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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 3/21/2007 10:27:06 PM | I think it depends on the time.. if you have alot of it.. then my god why rush it..
if you have a set schedule to get back to.. well then speed it up...
but to totally delete it is no fun! | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 3/21/2007 10:33:13 PM | Maybe the questions should have been posed differently from the start for all to understand correctly.
First though if one understand the word foreplay - fore is the start. But there is nothing wrong with fore - in-between - more in-between - and ending play!!!!!
And foreplay doesn't have to start with touching as some have mentioned - the eye contact - and all the little things we do to get ones attention - and the responses from the other person are all foreplay.
Gosh now I have a question - where exactly does foreplay stop and orgasm start? Can anyone tell me exactly the moment????
I can only speak for myself but from the moment one starts looking at the other sex in a sexual way the foreplay has started and the feeling doesn't stop until one is asleep. Can't you close your eyes and relive the experience over. And at my age it just seems to all be getting better and better. I keep wondering about that hormonal thing - as long as I am sexually attracted to the person I have never had a problem unless it was at the point of total exhaustion from making love. | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 3/21/2007 10:37:19 PM | | I find foreplay absolutely essensential for "Mr Happy" to rise to the occasion! I went thro the stage of 'stick it in & go for it', years ago. I'm all growed up now, & not in such a hurry! | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 3/21/2007 11:00:15 PM | Counts on what you consider foreplay.
I have always considered Sex and romance to be seperate but related. I enjoy a romantic evening as much as a sexually physical one.
To me nothing beats spending some quality time with someone special. We really only spend at the very most a small percentage of our time engaged in sex. Most of the other time its doing other things.
Id say probably the best sex you can have is after you have spent a long day doing fun and exciting things with your significant other. Im someone that likes to push all the buttons and if you plan and do things right that is the best kind of relationship.
Some perfer a great deal more spontaneity. That is just going with the flow and letting things happen. That can be fun also. Just depends on the person. | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 3/22/2007 11:46:17 AM | I don't think it has anything to do with being older and all to do with being experienced with your own body and knowing how to read a womans body language during foreplay and sex.
As always youth breeds impatience....pun intended | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 4/3/2007 8:12:24 AM | Yes, foreplay is just as important as it ever was, but I think it's b/c I want it, not necessary need it to be "ready". I like to think I'm about to reach my sexual peak, but I'm definitely not there yet.
Lil Red Riding Hood, I'm ready all the time, too. Guys just don't know what they're missing, huh? | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 4/3/2007 8:33:17 AM | | Lil Red, I understand for others only reading what or into what you share here. I dated a woman who I feel may have been in the 'same boat' for "torpedo me now" and then do what's more affection-after-the-fact than foreplay. I believe that communication, whether it be nonverbal, such as letting your partner see that you're already wet w/ anticipation ...or coming right out and saying what's been on your mind would be most helpful for your establishing your agenda at the time. | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 5/27/2007 3:02:07 PM | | well funny the older i get the more i enjoy foreplay but often penetration occurs long after my partners the first orgasm but I tend to try to understand my partners likes and dislakes because although orgasm is a very personal thing we have to accept that we have a partner that also there so mutual satisfaction is the key word : But to me foreplay is also hoat soapy showers giving a nice massage and exploring all the eroctic senses i can find from the nape of the nect to the tips of my partners toes gotta love tantra lol and guess what i am into natural herbals and such there are things that help that vaginal dryness and increases your libido not that its sounds like you have a problem there !! by the way must be great with a tims so close to home now :: | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 5/27/2007 10:24:25 PM | | I love foreplay and Yes BOTH Ways i rather spend a hour pleasing her watching her wanting me more and more Than just Bam ! I love Hot long sex And yes Ladies it works Both Ways You Love it But so do us men ! | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 5/28/2007 2:28:51 AM | Belgarion said:
"Foreplay should start from the moment you wake up, until you fall asleep next to, on, under, where-ever, with your loved one."
Tis almost my own perspective - and as such I don't like the word "foreplay" - I prefer to call it "loveplay" or just "play" - and it's not limited to tongues and hands.... My definition includes words, text or voice, using anticipation, kisses, glances, clothing, preparation of oneself i.e., pampering, smoothing, perfuming; prep of room - log fire, furry rug, blankets, candles, wine and glasses, toys - etc...
To me - the worst type of intimacy is to view "foreplay" as something to do until he or she is ready - then jump on...di da di da....and done..... sooo routine and predictable, boring, unexciting, unerotic, uninteresting. I don't like intimacy to even have intercourse as the goal all the time.......variety, creativity, sensuality, mutual pleasure, thought and effort - that is true intimacy to me....
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 5/28/2007 3:07:31 AM | Dear Lil Red,
Having read this thread, I don't think anyone recognized that your original post referred to not needing foreplay because you were physically ready for intercourse. If the majority of respondents don't "get" your point, it's probably because your post was not clear rather than the respondents didn't read all of your post.
I too misunderstood your post- after I saw your post about people not reading it - I had to go back and re-read your original post to find out why I missed the point.
I think it is in part due to stating "from my perspective anyway but I find the older I get the less I need foreplay." - The word "perspective" is cognitive (a viewpoint/thought) not your physical body. Obviously to you, you were referring to your perspective about your body - but it's not obvious to we poor readers as we can only work with the words you write.
Your next sentence does refer to "vaginal sex without a lot of foreplay
was uncomfortable" - Once again, obviously to you, this refers to your physical discomfort, however this sentence can also be interpreted as emotional discomfort. The word "uncomfortable" does have common usage regarding situations people are unhappy with. As the previous sentence had "perspective" in it, readers were already primed to believe you were referring to your feelings, not your physical body. Then you go on to say "I much prefer just wham" - which seems to refer to your thought process again, not your physical readiness.
When you finally used the word "physical" (6th sentence) I took it to refer to the 5th sentence about how you would rather oral, finger orgasms after sex.
Anyway - after all that - now I understand your real question - yes, I too experience the physical change - however I am not interested in going without "play" at all (see my previous post) - I never perceived foreplay as something only conducted to prepare one physically - I see "play" as complete in and of itself...
best,
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 5/28/2007 3:57:43 AM | i think foreplay is a art too, the older i get the more sex i want my sex drive has increased, giving and taking pleasure is a important part of love making, foreplay is very underestimated at times, a quick wham bam ty mam well u can do that but would you get total satifaction !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 7/17/2007 11:36:19 PM | | I think it's always been important..Some though think it's more important to recieve than to give..That's where it changes when you get older..I love to give forplay but heck if I'm gonna give more times than I get it..like setting the mood, candles, wine, bubble bath's, you'd think that'd lead to foreplay but some just wanna rush and then rollover.....Foreplay is half the fun, it builds up the anticipation, and it can come in different way's.. If ya have the time foreplay can last as long as you make it last and then, well that's when it's the best sex ever...So, yeah as I've gotten older it's a requirement or I'm not wasting my time for a wam bam...... | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 7/18/2007 12:17:32 AM | Foreplay is essential... and I love it ~ the kissing.. the teasing.. sucking.. I savour every bit of it. However ~ there are times.. when, well there just isn't time. lol
Those times when you just have to have someone.. the desire and lust to have sex with someone you're so attracted to, you just throw them up against the wall upon sight ~ tear their clothes off.. and get down to it.
Although it happens rather fast ~ hearts beating out of control.. temperature's rising.. "things" swelling and pulsating... your body keeps up and gets primed in mere seconds from the rush that this intense sexual confrontation brings forth. | |
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| Is foreplay as important as you get older ?
Posted: 9/7/2007 9:36:13 AM | Foreplay or afterplay is always important. The wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am has it's place, but you cant beat some gentle erotic sex play as well.
(In my humble opinion) :-) | |
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