| | Do men like women making the first move?Page 2 of 2 (1, 2) | | Well, I can only respond for myself here. I believe that there is some sort of belief that many women can't go out without being hit on. I have heard many women complaining about this, so I tend to not want to be considered in that category. I am all for a woman making the first move. | |
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| Do men like women making the first move?
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:08:26 PM | I have to agree. I tend to drop subtle flirts to women that I am attracted to. Damn problem is most women think its play flirt and flirt back even if they arnt interested.
Heh Puleeze Ladies. Like my name says, I'm a nice guy...ok...I will flirt with any woman because I enjoy seeing a smile. If I do flirt though, it means I'm not going to kick ya out of bed for eating crackers (something daddy used to say ), but at the same time, why make both of us uncomfortable. If you are interested, the classy thing would be to slip a piece of paper with your number and say call me. Online, just send a damn email with one word, Hey. Follow it with a javascript:smilie(' ')
and then throw in a javascript:smilie(' ')
If we are both interested, its a shame we don't know.
Ironic, you women say we men can't communicate (psst, has anyone seen my athletic cup ) :) | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 2:15:15 AM | This all reminds me of the an old quote I heard...
"The only stupid question is the one that is unasked"
IF you don't ask you will never know. They might be shy or they might not be interested.. either way once the question is asked you both now know the answer.. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 8:51:38 AM | First move , wow , not sure most of us even know when that is..in real life mean..Is it the look, the glance.. the first words? First smile.. when is it that we actually let someone know we are attracted and interested?
If by first move you mean actually asking for a date, i know i would be flattered, and in no way would i consider it morally supicious... for lack of better words. I can't say i would be interested or not, but just by asking that person would gain my respect and admiration. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 8:55:38 PM | The replies to my question are very interesting. I realize that it is one of those areas where both parties are unsure of what to do.
I have taken that first step and been bold enough to ask a guy to meet for coffee. Actually I have asked three guys. Only one was a positive experience. Another said he did the asking and refused my invite even though there was a mutual interest. I was too "forward" and not very "lady like". And, the other guy was seeing someone else but if it didn't work out he would be interested. The guy I did meet for coffee is now a good friend.
I can only imagine the look of "horror" on the face of guy #2 if he saw me in my workboots, jeans, & tshirt. Bet I wouldn't even be considered female. LOL
I like meeting people. Hopefully the social planned will be a huge success. It would be nice to mingle and introduce ourselves in a relaxed environment. No pressure or insecurity to make the words come out wrong! Maybe!!! LOL  | |
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Posted: 12/8/2007 2:04:55 PM | | I contact men if they interest me, and since I am interested in men considerably younger than me, I do make first contact a lot. (Most men who contact me are my age or older,and probably because of the way they have their age parameters set up.) The thing is, after I've eliminated the few who are miffed about being "objectified" or clearly shocked at my unladylike behavior - one of them actually quoted a statistic that only 15% of women make the first move! - The others are usually very pleased and reciprocate the attraction. I don't know how they feel about not having made the first move, though. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 10:09:53 AM | In my opinion men do not usually like to make the first move. In my experience here .
Someone else mentioned "Does it really matter who makes the first move?"
I can only speak for myself , being a female, if I see and read a profile which appears interesting, and he has yet to make contact with me - hey, I make contact with him. If I am rejected - so be it - I am strong enough to accept they are not interested.
I may question them on the whys' but know I may not get a correct answer because they don't wish to hurt my feelings. They may also be quite honest and say they are just not interested and this is why....................... so many variations of the whys'.
I have had men make contact with me and we are having a great time chatting, playing games ie; 8 ball, checkers, puzzles, etc. New to me on the computer and actually fun.
It is nice for either a man or woman to receive a message or wink showing an interest is there even if it does not continue. 
Come on men...make a move on us gals!  | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 6:07:14 AM | In the first statement I should have put " I may question a man on the "whys" he is not interested and know I may not receive an HONEST answer, correct was not what I meant to say, sorry.
 I made a boo boo  some how in the last statement I made.... it does not make one bit of sense so I shall now attempt to clarily what I actually was trying to say. "It is nice for a person to receive an email or a wink which shows there is an interest in you". One has to realize that even though initially there may be an interest it may not last, or, it may turn into something wonderful. 
I am going to inquire if there is a way to edit our responses due to our typo errors, hopefully in the future there will be?
Happy  | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 7:07:50 AM | [q]I am going to inquire if there is a way to edit our responses due to our typo errors, hopefully in the future there will be?[/q]
Hi Carollee you have 15 minutes to edit your post thank God,i'm the queen of
typo's.
Back to question
I have made the first move but I'm still old fashioned in a lot of ways.I know silly but
I do perfer if the man makes first contact.
My Mom always said it's not lady like to approach the man first,my Dad always told me if you chase men you will never catch one,most can out run us lol.
I don't think i'm as bad as they were,but when you grow up being told one thing
it tends to stick with us!
JMHO  | |
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Posted: 2/26/2008 8:00:59 AM | | Yes we do we tend to be shy at times and not sure how things are going and with the way things are if we move too fast we are considered prevs and some of us are but not all men have been taking a bad rap for things like this and now the good men are getting so to say gun shy so ladies if u want your man go get him | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 7:16:14 AM | ..................................................................................................................................
Well, I'm a friendly person .. chances are if you make eye contact with me I'll say "Hi" - at least! As for actually asking a man out?? hmmm... maybe for that coffee thing . .. Funny .. my "friendliness" has been mistaken by some as a "first move" .. guess I'm a little backward! I am friendly to most everyone - put a man I'm attracted to in front of me .. shy .. ssshhhhh - Don't tell anyone I'm shy!! That's just between you 'n me! hhehe
ok .. never mind . .. the truth is - I'm a bit of a chicken chit! = where you men are concerned anyway .. lots of courage elsewhere in life .. OMG - I'm changing my mind as I type!
Here it is - I met this man too briefly over a year ago! We Did say hello and told each other our names .. I even felt a little tingle .. sigh .. then my friend (a woman) grabbed my arm and said "we gotta go!" .. before I knew it .. we were gone :( .. Now - I wish I'd had my number ready to give him. I figure if I gave 'him' my # and said "Call me!" .. that's a pretty big first move ..
Now I just gotta go stalk the underware section at Zellers and wait for him to need new socks!! lol (we were there shopping for her son! hehehe)
hmmmm... I wonder if they're hiring .. I could be the new "fruit of the loom girl" lololol | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 12:45:33 PM |
Do men prefer to make the first move? Whether it is by email, IM, or in person. What is their first opinion of a woman that makes the first move?
Everyone I tried to contact have not responded, and the five I have corresponded with made the first move. Seeing as this is the case, I'll just kick back and let them come to me.  | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 10:21:07 AM | ummm... DBS 1965 - IF you think that adding someone to your favourites list is "making contact" - it's Not. I wouldn't even have known you'd favourited me if I hadn't of just 'happened to" check who might have favourited me. That said .. when I saw you'd tagged me - I thought .. "Oh what the heck, I'll send him a note." .. then when I went to do that - I got sent back to my inbox!!! Why? cuz YOU have your mail settings to restrict women "my age" from contacting you!!! lol
silly humans ..  >> IF you want a woman (or a man) to make "First Contact" - make sure you don't have Your inbox blocked from receiving.. ..
Why add someone to your favourites if you're not going to at least say Hi??
Kinda hard for a woman to make any kind of move when YOU have the gate locked!!! | |
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Posted: 2/11/2011 12:17:51 PM | I certainly appreciate having the lady "make the first move". I do not have a picture posted and still I have "expressions of interest" sent. I am polite and always respond - but I "see" only one individual at a time. I like to meet very soon after establishing contact, as it is only when the two people meet that each gets the opportunity to decide whether or not it worth continuing; sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't.
What I was wondering - given today's world (e.g. liberated women), the changes in society and this new "world" of dating sites - just what are the conventions that should be followed when on a dating site - or are there any? If they exist, where can one find them written and available to folks on dating sites?? | |
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Posted: 2/11/2011 6:58:34 PM | You'd have a better chance of receiving responses to your post if you started a new thread in another forum (perhaps Dating Experiences) since the PEI forum has been dead for quite some time.
Of course, it sounds like you're looking for some type of a "Rule Book For Online Dating". Google should help, or any other search engine.
Good luck  | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 5:08:55 PM | i like it when a women makes the first move, it shows interest, assertiveness and desisiveness. it's annoying and gets really boring really quickly if i'm the one always making the decisions or the first move, do something new, something different and surprise me for a change instead of me having to make up your mind for me.
there's lots of jokes that married guys have no free will and the woman controls the relationship but from what i've seen in my relationships i'm the one making ALL the moves.
can't a guy find a girl who knows how to make up their own mind? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2012 8:04:36 PM | | So in person how do you make the first move? I mean you just go right up to a guy and say, hey ya want to hook up? I just stand there staring at him! I feel we have great chemistry but I don’t know what to say! | |
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