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Posted: 11/16/2006 9:56:58 AM | | well i have for over 2 years now and still travel a lot and hate it. nothing better than sleeping with a female in the spoon position all night and having meals together each day | |
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Posted: 11/16/2006 11:34:36 AM | ^^^^ don't you ever sleep?  | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 2:29:26 AM | I have been alone now for almost 5 years. It is lonely sometimes, but I still think it is better than settling for living with the wrong person. Dating once in awhile is kind of nice, but making the right connection is not easy.
I think it is real important to be OK with living alone. It puts you in real touch with your real self and makes you realize what you have to offer a future partner. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 11:01:22 AM | When my husband left after he decided he did not want to be married after 15 years, I was 39, with three children 9, 12 and 14 and a mother who lived in part of my house (she had her own apt.) I was so busy working, raising children, trying to please everyone, I did not have time to think about the time that I would be living on my own. After the children were on their own and my wonderful mother had several strokes in 1998 at the age of 90, the doctor said she had to go to a nursing home for the proper care and was there until her death in 2002. Now it has been almost ten years that I have been living alone, I moved to a smaller house, retired, enjoy voluteer work, always had a furry friend to depend on me (always dogs) and altho there are times I get the "blues" as far as sharing certain moments with another person in the house, I must say I have adjusted pretty well because I have my two daughters who live here in the same town so I am around people quite often when I want to be, I come and go as I please and just do my thing. I have dated on and off for many years but for some strange reason, I still think that there is some great guy out there who would enjoy my company and we can do a lot of things together but I dont feel as if I could share my "space" with just anyone but maybe if I met "Mr. Right", my attitude would change- who knows? Anyway, anyone reading this I wish you a very Happy New Year. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 5:45:16 AM | I've lived alone for many years now. Just one downside. Literally, don't bite off more than you can chew when eating cause, if you choke, there's no one there to save you!  
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:22:27 PM | | It has been 5 years for me so far and I am content. I would love to have a partner/traveling companion since I have free time now, But living alone definately has its good points. It is lonely sometimes but not as lonely as a bad relationship. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:43:42 PM | There is nothing worse then the lonely feeling you have when you are in a bad marriage. That is the loneliest I have ever been.
Now I have all these voices in my head to keep me company. Besides that I have Mae stalking me in my dreams | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:39:09 PM | "Alone" is a relative term. It's been 8+ years now since the ex moved out but I have contact w her several times a week because our 4 kids live with me. Two are college age and are away at school part of the year, but here is where they come home to when school's out. Even when they're "out", I don't think I go more than a couple of hours without a phone call or something. "Solitude", should I ever experience it again, is still probably 5 or 6 years away...  | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 4:08:17 PM | Wow, I don’t know whether to laugh or cry after reading the above posts.
I have been on my own for about 6 years and until this last Christmas season never really felt lonely - okay, yeah I did but it was for only a few moments, but now I feeling lonely on a totally different scale – that reference about choking didn’t help either.
How come this has to be so bloody hard; is it because we are social amimals or do you suppose it has to do with it being New Years Eve? It seems after reading this 'Over 45 ' forum, it about the things we are unwilling to give up in order to get what we think we want.
Well, the sun will come out tomorrow…
Hang in there baby
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Posted: 12/31/2007 11:44:00 PM | | I have no problem living on my own. I can support myself and entertain myself and I have friends to do things with. But I know that I am much happier when I am living with someone who I love. It's just the way I am. I love waking up and having someone there or pulling into the drive way and feeling happy because he's home and we are going to do things together that night. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 5:57:54 AM | It's been over 3 years for me. Had my youngest son live with me after he graduated from college last year....the *I* moved away! So living alone again. And it's freeing and definitely a new chapter of learning about "me". The worst for me is missing the intimate moments, next just sexual, when you could talk about anything and not be judged or ridiculed for your feelings at just that moment. Touches, looks, understanding when to speak and when to be quiet with another at a level of intimacy not shared with your children or friends is something I miss.
May all who seek someone worthy of you find it this new year! | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 6:05:58 AM | I'm struggling with this one right now. My daughter is 24 and still lives with me. We get along fine, so there's no problem. She pays her half of the bills and I have finally learned to keep my mouth shut and let her live her life. I've been divorced 10 years, and that's been great, but I'm having empty nest problems, I think. My little girl (she always will be, won't she?) is planning on moving out this year. My mind has run the gamut from how am I going to make the rent to who will I watch movies with to do I even LIKE myself enough to be alone with myself? So, I've been alone, but not ALONE. I guess it'll be an opportunity to find out what I'm made of.  | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 7:52:35 AM | I love being alone and that could be a problem probably.. I was married a long time and when I was finally alone, I relished it and still do.. I have my furry friends to keep me company, and I don't have any men's underwear to wash, LOL.. not that it would be a bad thing, I just enjoy my time alone. maybe too much!!
I also, at this point in my life would love to have a SO, but if it doesn't happen, I can be happy alone. JMO | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 8:12:25 AM | I LOVE LIVING ALONE! I wouldn't give up my alone status right now for nuthin'!
For a while I fought it.... b*tched, moaned and p*ssed about it.....
And once I surrendered to the fact that things weren't happening in bullie's time,
I just relaxed and accepted it for what it was.
And now I'm just taking it all in.... the peace, the serenity, the oneness of being with someone I truly love....
ME.
Wasn't an easy journey.... all kicking and screaming..... but sure worth the trip! | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 11:05:29 AM | | I have been alone for ten years. I have been happy with and without serious relationships. Now that I'm a senior the thought living with someone scares the @!#$%^&*()_ out of me. I do miss it sometimes though. The hardest is the holidays and special occasions. But even then, its not so bad you kinda treat yourself to something. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 11:14:35 AM | Lived alone for 15 years now. Can't imagine anymore what living with someone feels like anymore. I did have a happy marriage that ended in my becoming a widow so it isn't like I am afraid of committment. I just don't see the kind of partner that I would want to share my home with me being out their in datingland, and I am ok with that.
Living alone right now is a little tough. Just broke a bone in my foot, and badly spained my ankle. I can get around better now that I have an air cast on, but non flat surfaces are difficult. Don't want to fall again and break something else. After last nights big storm, I am wondering how I get the two big bags of garbage and the recycling to the end of the driveway, change the sheets on my bed, pack for my trip to the tropics, get my suitcases downstairs (guess the walls will be chipped as I launch the suitcases down the staircase that I fell and hurt myself on the begin with), and how I walk on the beach without getting sand in my case. Oh well, some how it will all work out. Life is like that if you don't worry about being alone. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 11:50:20 AM | Living without a partner for 15 years, and my child is fixin' to fly the nest. I was overwhelmed at first, since I had gone from living at home to married at 19 and had never lived on my own. But I'm used to it, and think that I'm a better person for having this time to figure out who *I* am.
Someone (I think it was Katharine Hepburn) said that she didn't think that men and women should live together; they should next door and get together when they wanted to, but not share living space. I used to think that was nuts, but after all these years of having my own space, I think she might be onto something.... 
I like my independence, but I also miss having someone to discuss the difficult days with. That's what I miss. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 11:55:23 AM | What do you consider living alone?
I am a single, never married woman who has been a single parent for 27 years and have always enjoyed living on my own. My daughter moved out on her own in her late teens and and moved back home a few years ago. I own a home and although we live in the same house we live in different areas of the home.
I have never married and although I have had a few male room mates over the years I have never lived common-law with a man..Scary, hey!!
I am very independent and I'd suppose quite set in my ways now and would find it a huge adjustment living with a male..
Am turning 50 this year and have decided that where there is no risk there can also be no gain so I am stepping out of my comfort zone and exploring new challenges and experiences; am hoping to find a mate that I can cohabitat with full and/or part time. Or at least give it a try... lol | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 12:31:25 PM | I was never alone 1 minute of my life, until I was 40 -- so 8+ years now, and I love it.
Like: the peace and quiet.
Dislike: Lonely feelings. But when they come creeping, all I gotta do is phone up one of my married friends, and s/he will, unbidden, and unintentionally, make me feel much better by contrasting my freedom with their fetteredness.
I have a theory that more people than will admit it, stay together longer than they should, because they hate to pack. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 12:46:28 PM | | I have been alone now for a year and a half, and enjoy my time to do as I wish, YET! do miss that gentle touch when walking by her, and that wink from across the room saying, I know you belong to me. That smile that lights up my world,, but life MUST go on. I do hate doing laundry, and hate cooking for one, when i so much enjoy cooking. One day i hope I find that feeling once again, but for now, Live large, and enjoy life, it's the only one we've got. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 4:32:17 PM | | Wow! This one made me think. I lived with my (now ex) husband and child for 17 years, but have lived alone since October of 1990. I had a long-distance, long term relationship, and another shorter relationship that wasn't long distance, but I always had my own place. Almost two years ago, I decided to buy a small house...love my house, love living alone some days, but MANY days, wish I did have a partner, although this house is too small for two people to live comfortably in. If I were to be "involved" again (it's been five years), and we became serious, and were going for long term, we'd have to live in "our" house....not mine, not his (unless, of course it was a huge mansion that he would allow me to redecorate to my taste..... ) | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 4:45:12 PM | Wow, 15 years is too long.
Over two years since I saw my ex-wife, four years since we "lived together". During that time I stayed with my brother, my parents, roommates, about 1/2 the time alone. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 5:05:51 PM | | Wow I read all three pages of the posts on here. Seems many are OK with being alone and have a great attitude with it. I hope none are not fooling themselves and they are not really OK with it. I was married seventeen years. Then after the divorce in about a year I lived with someone for a year. But that didn't work out. I have not really felt alone because I have two of my three children with me half the time. And I have dated quite a bit. Yes there where times coming home after work to an empty house did affect me. But what helped me was when I felt that way. I just went out and always had a good time. At this point in my life I still hope for the day when I come home to someone that shares my dreams and would like to one day to be in love. We where not made to be alone. So many of us have been hurt that we can not let our walls down. No one wants to get hurt again. I feel if you are OK with it then that is great. But if you are not OK with it. You have to get out there and take that chance. Who has ever lived a life and never been hurt. Sign here________________________________ | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 5:38:48 PM | | I've lived alone off and on every since high school. I'm just as anxious to meet that special someone to spend the rest of my life with as I was back then. I do enjoy the freedom and independence but I definitely miss the companionship...I badly miss her coming home from work and walking right to me with a kiss. It will never be that way again and I know that but that does not mean I've got to like it. I'm not about to make some bullshit excuse of how or why I like being alone. Pretty much I get better rest sleeping alone but that is the only time I see any benefit in it. I do not argue and will not sit here and be b!tched at. It's just not worth it to live with someone who has a constant need to assert herself. I believe in true partnership and total commitment. I had that and it walked away from me for no reason. I'm sure I can find it again and know it's out there. So, until then I'm going about my business with no worries. I certainly don't mind doing my own laundry or cleaning up my own messes...so, it's no big deal other than the emptiness in my home, heart, and life. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 6:30:31 PM | It is surprising just how many people over 45 have only live by themselves (no other person living with them) for an extremely small amount of time. No wonder it freaks so many people out. They live at home till they marry. Then they leave the ex but live with children or family.
Personally I feel no emptiness, but I have a very busy full life. | |
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