| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 3/26/2008 7:35:18 AM | | I am 21 and never had a girlfriend. Been feeling depressed in the past years and at first I thought that was the reason. But then when I look back at my life. I was truly happy(may be back then did not realise it) from the age of 11 till 17 or so. And since I never dated or anything but still was happy, I think I m missing something else. Besides I have lots of female friends that I enjoy talking with. I was even married to one of them for immigration, tho it didnt last very long :). But anyway I think there are many more things in life that can make you truly happy other than dating, so I chose to pursue those things since I m not very succesfull at dating. | |
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| Is it odd to be ...?
Posted: 4/30/2009 9:33:20 PM |
Consider yourself very lucky to have been able to have escaped all the dating drama so far.
Enjoy your youth !!!!
That's a good suggestion. I was wondering it's true that there are many virgins who are over 20s in western countries. If virgins are real, I tell you guys the secret that your sex life will last longer if you know how to manage your life.... | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 9/3/2009 8:57:49 PM | hey its better than being 19 and knocked up with 2 other children from 3 different guys
still dreaming in technicolour that prince charming will come and rescue you. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 9/5/2009 1:32:12 PM | | HEYFROG, we all move at different paces into different stages in our lives. It's NOT odd at all that you're 19 and haven't had a boyfriend as yet. Don't worry about not having had one yet nor the absence of one, as when it's the right time things will all fall into place. Keep your head in your studies, get involved in various curricular activities after school hours connected to school and your friend circle will develop from there. Surely within the many peers you'll meet you'll grow close to a core few and perhaps within that group, or connected to that group, will be a lovely young man that wants to get to know you as a friend, develops an interest beyond and eventually invites you out for a date. Take things slowly... you've lots of time my dear. *warm smile* | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 9/6/2009 12:03:51 PM |
hey its better than being 19 and knocked up with 2 other children from 3 different guys
still dreaming in technicolour that prince charming will come and rescue you.
Beat me to it.
I'm 36 and have never had a GF.Not like I couldn't have,just a choice.I don't get the whole 'you have to be in a relationship' thing. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 9/7/2009 4:26:40 PM | heyfrog said:
I am 19. I have never had a bf, and only one date when I was 16 that was a set up. I just feel so odd and alone.
Sweetie, trust me on this, when you're ready for a meaningful relationship, you'll find one. I understand the urge to be a part of a crowd when you're 19, because it's from the group that so many your age often get a sense of identity, or at least a sense of safety while they're working out who they are as individuals. But I wouldn't worry so much about not having had a boyfriend. You're 19 years old (or were at the time of the posting). Now's a great time to figure out who you are as an individual; once you know that, know where you're strong, know where you're weak (so you can work on eliminating those weaknesses), you're going to have a lot to offer a guy, and you'll be a leg up on your friends who are still out partying, getting wasted for no good reason other than that they think "it's what I should do at this age", and then possibly regretting decisions that may wind them up either in a delivery room or an abortion clinic.
Stay strong, be an individual, figure out what you have to offer, then capitalize on it. Don't worry too much about being "odd" or "alone". The former is a good thing (because who likes someone who's just like everyone else?), the latter is correctable in a meaningful and lasting fashion with some patience and common sense applied. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 9/13/2009 7:31:21 AM | I think it depends on your specific circumstances. I've known several girls who are in their 20's and 30's and have little if any dating experience. In most cases it is not due to a lack of interest. You wouldn't believe how pretty some of these girls are - I see guys chasing them often (and have chased one or two of them myself). Nor is it because they are playing the field. Most of them are virgins. They simply have not found that person with whom they really connect. At the same time, though, at least one of them has remained single because she is too attached to her family. She seems to fear getting pulled away from them which not only keeps her from finding the man she says she wants but also keeps her from developing the maturity to deal with problems that make her unhappy. I believe she will get there eventually, but she's holding herself back.
So no, there's nothing wrong with you having no dating experience. I think it's good to be picky. I personally give up my Christian beliefs and my geeky interests for no one which narrows my own possibilities a great deal. At the same time, though, it wouldn't hurt to do some honest self reflection to see if you've got something in your life - be it fear, pain, or whatever - that you need to deal with before you will be able to devote yourself to a romantic relationship.
Hope that helps a little. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:52:13 AM | i barely had an actual boyfriend at 28, but that's not normal, i have circumstances which prevented me from dating until i was 25. At 19, it's totally fine. But think about starting to date NOW, dont wait, you need some practice to get a better idea of what a good guy should treat you like.
Dont be shy: tell yourself it doesnt matter, the worst thing is not being rejected, it's being rejected at 30, when there is a shortage of guys and most people are already in long term relaitonships. At 19, you have SO MUCH TIME ahead of you! don't worry about rejection, it happens to EVERYONE, even the best looking people, it simply menas the guy was NOT a match for you anyway, it's good that you didnt waste time with him. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 9/14/2009 9:46:27 AM | | Yeah but it seems that most people in their late teens and early 20's are in long-term, serious, committed relationships already. I'm a 21 year old guy, and almost all girls that are 18 and older have been with their current boyfriend for a while already, for more than a year. | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 9/15/2009 4:22:39 AM | heyfrog: You say this like 19 is ancient-! People get involved too quickly and too seriously too early in life in my opinion. 20s are a soul-searching time where you should be light, fluffy, fun and testing your boundaries. Just remember to bring condoms to every party 'cuz the dumb-ass, drunk guy that you think is hot won't have them on him.
Think about the ultimate end of getting seriously involved with someone--marriage and kids. Do you really want to get pregnant and fat and chase a bunch of screaming rugrats around the house with a mortgage that you and your hubby can barely afford in your 20s or are you a little more interesting than that? What do you see yourself becoming?
You're fresh out of high school. Focus on getting good grades in college, or starting a career and making some money. When you have your own money that you earned from doing something that you love, you'll exude a kind of confidence that will naturally attract the male of the species. Look for one who is similarly career-oriented (not some lost puppy wannabe musician or something down on his luck who drains you emotionally and financially) and then let the smooches begin-! | |
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| Is it odd to be 19 and never of had a boyfriend?
Posted: 9/15/2009 8:52:34 PM | | never went on a date till i was 20, im almost 24 and have 3 clinically psychotic women to show for it, trust me your not missing much. i thought i was, but being by myself now after the turmoil the last year, single and alone is better than that. take your time enjoy yourself, and it will come when your not looking. | |
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