| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:36:57 PM | Thanks Randall the right one is worth the wait agreed :-)!!
This such a great thread- it's about so many things in a relationship.
* Knowing what makes your partner shine and bringing that out of them. Knowing their weaknesses-helping them, not pushing their buttons continuing to learn and grow.
Taking the time so important to be with each other. Even if it's doing nothing at all.
Don't smother someone- allow them to be who and what they are. Jealousy is not becoming- therefore don't be.
Don't be on the take- looking for a sugar momma or daddy. Money doesn't make the world go round- contrary to popular belief. | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/11/2007 4:13:08 PM | Archangel,
where did you and this wonderful woman meet?
I have to say again, having read your profile once I read your answer on this thread that you write so well.
So what is your lovely lady like!!!!!!!!!  | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/12/2007 8:01:47 PM | For me: respect mutually
: tolerance mutually
: communication(truthful and non judgemental)
: friendship(which ties in with above)
For me these four attributes are the bedrock for intimacy, and all of the other good stuff relationships can bring. However since I'm male(Martian) I'll forego all that other stuff and go watch a race!...................... Just kidding: I did say tolerance  | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/13/2007 7:51:14 AM | COMMUNICATION!!!
Sharing the household chores
Doing small things that will be appreciated "foot massages, cooking her a meal, drawing a bubble bath, waking her in erotic ways" the list goes on. | |
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ck1960
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/13/2007 8:21:38 AM | my kind of guy: waking her up in erotic ways, drawing bubble baths...
I'd like to add SURPRISES of all kinds....sexy phone messages, love notes, weekend get aways, special dinners, new lingerie, tantric sensual nights that go on a looooong time.
trying new things to keep it fresh, fun, new feeling.  | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/13/2007 11:42:27 AM | I agree surprises are good except well.......................when I came home with the first Vette. At first I thought she was speaking in tongues but no: she was so mad she was runningherwordsalltogether! Had to rent a room for a bit, till I understood the surprise was supposed to be For her, not To her! Learned my lesson though  I'll never ever do that again | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/13/2007 12:16:23 PM | I've found my Wow  , what's going to make it work? Mutaul long term goals, compromise, the ability to talk to each other, major WOW, happening, for both of us!
Having the same interests in wanting to do things together, but enough different interests to give each other space as well. | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/13/2007 3:06:12 PM | Wow some real good posts coming in. great stuff folks.
If you focus on putting a smile on your parnters face and they focus on putting a smile on yours... life would be bliss.!!
Thanks Randall the right one is worth the wait agreed :-)!!
This such a great thread- it's about so many things in a relationship.
* Knowing what makes your partner shine and bringing that out of them. Knowing their weaknesses-helping them, not pushing their buttons continuing to learn and grow.
Taking the time so important to be with each other. Even if it's doing nothing at all.
Don't smother someone- allow them to be who and what they are. Jealousy is not becoming- therefore don't be.
Don't be on the take- looking for a sugar momma or daddy. Money doesn't make the world go round- contrary to popular belief.
ck1960
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What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/11/2007 4 08 PM
Archangel,
where did you and this wonderful woman meet?
I have to say again, having read your profile once I read your answer on this thread that you write so well.
So what is your lovely lady like!!!!!!!!!
regularguy52
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Posted: 2/12/2007 8:01:47 PM
For me: respect mutually
: tolerance mutually
: communication(truthful and non judgemental)
: friendship(which ties in with above)
For me these four attributes are the bedrock for intimacy, and all of the other good stuff relationships can bring. However since I'm male(Martian) I'll forego all that other stuff and go watch a race!...................... Just kidding: I did say tolerance
DomBear
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What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/13/2007 7 14 AM
COMMUNICATION!!!
Sharing the household chores
Doing small things that will be appreciated "foot massages, cooking her a meal, drawing a bubble bath, waking her in erotic ways" the list goes on.
ck1960
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Posted: 2/13/2007 8 38 AM
my kind of guy: waking her up in erotic ways, drawing bubble baths...
I'd like to add SURPRISES of all kinds....sexy phone messages, love notes, weekend get aways, special dinners, new lingerie, tantric sensual nights that go on a looooong time.
trying new things to keep it fresh, fun, new feeling.
regularguy52
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Posted: 2/13/2007 11 27 AM
I agree surprises are good except well.......................when I came home with the first Vette. At first I thought she was speaking in tongues but no: she was so mad she was runningherwordsalltogether! Had to rent a room for a bit, till I understood the surprise was supposed to be For her, not To her! Learned my lesson though I'll never ever do that again
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Posted: 2/13/2007 12 23 PM
I've found my Wow , what's going to make it work? Mutaul long term goals, compromise, the ability to talk to each other, major WOW, happening, for both of us!
Having the same interests in wanting to do things together, but enough different interests to give each other space as well.
Congrats... and best wishes... keep it exciting and a live!!!!
Randall | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/13/2007 4:15:24 PM | | You guys are SOOOOOOOOO RIGHT!!!!!!!!!! That one special lady is worth the wait- whatever it takes. To have fun, laugh, snuggle for hours, talk, make each other feel so very special, accepted and unconditionally respected and loved. | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/20/2007 3:03:35 PM | If your partner is happy, you probably will be and vice versa....so give, and hopefully by just
giving heart and soul, with all the passion you can muster, it will be great.
talk talk talk
PASSION PASSION PASSSION | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/20/2007 3:11:26 PM | "my kind of guy: waking her up in erotic ways, drawing bubble baths...
I'd like to add SURPRISES of all kinds....sexy phone messages, love notes, weekend get aways, special dinners, new lingerie, tantric sensual nights that go on a looooong time.
trying new things to keep it fresh, fun, new feeling"
Communication AND PASSION..and LOTS AND LOTS OF SEX !! MY opinion that it creates intimacy...
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/20/2007 6:06:42 PM | Couldn't agree more GEB
All depends on the person really.. for me I like new things .. sex is great of course, however, one does need a bit of variety and a bit of naughtiness LOL.. also communication is the key.. in all aspects .. the best "sex" organ on either male or female bodies is the brain (Mind) ... without that its just a reproductive act.
Again it all depends on the mentality and morality of the person you are with..
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/20/2007 7:20:32 PM | | GEB...thank you for quoting me! I meant every word of it. So many nice woman who really seem to have their act together....why is it this relationship we want is illusive? Maybe be "great" only happens a few times in a lifetime......BIG SIGH | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/20/2007 7:53:23 PM | Hey CK
You have heard of "the one" "soul mate" etc right.. well there is more than one out there ... we all have super compatibles... just have to find them thats all .. sometimes we are all like ships sailing past in the night.. we know your there, just cant see you..
Of course it all comes down to ones belief system, I am a spiritual person and I mix that with Quantum physics.. so the mix is pretty interesting .. as compatibility relies on the normal.. attractive peremones and the para normal,the higher plain of existence where ones energy and aura have an affect on other people ( have you ever got the heebeejeebees when you walked past someone.. that cold shiver .. just does not sit right or you get that warm feeling from someone)
All i can say is that it is a good thing it happens only a few times .. if it was all the time it would become mundane and not exciting...
Stop looking and the universe will find you someone without you knowing and one day .. your head will be spinning.. lol
have a great evening
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/20/2007 11:29:50 PM | If your partner is happy, you probably will be and vice versa....so give, and hopefully by just
giving heart and soul, with all the passion you can muster, it will be great.
talk talk talk
PASSION PASSION PASSSION
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Posted: 2/20/2007 3 26 PM
"my kind of guy: waking her up in erotic ways, drawing bubble baths...
I'd like to add SURPRISES of all kinds....sexy phone messages, love notes, weekend get aways, special dinners, new lingerie, tantric sensual nights that go on a looooong time.
trying new things to keep it fresh, fun, new feeling"
Communication AND PASSION..and LOTS AND LOTS OF SEX !! MY opinion that it creates intimacy...
Good stuff... I totally agree.. two people must have simlar attitudes for it to work...
Hmmm I like tantric | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/21/2007 7:28:47 AM | Randall, how did I know you would vibe with my answers above...including tantric LOL
On a more serious note, I woke up this morning thinking about my parents as a really good example of what makes for a great relationship and here goes.
They met when they were both 13 years of age and were married at 19. I had the pleasure of remaking some of their old movies into DVD's recently and watched with delight when they were in their teens and their 20's and 30's the two of them PLAYING together. They had fun together. They are still having alot of fun together. THEY PLAY WELL TOGETHER! And I think that beyond the obvious knowing how to communicate well, they exemplify what I've been singing lately, the song by Orlean, "We're still having fun, and you're still the One".
I see them together today at age 68 both, and I smile when I see my Dad still teasing my mother playfully, the hand holding, spontaneous dancing around the living room when a song is played that they enjoy. Sure they have had their fair share of ups and downs, and have been tested, but there love continues to withstand the tests of time. Because they are both strong willed and a dominant type, they have had to negotiate things, and have learned when to give in, say I'm sorry. They give each other space but they do share alot of activities together and joy in doing them together. They know how and when to coax each other on when needed.
As for me, although I have shared many of their experiences I have waited a long time to have these experiences with one individual. I recall times when I was playing with a particular partner and what was disturbing was the sixth sense I had that when I excelled in something he would not shine but seem inwardly frustrated for himself. They seemed like silly things to be annoyed over, that I could bike faster and longer, or that sometimes when I walk into a room full of strangers I could be the life of the party and really be chatty and engaging. It took on a flavor of one upmanship.....but in reflecting back upone those incidents it taught me that a suitable partner is one who rejoices in the others successes and
strengths but does not compete to beat you at what you enjoy. Playing should be for the sheer enjoyment of it and competition between partners can set up strange dynamics.
So there you have it...a long winded answer with some very personal information but I feel fitting in with this thread. I wonder if my parents have Tantric Sex LOL | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/21/2007 12:05:20 PM | Symon, you are a cutie patootie! I tried the not looking for it but I believe one has to be proactive and try at least to make their own destiny....or do we only think we are creating our own destiny....now don't get me started!!! But I do know what you're speaking to, and as a matter of fact have read alot on the subject you speak about. Watch the DVD
What the Bleep do we know...it's all about laws of attraction, and where thought goes-energy flows etc etc etc. | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 2/21/2007 3:53:45 PM | I like your communication post CK1960.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingposts6645589.aspx
Communication is extremely important and almost everyone say that they want good communication. However my experience is that ther are few good communicators out there. So here are my views:
There are 3 parts of communicating:
1) expressing yourself
2)listening
3) reacting or responding
We all talk about respect, honesty and trust. Well all this is tied to communication.
If you want someone to be open and honest then you better enable them to be so. For example (will use sexual communication here) if your partner express a fantasy and you listen and then react by being angry, offended, hurt or be little your partner for expressing it. Then you are being disrespectful, it a breach of trust and you have just created a major barrier to communication.
The point is that is take maturity and it take two to tango, but need to know how to express tactfully with respect for their partner, listen and respond in kind. Failure to do so is a sign of a poor communicator. You don't to agree with your partner, but you do need to be respectful,
be encourging for them to communicate their thoughts.
Sometimes people think they are good communicators, they may be good at expressing themselves, them may be good at listening and then may be good at responding/reacting. But you need to be good at all three. Here Two of Three is still a failing grade!!!!
I say this becuase I was one them, but then I got better and I see the light!! I am still not perfect but I a pretty good and still work on getting better.
There are 4 personality types that also affect this. Your personalities are opposites it makes communcation very difficult as your see the world and respond to it very differently. So it is best for be with someone with a similar personality as it will make communication so much easier. | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 3/15/2007 12:48:21 AM | How about positive communication?
It is better so say:
a) I haven't seen you since the weekend are you avoiding me?
b)wow I know it only been the weekend since I've seen you, but I am missing you, lets have dinner on friday and I can show oyu how much I miss you.
Which one do you like? | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 3/15/2007 5:09:38 AM | When communicating - Not only listening - but really hearing the words - understanding them and adding intelligent and empathetic input - to show support and mutual respect for what is being said!! Letting your partner know what they are saying has merit and is clearly absorbed by you - not just taken and put aside!
Obviously stating b) from the above example of communicating is best - that's not just communicating, but being completely respectful and empathetic to someone elses situation and not being selfish!!! Everyone wants to hear things put into a context that takes you personally into consideration!!! | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 3/15/2007 9:44:21 PM | Hello Leeanne,
good post. Yes the obvious answer is B). It is too bad that most people use the more negative way. I use to be that way myself until a good book hit me in the head, knock some sense into me and showed me a better way!!! | |
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 3/25/2007 10:57:20 AM | I finally figured out the answer to the question "What makes for a great relationship".
The answer has been there in my face all these years!
You need to know what kind of egg you are and prefer and then look for someone who is a similar egg and enjoys his/her prepared the same way!!!
So here is the personality test_ What kind of egg are you?
A good egg?
A rotten egg?
A scrambled egg?
A fried egg?
Easy over?
Sunny side up?
Soft boiled?
Hard boiled?
Poached?
Brown?
White?
Large?
Medium?
Small?
Extra Large?
A Fluffy Omelette?
Be honest with your answers! You have to know yourself and then you are in a much better position to find someone who is compatible with you-a similar type of egg :-)
I'm going for brunch now. | |
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ck1960
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| What makes for a great relationship
Posted: 3/25/2007 10:57:28 AM | I finally figured out the answer to the question "What makes for a great relationship".
The answer has been there in my face all these years!
You need to know what kind of egg you are and prefer and then look for someone who is a similar egg and enjoys his/her prepared the same way!!!
So here is the personality test_ What kind of egg are you?
A good egg?
A rotten egg?
A scrambled egg?
A fried egg?
Easy over?
Sunny side up?
Soft boiled?
Hard boiled?
Poached?
Brown?
White?
Large?
Medium?
Small?
Extra Large?
A Fluffy Omelette?
Be honest with your answers! You have to know yourself and then you are in a much better position to find someone who is compatible with you-a similar type of egg :-)
I'm going for brunch now. | |
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