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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 3:48:41 PM | | I would and have dated a guy who was living paycheck to paycheck. Usually it is because he is in a bad spot or just the way things are with the economy today, but those people who I have met in that situation are usually trying or have a plan for the future (they may not be able to implement it now) but I would not date a layabout as you are describing. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 3:58:32 PM | A paycheck to paycheck person. What if they actually like their job, and the money doesn't matter. It doesn't make them a bad person at all. It makes them a bit different than many, but it doesn't make them a bad person.
On that date we had last friday, when it was raining and the car drove past, and when I got drenched as it drove through the puddle, and we were laughing our butts off. How much money was used to buy that moment that BOTH of us laughed.
When we were driving home from the dinner last night, and sat at the traffic light, and saw the drunk guy stagger out of the bar and into the back of a cop car, instead of the taxi cab that was setting behind it. We laughed until we cried. What was the price tag on that funny moment?
Remember your 26th birthday, when I got up and surprised you on karaoke night, and sang you that George Strait song. You felt weak in the knees special, and I saw that tear in your eye that said THANK YOU. I forget how much you said that was worth.
When I got laid off a year ago, and you doubled up your hours at work, so that we still had the basic neccessities of life, and even though tired as heck you came home, and still had time to spend with me. That was worth ummmmm let's see?
Shoot................I couldn't come up with dollar amounts with any of those moments.
Should paycheck to paycheck determine a person's worth? I don't think so!
Money can buy you some stuff, but it can't buy you priceless memories! | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 4:01:45 PM | Of course I would .... he is trying to survive just like everyone else. Maybe he is living paycheque to paycheque but loves his job and takes pride in what he does. Not every job pays well but every job plays an important role in society.
I am a preschool teacher and i LOVE my job ...but I sure as hell don't get paid enough for what I do. I feel I have a very noble job but ... I don't make a lot ...does that mean I am not a worthy candidate for dating? | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 4:18:51 PM | I've read every post in here, and it's becoming more and more clear that maybe the question just wasn't very clear. Some people are considering the fact that the guy may be a sloth and doesn't take care of his business, which the OP seemed to elude to, and some are defending low-paying jobs and considering the OP materialistic.
I think maybe the question shouldn't have been about living paycheck to paycheck as much as someone who's sloppy or someone who doesn't know how to manage his or her finances. Everyone's debating the moral issues involved in this, and it doesn't necessarily address the question, depending on what she's maybe trying to ask. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 4:38:20 PM | OWWWWW, I have bad news here. At least 95% of the folks out there are living paycheck to paycheck at best. The other 5% is what we call the wealthy. Being of wealth doesn't consitute what is in your pockets or what your checkbook register reflects, rather it is what your net worth is. Most folks out there are in a J-O-B (Just Over Broke) in which they do work hard for the almighty dollar but somehow there's more month than money. Because one lives paycheck to paycheck doesn't mean they don't have goals. Our schools do a horrible disservice to the children this day and age, by not teaching them about money.
What I date someone who doesn't take care of himself? That's such a general question. If he doesn't take care of himself (emotionally, spiritually, and financially), then no, I'm not interested. Don't judge a person by their occupation or appearance, it can be deceiving. That librarian that you see at school or the auto mechanic that lives across the street could be a millionaire. On the flip side, the guy driving a Porsche could be $200K in debt. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 4:48:46 PM | | well.... unless u r an attourney or manager or in a professional position making at least more than 50 k /year I would be willing to say you are lving paycheck to paycheck and it has nothing to do with him I dont think but with the system, u have to remember this is Florida and everything but wages rise and to a lot of people they consider themselves lucky they at least have a paycheck so if u r into it for love and all the other stuff more power to you but if money is a problem I think you may be cutting yourself short and possibly miss on the right man for you.....but its only an opinion... I too know how much security means to a lot of people so just give them a chance and increase your chances too fo meeting the right guy. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 4:50:42 PM |
What I date someone who doesn't take care of himself? That's such a general question. If he doesn't take care of himself (emotionally, spiritually, and financially), then no, I'm not interested. Don't judge a person by their occupation or appearance, it can be deceiving. That librarian that you see at school or the auto mechanic that lives across the street could be a millionaire. On the flip side, the guy driving a Porsche could be $200K in debt.
I like this statement. I really don't believe that living paycheck to paycheck has much to do with income. I have a good friend who's an engineer and makes nearly twice what I make, but he's always asking me for financial advice and is broke half the time, because his mortgage, boat payment, bar habit, desire to drink heavily, party, etc....causes him financial trouble and occassionally I've loaned him money so he could get by until the next paycheck.
I 100% believe that people need to live within their means. If you have a low income, you need to at least give yourself a cushion in your checking account. It takes a lot of discipline and time to accomplish this, but it can be done. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 5:06:00 PM | | YES...I would be dating him for who he is and what he stand's for NOT how much money he has...With the RIGHT man I could be happy at McDonald's with a happy meal..Just because someone lives paycheck to paycheck doesn't mean they don't have plan's for their future..And just think how much fun in the ballpit after dinner.... | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 5:18:07 PM |
doesn't have plans for the future
Dunno what makes you think that!
Who are YOU to question why he is living from pay day to pay day, what business is it of yours? Apparently just having a job is not good enough for you.
Perhaps he got taken for everything and has to start again, perhaps he is paying child support. It is not for you to question.
I myself, live from pay to pay after bringing up 4 children (on my own without support). I lost my home etc, and i resent people like you assuming people like us 'frissle' our money away.
If money is such a BIG issue with you, go find your rich dood, and leave us battlers alone.
Just for the record, I earn enough to feed and cloth decently and that's ALL I care about....survival.  | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:50:14 PM | I mean if a guy is living paycheck by paycheck that means he doesn't have any plans for future and doesn't take care himself at all. Would this be a turn off for you?
I know this is a guy movie but have you ever seen the movie " first blood "
In one part of the movie the general. He says to Rambo. That he is the perfect soilder. He was not made that way. The general said he went out and found the perfect stone. He said all he had to do was chip away all the rough peaces. And wax and polish it and in time this was his end result. The perfect soilder. I know first hand if a man truely loves a woman theres nothing he will not do to keep her happy. If the poor guy is working he must have some ambition. Seems to me if you talk to him and find out what he wants out of life you will have your answer. If the guy is willing to learn a new trade or even go back to school you should encourge him. Give him some praise show a little support. In a case like this you help him you might be helpping yourself. If a man is working a job and is good to you. And does the things a man is suppose to do. Consider yourself luckly. People tend to shoot a line of crap. And they want to show you the greener pastures. But don't be to quick to see forest without seeing the trees.
Years ago there was a guy who fell in love with a girl. All he had was a brown paper bag filled with his clothes. Soon they married over the years he got a job ,learned a trade. They made themselves a home. Then he started his own business. Today he has two factorys. Dozens of employees and a few dozen grand children. It seems in todays times if its not easy its not worth doing. But heres the thing women today do not realize how much influence they have over men.Theres a old saying behind every great man is a woman urging him onward. So you have to ask your self what you want and how hard are you going to work for it ? I know theres other fish in the sea. And I am sure that you know of others that seem like everything is great. But in any relationship it takes work. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:54:41 PM | OP, I understand what you are saying. His been here 7 months and his apartment is still just a living space without a lot of comfort or prettiness or anything decent and it doesn't seem like he's trying to make his situation better.... If that's what you mean, it may surprise you to know that some people come from other countries just to save money. They live with the bare minimum requirements and save 75% of their cheques to send back home. If he really has no intention to change his situation EVER...then that would be a total turnoff.
More importantly, I would think, is the fact that he is not 'secure' here...and he could be asked to leave at any moment... I would be careful of a relationship like that, unless you are willing to have a long distance relationship (when he leaves) or you are willing to leave with him when he goes.
Either way, this relationship sounds as if it's going sour very fast, so I would suggest you move on before anyone gets hurt.
Good-luck.
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| Would you have a relationship with someone who cares if your living paycheck to paycheck?
Posted: 11/3/2006 7:11:39 PM | You have children to take care, and living paycheck to paycheck, I know how that is, a lot of people live paycheck to paycheck, I don't see anything wrong with it, some of the replys I have been reading, the ones against someone living from paycheck to paycheck, need to get their head on right, the rents are bad all over, the area I live in, which is coastal california, the rents are high, and so is everything is, take in a count, food, gasoline, clothing, doctor visit, and dental, if you don't have health insurance, going to the doctors is rare.
I don't mind going out with someone that is living paycheck to paycheck, there are ways to enjoy each other then spending a money.
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/4/2006 6:57:45 AM | | Well lovely_bonita you don't sound so lovely to me. After reading the responses to your question, the overwhelming answer was that people don't care if a guy is living paycheck to paycheck. Do you know why? Because they are decent human beings, which is more than I can say for you. Have you ever heard a guy ask if that same question? If I love someone, I don't care if she's living paycheck to paycheck and based on how articulately these people on here answered your question, they don't either, maybe you should re-think what love means. | |
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