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Posted: 7/11/2008 6:16:40 PM | It depends on how well you treat a woman. I have found in my very small (little to none) experience that men from various cultures are either
1. WAYYYY to coming on strong, like they have no control over themselves. Like some unforseen force is making them act like a moron. And they tend to stand too close for my comfort, look into my eyes with this "I'm fantasizing about us right now" googley eyed look on their face. I tend to back away...
2. Act like they are a God's gift to the world and think I should worship them. They need a good kick in the butt from an american woman and should realize that they are only a man (No offense intended, as I am only a woman). I have a strong personality and anyone (man or woman) who treats me with a superior attitude will get it right back.
Wherever you came from, a good sense of self and pride is important. Self respect as well as the respect of others is a always a win-win situation. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2008 6:50:04 PM | | I married an East Indian Man who was raised here. Our children are lovely. I also divorced him, but that's because of personal reasons. I met a very hot East Indian man on this site and I just didn't take it up with him because I knew I would just be very naughty with him and that's not really what I want (alone, that is). I hope somehow your viewpoint just gets turned around. You are a wonderfully handsome man. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 12:58:10 AM | "a man from a culture that treats women as being of lesser value than men. Or one from a culture where a woman's worth is defined by the state of her hymen."
That's too stereotypical for me. I date Indian men and have been treated with respect. You get what you expect from ANY man. If you respect yourself and EXPECT that in return, you'll get it. I am an opinionated strong American woman.. I have posed no threat so far. And yes, I have been proposed to.. I said no because marriage isn't what I was looking for at that time in my life. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 6:26:56 AM | | I am an East Indian guy. I don't have a preference on race. But, I tend to get more attracted towards Asian and Caucasian girls. I don't follow any religion and I am kinda agnostic. I live in Dallas, TX. I have a feeling that girls here don't want to date guys from other guys or, probably they don't find me attractive. I am new to this dating thing and I have never actually asked a girl for a date in person. I just try the online dating stuff and so far, I haven't gotten any responses from any of the girls in POF. That's probably why I am not asking any girls in person for a date thinking that they might reject me (may be I am pessimistic. I don't know). But, I am ready to marry someone if things work out properly. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 8:24:05 PM | hi there!
I believe that the love does not see class social.race.nacionality, etc only feels and in my case like me the Indian men because they seem to me very interesting and attractive people.
I had a good experience with indian man.
my english isnt perfect yet i hope everybody understand me
good luck in your search.
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Posted: 7/21/2008 4:44:33 PM | I'd be down if the guy was liberal, but for me he'd have to be non-religious as well- but then I wouldn't date men who actively took part in any religion including Christianity.
Hindu and Buddhist men are often vegetarian, which is great as I am, but then the religious part gets in the way, double edged sword for me.
The attitude towards women thing would be a huge factor. Maybe explain right off the bat what your views are- how you differ from a guy raised traditionally in India- I think lots of us are just clueless about it but have vague feelings that men from that corner of the globe think of us as second class citizens- not something that gives us a warm fuzzy. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2008 6:26:45 PM | And may I say Native Americans are extremelly Good Looking people..Both sexes... | |
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Posted: 7/25/2008 5:08:32 PM |
I think lots of us are just clueless about it but have vague feelings that men from that corner of the globe think of us as second class citizens- not something that gives us a warm fuzzy.
I thought I could answer this but its difficult even for East Indian like myself to describe East Indian men under one description. Huge variation in regional tradition, religion, history etc. from north to south makes it difficult to generalize.
As mentioned earlier by someone that the best test is to see if the guy is opening up his personal circle gradually.
On womens equality, think about this, no parent or brother would like to marry their daughter to a person who will disrespect/enslave/beat or kill. Yet they do happen and all I can say its unfortunate and that one has to make a good judgement call. It might be safe to assume that its not a main stream thought. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 5:56:41 PM | I am not religious. I don't eat meat just because I don't like it and it's one of my principles.
I am not quite sure what gave you the impression that men from other corner of the globe think of you as second class citizens. I don't think that's correct. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 2:09:16 PM |
Ok , i probably will never understand why on earth would Indian men go SEEKING non Indian women . Sadly today dating is a game and relationship is a transaction,in that perspective ,an Indian woman rooted well in her culture beats anything western women has to offer to her man. Thats a pretty generalized statement but planes dont crash generally either. Indian woman are generally not confrontational and dont take pleasure in giving someone a hard time . .My friends are almost all white so i dont need a big lecture i have seen it all....
Splendid and pray what do you seek to achieve in a dating site thats predominantly non-Indian? From one Indian to another if you think Indian women have way more redeeming qualities than a Western woman well then you're sorely mistaken | |
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Posted: 8/19/2008 9:30:38 AM | | I have typically found that most Indian Women in the US seem to have this false sense of security about their looks and as a result develop this completely un called for "attitute." I believe this happens because a lot of white guys (and perhaps even black guys) find Indian girls to be very "exotic" and mystical looking. As a result these girls get pursued and chased a lot more than they ever would by Indian guys because to an indian guy she is nothing but another average looking indian girl. I personally have almost always prefered non-indian women when it comes to dating. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2008 10:10:58 AM | I haven't found it too tough to date women of other ethnicities. But I'm sure a lot of women would not want to date the indian looking guy. Just like OP, I am partly of indian decent, my mom is portuguese born in Portugal and my dad was born on a british island ,same for my grandparents, so we all have he westernized mindset. I do however tend to read about my heritage and been to india on some occasions. Very beautiful place.
I grew up mostly in England/british overseas territory island and now living in the US. For sure the mindset of an indian man born and raised in India will be different in terms of values and cultural beleifs. I myself am catholic since in my family we followed this path. I'm a seasonal visitor to the church :).
That said, I can speak for the North East, a lot of women won't give you the time of the day because they think you must be indian and hence the stereotypes just goes right to their head (he must eat curry everyday, he must have this funny accent, he probably is possesive and hot headed etc etc).
We are overlooked because of the stereotypes and society as a whole. Stereotypes become perception and they become reality for many women and men. I stated once that we have to try really hard to make women look 'past our pictures' and it holds true. One poster pointed out that it's all about getting along and thats very true. Coconut brown on the outside and westernized on the inside.
This applies to a lot fo women but not all. But by remaining positive we can overlook these petty differences.
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Posted: 8/19/2008 10:17:42 AM | Another thing I wanted to point out that one poster said that if we look indian, we are middle eastern and terrorist. Happens all the time. This misconception is from an immature person. You can grow up hearing somethngs but as adult and with maturity you have to find out if those beleifs are true.
Middle Eastern or not, not every middle eastern person (or indian looking) are terrorist. The wrong doing of the few spoil the reputation of the many.
Get to know the person not the ethnicity. discover the personality not the cover of the book. Isn't surprising that still at this day and age we are still hung up on this? | |
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Posted: 8/19/2008 10:50:40 AM | I live in "Little India"; I'm surrounded by Indians and that's fine. However, I will not date them. I have dated a few and no matter how "white" they say they are - there are still HUGE cultural gaps that cannot be bridged. Most of the ones I dated were Canadian born but their parents were from India. Most of them were Sikh. My experience has found that Sikh parents want their sons to marry Sikh girls - and having a white girlfriend is something to be ashamed of. I've actually had a few guys e-mail me here saying we should go out, but we can't let his parents know. I'm not prepared to be someone's dirty white secret.
I'm not racist; I have absolutely nothing against Indians but this is exactly how it is here: even though the guys I have dated were all first generation Canadians, they still carried a lot of issues taught to them by their parents, usually along the lines of equality and how to treat women. Because I tend to be a rather independent, outspoken, strong willed, opinionated woman, the guys that I have gone out with are confused and that confusion usually turned to anger. Maybe there are some Indian guys out there who don't have these preconceived notions on women and how to treat them, but I've met enough of them that do have them and it's a bit worrying.
It's not just Indians either, it's middle eastern men as well. Their world is vastly different from ours and it's really hard to mix two cultures that are so vastly different.
I'm not saying I would *never* date an Indian man, or middle eastern man, again - but I would not be out looking for one. There are some deliciously yummy Indian guys where I live but.. there's a very good chance they're members of a gang (we have a problem with Indian gangs here) so that kind of narrows the field to begin with  | |
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Posted: 8/19/2008 11:07:05 AM | | I was born in India and lived there when I was young, love curry and Indian food, and am saddened to see even remotely racist remarks on the forum. While there are some cultural differences, you can't stereotype an entire race by statements like that. A lot of Indian men are cultured, intelligent, very well-educated and very kind to their spouses and families. I have found among professional Indian men that sometimes their educational level is actually higher. Let's not ascribe cultural differences to a whole race, okay? That's a dangerous precedent. India is a wonderful country, beset by poverty, that is making great strides in the world market. By in large, most Indian people are gentle and kind. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2008 1:47:36 PM | | Thank you for your very wonderful comments Charleston mom. I wish most American women would have the same attitude. But they unfortunately do not. However, I must say that there are many wonderful, open-minded and intelligent women in this country. I have actually met a couple of them from this site. They are definitely out there but difficult to find. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2008 2:14:56 PM | I meet a lot of east Indian men.
I will ask if they were born here now.
I find them very polite and kind.
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Posted: 10/7/2008 3:01:59 PM | I think this kind of question can also be applied to people of non-caucasian origin who were raised in a westernised country, I've seen this kind of situation even here in NZ, so it doesn't just happen in the US.
I'd say you shouldn't have too much problem if you're also dating someone else with a westernised upbringing, know what I'm saying? Lots of people whose parents were from overseas but they themselves were brought up here don't have trouble finding a gf/bf/partner, because chances are their partners/gf/bfs were brought up in this western society too. As for me, I've never dated an Indian guy before, but I think it all boils down to that someone you connect with regardless of race. If I meet an Indian guy I get along well, then I don't see why not, unless his religion/cultural background forbid it.
Btw, I thought Indians were also considered Asians, since India is situated in Asia...? | |
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Posted: 10/20/2008 3:43:53 AM | | So how would you feel like dating a guy like me?.......I am a turbanned and bearded Sikh man who was born and raised in England. Would you be put off from dating me because i am an English man who does not come from NZ? | |
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Posted: 10/20/2008 9:45:36 AM | I would like at him the same I look at any potential date. Do we enjoy each other's conversations? Does it seem like we would be happy with how we treat and resepect each other? Do we share enough similar past times to keep dating fun? Have sex come up at all, and if so does it sounds like we might be compatible in the bedroom? Will his family be overbearing? Do we know if our future goals are completely off the mark (i.e. if he is planning on movie to India in the next year), etc, etc.
Once very nice bonus might might be is if can cook authentic East Indian food. Yum!!! :) | |
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Posted: 10/25/2008 2:58:00 PM | Dear JustAnotherGirl ,
A man like myself would not plan to move to India next year. I have never been to a different country......i am a proud English man with a big English flag tattooed on his right shoulder. ..In response to you last qoute...."Once very nice bonus might might be is if can cook authentic East Indian food. Yum!!! :)" ...............Im sorry but i dont know how to cook Indian food..........the only thing that i am good at is cooking English food and tying a smart turban. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2008 9:29:57 PM | Only one thing about east indians that make me cautious in dating them. Like any man they can be very sweet and charming gentleman afterall they are still human beings.
What concerns me is this....
most are already pre spoken for to another girl of east indian decent at birth. I fear to actually fall for the man and then have him tell me he must leave me now to go get married.
Never happed to me personally but has to a close friend of mine, she was devastated. They had gone out for just over a year when he tripped her with that.
Also if anyone has read or even seen the movie "Not Without My Daughter"....That poor woman went thro hell and was treat like crap by her own husband an nearly lost her child when he fled to india with the kid.
For those that don't know the woman was white, married him and had his baby (a girl which are looked down on in india) Both the mother and daughter were americains.
Another woman born and raised in India; married a man from there(this one hit the media big time) they both remained living in India. The mother inlaw didn't believe the girl had come with a large enough dowery for her son. She actually went to the girl and had beatten her to death.
So would I date an east indian?....probably yes, but I would also be very guarded to start off and would also explain this to him with my reasons why (in all fairness). | |
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Posted: 10/29/2008 10:39:51 PM | | justyou4me: the movie that you are talking about is about IRAN not INDIA. | |
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