| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 11/28/2006 11:13:15 PM | | Firmie darlin? I am so glad you do not compare yourself to anyone else. You my handsome hunk o man are in a class all by yourself! Will you ever come to see the good in me and perhaps ask me out for coffee?? | |
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 11/29/2006 6:28:46 AM | D you’re a woman and if you are what the man is looking for he’ll do the driving simple as that. All I’m saying is you seemed to use these short distances as an excuses to limit and exclude as oppose to include and expand its Woodstock or Brantford or Guelph. I’m a commuter so if I were looking, a half hour would limit whom I dated. I don’t have to know you personally to know unfounded excuse when I see it, people use them every day to justify inaction and appease themselves by convincing themselves it couldn’t be done without even trying.
So in your case you meet Mr. Out of Towner who has a job that has him traveling but you’re in his territory so it doesn’t matter where he lives only that it’s not a big deal for him to get to you. Problem solved crappy car and all you’ll both just use his to go on your dates. A year from now you find yourself in a wonderful relationship and the kids will adapt to wherever the two of you decide to live IF IT GOES THAT FAR. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 6:43:34 AM |
I DO NOT COMPARE MY SELF TO ANYONE .
And I don't compete for a womans affections either .
I also don't try to be a POF Forum Super star either .
What figure if you cut me down or make jokes about me thats gonna win yeah all these ladies hearts !!
HAHHA
Woo man I hope you can handle all them !!LMAO
Well you can be my guest and help your self to any or all of them who agree with you !
Now wonder your single like these women who agree with you DK .
Oh my I bet your cool . Hahha.
Well I don't care and as for the women who think your a star Ummm you can have them & all of them if you like .
I don't mind as I am weeding the pond anyways!
Besides I want the best and not second best .
So Please enjoy ! And yes it sounds like you could use some friends for sure so better grab them while you can !LOL
But becarefull they whine alot and do love to bicker alot .
Would you like some Brie, Havartai, or just plain ole cheddar with that.
Shakes her head while trying to imagine how someone can weed water!  | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 6:50:21 AM | Mario...I have to agree with ALMOST everything you said. I have and still DO date out of towners, as I have already said. I've had a couple relationships with Guelph men...lol My
last very serious relationship was with a man in Brampton. I will not agree with you on the kids adapting. I have young teenagers and these are important years and they have been moved enough. If that makes me wrong..then I'm wrong. I'd rather have my children well adjusted. I would think a good man would agree. I have also signed an agreement with my ex that I would not move my children a certain distance from him. You may say I could remedy that in court but, I prefer that my sons keep a good, steady relationship with their father. I'm not looking for a new daddy for my boys..they have one. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 7:46:23 AM | Shakes her head while trying to imagine how someone can weed water!
Hey Greanzie maybe put on your glasses babe.
I said weed the pond and not the water.
As for your cheese no thanks it don't mix well with good wine !!
But then I never drink triple XXX but maybe it kills the taste eating cheese with that croaker juice. | |
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Msg: 181 | |
| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 11/29/2006 12:22:48 PM | | Well isn't this quite the thread a bunch of touchy, cranky old farts taking pokes at each other. LOL | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 2:38:29 PM | | hey uncle mario it is no problem for me to drive half an hour,hell ,i'll drive 8 hours to meet a woman if i have to! | |
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Msg: 184 | |
| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 11/30/2006 6:05:33 AM | Equinox There's something about you that said you would be willing to be accommodating. So like I said the distance thing is little more than a convenient excuse some use to justify doing nothing or to wiggle off the hook. I drive 50,000 KM a year so to tack on a couple more to be with the one I’m interested in is workable.
If I were dating and it went that far as to be moving in together there is always the middle ground and a car for the teen if it makes life better. Ah but I wouldn’t move in with a woman with teens at home been there done that and have no problems dating till they’re gone.
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Posted: 11/30/2006 6:12:52 AM | | Uncle Mario? I had better not be included in the "cranky, whiny old fart" category! While I recognize the issues dating at our age, I most certainly am open to a new beginning with someone. Just ask my goof, oops sorry, good friend Firmie! He knows I love to party, although I am not a player as indicated. I just have not "clicked" with anyone I have dated yet. Never say never though! Some of the written words in here have been taken to heart without actually knowing the true "person" behind the words. It comes as a whole package! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 6:37:17 AM | Interesting thread... I guess as an over 40 non-single (who enjoys others) I can only provide some insight from what I have seen. As an attached person many people on this site (and others) who are looking for someone who never consider getting involved with me (fair enough). BUT what I find is that because I
a) have sense of humour and am fun to be around
b) am up front about who I am and what others can/cannot expect of me
c) am very flexible and easy going (which many people comment on)
d) can carry a simple conversation (that does not always relate to sports, cars, women, sex, and all the variations of those that exist)
people are interested in getting to know me and sometimes that getting to know me involves meeting, etc etc etc.
What I have learned from all this (and what others have also mentioned) is that often men just don't seem to get it around how to treat a women (obviously present company who have been appending to this forum exclude  ). Often the words "men are pigs" comes up but I think there is more to it than that.
Just my 2 cents .... | |
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Msg: 187 | |
| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 11/30/2006 6:42:43 AM | greanize
I am looking for different folks views as to why under 30's are matching up all over the place, but over 40's seem to have a more grueling time in finding someone to share time with!
I think the word grueling sums it up, we’ve been through the gristmill a few times and the rose coloured glasses just don’t work the way they use to, we’re more cautious now.
We’ve looked at the good and the bad of being alone or with someone and being alone isn’t that bad once you get use to it, sure being with someone is preferred but it had better be damn amazing or forget it.
T.G. I’m lucky so far. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 6:46:29 AM | | Forgive me for saying so Rodin, but you give a fine example of what some of the issues are. Us single folks are looking for single folks, not someone already in a relationship seeking to spice up their life. You are up front about what it is you seek, but most would not wish to persue your avenue. A lot of fellows are not as up front about it and when we find out,we are disappointed and feel that we have been taken advantage of. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 7:34:05 AM | Kitkat, totally agree. Men (or women) who are not honest and up front about what they are looking for or who they are really do cause a lot of pain. Too bad these sites did not have an honesty test when filling in a profile (too bad there was not an honest test you can do from a portable device. Sort of a "honesty breath-alizer test available in all Bars.. lol
Good luck in your search!
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| Over 40 and no fish!
Posted: 11/30/2006 10:09:11 AM | Since you’re speaking of honesty.
Robin does your wife know you’re playing for both teams and looking for threesomes on line?
Are you being honest with her?
Would you pass that honesty test yourself?
Just curious.
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Posted: 11/30/2006 10:13:40 AM | One thing that I notice a lot of people saying is to stop looking and it will happen. How does one stop looking? If everyone stopped looking, no one would find anything! Doesn't at least one person have to be looking? Sometimes that bit of advise just does not make any sense!
So for those of us who are over 40 and would like a fish, what I am getting is you have to get over your fears, and put them away. Deal with your baggage, balance your time with children, work and home life, be open to travelling a bit for a fish, and stop looking!
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Ok...I do not have children to work around, so that is not an issue. I have lots of free time so no need to balance work and homelife. Baggage??? nicely stored. Fear..... I get knocked down, get up, brush myself off, and climb right back in the ring again. Travelling for someone special is not a problem for me. I do not put restrictions on that. I would prefer someone local, but I am not closed minded to putting gas in my car. So that means I should stop looking! hmmmmmmm  | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 10:32:09 AM | 'Stop looking' always seemed like silly advice to me.
I think what it means is 'stop doing what isn't working'. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 10:37:14 AM | | ^ Agree. if no one looks... then no one is going to find anyone. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 10:58:32 AM | Since you’re speaking of honesty.
Robin does your wife know you’re playing for both teams and looking for threesomes on line?
Are you being honest with her?
Would you pass that honesty test yourself?
OMG, this thread just keeps gettin better and better all the time! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 11:03:41 AM | when I first joined this site a little over a year ago I thought this is going to be easy ,Im going to be able to meet someone here...look at all these people and events and forums.......and its free........(I came from one of those paid sites)...LOL...
Oh how naive I was....being over 40 I thought it would be easy ...I knew what I wanted
someone honest, funny, caring, smart, hard working, loves animals, good looking, smokes(so that my smoking doesnt bother him)someone with kids so they understand my position on "family" matters...someone tall, fit on and on and on
as I look back now no wonder I was here so long before I finally met him. Oh trust me I had way too many coffee dates for my liking but I guess I had to go through it....
my fish doesnt smoke nor does he have kids, while he is all the others I really thought those first two were important...
I guess we all have to have an idea and of course not cross any moral values we have set but we do need to keep an open mind.....especially over 40 ....... | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 11:12:25 AM | I am like you Mirage...I came from one of those paying sites and I felt the same way. I thought it would be easy, and someone would cross my path in no time. There were a number of men on this site, that were on the 'other' paying site that had exchanged "smiles" with me. So seeing some of them on here, and knowing or believing the interest was already there, I used the free function to say hi.....and guess what I got???? Blocked, or no thanks, you are not my type, or just read/deletes.
I figured that I would go to a few gatherings, and broaden my search parimeters, and be dating in no time. Other then people I met at parties, I can count on one hand the amount of men I have met from this site.
I prefer a man who does not smoke, because I do not smoke. I prefer a man who has no children or children that have fled the nest. But I have gone out with smokers and men who have young children. I want to judge the person on their values and beliefs, not just habits and lifestyle. Habits will play a big part in whether I can go forward, but some things I can compromise on.
I keep an open mind. It is so open, some days I fear my brains will fall out. It is just too bad that some men do not have the same attitude! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 12:16:22 PM | Greanize...if your brains fall out just pick em back up put them back into that bright head of yours and keep your open mind............you will find him..........
I agree with ya on the men and attitude.... | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 1:03:03 PM |
Kitkat, totally agree. Men (or women) who are not honest and up front about what they are looking for or who they are really do cause a lot of pain. Too bad these sites did not have an honesty test when filling in a profile
I can argue that point... speaking from experience.
I've always been upfront and honest about my position regarding me in a long term relationship (I'm not ready)... my position has not changed since the first day I joined this site.... I was very open about it. I never misled anyone. In fact, because of the behaviour towards me from some on this site, I am more embedded in my position. Being honest and treating some people nice has only brought grief.... because I stood my position and i would not change.
In my opinion, it's more about maturity more so than honesty because it takes maturity to be honest. It also takes maturity to be unselfish. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 3:10:58 PM | | i am not trying to be accomodating,mario.that's nice that you travel so much,good for you.i was say that if there was someone i truly love then going a great distance would be no problem for me.if i am accomodating then sue me but that's the way i am. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2006 3:54:35 PM | | ha ha mario guess what i am setting up a date with the woman from waterloo,you know destiny awaits,so there! | |
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