| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:15:59 AM | In my case I will be honest I just dont have time my sister created my profile on this site because she feels I deserve better than who I was with for many years. But you know I`m really not interested unless I come across the one. I lead a very busy life
work,kids,gym,travel. Some people just cant be bothered.
And my friend Matt is 43 yrs old with kids (4) and he as well like his side of the bed and wont change so he says when women go home with him he says its his rules he will not change for anyone and I agree, you just have to find the one you can work with.
If your looking you will never find the one, it has to happen on its own. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/17/2008 3:19:01 PM |
If your looking you will never find the one, it has to happen on its own.
Dating is tough out there. I guess the old manta quit searching will hit on the tons of bricks. Hopefully, it will hit me real hard. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 12:42:10 AM | i havent read all the other posts...or any to be honest...lol
but to ad to your list of possible explanations.....i think there are a lot less people single over 40, thereby making it harder to find someone....
i wouldnt go as far as 40. but i do enjoy a lot more talking to ppl my age and older than ppl younger than me.... | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 7:26:04 AM | Wow, this thread has been going for almost two years ... tres interesting.
I think that there are a number of factors in play with the over 40 crowd. By the time we reach 40 we are pretty much set in our ways. Our careers are established, we have our routines, our group of friends, our home life and for some it can be difficult to think about upsetting that balance .
At 40, we've also come to know what we are looking for in a partner. There are certain qualities I look for and there is nothing quite as magical as meeting that person that you share those qualities with but if you can't get on the same page with regards to everyday life then things can go south pretty quick. I think that maybe it was easier when you were in your 20s because you really didn't know yet what you were looking for. Your Mister "Right" when you are 22 may be Mister "What the hell was I thinking?" when you are 42.
I also find that a lot of men that contact me are either in their 20s or in their mid to late 50s. Where are all of the 40-something men? Are they all looking for 30-something women?
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 8:00:36 AM | For women... guys over 40 don't own a mirror so they think 25 year olds will fall all over them and will keep looking until they find a 'trophy'. They still want to think they have what it takes to date women more than 1/2 their age.
They have been in a relationship and got out of it, so now they have to try to sleep with as many women as possible while they still can 'do it'.
No guy really wants a relationship over 40 or any other age - all they want are one night stands .
.. that is why we aren't finding our 'fish'. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 11:56:03 AM | For women... guys over 40 don't own a mirror so they think 25 year olds will fall all over them !
HAHAHA!
Well now I do think alot of WOMEN DON'T USE A MIRROR EITHER !
As I know personally theres no way I am dating a FAT WOMAN NO MATTER WHAT HER AGE !
What your gonna tell me personality is sexy ?? Not Likely ladies !
I personally won't date you if your not a slim build lady.
And if women would stop looking for what the guys owns and stop looking for his gold card they would probbly find a nice guy ! But hell this is canada and most women in canada only look for his cash and not the guy ! | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 12:26:29 PM | ^^^ Good Gawd, man, what planet are you from? I guess I must be in the minority because I don't give a rat's ass how much you own or have ... perhaps it is just the skinny barbie doll types that you seem to be attracted to that are interested in your gold card. They need some way to pay for their manicures and pedicures and implants 
You know it is one thing to have preferences about the type of woman you are looking for but there is never any excuse to be outright rude.  | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 1:49:18 PM | Well FB, I guess you have been told. And I only said you were a little rough around the edges. 
While it is true that there are women out there that are looking for guys with the goods, it's not true of the vast majority of women. And on the flip side, you have the guys that try to impress the women with what they have in the way of material goods. I know, I've met some. And they didn't impress me. Sure it would be nice to meet someone that has the qualities and values that I admire in a person, that also was able to provide me with a wonderful life. But if that person happens to be an average working guy, eeking out a living, I would be just as happy.
As for the other comment, about size, oh, so not nice. We all have our body type preferences, but for crying out loud, to say it like that! Give me a break. Give someone half a chance, and you might actually find yourself becoming attracted to someone you thought was not "your type". Over the last year I went from somewhat overweight, to average, to slim. But I'm still the same person now that I was a year ago, just a few pounds lighter. I still have my values, my sense of humor, and dare I say it, my sex appeal, though I do admit, more attention in the slim stage of my life right now. But if someone were to love me now, I would hope that they would still love if I gained a few of those pounds back.
As for over 40 and no fish, well I was over 50 when my fish swam away. I guess I'll find out more about being fishless in due course. I'm flexible, easy going, I can adapt to different situations. I don't think people are that rigid that in their lifestyle that they can't make a few changes for the right person. But then, I'm still optimistic.  | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 3:15:11 PM | | Fish are unpredictable, just like people, but...if you keep the line in the water you will get your prize catch. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 4:45:40 PM | Jeezes FB....you will never get it will you??? You have been spouting that same litany since I joined this site and started posting on the forums. (FB has been on here longer then me for those of you who are date savvy and bring the differences up. He just took a break away from here for a while!) Your 'views' on women are what keep away what you seek....it has nothing to do with the size of your wallet. From what I hear from people who have met you, you are a nice, gentle man, but on here...fack...get a life!!!!
I have been single for 7 years now...officially 7 years on Oct 15th. At first I thought it was the end of the world for me and I was 'desperate' to have a relationship with someone. So much so, I scared away EVERY decent man that crossed my path. That is why I am over 40 and still fishless....kinda....lol!
Now some things have changed in my life and finding a relationship is the furthest thing from my mind. I am a future rich biotch, and until everything I have been working on falls into place, I am not even bothering to go out on dates. I have no time for that mentally exhausting nonsense! | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 6:42:25 PM | I totally agree with you greanize....
Don't worry FB .. you aren't alone with the problems you are having. You will always get what you ask for. Women with eating disorders who are under 100 lbs know that all the guys are only going to chase after them so they know they can have anyone. No one will ever be good enough for them either because they will always be looking for someone better than the person they are currently with. They are going to choose the guy who will give them what they want and not someone like you.
Like every other idiot on the planet, you are limiting yourself to girls like that because you judge people only by the way they look. You won't even give anyone else 5 minutes of your time to get to know the person if they don't look like what you think they should. You are one of the millions of guys who will ask for a picture before they will consider taking 2 mintues to talk to the person.
All the guys on the plant are running after the same women hoping that he will be the one she will pick. Do you think she is going to pick you over someone else? Would you pick you if you were a woman? Do you honestly think that if a 'hot chick' had so many choices she would have anything to do with you? I know your type - you will live your life alone before you will lower yourself to spend 5 minutes with someone who isn't a super model. It isn't anyone else's fault you are alone it is yours.
You don't like it when someone points out the way you are. If you don't have anything going for you to be shallow and picky who you spend your time with, why is it that you have a problem when ladies don't want anything to do with you because how you look or how much money you have. Why is it ok for you to be picky and not the women? Is it really a man's world?
You are claiming that women are only after men with money or what they have, and women are complaining because men are only after women for how they look. What is the difference? You won't have anything to do with women who will accept you the way you are and you won't accept anyone else for the way they are either. Guys like you are going to be alone for the rest of your life because you will never give anyone a chance that will consider giving you a chance. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 7:17:34 PM | ^^^^^^^^^
FB never said he was interested in women with eating disorders. Do you think how somebody looks is not very important to the majority of people on this site ? I bet you reject men on looks. Don't slam him because he is honest to be public about something that most of you on this site practice. You are just as bitter as him.
Guys like you are going to be alone for the rest of your life because you will never give anyone a chance that will consider giving you a chance.
He can say the same thing about you. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 9:49:15 PM | People can be honest without being rude. If I'm not interested in someone because I am not attracted to him, I let him know ... but in a nice way. The world would be a whole lot nicer if everyone showed a little kindness instead of being rude.
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:49:58 PM | Hey well I guess when your fat and someone I am not interested in then it is nice to bash me for saying I don't date fat whales or women who only look for what a guy owns ! HAHAHA
But then alot of women don't bother to check the mirror either !LOL
Nothing like calling me a prick when we all know the ones botching about me are the ones with a probblem ! LOL | |
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Posted: 10/19/2008 12:21:26 AM | I have a message for you FB - eat sh*t. You seem to be so down on women, and maybe you have some valid reasons. But don't categorize all women because you have had bad experiences. On the whole, I have generally liked you, though I only know you through the forums. But now I'm thinking I really don't like you much, not right now anyway.  But at least I'm not the type to hold a grudge.
Truth be told, I thought I knew what kind of man I was attracted to. And I met one, and he was a total jerk. Then I met a guy who was not what I considered to be my type. A bit heavier than I would have liked, not quite as good looking as I thought was my preference. But you know what? I gave him a chance. And I'm finding out that my preferences are changing. I'm finding out that he is someone I want to spend time with, someone I want to get to know. He took a job in another province, which was a done deal the same day we met, so of course he went. And I miss him, I really miss him. He will be gone for a year, maybe two, but since he left in September he has come back twice to see me. I don't know if what is developing will withstand the time and the distance, but I'm willing to at least give it a chance and see what happens.
So stop judging a book by it's cover, because inside there could be something really terrific. And by the way, if you met me today you might have had some interest (though probably not after this post), because I am slim, but a year ago I doubt you would have given me the time of day. A year ago you would have judged me because of my extra pounds. But I am still the same caring, compassionate and passionate person that I have always been, whether I am slim or have a few extra pounds.
Greanize said she heard you were a gentle man, myself I'm having some doubts. And now that I am slim I'm bashing you, so it's not just fat people bashing you right now.
My final message to you - get over yourself. You may not be the prize you seem to think you are either, and that's very likely why you are over 40 and fishless.  | |
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Posted: 10/19/2008 12:30:40 AM | "No guy really wants a relationship over 40 or any other age - all they want are one night stands ."
As for this statement, that's not true either. I know there are guys out there looking for relationships, with women their own age, not trophies. Sure there guys that have relationship phobias, but again, that is categorizing all men because of a few. And everything to do with dating and relationships, it works both ways. Women are as guilty as men in most of what goes on. And they are the ones that give the rest of us, male and female, a bad reputation. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2008 12:30:54 AM | FB, you're kinda lacking in the tact department there buddy. And in some ways I can hear where you're coming from. As someone who is somewhat folically challenged, I do get somewhat pissed off at those ladies who's profiles clearly state...."must have hair". But two WRONGS do not make a right.
While people do indeed have "types" calling someone a "whale" is one of those tasteless type remarks that has no redeeming purpose other than to inflame those who might be sensitive about body image. Rubbing salt into someone else's wound is painfull to them but also is recognized as very boorish behaviour by others.
FB, your classless commentary has just taken you to the top of the jerk list. I really do hope you enjoy your own company, because that's exactly how you're likely to remain with an attitude such as yours. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2008 1:45:35 AM | For the rest of you guys and gals on the forum, I apologize for my outburst to FB. But I don't apologize to FB. As I said before, I am a passionate person, and that does not only mean sexually. I am passionate about things that I perceive to be inconsiderate, and downright wrong. Which was the case here.
And Pilot, do women actually say that in their profile?? Quite frankly I am stunned. It never dawned on me to specify anything of that nature, it's not something that matters. Bald is beautiful in many cases, it's amazing how people limit themselves and pass up opportunities on frivolous things, such as being bald, and with the weight issue, and lots of other stupid things.
Some mother's sons and daughters, amazing. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2008 6:02:31 AM | Truth be told, I thought I knew what kind of man I was attracted to. And I met one, and he was a total jerk.
^^^^ They usually are ..... chasing a man because he meets your physical requirements /preference is almost always a failure. Jerks know that hence, the reason they play you along until someone else, with the same preference as yours, comes along. I see this time and time again and then the woman calls the guy the jerk..... I don't quite see it that way; Women wearing blinders is not a man's fault..
Some people choose men/women in the same way they shop for a car. There are several women, who will not be America's next top model, but they are certainly deserving of a good man. Unfortunately, these women are doing exactly what I described.... they are shopping for a man like they shop for a car.
Stop picking on FB. Without him these forums are as exciting as watching grass grow. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2008 6:25:34 AM | stop picking on FB? Why? If we stopped picking on him he'd have nothing to b!tch about. The guy is either full of sh!t and just likes stirring the pot or he really is an idiot. I expect it is the latter since he seems to have difficulty putting together a simple sentence ...
What started out to be a great thread certainly went to hell in a handbasket. Thanks for that, FB
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Posted: 10/19/2008 6:30:40 AM |
stop picking on FB? Why? If we stopped picking on him he'd have nothing to b!tch about. The guy is either full of sh!t and just likes stirring the pot or he really is an idiot. I expect it is the latter since he seems to have difficulty putting together a simple sentence ...
What started out to be a great thread certainly went to hell in a handbasket. Thanks for that, FB
I disagree,
Those who know what he is like and feel the need to respond to his posts in a childish manner, are the ones deteriorating the thread topic.
Ignoring ignorance is bliss. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/19/2008 7:55:25 AM | Hey gotta love you so called pof people !LOL
Seems everyone must be blind /dumb and desperate or their not worth dating on this site ! haha
Well sorry firmbear8 doesn't follow the fish school around or play your games!
I don't let other people tell me on how to act or how to meet or date someone like so many of you on here! Hell no wonder your single if you need to have others tell you what to do !!
As for me I don't date carp/suckers or whales ! Oh wait I might date a good sucker fish !LOL
Yeah I know so many of you love to soothe each others minds so much you miss the real world and pretend to know so much ! haha
But I do know Kissing ASS dosn't work either unless your a player !!
And LADIES DON'T GO USING ME TO BE YOUR SOUNDING BOARD !
So if your fat thats not my probblem is it??
If you can not make good choices on who to date that is also not my probblem so get over it and wake up !
Just because you made a bad choice or make bad choices in men or women and your still full of hate and anger at men or women and god was not nice to you over the years ! Don't **** at me cause I'm not like you!!
And yes I know what you think of me ladies and yes the feeling is mutual okay!
Well too bad for you then and too bad your so sad !
Well could be worse you could do something about your life but your too lazy or don't take time and never will ! So hate me for being honest and go watch soaps !LOL
YES I AM THE SAME IN PERSON AS ON LINE SO **** AT ME IN PERSON AND GET THE SAME RESPONSE PEOPLE ! GROW UP or WAKE UP !
And you wonder why I am still single !LOL Wake or swim away !
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Posted: 10/19/2008 8:23:44 AM | @MyI... you're quite right ... I don't know FB and from what limited exposure I've had to him I am quite thankful for that. I let his ignorance get to me and stooped to his level fully aware that it is impossible to engage in a a rational and intelligent conversation with someone who is so obviously prejudiced.
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Posted: 10/19/2008 9:36:46 AM | FB, when you make stupid assed comments, you are going to be the sounding board. Goes with the territory.
But I am also pretty sure that in the not to distant future you are going to say something that is going to crack me up, and I will totally agree with you, as has happened in the past. I'm counting on it.
And for the record, I am not a man hater. Some of the things that come out of their mouth can be pretty stupid and piss me off, but to go so far as to say hate, not in my vocabulary. Life is too short.
So now I await your next comment that will make me laugh. I know it will happen. 
Any MyI, I didn't chase the guy. He contacted me, we went out, he was a jerk, it ended. End of story. There definitely was an attraction, but just about everything in his profile was bullsh*t, which happens often, with both sexes. So I'm not blaming men only, just being realistic. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2008 10:52:58 AM | Hi greanize
As you know I'm farley new on here and you got me on to this forum site and really starting to in Joye it.
Any how I am over 50 actually 54, the dating thing here is not the greatest for your ego, I get really down on my self, wondering "WHATY IS WRONG WITH ME"
I am no Tom Cruise I am just me, middle age, coming out of along marriage and trying to get back into the dating seen.
Thanks greanize for scenting me strait on some of my questions lol. | |
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