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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 10/30/2009 8:59:29 PM | I started this thread three years ago almost to the day from now. Wow, how time does go by and there has been some very lonely times during those three years. The worst kind of lonely is being in a relationship (you think) but still being alone.
However, I did find that there are some good ways to fill lonely times. Here's somewhat of a list:
- Relief from loneliness can be spelled C-A-T. Get a cat, and have a really good loyal buddy.
- Movies. You can vicariously live through a good movie, over and over and over again.
- Sleep. It does a body good.
And the most important for last:
- Stop giving a damn about being lonely. What a relief! | |
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/2/2009 12:46:33 PM | Make friends....I have two good circles of friends...from POF and my crazy girlfriends I've had forever, take up a hobby .... I play guitar and karaoke...., work out, go hiking, go out and hear live music that interests you, take a road trip, escape in a good book, bake something yummy, go shopping....u get the idea....always plan something FUN and stay busy! | |
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:29:55 PM | Chiming in trying to turn the negative thought (filling the lonely times) into a positive (how do I get where I want to be)
...Learn to date. Most people date by accident...or with waaaaaaaayyyyy too much intent.
...Learn how to relax and share of yourself. Think of dating as a collaboration, not an encounter.
...Learn what flirting means to you...go out and practice it and see what works. Refine your thoughts, then your technique, and then do it again...and keep doing it even after you're dating someone and especially with that person. Flirting releases endorphins which are definite "feel good" rushes...they're fun for all.
...Learn how speak comfortably...practice those routines we've had to say dozens, hundreds or thousands of times...such that they are interesting to listen to.
...Learn how to tell a story...practice reading aloud to learn how to use speech for emphasis, empathy and encouragement.
...Learn how to ask questions...real, meaningful questions. Pick up "4000 Questions for Getting to Know Everything About Anybody".
...Learn how to drop negative words from our conversational vocabulary.
...Lower your expectations, but not your standards.
...Throw yourself in the path of opportunity. It's everywhere...but most people have dozens of reasons not to take that step. Yeah...it's scary...scary fun. Each and every time.
And yeah...if you're happy not dating, then...are these really "lonely times"?
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:52:36 PM |
keep doing it even after you're dating someone
Oh, Dubby, I love the way you turn negative things around to positives, but here's something I cannot agree with you about. Flirting even after you're dating someone. To me, that is a danger zone unless it is flirting exclusively with the person you are dating.
And yeah...if you're happy not dating, then...are these really "lonely times"?
Well, I'm not happy about dating itself, and yes, there really are lonely times. This reminds me of a conversation I had today with someone at work. We were talking about how people act these days, very deceptive, evasive, and selfish, especially when you are trying to find someone to be in a relationship with. Her granddaughter hit the nail right on the head, and she's around 20 years old. She said that she felt as though she wanted to find someone to date while she was alone, but once she was on a date, she felt like she didn't want to be there. I think a lot of people feel that way these days, and the young people are feeling it, too. Something is missing somewhere.
Yeah...it's scary
After reading your list of things to do, I'm really scared now! | |
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Posted: 11/2/2009 7:15:38 PM | How 'bout "Flirting with your partner...every day"...it's amazing the number of people forget what got 'em to where they are.
People don't open up...maybe they're scared...maybe they have no passion...maybe it's that they don't open up in the way we hope and expect them to.
I think most just feel a need to be appreciated. Flirting is the doorstep to that.
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Posted: 11/2/2009 8:09:58 PM | ^^^^Oh, I guess I misunderstood what you said before. I thought you meant still flirting with OTHER people even after you have a partner. Yes, I definitely agree that flirting is required with your partner. Plus a whole lot of teasing. My favorite thing is to leave funny and/or risque messages on their cell phone voice mail. | |
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