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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/7/2006 10:30:07 PM | Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/7/2006 10 29 PM
dont worry about it dont go looking and when the right person comes along you will know .it often takes you by surprise
This is very true. And don't settle for someone you don't really care for, just for the sake of having a BF. I didn't have a bf till shortly after my 21st birthday, by the way :-) You are definately cute, and you seem smart and cool, so don't feel bad. I think you just need to be a little more outgoing. I had much better luck with guys when I realized that I am a good, fun person, with a lot going for myself. You seem really sweet, and you look pretty...so just remember that and carry yourself with confidence. Good luck :-) | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/10/2006 11:46:16 AM | | I don't think it's odd at all, I'm 22, and while I've been out on dates I've never really had any sort of long term relationship. Although some people will think it's odd and those people are usually very ignorant and they're just looking for a reason to judge you just so they can make themselves feel better. having a bf or gf shouldn't be the be all and end all. prattranger is right don't just date the first guy you see just because you want a bf find someone you actually like. I know way too many people who date people they don't even like that much just to avoid being single Like being single is such a stigma. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/10/2006 12:34:07 PM | | hey I never even had one date till I was 18 there are more important things to worry about. I was worried like you too but when your not looking it will come, just don't do what I did and be with the first male for years that comes along, wait and see what you like. Your fine, trust me. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/11/2006 9:12:03 PM | Hey Frog!!! I came back on here to see some of the other responses to your post. Fascinating!!!!
I still think you are a bright,very pretty young lady!!! 
..your just a little shy...that's all. And that's not odd at all. If I were younger,I would ask you out in a heartbeat!!
I also thought of something I neglected to post earlier......Find a book called "How to find a Date worth Keeping" You can find it in any Christian bookstore. It might give you a little insight and answer some questions you haven't thought to ask yet. I think John Townsend is the author.
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/11/2006 11:50:15 PM | heyfrog,
When that special person finds you dont rush in take your time to make sure that he will always be there for you. He will make you feel special every time you walk in a room. As far as the kiss it should be from his heart and willing, not forced on by guilt or a feeling of obligation.
Sweetie, make sure you find that young man that he has the same interest as you in your future. He should bevery supportive of what you want and always make you an equal to him and never put you down in your goals. Have fun and enjoy life to the fullest like it was your last, but safe and sincable with good judgement onthe right and wrong.
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/12/2006 10:15:39 AM | | I wouldn't worry about it. Both of my daughters, one 18 and in college, and one 16 have never really bothered much with dating. Both are cheerleader types and quite popular, they just haven't found someone worth giving that time to. I would look at your reasons for waiting and if you feel they are justifiable then don't think about it for a minute. Should it be a fear thing, rejection, closeness, whatever, see what you can do to get past it. Best of luck in your fishing. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/12/2006 10:24:30 AM | I'm 23 and have never had a boyfriend, so don't feel alone, not at all! It'll happen for you one day, as it will happen for me too, I hope! *crosses fingers* When the time is right, everything will fall into place.
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PcGeek
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Joined: 10/17/2006
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/12/2006 7:15:06 PM | I'm almost 19, i've never had a girlfriend.
Ive been on a few dates, one girl I thought could be one, but it ended just being the "I just want to be friends" deal. Oh well, I still love her(but not "In love" ). | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 11/13/2006 12:24:36 AM | Don't worry, I wasn't 21 until my first girlfriend. See, when your in highschool you either fit into a certain category of getting some action, or you don't. And I didn't....but then I went to college where all the girls suddenly liked mature men who wanted to have sex, talk, and actually do something outside of making fun of them.....sha-swing! | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 12/13/2006 2:47:26 AM | Not in the least. I'm 41 and I've never had a boyfriend.
Seriously, age and timescales don't come into it. Some people find their perfect partners at 16, some at 60, others never find them. Age is just a number. Don't worry about it. Have fun! | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 12/13/2006 3:10:14 AM | Honey, let me give you some "motherly" advice - dont worry - dont grow up so fast - get your education, focus on your future, the boys will come and go in your life - there is nothing "wrong" with not having a boyfriend at your age - you are not alone - I have a son he is 25, he has never had a girlfriend either - people get weird, society plays head games with the young generation and hollywood doesnt help - he has tried to overcome some fears many are internal with him, he has low self esteem and yet he is a good looking young man - the girls his age are weird, the expect too much - he has had to also overcome severe acne and that also doesnt help - he is a quiet person and he is a good person with a good heart - I tell him all the time that God has someone for everyone in this life, I recently lost my husband to death and its not fair or easy either but we have to go on and trust in God first, and He will put peoplein your life that are worthy of you - OK? I hope I heled a little - its 4 in the morning and I dont sleep well so I get on this crazy computer for entertainment - dont worry - you will be fine - joanie in denver colorado   | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 12/13/2006 4:01:41 AM | I'm nearly 26 and I've never had what I'd call a girlfriend as far as an adult is concerned. Sure there were some years where I couldn't keep the girls off of me in school, and others I'd be hard pressed to have 'em give me the time of day. That's how life is I suppose.
So many times people approached me and said something which basically told me they liked me, but somehow I didn't see it before it was too late.
The worst was for a few years I was travelling and working all over the place. I had met a girl, probably one of the sweetest women I have ever met, and she'd smile and wave at me everytime I'd walk by. I would talk to her sometimes, but other times I was in a hurry to get back to work. After about a month I saw her wearing glasses, so I went and asked her about them. I said to her I never knew she wore glasses, and she expressed to me how she wore contacts because she didn't like the glasses. I told her they made her look pretty and ever since then everytime I saw her she was wearing her glasses. Another month or so went by, and I went to California for a few months to work with my Dad. When I came back, my boss loved me and treated me like family (we even shared the same last name, but that's just coincidence). All of my family ate for free where I worked (including aunts, cousins etc.), because I worked my ass off and it took two or three people to make up for me whenever I went away. One day my boss asked why I didn't have a girlfriend, and I told him it was because I move and go away with the military a lot, and I work all the time. So he told me if someone comes by our restaurant who I like, they can eat for free. So after building up my nerve, I made some fresh sushi and decided to pay the girl I liked a visit. I went up to her and handed her the sushi (which she likes), and she asked me what it was for. I told her my boss told me if there was anyone who I liked they could eat for free, so I was giving her the sushi. She said it was real sweet, but she had a boyfriend. OK, being rejected isn't so bad, but then she continued "... you just upped and disappeared. I didn't think I'd see you again." That killed me, that's a real kick in the balls. The next time I went away, I went to do my leadership course with the military, and when I got back she wasn't there. I never saw her again.
The moral... shit happens, and tell someone how you feel before it's too late! Getting rejected is one thing, but finally making a move and finding out they had feelings for you too just makes it ten times worse. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 12/13/2006 4:22:15 AM | ^^^ oh yeah, and about the age thing, don't sweat it. I've enjoyed being single for one very important reason: total independence. I have never had to worry about anyone else when making a major decision; never had to consider anyone when deciding to go away for months at a time; and *trumpets and drumroll* no ex in the picture at all.  Granted there are times when I wish there's someone around I could and  , but other times I'm glad I'm as free as a  . So enjoy being single, but again, when someone comes around you really like, pounce on him, because he might just be young and stupid (maybe inept is a better term) like I was. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 12/16/2006 3:15:25 PM | I was 19 before I had a boyfriend. I did not date much until 18 either. I see it as a very positive thing that someone doesn't want to date, just to date, just to have someone. Having confidence in yourself as a person and enjoying who you are are very important things, and it takes a strong person not to cave to pressure just to date anyone to fit in.
I think it is a good thing to give people a chance to get to know you, so even if you are not sure of an attraction on the part of someone asking, giving a chance to learn and grow as a person through discovery of new friends and interests is great. However, don't ever let yourself be pressured into a dating bf/gf situation. You aren't doing yourself or them any favors if the interest is not there. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 1/4/2007 6:15:12 PM | Thank you all, for your posts, sorry it has taken me so long to post.
I was talking with this guy I met off of here, and things were going really well, so we decided to meet up, well the first date was fun and I liked it, so we went on a second date to the movies. Well on that date I got my first kiss, it was ok I was so nervous. So I am thinking everything it going good, well we go on a 3rd date to go Christmas shopping, I thought it was good, and when shopping was done, we went to a park. We were there for like 5 minutes and he was being flirty, when all of a sudden he gos " I am going to be honest with you, I am not feeling a relationship." I really didn't know what to say, so I was like "ok thats totally fine" but I really just wanted to get away from him at that moment. I was like "well I should be getting home". So we are walking to his car and he gos "smile, why are you not smiling?" then he says " I am going to tickle you if you don't smile" I said "don't" and he replys with " really I am going to tickle you if you don't smile" all I said was "please don't". Well the car ride seemed like forever. I got out and didn't look back. I called my mom to tell her I was home, she could tell I was upset. But now that I think about it, I am SO glad, when I think back at all the things that annoyed me about him, I am so happy. The thing is, I was thinking about breaking it off the night before, but I was going to wait untill after Christmas. I think I was just upset that he did it first. So I am back to fishing AGAIN. Hopfully this time I will not catch a dud of a fish. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 1/28/2007 1:36:06 PM | | You are not the only one on here i am 25 years old but people think i am still in highschool when i am not cause i look young for my age.I do not have a bf i am still single but maybe its because i don't go out there and find people and probably because i am a shy girl been shy all my life and yes i did know people and i knew some guys but they were just people i knew.I don't think i am ugly i might not be the most attractive girl but i think i am at least cute.I never gotten asked out,never kissed there are lots of things i never done depending on what it is.So if i ever got a bf it would be my first time and my first time kissing if it happened.I could probably had my chances when i was younger but never went for it.I was concerating on school plus i didn't want to date when i was in school.I guess everyone dates whenever they want too or whenever the timing is there unless maybe its not time to date who knows.I know i don't have alot of experience like some guys and girls do but everyone has not done some things if they did than everyone would know everything in life or whatever it is they haven't done.If people want to know about these things i suppose i have to tell them the truth if they think i am lying than its their word against mine.I hope that if my friends that i have made and people i am getting to know or do already know hope that i am not lying and what i say to them is the truth.I suppose i could lie but than sooner or later they would find out eventually.It doesn't seem like anyone likes me i knew a few guys in school when i was in school liked me but that was only because girls that i knew told me so.I just didn't like them in that kind of way.There are people who do want to date but than their is peerpressure cause there friends have someone and they don't but you should wait until you know its right or when the timing is i am sure everyone has their time to find someone but than i am unexperience on these things but at least you are not the only one cause there are others just like you who have never done certain things in life.If my friends on here that i made and people i am talking i am telling you the truth about this and not lying to you and if people can't accept that i haven't done this than they are not my friends at all.Yeah there are people who stay single and don't find anyone while others do find it sooner and others abit later on in life.I guess there is a purpose and time when you do find someone that you can be with whatever age you are.I don't want to tell my friends or people i talk too or post it cause they might laugh at me or say something that i might not want to hear and i don't want someone to make fun of me because i never done some things and if they ask me personal stuff or whatever questions i will answer it as best as i can on here.If anyone wants to talk to me you are welcome too i try to write to everyone it would be nice to have females to talk too but so far i don't have any on here.I thought i was werid or strange or whatever you want to call it but i am not the only one there are others just like me who has never done things whether its dating,adventures stuff,traveling or whatever it is.If my friends read this on my profile than so be it but like i said i am telling the truth on here.I have read some of your messages on here whether its guys or girls and that i am not alone either and you people are right everything comes in time whether its now or later on in life.I am sure i probably will find someone not now but later on in the future or whenever the time comes.I thought i was the only one who was werid but i know now that there are people out there who has the same thing i am going with as well. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 1/28/2007 7:42:26 PM | I was very shy when I was younger and did not have a girlfriend till I was 21.
Personally I don't think I missed out on much, I have had 12 years of disappointments since then anyway. (well not all was bad 
It seems that young people date at a younger and younger age now days.
Most under 21 year olds have no clue what a relationship is about anyway, its just about sex .... | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 1/28/2007 9:40:08 PM | Honestly, it is probably a good thing. I did not start dating until college, and have never had a truly serious relationship even now (24 years old). In hindsight, this turned out for the best. In high school, I was too immature for pretty much anything. Now that I'm a little older, I'm starting to be ready for something a little more longer term, and the dating I've done to this point has prepared me for that.
My advice? Take it slow, don't worry about what others say. If you go at a pace that you are comfortable at, everything will work out in the long run. | |
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