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| How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ????
Posted: 11/20/2009 4:55:17 PM | | well I'm pretty thick skinned so i can tolerate a lot! a lot of times i figure it to be growing pains, yes, things go wrong, feelings can be hurt...too many just want to walk away without realiseing that sometimes it comes to an end and what you wanted happens. starting over stinks! | |
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| How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ????
Posted: 11/20/2009 5:39:08 PM | | You deserve someone who absolutely adores you. You shouldn't have to put up with anything that makes you feel unloved or unappreciated! If this person ignores you, chases others and doesn't respect your choices, then what exactly are you sticking around for? There's someone out there who will think you deserve all the attention and consideration he can provide, and then he'll provide it - no need to have to ask for it. Don't settle!! Life is too short to wait around for someone who has his priorities screwed up. I vote for "dump his a** now". | |
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| How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ????
Posted: 11/20/2009 6:16:15 PM | | First time is the last time someone ignores or uses me. OP, you have to decide if you are afraid of being alone or if you have other issues bogging you down in a life sucking faux relationship. | |
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| How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ????
Posted: 11/20/2009 9:06:39 PM | K Irish, I fixed it. I think LOL... blonde moment there.
As to the question, I think it depends on the age of the person, and the experiences they have already been through in their lives. If someone has been in a loving and trusting relationship, separated by death for example, maybe they will be more tolerant, whereas, someone that has been in a lousy relationship may well pull the plug quite quickly and not be willing to tolerate even the slightest faux pas.
I realize those are two extreme examples, and there will be shades of both with everything in between, but the old saying goes "A beaten dog will shy at the raising of a hand, where as a loved dog will lick that hand first." | |
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| How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ????
Posted: 11/21/2009 6:03:50 AM | serenitycw said,
there are some really great men out there and some really great women. but, we have to be together enough in and of ourselves-- and take educated risks to get to meet each other. we all have burdens, but can do w/o the baggage..... and speaking of "drama", that is not reserved for women. i am not much into drama either with the men in my life.
If you are on here to get even with your man, i 'd suggest you stop all that and face your problems squarely. get to know and improve yourself before you enter the "dating" world. because in your current position, you will just attract more of "the same".
Well said Dr.! op, As you well know the majority of threads here have the undertones of payback and revenge[emotions] without the healing part or the getting on with life.
To sit in one's dirty bath water is not good,eventually we need to jump out and clean up instead of keep stewing over the past. Sure it's good to vent but for how long,that's not the answer! And to stop it when it get really unhealthy as some seem to think that it's their badge of honor but they are stuck just like you too.
Get some counseling op and good luck. | |
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| How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ????
Posted: 11/21/2009 6:57:50 PM | "he took a bottle of pills "...................what a manipulater!
No emotional connection from him needed.................walk away long before this point.
The important thing is for each and everyone of us to sent up boundaries for people far before we have to ask the question the topic asks. | |
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| How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ????
Posted: 11/21/2009 9:07:30 PM | | OP, I hope you have removed yourself from the situation. As for me, I won't put up with abuse. I've been on my own since I was 16. I am happy with my own company. I don't have to keep anyone around to avoid being alone. Why be involved with someone who does not enhance your life? Makes no sense to me to put up with s**t. People seldom change their basic nature. That is why I no longer give second chances. I've learned through experience that there is no point to it. I prefer solitude to bulls**t any day. | |
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| How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ????
Posted: 11/22/2009 8:58:57 AM |
That is why I no longer give second chances. I've learned through experience that there is no point to it.
OMG - I have SOOO learned that, it is so true! Listen to you instincts, there's a reason why you have them. If you feel like you are being mistreated you probably are. | |
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