianst Indian men in general. You must have had a lot of direct interactions with tons and tons of Indian men to be able to have come to all of your conclusions.
Well, I could provide thousands of arguments against what you have written and perhaps prove you wrong but I won't even try because you are completely entitled to your opinion and that's what these forums are for. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2008 11:46:38 AM | I havent seen any indian women at jerry show ,trying to find her dead meat daddy`s father. this is so funny,men are all the same ones they have it easy,their is nothing left to find out  .Just get in the game of dating for fun.
If you want a husban close your legs till the wedding night .
The men treat you just the way you want to be  ,if he is normal | |
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Joined: 9/20/2005
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Posted: 3/7/2008 12:11:08 PM | "I won't even try because you are completely entitled to your opinion and that's what these forums are for"
People are entitled to their opinions but people are also entitled to challenge those opinions just because she is entitled to say what she says doesn't mean it's correct or accurate. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2008 2:54:58 PM |
To the traditional India men,women are mere objects and the more they have the better.If u r contacted by an India man then rest assured he is married but on the chance he isn't then u can bet his family has his marriage already arranged.These folks culture is very important to them and they won't relent on it for u so keep that in mind when u are chatting with one.The women are all dolled up for seducing purposes because she knows at an early age that she is just there to pls a man and she takes this part of her life very seriously.Independent women are as funny as screen doors on a submarine to the India men.
And how are men of other culture different. You think American or any other men are less willing to cheat on their women! Women are mere objects... you think its any different in any part of the world. Being independent doesn't mean being a town-whore. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 6:46:22 PM | The post by lee4 is so ridiculous that I'm not even sure she's serious.
To the traditional India men,women are mere objects and the more they have the better.
Having just returned from a journey to India, I can assure you that the Indian men that I met were monogamous
If u r contacted by an India man then rest assured he is married
Ross does not appear to be married...
but on the chance he isn't then u can bet his family has his marriage already arranged
This may or may not be true of said individual but having parents who are looking to arrange a marriage does not preclude dating.
These folks culture is very important to them
Not necessarily a bad thing.
and they won't relent on it
Alternatively, one might try embracing the culture
The women are all dolled up for seducing purposes because she knows at an early age that she is just there to pls a man
While it is true that Indian women are often gorgeous, it's unfair to say that she does it to please men. Even if that were true, it is unfair to say that pleasing men is her only role in life.
Independent women are as funny as screen doors on a submarine to the India men.
Well all the Indian women that I work with seem to be doing very well for themselves professionally and those with Indian boyfriends do not seem to lack respect or support from their partners. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 2:38:22 AM |
There is one thought out there that East Indian men only want to have sex with women of other races (i.e. white, black, asian, hispanic) but in the end they will only marry a girl of their own race - - i.e. an East Indian Girl. Well I would say that this is some what true because I do know that some of my East Indian friends certainly feel that way. However, in my case I will marry who ever I fall in love with and that is not restricted to just my own race.
And there you have it. Even if the woman doesn't necessarily think about getting married, there is just something about knowing that some men of certain ethnical backgrounds consider caucasian women "good enough to f*ck" but not good enough to marry, that is a total turn off...
Me, I simply wouldn't want to date a man from a culture that treats women as being of lesser value than men. Or one from a culture where a woman's worth is defined by the state of her hymen. I admit that if I met you (hypothetically speaking) in real life and got to know you, it probably wouldn't matter since you seem very liberal and open-minded but I'm afraid I would not respond to you if I saw you on an online dating site. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 2:53:28 AM |
Many messages I've received from Indian men are difficult or unpleasant for me to read. I think that may be part of what turns women off about many East Indian men online. I get those illegible messages from men of all backgrounds, certainly, but in my experience the mix seems to run a bit rich from the subcontinent.
I'm afraid I have to agree. Now before anyone jumps all over me saying this is what I should expect, considering my profile (I am married), that was a long time ago, way back when I started using instant messengers like yahoo. With a completely innocuous nickname (meaning nothing "explicit" or indicating that I was "looking" for anything), I got a lot of unsolicited messages like this from Indian men. Which leads me to believe they have a lack of respect for western women.
Of course now we're talking about men living IN India, not about an "americanized" man with Indian heritage. I do feel for the OP - it's an unfortunate predicament he's in. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 3:15:04 AM | I think you have to be aware of being over aware of your nationality or race.
We truly are all equal, as powerful and incredible as one another, no matter what mistake our ancestors made or suffered... the true equality comes form our acceptance of ourselves, and our self confidence to view ourselves exactly the same as as how we respect those we look upon, disregard of our color and race.
If we hold the believe that our race or colour can be a barrier to our meetings with people, we will confirm that believe by the preconception and body language we give out.
I truly believe we have enormous beauty with our own individuality, no matter who we are. We attract those who sees beyond the boundaries if that is the faith we hold.
There is no need for any of us to worry whether if general public likes such or that race. When we do that to ourselves, we subject our self image in the mercy of other's eyes... And I am sure that isn't what you are asking for! I may not have answered your question practically, but hopefully there is something more that has been offered here. Regards.
Here is something written by Nelson Mandela, the true leader of our society, I think all of us will benefit from his wisdom...
Our Deepest Fear
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
-Nelson Mandela
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| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 3/14/2008 10:25:45 AM | I have only a few times been contacted by an East Indian man online and they have consistently spoken in short, choppy sentences that are difficult to understand and that seem very generic - like they wrote one message and just send that out to anyone. I never feel any desire to connect with them based on the low quality of that first communication. That is sometimes the case with men of other ethnicities too, but totally the case with the EAst Indian men who have contacted me.
In real life I have had a few East Indian men as friends and have traveled in India. I can find them attractive as friends or handsome to look at, but culturally I don't think I would ever feel accepted if I married into their families. I don't really want to be a part of Indian culture and would like to connect with the family of my spouse. It's a wonderful culture, but I prefer experiencing it as a traveler, not an in-law. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 4:33:27 PM | I am an American woman, and prefer to date Indian men. We're out there!!!!
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Joined: 9/29/2007
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| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 7/11/2008 4:38:39 PM | | i hate to sound like im racist or generalizing but every east indian man i have met has treated me like dirt. (i haven't met alot but one instance that sticks out was last year while visiting friends and family in calgary i was at a store and an east indian man turned around and sneezed in my face and when i said EXCUSE ME he just glared at me and walked away) so for me i would probably have to know an east indian guy a while before dating him, i know their veiws towards women are differnt in india and westernized ones are probably the same as any westernized race. another problem would be your parents, are they westernized? or do they have the same veiws on women..i don't think i could be with someone if their parents treated me like dirt either. once again i haven't met a ton of east indian men so i don't know alot about the culture other than what i have personally experience. | |
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