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Posted: 11/11/2006 8:31:02 AM | That sounds like a hell of a way to pass the time! I think all of us should do this same thing! Maybe they'll take us all to the same place and we could plan our next "outing"!!!! LOL While reading this I just had to laugh outloud! Thanx!
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Posted: 11/11/2006 8:40:43 AM | I use to be lonely ALL the time no matter who I was with or what I was doing
When I finally learned about my own self worth and how to love myself...it all changed
I know I know you've heard it before....so did I and I thought the same things WTF EVER!!!!!!!! I would say
But when It happend....when I started filling that emptiness with God, and myself, with things that I loved, my own interests and Hobbies, I truly started ...ummm well falling in love with me....and it was fun....being me.....and I actually experienced that happiness. I know it sounds corny....but you know how it feels to be loved by someone....that contentment....I felt that with myself...THEN, after living in this, after ACCEPTING myself...alone...and be ok with it....which took longer then it seems now....I attracted the right kind of love into my life
NOW I get lonly for my alone times lol!!!!!!!! It's all about balance! This is just what's been working for me in my life the last couple of years...It may not work right for everyone! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 8:43:28 AM | And in the mean time....yes...the internet served as Great companionship....especially when there is only kids in the house to converse with! It really helps to know your not alone in the way you hurt...or even when you want to share your joys! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 8:47:30 AM |
When I finally learned about my own self worth and how to love myself
That says it all !!! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 8:54:33 AM | SORRY COLS. I'AM HAVING ONE OF DAYS COULD BE THE RAIN THE MUSIC I'AM LISTENING TO THE TOUGHTS RUNNING THROUGH MY MIND JUST ONE OF THOSE DAYS .
ASE FOR THE LAUGHTER GLAD TO HEAR IT .
COOLBREEZE YOU SAID IT ALL : | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 9:12:30 AM | oh yeah....ponygirl.....you redneck woman you!!!!
If I get em up on the very top....they're NOT coming back down till they quit workin!
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Posted: 11/11/2006 9:13:25 AM | Orange, No need to say you're sorry, you're fine, everyone of us has those days.
Nothing wrong with expressing your thoughts.
Sometimes we all need to take things minute by minute, hour by hour.
And if talking to people helps you, ( even if through the forums ) then go for it.
Hang in there, you'll get though it.
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Posted: 11/11/2006 9:25:32 AM |
There is a difference between being alone and being lonely
Dana you are so right. I have found i can be just a lonely in a crowd as i can when i am home. So i had to work on that. I had to learn to love myself and learn to enjoy the time i spent by myself. But i also keep busy. Now that i have a full time job busier than i sometimes like but busy. I counsil teenage girls in a group home with drug and alcohol problems, I go to meetings, i spend time with friends and the thing i learned the most is that i now value my alone time. Sure it would be wonderful to have someone special to come home to and share the day with. It would be great to fix a dinner that was made for two and not one. It would be absolutely wonderful that when i am walking around the house and talking that there was another human being in the house to hear me. (Actually i worry sometimes about that i say im talking to the cats but i have to wonder.........especially when they are outside LOL) but there is alot of things to keep ppl busy so that they dont realize how lonely they really are. Helping out in soup kitches, donating time for the local food shelf, or animal shelter, spending time with friends. Or maybe even planning a card party for a weekend for us POF'ers who are getting to old and tired (LOL) to make it to puckers or luckys LOL There is alot that can be done. Meals on wheels in alot of cities are run by volunteers. Go to a nursing home and visit with some of the patients that dont have family. Keep yourself busy but not to busy.
As for you Sherry---That job will come along for you--dont let it get to you--you know i luv ya and your in my prayers daily.
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Posted: 11/11/2006 9:29:56 AM | Thanks, Dayna, the support and prayers are appreciated.
I agree that there is a big difference between being alone and loney. I usually find my alone time very precious, being a professional and a mom. And I like who I am, so the conversation is good, lol.
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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:13:37 AM | A card party sounds really fun, It's been ages.
I love to play euchre, hearts, poker, even Uno, otherwise known as .. screw your neighbor.
If someone plans one for a Sat or Sun. afternoon, evening, night,
Keep me in mind.
Maybe I should mention this, I'm a nasty euchre partner, I play cutthroat euchre. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:22:41 AM | I know what you mean Crimson..Day's are usually go but the evenings and week ends can be something else..Been doing that a long time myself..but it has to get better...Don't it? | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:31:31 AM | | One thing that really affects how much a person feels the loneliness, I think, is how long it has been since the last relationship and how good of a relationship that was. Having someone and it was good, then not having them, just makes for such a contrast between the two states of being. The rejection and resulting depression from losing someone keeps one from feeling like cleaning cupboards, scrubbing carpets, or even going out of the house for that matter. But speaking from experience, I for one am getting better. So, yes, pcadieux50, it has to get better. It couldn't get much worse! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:37:15 AM | The only thing that can be worse then that.Is if I don't see the sun shine.And that my friend is the worst,not we would know .So let us at least be happy we are alive for today,and let us see what tomorrow brings for us.It's another day.One of us may get lucky. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:43:17 AM | | Yes I do know what you mean..That part I have gone through..and depression..not a pretty pic...done with that..And I know you are right..its the been being with someone for so long and then it is gone...Me I have been with no one for 5 years and I still sleep on the couch..I have a hard time dealing with the bed alone and I don't mean sex here..I am just use to putting my arms around someone and that makes me feel secure..even though most guys don't like to admit it that is alot of the secure plan....It is just so damn hard to find some one my age..they must be all taken....and that scares me | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:52:52 AM | | I'm not sure how close you are to the POF gatherings, but one thing is for sure. You have to get out of the house. I forced myself out and I'm way better for it. Try to get to one of the gatherings. You'll be glad you did. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:57:20 AM | Crimson,
I'm not close at all to pof gatherings your situation here is what compelled me to even post here....Cuz I have been there...I do get out I do alot of things on my own..Just tired of doing them alone...And when it comes to doing what I have to do I do...it's the spare time thats a killer... | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 11:02:56 AM |
Maybe I should mention this, I'm a nasty euchre partner, I play cutthroat euchre
I am too Dana so we should either be partners or stay at different tables would hate for us to be rolling on the floor wrestling over a play.......hmmmmm on second thoughts that would be ok too LOL | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 11:11:50 AM | lol, I am not playing wrestling Euchre!!! I do love to play Euchre, though, and poker even better, and you wanna talk about a card shark.....??
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Posted: 11/11/2006 11:13:25 AM | | Sherry are you talking high stakes poker or strip poker LOL i love euchre too and its hard to find people that want to get together to play. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 11:15:47 AM | | I should have known someone would have come up with that and i should have known it would be you TJ. But where could we get together for strip euchre? most places might be a bit upset about that lol | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 11:17:50 AM | WELL...................I have no clue how to play euchre, but stripping - he he he he he - that's another sport I enjoy  | |
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