| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 2/22/2007 7:11:06 AM | | i agree with indiana1984 .. first-off get him tested for everything under the sun .. u want the clap i think not .. and 2 that is bullshit .... straight the **** up ... u really belive that shit... 105 girls is pushing your luck man .. i mean cmon .there is no way that is possible ... that would mean we would have to have slept with around 5 woman a year .. FROM BIRTH.. so lets say he started ****in when he was 17 which would mean he would be sleeping with 15 woman a year .. soild for 7 years straight up until meeting you ... YEAH ****ING RIGHT | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 2/22/2007 9:24:26 AM | It's not really very fair to judge the guy on his past... especially if he's been willing to tell you his magic number. If he just wanted to get you into bed, do you think he'd really tell you he'd slept with 105 girls? Hell no. It'll put the fear of god into you.
Give him a chance. Some people can change. Judge him by his behaviours, not his past.
Just make sure you get him thoroughly tested  | |
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| It's NOT what the man say but what he does ...
Posted: 2/22/2007 9:46:05 AM | Perhaps he's ...
a sex addict
a pig
a player
Or maybe just maybe
he could be really great guy in love with you ...
Red flags how many times a week he does it? How many times a day? Does he get angry if you don't give it to him? And forces you into it?
Not saying he's doing all those things however those might be signs to look for.
REMEMBER past behavior predicts FUTURE behavior....
AND .... His words are just words ... Does not matter what the man says but how he acts ... Good luck and you can always join the sex addict group and learn more about signs to look for ... | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 2/24/2007 2:27:11 PM | I have slept with more people than this guy by the time I was 20 that is because at 16 I had a gf of mine die on me liver failure brought on by weird infection. I just kind of emotionally shut down. I started picking up a women every week a different women every week its not really that hard.
when you emotionally shut down its not hard to pick up people u just learn all the tricks to play them. I never said what I was doing was right. it was the only thing I was feeling for a long time.
I know other people who share their gf or bf with others and so thier numbers go up.
I got tested every month I am still clean. | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 2/25/2007 2:22:19 AM | Devil's advocate: Excuse me! What has this guy actually done wrong (assuming of course that he used protection with all 105 partners so far and all were consenting)? He is honest about it. He sought experience while young and his interest in getting that experience he took ... very seriously. Now, he says, he has satisfied his curiocity and is ready to slow down. What is he actually doing wrong?
PS 1. 105 women times ... per woman?
PS 2. Is honesty such an UFO concept these days?
PS 3: 24 - 16 = 8 years. 105 divided by 8 is about 13 per year, or about 1 girlfriend per month on average. How is that impossible, is he was focused about it (and obviously popular enough to be able to find willing partners) | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 2/25/2007 2:50:24 AM | If it were the other way around, or he was a she... she would be called a slut or a whore in almost everyones eyes. So think about it,,, how would he feel if you just "sexed" up 105 guys before you were 24??? It shows that this person is a cheap **** and people just dont change. He probably told each of those girls the same exact thing and I wouldnt beleive him at all.
Con artists always seem sincere, that is why they are so successful. If I were you, I would do a back ground check on him to see if any of the women filed charges of beign scammed, robbed or ripped off, then get a medical aids test and go with him "for moral supprt" you get one too, then as you ge to know his family and friends ask questions, lots of questions....
look out for the next red flag, you already know he is a wh**e, better find out what else he is...
Good luck!! | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 2/25/2007 3:02:29 AM | More devil's advocate: A w...re (=prostitute) is someone who gets paid for sex. Not the case with this guy. Why is a man or woman who sleeps around a s.l.a.t.? After how many partners per year or per month? Plus if he has changed his ways, he then is a former WHATEVER (eg "Casanova").
Live and let live, protected, of course! | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:17:42 PM | Holy crap, someone's been a busy boy!
Sorry, but I wouldn't touch THAT with a ten foot pole!
Nasty...
It's not about right or wrong or morals with me. That is just excessive to me. TO ME! | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2007 3:46:22 AM | | 13 lovers per year for 7-8 in a row is indeed excessive!! Maybe he is aweful in bed and was desperately trying to use practical training to improve .????!!!!????? He is probably exaggerating, so maybe 6 per year is more real. That is still one lover per 60 days!!! Very mysterious. Let's call Sherlock! lol | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:35:38 AM | | The average single man has 2.5 to 3 lovers in a year. with a tendency to exaggerate to the positive. "Look at me, I am such a stud!" The average female has 1.5 to 2 lovers a year, with a tendency to downplay. "I'm a good girl!" I would question the fractions, but I know more than a few times I have had lovers than were only about half there. Only a kid is stupid enough to try to claim that many lovers at his age, and think it gives him some kind of status, unless being a total loser and man skank is some kind of status. | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:47:05 AM | The average single man has 2.5 to 3 lovers in a year. with a tendency to exaggerate to the positive. "Look at me, I am such a stud!"
Good point...
Even if you totalled up the multiple partners from threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes, the numbers still would not jibe... unless he is a rock star or sports celebrity ,which I find unlikely. | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2007 7:15:00 AM | RUN GIRL RUN!  He's a liar, and a man whore..... do you really want to end up pregnant with HIV and god know's what else? uh uh! And I think that there's no way that he slept with that many chicks, unless he told them exactly what he's telling you..... hmmmm  | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2007 7:56:13 AM | | I agree with most of what everyone is saying. I find it hard to believe he's been with that many women. If he was possibly telling the truth, which I find hard to believe, why stop at 24 to settle down? Then again, maybe he had attachment issues and thought long and hard and decided his lifestyle is not what he wanted. Wanted to grow up and think about his future and you are one he wants to attempt that with. as with most, I would sit down and talk to him. tell him you are concerned about his past and before you get busy with him, he needs to be checked out. remember, we all have a past and it makes us who we are today. Some of it good, some bad. All you need to think about is how he is today. I know I have done some not so moral things back in the day, but it doesn't mean thats who I am today. | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:08:43 AM | EXCESSIVE???
ARE YOU KIDDING ME???
Maybe I come from a totally different world from many here...
105 women huh? Hed BARELY be able to hang with my crew where I grew up. Barely.
My best friend for many years, Jamie... he was a dog. I remember he slept with 35 girls.... in one month. We'd go to a house party and he'd be banging some girl... within 15 minutes tops. He kept a condom in his hand when he shook womens hands. We'd meet girls in Big Oranges at Union Station, and he'd be banging one on bags of coffee beans in the storage room within the hour. Hed be walking down the street one minute, in a limo the next, and then be on an all expense paid trip to Mexico, where hed bang the two girls who took him, two more he met there, and all the while he had a girlfriend. I Tell you this story, OP, for a reason: on that trip... something happened. While away, Jamies g/f up here... banged our other close friend, Dave The Vulture, as we called him, cuz he was the master of banging everyone elses girlfriends. Well... Jamie found out when he got back. Finally, he got burned. And it fuked him up. Jamies mom was a biker, and saw more drugs than the DEA. After Jamies g/f burned him as he was burning her, he changed. He left home, went to University, became a Chartered Accountant.... and married that same girl he cheated on in Mexico. At his stag... he stricktly forbade any women being present, and they now work together, have their 2nd house, and the got 3 kids.
So OP, yep... get him tested, right away.
But remember this: If he told you... well thats a pretty big thing to tell somebody, so either he trusts you or hes testing you. Either way... he didnt have to tell you any of this, now did he. Maybe he is telling the truth... the numbers are feasable at his age, depending on his previous lifestyle. Evander Holyfield has over 50 kids. People can change, and love can definately do it. Ive seen it with my own eyes... I mean I was Jamies best friend, and knew how dirty dirty dirty that guy was.. and the whole time I remained a virgin, and his observer, and I saw him forever change. He truly loves his wife, and has never cheated on her since. Remember one other thing: Its not important who or how many hes slept with before you, its how many after you. If the numbers zero, then youre ok.
Maybe Maury can help you find out!!!! | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2007 9:44:20 AM |
My best friend for many years, Jamie... he was a dog. I remember he slept with 35 girls.... in one month. This just isn't normal behavior. Probably done by much less than 1% of guys. Normal is somewhere around 50% of the guys--atlast says that is 2.5-3 women a year. That's sounds more normal than 35 women per month. | |
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| Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2007 4:36:03 PM | I believe that is possible for him....and as many people have stated to have sex is not that hard....i've been with way more than hea has....but i was active during what they call the sexual revolution... of the late 60's and 70's....things were different then than they are now.....and at times i am so thankful that my prime years was then and not now.....y'all really missed out on an experience of a lifetime..... | |
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