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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 2:27:01 PM | This one made me chuckle. I have been to China and that seems more the norm.....or shall I say, that doesn't surprize me.
They say that behind every good Man there is a good Woman. You may be able to get him trained, the way you want. If he really wants to live that way, it is a given that way is not acceptable to you. He will need to change his ways or you will never be happy.
Holy...after finishing the thread, 90% of you missed the point....the guy is a slob and she doesn't want to pick up after him for the rest of her life or their life together. Money is not the issue at all. You people are wacked on smething. Can I have some of those drugs, they seem to work well? | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 2:46:58 PM | I seem to think the OP left out a lot of useful information from the start. I seem to think as well that the OP may have needed to ask her question a bit differently. I do not think the text of her question reflected the problem she is facing. She may live paycheck to paycheck! If he lives like a slob and you do not.....you have told him many times to straighten up....now is time to tell him goodbye and walk away.
Harsh perhaps, but the only solution as I can see it.
Much respect,
~Sneaks
p.s. Yes.....I live paycheck to paycheck and just barely!! | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 6:39:32 PM | Bonita,,get the hint yet,,YOU sound like your more into yourself than anyone else,,,Ever hear of HIGH-Maintenance,,sounds like your Parents raised you with your own Credit card too,get a grip,,
Maybe you should take a week off and clean his apartment,,then maybe you`ll feel better,,It`s not looking good for you,I`m doing whjateverybody else is doing hehe from ppl. like you......  | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 6:39:42 PM | How old is he? Sounds like he's just getting started there; and when you say he doesn't have a work visa yet, well, that's a good reason to not get too settled until things get a bit more permanent. As far as the messy apartment, every woman I've ever dated had a cluttered place, in fact, so do I most of the time. Guys just have a higher 'mess' tolerance than women do. It sounds very much like you're already looking towards the distant future, making plans for a husband. And honestly, it doesn't really sound like you're ready for it yet.
Hitman, I never even thought of using lawn furniture indoors. Now, lets see, astroturf for a rug, lawn furniture, hmmmm, dual purpose, all I need is a good sunlamp, maybe some sand, a little cocoa butter scented candle, and I can be on the beach all year round! | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 6:52:13 PM | There are lots of both men and women living [paycheck to paycheck. If that fact alone is what you’re basing your decision on you just ruled out a huge number of the population. Just listen to the news and conceder our economic times: hell most people are only one paycheck away from living on the street, Why do you think there are so many two income families and stay at home moms are almost totally a thing of the past.
I think the way he keeps his apartment and his own personal hygiene speaks volumes more about him than his income. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2006 6:58:39 PM | | Let me explain something to you sweetie about real life and my life. I am separated and I moved back in with my Mom does that make me a loser? NO it does not. I take care of my own responsibilities like my mortgage on my house where my wife still lives because that is called responsiblities . Let me tell you something no matter who you date the world does not revolve around you or anything like that. It revolves around the most difficult responsibility called work usually.And if you have a family it revolves around that as well. Unfortuantely I live from paycheck to paycheck because of it,I am not a loser I do have a future I am a local truck driver who could also be a supervisor but has chosen not too for now.I am educated I did goto college to try it but it was tough for me and where I went I had to leave due to my former Governor Christie Twit Whitman who allowed colleges to charge whatever they wanted.Well I am a good man who is responsible just because I live from paycheck to paycheck does not make me a loser or one with no future. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 7:06:39 PM | | Hi lovely bonita,glad you wrote this post. With the cost of living so high now, alot of people live paycheck to paycheck. I live this way and I happen to be a very proud man. My future looks pretty bright,and the things I have to offer you could never bye no matter how much money you have. Keep a smile bonita. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 7:18:04 PM | | I am a man who lives paycheck to paycheck, sometimes even worse. My apartment is also in shambles most of the week. The reason for that is because I do have dreams and I am always striving to accomplish them. I spend about 60-70 hours a week working on my dream, and it just hasn't gotten to the point where it pays what I want yet. It also doesn't allow alot of time for me to keep my home in tip top shape the way I would prefer it to be. Try to remember that every man who had a dream went through times in his life when he lived pay check to pay check if not worse. I would rather struggle for awhile chasing what I feel passionate about knowing that it will be mine than settle for the comfort of daily crappy life that so many believe is the way things should be. Maybe it's just me, but there is always a sacrifice at one time or another for the things we want, no matter what they are. The question is not whether one has dreams, but what one is willing to sacrifice for what one wants. So many sacrifice gaining their dreams for the safety and comfort of day to day life, while a select few sacrifice that comfort for a short while to gain things that are far more valuable in the end. Love is no different. We sacrafice our freedom and the benefits of being alone for having someone in our lives. And vice versa when we become single again. There is always something given up for anything we want. I would ask you to ponder what you have sacrificed for such beliefs. Possibly an opportunity for an amazing man. And all you women out there know that great men are far and few in between. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 7:30:14 PM | Most of us live from paycheck to paycheck, even those of us with better pay. After all, we had to do postsecondary studies to get into a professional field, and in the USA that costs a lot of money!!!! From 2000 to 2004 I was making over $3000 a month and yet I lived in an apartment costing less than $500 a month so I could pay off my student loans, make car payments, etc.
Apparently, unlike the mail-order-bride companies may say, American (Western) women aren't the only ones interested in having a guy with lots of money. 3 years ago I went to Central America and was going to marry this girl, but she stopped writing when I told her I lost my job. Well, just 2 months later I had a similar job with similar pay, so it's her loss really. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 7:44:24 PM | | Unorganized. Understandable. He is a citizen of Canada and in Hong Kong for a temporary stay. To him, it was an opportunity to go there until he gets deported. His friend made it possible to work and he is simply partying there. You are stuck there and perhaps jealous of him. He can return to Canada you cannot. When the authorities nab him and that time will come soon, he won't care about the few items in his place. He will be put on a plane quickly. Males can do without friends. All they need is one which he has and a few drinking/party buddies, which he also has. You do not have friends there, your home. Your profile indicates this and for a female, that's abnormal. My question to you is, why can't you bag a man who is loaded and only working stiffs? | |
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Posted: 11/2/2006 7:53:31 PM | [You are stuck there and perhaps jealous of him. He can return to Canada you cannot]
First of all, I am Canadian and he's from Europe. So I am not stuck here like you said. I can go back to Canda whenever I want.
[All they need is one which he has and a few drinking/party buddies, which he also has.]
Second, he had no one in Hk, not even a drinking buddy! He rather go clubs by himself because he's not interested in meeting anyone new! So please stop judging and put me down to make you look better when you are not trying to understand the whole situation | |
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Posted: 11/2/2006 8:02:33 PM | So if he's going to clubs by HIMSELF, more than likely thinking of YOU, and you are on here worrying about his paycheck to paycheck life, 2+2 just isn't quite adding up to 4 here.
You're 22, fresh out of high school, well 4 years out if you graduated at 18. So in 4 years out of school, you've gained so much experience about living paycheck to paycheck, to know what it's like and you don't like it. Good Lord I just sounded like my dad! A voice of experience! | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 8:08:48 PM | 1) I mean if a guy is living paycheck by paycheck that means he doesn't have any plans for future and doesn't take care himself at all.
2) Also, he doesn't have any friends here and he's not intend to make any friends.
3) he worked for him because they are friends for a long time.
4) As I know, he spent his money to go to clubs by himself
5) He still doesn't have a working visa which means he might get kickout anytime!
Not only did you judge him but you also condemned him to no future. You can dish it but cannot take it.
Canada or a European country, he still has his nationality there and not in China. Your poor English skills shows you are from China and not Canada. The above statements are from your posts. Clubs means regular visits there and has some drinking buddies. Bartenders alone talk with him and other patrons of the clubs. He does not intend to make friends since he will be leaving. His friend the boss. Kindly address the question to the reason you cannot snare a man with wealth? It is your persona, right? Your mentality that only attracts vagabonds. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/2/2006 8:22:40 PM | I believe there are 3 basic types of people who live paycheck to paycheck:
1) Those with adequate or large incomes, but very poor money-management skills or inability to live within their means.
2) Those with more modest incomes who are struggling to get by through everyday life.
3) Those who choose to live paycheck to paycheck by putting pressure on being frugal and saving.
Personally I would date someone who was in 2 or 3, but not 1. I think that having a great income and not being able to handle it is the worst possible thing, because you know that no matter what good things happen to that person, they will always be just as bad off as they've always been. Getting married and a second income will mean more disposable cash, more "keeping up with the Joneses", raises will be spent as soon as they're gotten, etc.
I'm in the 3rd category myself. I have my mortgage and basic payments deducted from my checking account automatically every month, and I charge everything I buy including groceries, gas, cable bill, cell phone, etc onto a credit card that I pay off every month. I choose not to budget every little individual category because it's too tedious, but I know within a fairly tight range of how much my credit card bill should be every month. I use Quicken to take keep track of all this stuff and pull up particular categories if I need to do so. I allow myself a certain amount of cash from the ATM every Friday, and when my cash is gone, it's gone until next week.
I also have a large chunk of money automatically deposited into my savings account, and this amount is identical to the exact amount I have left after deducting my typical monthly expenses from what I take in every month.....I always keep a decent balance in my checking account, but really any "non-ordinary" expense I make requires me to put a reasonable amount of thought into it because of the way I budget.
Mind you, I was not born this way....I learned that life is much less stressful when having structured finances. I sure wasn't good good with my money back when I was 22, and if you're dating guys your age, OP, I'm not sure you'll find a lot who have learned good money-management skills yet at that age. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2006 9:16:16 PM | | Yeah, I would date and have dated men who lived paycheck to paycheck. It does NOT mean that he cannot take care of himself...it simply means that he was dealt with a rough hand the first time around. NOW, the one type of man I cannot date is one who cannot hold down a job...if he is constantly getting laid off or he constantly switches jobs, it makes me think that the company is not all to blame. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 12:56:17 PM | | Odd I don't even see Lovely's profile, I guess it's because I'm not rich enough for her. You obviously don't care about this guy, the only thing you have proven you care about his his financial situation. Also if this guy was really into you then yes he would make plans and see you. But I guess he too has noticed your more interested in his money then you are in him. | |
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