| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/17/2006 8:07:17 PM | [/I'm not a bad guy I just want to have an affair ]
Hmmm, so you're a nice guy and want to cheat on your wife? Wow, she must be one lucky woman to have you, a nice guy, for a husband. How would you feel if your wife wanted to cheat on you???????? Have you considered your wifes feelings when she finds out, and she will find out, it'll only be a matter of time, it's part of a womans senses to pick up on things like that. Will you be ready for the repercussions when it gets out that you cheated on her? Do you have kids? If so, stop and think what this will do to your family. Will you be prepared for a divorce? You should work on your marriage, either that, or move on separately by divorcing. Once trust is destroyed by someones cheating, most people don't forgive and forget. | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/18/2006 1:20:26 AM | How true this is, I did the same type search and got back zilch. I am amazed by the replies condemming the idea.
i am a man in my 50's and have been in a sexless marriage for 10 yrs, I miss it. My wife no longer wants or has any desire to have sex, I have asked her to go to counseling and she refuses, is it fair that i should now also suffer. I don't want the marriage to end and the best solution is to find someone in a like situation, i'd settle for a single person if I could find one who would have sex with a an old man | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/18/2006 1:27:49 AM | OP
If your not happy anymore of the "spark/flame" has gone out you have the RIGHT to find some kind of release and happyness even if that means "seeing" other women but you should be upfront N honest with your wife/gf, and tell her how you feel and that you think it is best if yall seen other people trust me NO girl likes to be lead on or feeling like she is imporant to you when she really does NOT have what you need anymore.
Best of luck to you...but hey MOST women do the same thing you mention so why can't men do it and get away with it like MOST women do?.... | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:48:52 AM |
i'd settle for a single person if I could find one who would have sex with a an old man
Money can buy you that kind of love. Whip out your credit card. | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:25:33 PM | That transaction probably requires cash, not plastic (or at least it did when I was young and in the Navy) but that kind of love is out there for a price.
And it is much less likely to wreck your marriage, although it probably will. | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:36:16 PM |
What does it take to have an affair?
A penis, a place and a willing participant.
Oh, and lack of decency helps, also. (I have officially seen it all here in forums. Unbelievable.)  | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:40:49 PM |
nursesoul, I know it's hard to believe but truly I'm not
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Yeah, buddy, you most certainly are. Sorry.
It's guys like you that tempt me to swear off the entire male population. :) | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/21/2006 12:04:08 AM | I know you are going to disagree,but.. When one of the parties through an inability to stop a habit that is killing a mate,and all optiopns have been closed-then there is reason tohave an affair. I slept on the floor of my store for 2 years.and have had my lung s fried even worse then in service. So much for your "no reason."
I am sorry if I sound upset,but for the last two years I have listened to guys catch hades if they do it,but women are liberated. There are lots of reasons and unfortunately the mind set seems to be vastly against guys,and much prejudged. Have a good day-may the best of your wishes come true,and the most vivid and most glorious of your dreams become reality. Hobbybear2010/Bob | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/21/2006 12:12:22 AM | Not always-there can be life threatening circumstances, a drastic religious and family difference of opion including racial pred. which is not acceptable,and a set of laws that tie you because of a joint business. There can always be different reasons. I admit his are questionable,but a case to case look rather then a broad instant judgement is good first.
Have a great day-may the brightest and important of your wishes come true,and the most vivid and needed od your dreams become reality. Hobbybear2010 | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/21/2006 12:12:46 AM |
...guys catch hades if they do it,but women are liberated.
No, women are not liberated for having affairs, they are just as guilty as when men have affairs.
I'm sorry, but I really believe that when you marry someone, you are creating a covenant with them. What ever happened to decency and self-control? I suppose those have become dirty words these days.
If you are unhappy, get a divorce. But at least have enough respect to end it with your husband or wife before you go and get involved with someone else. It's just a matter of basic, human decency. | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/21/2006 9:45:50 PM | "I'm not a bad guy"
-Because good guys like to destroy not only their own families, but another family as well.
"I just want to have an affair with a female that is also married."
-When you got married did you say the part about "forsaking all others" or something similar? That's a legal verbal contract witnessed by ... how many people?
"I'm not looking to change anyones situation,"
-That's highly unlikely if you boink someone else.
"but maybe have a discreet mutually gratifying relationship."
-Highly unlikly unless you both sew your mouths shut.
"Is this possible?"
-Nope. If absolutely NO ONE finds out and you have your illicit boink, everytime your wife looks at you with those eyes that say "You are the most incredible man I have ever met and would go to the ends of time and space for you" after, it'll feel like you've kicked in the nuts HARD, VERY F*CKING HARD because you betrayed her love, trust and friendship. I'm hoping she REALLY loves you ...
Not to mention breach of contract without just cause.
JMO
Pearly | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 11/22/2006 11:26:14 PM | I was thinking about this topic again today. What happens when one partner begins to take the other partner totally for granted? Even worse, what happens when both take each other for granted?
I think that this situation is the seed for what is normally a decent loyal person to begin considering an affair. It is certainly what happened to me. My now ex-wife took me for granted, assumed I would always be there, and acted accordingly.
I am no longer there.
I think one needs to keep oneself sexy, keep oneself interesting for and interested in one's partner. One cannot assume that the marriage contract is binding and that no effort needs to be put in. | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 12/22/2006 6:20:25 AM | | There's no such thing as a relationship which won't change anyone's situation. Why not discuss things with your wife and get kinky? | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 4/7/2007 7:57:29 PM | | yeh my ex did that fourteen years in family court 50 dates starting to sound fun how bout paying soport after thirteen years of her not paying a dime then the oldest goes to live with her the youngest still home with me n i pay 300.00 month tell you get out of this screwed city first no such thing as law in barrie just one lying loser lawyer after another (pathilogical lyer!S promoted by the courts and encouraged try file 401- 98 then think of beeing a cheet | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 4/7/2007 7:59:51 PM | If you're not happy get a divorce...It might be more expensive but it's a lot better in the long run. My dad cheated on my mom and I had to watch the heartbreak. I have no doubt in my mind she would have been able to deal with it a lot better if he had just sat her down and said he didn't want to be married to her any more.
Other then that, it takes a lot of balls to have an affair. | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:25:18 AM | Simon,
Your not a bad guy, yet most certainly not an example for children. Rumor has it that when your in true love and are married then each day is better than the last. Just get divorced and let your snake out of the cage. If your wife loves you and you cheat, your life will be condemend with karmatic hell. It will come around to you when your really are in love and your mates cheats on you. Women always find out. Always, always always.
You are on the road for some rude awakening Mr. not a bad guy. | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 5/8/2008 7:13:18 AM | Hi simon880,
Like you I am a good and kind hearted timid hard working provider ( full plus part time job most of my working life), allways family first and foremost, jsut a drink on sunday with my wife. I too was in the same situation like you in my marriage but noo sex, love yes ...sex no. I am still a very healthy person and as some would put it 'I have my needs'.
So I decided to have an affair (with a married decent woman who if she wrote on here would probably call you a bad man like most women are doing). Being a good man like you, I felt guilty, so I told my wife about my needs. She said I can have one different woman every week but not the same one a a lover. I am not the 'one night stand' type of guy, and not the kind of guy to go with prostitutes. For that I got punished cos my wife left me, we had to sell the house I worked hard to give her(the type of house she wanted) and I am now on my own. After I got through the heart break i can tell you that being alone is the best thing that ever happened to me.
SO TAKE MY ADVICE 'DO NOT SEEK ANYBODY'S ADVICE' AND JUST DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU. | |
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| What does it take to have an affair?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:30:59 AM | | First of all it is not fair to your wife. Something like a descreet sexual affair can end up affecting her life as well in more than just a he cheated on me way! You could bring home any number of problems from disease to babies. I understand fully restlessness in a relationship i've been there but you really have to ask yourself does the person i am married to really deserve this? To have an affair like this is totally a self indulgant action and i don't know if you have done it before or not but trust me it's not as fulfilling as you think it will be but no matter how you feel about the person you are married to you either love them still or loved them at one point and no one that was that special to you deserves to be impacted by a selfish decision. So i would warn you to really think it through before you act. | |
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