| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/19/2008 1:41:06 PM | Hey whats wrong on pof when the women won't or will not reply or even email guys yet on other singles sites . These same women are emailing the same guys they say on here their not interested in and that includes me ??
Yes like I said before seems only on pof everyone needs everyone elses feed back or
approval on someone before you'll date or even contact someone!
Yes I do know a few of you same ladies on here who love to growl and show your teeth on here botching at me are also same ones emailing me wanting to meet me on these other singles sites !
Now tell me whats the big differences ladies ??
What are we men not good enough for you on pof yet on other singles sites we same guys are ???
Yes I have met some of you ladies over the 3 years I have been a pof member at london events ! And not one of you who scream /holler or freak out on here are the same in person!!LOL
Yes you ladies seem to very shy in person for sure and nothing like you are online !
Yet I am the same in person and online just like my pictures too !LOL
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/21/2008 7:57:57 PM | | Well in my humble opinion after being on here for several weeks and sending many emails. I have noticed one very distinct thing that the women over 40 do not do. They dont contact the men. I get first contact from early 40s and younger. If there is a desire to talk to and meet men then the women that desire this must actively solicit the men they have interest in. There is no point in complaining that you get no nibbles if you are not going to search and contact for yourself. This is strictly an observation that pertains to me and perhaps there are many reasons for that, but I suspect that the women over 40 are reluctant to make first contact so that reduces their success rate proportionately. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 11:03:21 AM | I am well over 40, into my mid 50's.
I don' t get a lot of first contacts from women. Am I past my prime? Think so. I'm not 25 anymore. Nor do I look it.
I'm still a man with my phyiscal needs. Yes. I like sex. I like holding hands. I like a smile from across the room from my Lady. I like to know that she will be coming home with me.
Finding that woman is a challange. There is a lot more to me than what I can say in a profile. I try to say the biggest and most important things. The important things are in my profile but there is much more to me than just that. Maybe I should write a book.
Yes. I am influenced by past relationships and thats to be expected. I still want a warm loving relationship with a woman. I expect some 'baggage' from an older woman. Not a lot but some.
I like slim women. Always have and I suspect always will feel this way. Nothing right or wrong about it. Just is me. Trouble here is that they are not many women my age who fit that. So be it.
If a woman finds my profile attractive and asks me ou then yes. I will go and enjoy her company. Whether it goes futherr than that then it is up to the two of us. If it does not go further then at the very least the two of us have tried. I'd rather spend some time with a woman, enoying her company, than spend an evening searching POF. Just me.
That said, a good personality outshines anything else. Laughter and fun are really important to me. I had it. I miss it very much.
If you don't smoke then I've not a problem with going outside. -40 I won't smoke as much. :)
I want to meet a good woman. I really don't care if she's 10 years younger or older. I've been there, done, and don't have a T-shirt.
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 3:15:49 PM | So I see you guys are still bashing the women, it's all the women's fault. When will you guys get it through your thick skulls that all of this dating stuff is a two way street. I have contacted quite a few guys in the months that I have been on this site, and I would say about 90% of them have never replied back to me. They read and delete, or just delete. It sucks, but it happens. If all you are going to do is sit around and whine because the gals are not emailing you first, then you are very likely doomed to spend the rest of your life alone.
Everything in life is a risk. Dating is probably one of the biggest risks we take, especially as we get older. But deal with it, that's life. One of those emails you take the chance on sending may well be the one that brings you the happiness and joy, and the great sex, that you are seeking. If you don't take the risk, you will never know, will you.
And this message is for the gals as well as the guys. For all you ladies out there that are waiting for the men to make the first move, get your fingers moving on the keyboard and contact the guys. We all wanted women's lib, now we have it, take advantage of it.
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 3:23:56 PM |
I have noticed one very distinct thing that the women over 40 do not do. They dont contact the men. I get first contact from early 40s and younger
In respponse to the above and below:
I am well over 40, into my mid 50's.
I don' t get a lot of first contacts from women. Am I past my prime? Think so. I'm not 25 anymore. Nor do I look it.
If you check out the women's age preferences you will notice many of them date their age or much younger. In many cases the women range from one to two years older than themself yet will date guys 10 - 20 years younger.
Personally, I couldn't help but think the woman is "settling" with me if her age preferences are that range. Coupled with the fact that I work with a lot of women my age, I see very little I'd be interested in if they've been single for a while yet dated regularly.
Many may not agree with my assumption but, I make judgements based on a person's conduct not by the words they speak.... people are very well versed in bullshit nowadays. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 3:46:30 PM | "In many cases the women range from one to two years older than themself yet will date guys 10 - 20 years younger."
Yeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwww!!!! Make me gag!!!!!!
Why on earth would I want to get involved with a man that much younger than me? I was the mother to my children, do you seriously think I want to be someone else's mother??? I have my grandchildren to care about now. I want my guy to be old enough and mature enough to be able to deal with life's challenges, not a guy who wants a mother figure. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 4:41:51 PM |
Yeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwww!!!! Make me gag!!!!!!
Why on earth would I want to get involved with a man that much younger than me? I was the mother to my children, do you seriously think I want to be someone else's mother??? I have my grandchildren to care about now. I want my guy to be old enough and mature enough to be able to deal with life's challenges, not a guy who wants a mother figure
Do a search as a man seeking women in the 40 something age group.... you'll see what I mean. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 4:52:59 PM | LOL..play nice kids...
DWinOttawa....I so agree with you..why in the hell do I want to date someone in their 20's...although the sex would probably be amazing ...and yes I know Im going to get the older guys' shorts in a knot about the sex thing..lol....
As for me personally, it amazes me that with all the single people out there in the world and on dating sites that instead of the dating sites getting smaller they perpetually grow in size....so I think to myself...if this internet dating stuff worked...should the site not be getting smaller in membership.....
I think personally it's the age of something is greener on the other side of the fence..
I know in real life I look like I look on here, Im not "overweight", and I am a great person....and a hell of lot happier being single then trying to find a sane man over 40..lol... | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 5:03:43 PM |
and yes I know Im going to get the older guys' shorts in a knot about the sex thing..lol....
Not to worry. I'm not in disagreement with you when speaking about the physical aspect of sex.... if nothing more is required. In my opinion, I think it's the women dating these young guys as being the one with the issues. Hence, their behaviour.
Besides, my daughters live with me..... that's enough estrogen in my house for now. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 5:08:59 PM | Personally I think the sex is better with someone my own age. More mature, more experienced, more passionate, and more in tune with what a woman wants. Young guys, and no this is not from experience, just an assumption based on some of the young guys I know, i.e., neighbors kids, is that it would be more acrobatics and showing off than passion and mutual understanding of each other's needs and desires.
I'll take a mature man, and mature, passionate sex any day over a young guy. But then, that's just me.
And MyI, I'll take your word for it, I just don't understand it. I really don't. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 5:09:36 PM | I would think that going to events would be a perfect place for someone over 40 to meet someone. Most of the events I have attended in the past catered to a more mature crowd. If I were a 20-25 year old I wouldn't be very happy at any of these events to be honest.
It's tough for a lot of people who are more mature to find a mate. I think it's because as a mature person you have ecxperienced a lot and use that experience when looking for a mate. This is good in that it keeps you away from potentially disasterous situations but can also be a detriment. The older I get the more selective I become as to who I will date. I date with my mind more than with my heart, meaning that it will be harder to fall in love because I won't allow myself to overlook certain aspects about a person.
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 5:18:55 PM | Dante, I totally agree with you, however, I have been to a few of these events with a friend or two and I find it difficult...I guess because for all that I am outgoing etc. I am also shy....
As for finding love, I think I have maybe still too many a stone to tear down around me to go in that direction right now! | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 8:09:47 PM | | Moi =- picky, picky, picky. I too am looking for that package, looks, honesty, sensitivity, passion, compassion, giving and of course fun oops lets not forget maturity and yet the search/non search continues.......... | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/22/2008 10:11:33 PM | I was not bashing women. I was simply passing on an observation. I have noticed that the first responses I get are from younger women. If 40+ women want more responses they should try making more first contact. It is simple.
If I were on here as a man saying I am not getting any responses and I dont make any first contacts you would all just laugh at me.
So to use an old adage. You get out as much as you put in. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/23/2008 1:58:52 PM | | "You get out as much as you put in" Really??? please spread that around to your fellow brothers please lol. | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/28/2008 4:04:59 PM | well that explanes why i am fishless....... thanks to FB, but i have always called myself a BBW. Joy aka Lady_hpm  | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/29/2008 9:08:03 PM | And whats this >>thanks to FB ??
Look if women are not happy on how they look or why their single & bumed out how is that my fault !! LOL
But I have noticed when danti says go to events theres just a wee probblem at most of these events. Yes theres not many women who attend single as they tend to already arrive with some male who they tend to spend the enter night with at these events . And that tells us men who attend as singles no one to even take interest in . And also makes going to most events a waste of time . Be the same as going to a normall bar to see if you could pick a woman up !LOL
But like most women on here will say hell FB isn't worth the time of day let alone ever want to date his ass !LOL
He does not own a home and he does not use a gold card and he does not wear suits to work ! And the f tard even smokes so hes not worth dating . And who would care less if he is single and has a good job and he travels all the time on vacations to places most could not think of going . And hell he don't have kids so probbly no good in bed either LOL
Oh well I guess he's just gonna be lost in the pond scum with the rest of them single men LOL
Ps : FB will say he still has the better end of the deal even if most of you women on here don't think so !LOL I am not crying I am single and I am not worried if I find a mate or not . As I live for me and if I am happy thats all that matters !
And as I get older I am getting even more pickier on who I would even date so no probs here YOU POF BABES !lol
Either your my kind of lady or your not .
Sweet night mares !!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/30/2008 7:49:54 AM | | lmfao i was being sarcastic..... bc u seem to have all the answers 4 any situation ..... nothing wrong with men or women being bbw/bhm we still have feelings as any one else, and as for going to pof events yes i have gone to some alone and with other ppl males and females and i do walk around or dance not just stay with the ppl i go there with, FB u need to lighten up with the name calling as its rude ... just my opinion , Joy aka Lady_hpm | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/30/2008 9:49:00 AM | I am a 58 year old, widowed (way too soon) and what my problem is, is that i do not look my age and therefore am being contacted by men much, much younger than i am.
I have an enoromous amount of energy, love swimming, hiking, camping, dancing, a real outdoorsy person...so, when i get hit on and finally arrange to meet these fellows, i find that i have nothing in common with them, or them with me...i did take the time to do an extensive profile. I feel that if you are really interested in a person, then go thru their profile thoroughly.....I am not into judging what type of men contact me, i don't care if you are fit, atheletic, average or a few extra pounds..the only thing i ask is that YOU ARE ABLE to keep up with me and my lifestyle...
I don't want to be contacted by guys in their 40s or early 50's...i am able to take early retirment in less than 2 years...so would really like to find someone who is able to do that as well. Another problem i have is that i live north of Barrie, which kind of limits the "fishing" field...
I don't hav any hang ups, i love life...no baggage...it really surprised me over this past year just how much baggage there is out there with men over 55..omg...you'd think that, that would all be behind them now...NOT
So, guys/ladies, my suggestion is to really read a profile thoroughly before making the first contact...i think it would limit the disappointments when you finally meet. (that is providing that they told the "Whole truth and nothing but the Truth"...lol | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/30/2008 9:50:09 AM | No matter what age you are in, it's still frustrating to go through finding the one for you. I'm not gonna bother looking for it and let it find me instead.  | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/30/2008 4:51:16 PM | Where the hell is it posted in any of my forum replies that I am name calling anyone ???
Thats the sad thing on this website no one can read and understand what is writen !
What is everything writen only ment for a small few people on here or what ??
And thats another main concern I see on here and that is it seems most the women on here are still all pissed off with men from their past relationships their mad at every dam guy from the future as well ! LOL
As for pof events all anyone needs to do is attend one and that will probbly be only one you'll care to attend if your a single male .
And besides seems all most of you want to do is hit a bar and party and not here looking for a mate .
As for me I could careless if I meet anyone from pof or not . I don't need anyone who doesn't know what she wants or who must always hit a bar to have fun !LOL | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/30/2008 5:51:07 PM | "As for me I don't date carp/suckers or whales ! Oh wait I might date a good sucker fish !LOL"
Okay FB, this is one of the many things you have said in this post alone. It may not be "name calling" in your mind's eye, but it is crude, rude and totally uncalled for. You harp about women hating men because of past relationships, which may, in some cases, be true. So what, I ask, is your excuse for taking cheap shots at women that do not fit your mind's eye of what is an acceptable mate?
I don't think the women here hate you, but I do know at lot of us get angry with you because of the way you phrase things. You say you speak what is on your mind, and that we don't read it properly, but I don't think you think about what you put in writing, you just don't grasp the potential effect it could have on someone.
As I have said before, you often have some very intelligent and funny things to say. I always like to see what it is you have to say, and I have agreed with and laughed at a lot of the things you have said on various topics since I have been participating in the forums. So it is only right that when you say something offensive, that I be angry with you and tell you off. You do seem to have a lot of good ideas and thoughts on things in general, but you do seem to have a chip on "your" shoulder when it comes to women. It's kind of like the pot calling the kettle black. In my mind's eye it is no wonder you are still single. So get over yourself!!
Now, with that being said, I still look forward to the next time you post and say something intelligent, witty, funny, or a combination of them all.  | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/30/2008 6:02:30 PM | That's total and utter bullcrap FB. Ever think that your attitude may be why women don't approach you? Jeez. I know a TON of people who have met someone at a POF event. I met someone I dated at a POF event. I can give you at least a dozen or more examples of where it has happened. People go to events to party and have fun. Absolutely. To say that people cannot or do not meet people at these events is completely a falacy. Single guys, don't listen to Firmbear. I get this feeling that no matter who approaches him they wouldn't be good enough for his high and almighty standards.
I have attended plenty of events and I will sa ythis, if you are over 40 you will have a great chance of meeting some people and maybe someone special. As for women being pissed at their ex's still, some of them yes. Big deal. Everyone has some sort of skeleton in their closet regarding their emotions. So for people looking to meet other people, go to the events and just mingle and talk. I almost guarantee if you open yourself to conversation you will AT LEAST meet a few interesting people and maybe a friend or two.
You don't need anyone who doesn't know what she wants and must go to a bar to have fun? What if women KNOW WHAT THEY WANT AND YOU AREN'T IT???? Ever thought of that? No, of course not. Why take an introspective look at yourself when you feel you are just perfect the way you are? | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/30/2008 6:50:02 PM |
What if women KNOW WHAT THEY WANT AND YOU AREN'T IT???? Ever thought of that? No, of course not. Why take an introspective look at yourself when you feel you are just perfect the way you are?
Amen Dante! I have been trying to say something to that effect for a few years now. So has Boots!
We are over 40 and have no fish for the reason that we don't really want one or are not ready! When we are ready it will happen! | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 10/30/2008 9:08:27 PM | Woo look out the witches of east wick are out and don wan of where !LLOL
Woooo the stud from water world still single also I see !LOL
Awh don't bumb out now just date the stud from water world ladies as your matched as a set !LOL
Two years in a row I went to the new years events and every single single guy I chated with all said the same thing wheres the single women here?? And they all were saying it was a waste of time/money and they could have done something better then sit at a party full of couples .
As for me I don't expect any women on pof to contact me as their either tooo hung up on what their other pof friends might say or they afraid to get the hate mail from them .
And yes I do know a lady who did date me and she did get a lot of hate mail from you ladies for dating me ! So i personally do not care if any female contacts me on pof and as for your singles events !LOL When are they as us single men might be interested .
As this site as gone from a good site to a site full of beer drinkers & wanta party marty air heads !
And not likely I'll attend events held in the middle of the week event if coffee meets.
And not likely I'll attend any new years events anymore or bar events as they suck fo single guys as always. | |
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