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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 1/30/2007 11:46:33 AM | Very true.... but if there is no sexual connection you can't even start. Trust evolves over time. It is amazing the number of relationships out there where couples do NOT have complete trust.
Jealousy for some thinK that is romanatic, but it reality it is derived by lack of trust and low selfesteem. Jealousy has no place in a relationship. I your partner is the jealous time, they will try to control you...RUN is my advice. | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 1/30/2007 12:03:05 PM |
What makes for a great relationship
All it really takes is two people who WANT a great relationship! All the issues and the adjectives and the verbs won't make it right. Two people who WANT it badly enough will communicate THEIR needs and desires to make it work...oh ~ so umm....yeah ~ Two communicating people who WANT a great relationship.... | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 1/30/2007 2:43:40 PM | No here is a great post!!!! Right on.. no matter what is takes to to tango!!!
All it really takes is two people who WANT a great relationship! All the issues and the adjectives and the verbs won't make it right. Two people who WANT it badly enough will communicate THEIR needs and desires to make it work...oh ~ so umm....yeah ~ Two communicating people who WANT a great relationship....
Now is I just added similar personalities to that.... Then I believe you got it!!!
Quick lets patent it!!!
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 1/30/2007 3:20:08 PM |
but if there is no sexual connection you can't even start .
Thunderstorms I must disagree with you. The best sex I ever had in my LIFE was with somebody who had started as a strictly platonic friend. AFTER the trust had developed through our friendship when things became sexually intimate it was amazing. As a victim of sexual violence when I was a teenager it was very difficult for me to trust men.
This is just further evidence of the Venus vs Mars thing. For those of us who do not happen to be born with the kind of looks that leave total strangers panting after us we have to prioritize OTHER aspects of a relationship. Again, just my opinion - and life experience - talking.
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 1/30/2007 7:18:14 PM | Thunderstorms I must disagree with you. The best sex I ever had in my LIFE was with somebody who had started as a strictly platonic friend. AFTER the trust had developed through our friendship when things became sexually intimate it was amazing. As a victim of sexual violence when I was a teenager it was very difficult for me to trust men.
This is just further evidence of the Venus vs Mars thing. For those of us who do not happen to be born with the kind of looks that leave total strangers panting after us we have to prioritize OTHER aspects of a relationship. Again, just my opinion - and life experience - talking.
Dar,
yes I agree. What I meant was there must be some sexual chemistry at some point. Yes you can start your way, but if you guys never would've developed that sexual chemistry you are just friends.. If you read earlier in my post would see I too experierence what you have.
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 1/30/2007 9:07:34 PM | For me...of course this is the Coles Notes version..
Being best friends, equal partners in life & lovers..that is what makes a great relationship. I could go into detail as to what I mean by each...but most people don't require that indepth of an explanation. | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/5/2007 12:43:30 PM | I do believe in what Thunderstorms highlights....
a similar personality and mutually satisfying sex. They are strong ties that bind you.
Now... to have the above with the same person!!!!!!! | |
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ck1960
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:47:53 AM | If you can:
Talk
Laugh
Share
Have your emotional needs met
Have your physical, sexual needs met
Feel the safety and security to be open
Feel appreciated
I think you have the ingredients for a great relationship.
I think to have the above you have to be more similar in personality that different.
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/6/2007 2:06:13 PM | I do believe in what Thunderstorms highlights....
a similar personality and mutually satisfying sex. They are strong ties that bind you.
Now... to have the above with the same person!!!!!!!
I heard that.... | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/6/2007 2:54:09 PM |
There is nothing comparable than having sex with someone who desires you not only for your body, but for the person you are!!!
Well said Leanne.
I agree. Sex is a biggie in relationships, but it's just one part of the puzzle. Without communication, mutual respect and honesty you might as well just hire a hooker. Being in love with someone, really in love, you would have to put just as much emphasis on all the parts of the relationship building, not just sex. Thru that sex is better and more passionate/intimate and you are better as a couple. | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/8/2007 8:15:09 AM | Hello raevyn
great comment
I agree. Sex is a biggie in relationships, but it's just one part of the puzzle. Without communication, mutual respect and honesty you might as well just hire a hooker. Being in love with someone, really in love, you would have to put just as much emphasis on all the parts of the relationship building, not just sex. Thru that sex is better and more passionate/intimate and you are better as a couple.
you got it!!!
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ck1960
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Joined: 6/19/2006
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/8/2007 11:53:30 AM | I think we collated all of our answers we have answered the question by now.
My final answer is: Similar in Nature, Very Satisfying Sex and.....something I don't think was mentioned yet......TIME.....like a fine wine, a fine relationship needs the right ingredients, the right climate and TIME.
Nice to read all your replies.....I am on to the next question now.....hmmmmm, anyone have another question?????? | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/8/2007 8:17:12 PM | Good one "think we collated all of our answers we have answered the question by now.
My final answer is: Similar in Nature, Very Satisfying Sex and.....something I don't think was mentioned yet......TIME.....like a fine wine, a fine relationship needs the right ingredients, the right climate and TIME.
Nice to read all your replies.....I am on to the next question now.....hmmmmm, anyone have another question??????"
Don't forget surprises.. and those phone calls...hurry up and get home, I want to jump your bones...LOL
Even when two people know how to communicate, your still have to know when to give and take, lead or follow. The two personalities are similar, you must be able to balance this.. But making up can me fun...LOL | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/8/2007 8:24:53 PM | I'd really like to know what kind of experiences people have had with long-distance relationships. I am ass over teakettle for a fish in Sweden - and he, darling boy, seems to reciprocate! He's coming for a visit as soon as we can arrange it but if the mutual admiration society persists then eventually one of us will have to relocate.
He was quite impressed that in my first message to him I used French & German phrases (his profile mentioned that he spoke both languages) so the initial attraction was cerebral rather than physical - always a good start imho!
Does anybody have any experience or advice about this kind of thing? My life would have been so much less complicated if the OP hadn't turned me down...
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/8/2007 8:38:38 PM | i follow the three "S"'s rule to relationships:
Sex
Sleep
and
....Sandwichs...
sure it might not be the best theory...but it does work...well..."ish"...
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/9/2007 6:33:26 PM | Complete and absolute- trust, respect, understanding, open lines of communication, lots of affection.
Take naps 2 gether, encourage each other, cook and play together, be open to positive criticism, never raise your voice to each other. If you're wired differently be sure to let your partner know if you need a little time to think on something. If you don't know about something - don't pretend to or lie but tell them you research and be sure you do. No-one respect laziness.
Massage each other, if you're running late call or message. Take the time to do little things for your love, like the laundry, pick up the dry cleaning, some flowers/ her favourite magazine/snacks. Leave little notes, gentleman lower the seat when you're finished, tell her she looks amazing and you're so happy to be her guy. Both of you, compliment each other, take pride in your appearance & your hygiene, instead of being out with the guys/girls three nights a week- make it 1. Having said that never forget your friends. Be each others sounding board. Remember to make time for each other even in the toughest of times- OH THE SPOILS YOU'LL REAP :-)!!!!
Anything worth doing is worth doing to the best of your abilities. Never be quick to anger, start and end each day with a kiss and a hug. NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY- THE BEDROOM IS A COUPLES SANCTUARY!!!! Read to each other, cuddle and kiss alot, tell your partner how proud you are of them. Always be supportive- even if you don't agree, you can discuss things later if you need to. Always watch out for each other. LAUGH A LOT!!! Make beautiful love often, when you think you can't give more- give more :-).
DANCE AND SING LIKE NO-ONE'S WATCHING.
Play her favourite music even if you don't care for it. Take rides together, walk hand in hand, smile at her/him and KISSSSSSSSSSSS AND HUG ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!! Be there for each other no matter what comes your way. | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/9/2007 6:36:02 PM | Damned if I know what makes a great relationship? If I knew i wouldn't be on this box of rocks would I??
I have to say though that I do not ever expect wow immediately. I prefer to take it slow and let stuff develop naturally. Saves money on the condoms that way!! | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/9/2007 6:41:57 PM | | unconditional love,and trust,no prejudices,honesty,open line of communication by both parties,respect for each other's feelings,a genuine interest in your partner's activities and mutual support for them,sharing each other's successes and failures and growing together through them all.knowing each other's likes and dislikes and making choices and compromising regarding these likes and dislikes.just in a nutshell knowing each other better then they know themsleves. | |
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ck1960
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Joined: 6/19/2006
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/9/2007 8:20:50 PM | WoW Archangel,
you really took the time to think this through and wrote it up so eloquently. What struck me was that everything you wrote is really so simple to give and so wonderful to receive. You described so much about the simple things in life that when given go such a long way. You wrote "Reach to each other" which I have shared, and that is one of the many personal favorites you described above. I hope you have the good fortune to have all of the above.  | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/9/2007 8:31:34 PM | Thank-you for your kind observation ck1960. See life is all about getting back to the basics. Life is nutty enough on it's own. All that each of us want is to be loved, accepted and understood. Yes it's true all these are the greatest to receive but the real treasure is giving all this to one person naturally, without expectation and with your whole being.
I have met a great lady and hopefully in a little time :-)!! Thanks again for your kindness and I wish you the very best to attain all that you hold near and dear from that special guy :-). | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/10/2007 4:48:16 PM | Great Post Archangel!!!!!!!!!!
Complete and absolute- trust, respect, understanding, open lines of communication, lots of affection.
Take naps 2 gether, encourage each other, cook and play together, be open to positive criticism, never raise your voice to each other. If you're wired differently be sure to let your partner know if you need a little time to think on something. If you don't know about something - don't pretend to or lie but tell them you research and be sure you do. No-one respect laziness.
Massage each other, if you're running late call or message. Take the time to do little things for your love, like the laundry, pick up the dry cleaning, some flowers/ her favourite magazine/snacks. Leave little notes, gentleman lower the seat when you're finished, tell her she looks amazing and you're so happy to be her guy. Both of you, compliment each other, take pride in your appearance & your hygiene, instead of being out with the guys/girls three nights a week- make it 1. Having said that never forget your friends. Be each others sounding board. Remember to make time for each other even in the toughest of times- OH THE SPOILS YOU'LL REAP :-)!!!!
Anything worth doing is worth doing to the best of your abilities. Never be quick to anger, start and end each day with a kiss and a hug. NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY- THE BEDROOM IS A COUPLES SANCTUARY!!!! Read to each other, cuddle and kiss alot, tell your partner how proud you are of them. Always be supportive- even if you don't agree, you can discuss things later if you need to. Always watch out for each other. LAUGH A LOT!!! Make beautiful love often, when you think you can't give more- give more :-).
DANCE AND SING LIKE NO-ONE'S WATCHING.
Play her favourite music even if you don't care for it. Take rides together, walk hand in hand, smile at her/him and KISSSSSSSSSSSS AND HUG ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!! Be there for each other no matter what comes your way.
I had to cut and past this one as it deserves to be repeated many times. Best answer it this post. I hope you find that lucky gal out here!!!
Randall | |
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