| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/14/2006 3:44:30 AM | | It may be the answer...is in your comment....that not drinking anything at all, even in a relaxed atmosphere on a "date"....is "trying to be a better person" (which you stated at the end)....Maybe, there is a kind of false superiority in it, or a hang up, ... and women don't feel comfortable around that and find the date unenjoyable because you take that and the justification to a kind of extreme in a way. Maybe, that throws a glass of water on an otherwise good time. I'd have to say I've run into the same attitude and found false superiority works okay for independent people...but is an attitude that can run off dates and relationships. It could be that is what the problem is. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/14/2006 3:49:52 AM | I also play the guitar in bars and although I do like to drink "but only beer" I've known alot of musicians that don't. "lost my taste for staggering home years ago"
It's a job and most people don't drink at work.
If she has a problem with you not drinking at all it would be the equivalent of not smoking or not doing drugs right ? She doesn't want a boyfriend she wants a co-dependant.
I've known lots of great women for long periods who didn't drink or smoke and we got along famously. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/14/2006 4:01:07 AM | | Are you a recovering alchoholic? Is there a reason you quit drinking? If so, perhaps that is why she only wants to be friends? As for what I think if a man doesn't imbibe, it wouldn't bother me at all. I'd actually prefer a social drinker (only drinks a few on special occasions) or a non-drinker. I've watched too many lives be destroyed by alchohol. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/14/2006 4:27:37 AM | | Kudos to the post author first and foremost for his question and kudos also to the guys and gals taking the time to respond. As far as my experience...the "number" of girls I dated when I drank was much higher per any given fiscal year, ( aint nobody ugly at closing time philosophy utilized here). However, the "quality" and "caliber" of women I have dated since not having a drink in 13+ years has greatly improved. Some liked the fact and were very comfy in it while a very few seemed to dislike that I dont imbibe in a social lubricant at any given occasion ( sometimes i get the feeling they think..omg he is broken in this manner). All in all though, its end depends on the person and their experience. I have also found that alot of women that are single and my age (30ish) want to pretty much party. Thats cool but I think they also miss out on some really good stuff by not wanting to hang with us that are just into other things that are just as much fun. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/14/2006 4:32:35 AM | | Guys who don't drink are hot!!! Alcohol is a toxin that kills the body....brain, pancreas, liver, heart and breaks up families and relationships. I think people who need to drink to have a good time should get help so they can learn how to have fun with alcohol or without alcohol in the picture. Eventually, if one needs to have alcohol in the picture to have fun, they will become addicted. I wish I could meet a man who does not drink. It stinks and ruins a good night of sex. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/14/2006 11:03:16 PM | Anyone who kicks a habit gets kudos in my book. No one should put someone down who has tried and succeeded in bettering himself.
The only possible reason I could assume is that knowing you had once had a problem, she might be uncomfortable drinking in front of you...maybe it dampens her party mood thinking that you might be tempted to "fall off the wagon" and she wouldn't want to be responsible for that?
As for your original question OP, I'd much rather have a guy that either does not drink or only drinks socially than one to whom drinking is a way of life. There's so much to be enjoyed out there if you can actually take in what's going on. 
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/15/2006 2:15:41 AM | Personally, I'd much rather be with a man who doesn't drink than one who does. Some may say that is "my stuff " but who cares? Been there done that with alcoholics and barely survived. Oh, and in each case they presented that they drank occasionally. In the beginning, they did at least in front of me. Once married , the drinking came out in the open and things got really ugly. Now, my experiences certainly doesn't mean that every man that drinks is an alcoholic. However, those that are alcoholics certainly are not going to be up front and honest about it when they are actively drinking. Makes no matter whether it's beer or hard liquor. I find nothing attractive about the stench of a heavy night of drinking. Nor do I find anything attractive about a man who prefers to live life in an altered state of mind which is what alcohol does. Moderation is not an issue, more that experience has shown me that more often than not the men that present themselves as an occasional drinker typically have proven to be either daily imbibers or binge drinkers. In other words, in a state of denial of their drinking problem. Kudos to those men out there that can live and enjoy life as it is, rather than in an altered state of mind!!!!!! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/15/2006 7:26:37 PM | | Hi I started this link its been very interesting reading mail To Khrockproducer False Superiority I have been thinking about that for last couple days and I know exactly what you are saying and that to be quite honest is the quality I least like in a person.I dont think I have ever thought that way if anything when I first quit I was judgemental I will admit but as time went or goes on I just want to help people but I learned a long time ago not to say anything unless that person approaches me which has happenned a couple times and I am always there to take them to a meeting or a dance or whatever.If anything I have been turned intoa more humble person and more aware of people and their feelings .I kinda shy anyways thats one of reasons I drank .I dunno people are going to do whatever they want regardless what I think.What ever gets you through the night..Larry | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 12:20:19 AM | Depends on why he doesn't drink. Right now sober alcoholics scare the hell out of me.
Not saying ur an alcoholic, but I will take a guy anyday who doesn't drink. And I don't mind if a guy drinks occasionally either. Either way.
I am just really careful now about sober alcoholics. In my experience, they keep the traits of an alcoholic unless they really work it out I guess. Not all, I am sure. But I grew up around it. It is a possible reason. It would be for me to run right now if someone was a sober alcoholic. Sounds bad, but true for me. 
But if you drank and were an alcoholic, I would run too.
If you just choose not to drink, just because....then I wouldn't run. I think people look fairly stupid if I am the one not drinking and watching them. Maybe she feels this way and wants you to get drunk with her. I am no exception. I am more than sure I get stupid when I drink. And I would choose not to get "drunk" around you cause I can choose. I can go with or without getting drunk. I can go somewhere and just have 2 beers (good beer mind you). And not have to drink anymore to have a good time. It depends on where she is at in partying.
Or did you ever think that maybe she is an alcoholic?????? A practicing one... | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 3:23:26 AM | | I think its fine i have no issues with a man not drinking,It is a choice one makes,as long as this person doesnt mind if i have a drink here and there,i do not drink much or hang out in bars but the odd time i like to have a drink to relax,It does not take alcohol to make a relatioship it takes hard work and understanding.i can have a dr pepper too you know lol | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:35:25 AM | | When you meet the right woman it won't make her nervous. To be honest that sounds strange as I would prefer a man NOT drink or at least very little...However some people have this strange notion that if you dn't drink you are square or whatever and can't have fun..lol ..Sorry this happened to you but don't give up..Take care and God Bless | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:37:35 AM | | I personaly prefer someone who drinks (but just socially, like I do) it can be fun getting a litlle drunk sometimes. Specially beacuse the places where I like to go are clubs and bars, so for me is like going to the beach and stayed away from the ocean, ;) | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:53:38 AM | I would actually prefer to meet a guy who doesn't drink or drinks very very little.
Honestly, a recovering alchoholic makes me a little bit nervous because I have lived around alchoholics all my life and the 'recovering' ones were the worst because when they fell off the wagon, they drank to make up for all the drinking they hadn't done... and would take it all out on the ones they thought were at fault for "making them" stop drinking.
I guess it's all about a trust issue. If I trust you and I know you, whether you are recovering or do not drink makes little difference to me, because I trust you. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:49:34 PM | | Fun Fun Girl the recovering ones that had slips were they involved in any groups or meetings?The mens group I go to the average sobriety I would say is 15 yrs and we still have to go every week and more to stay sober .So it is like anything you have to put work to recieve any results.You are never cured its an ongoing thing.Its always easier to blame somebody else for our Stuff.I grew up in a family of all alcoholic males 11 of em only 3 of us has quit.On female side out of 10 there is 4 alcoholic.Anyways sure is a different life for me but to each thier own. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:59:59 PM | I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A HEAVY DRINKER BUT SOMETIMES IF A GUY DRINKS THE FIRST FEW DATES ITH ELPS HIM LOOSEN UP-N I CAN RELAX MORE WITH HIM AND THIS I LIKE FOR STARTERS! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:03:37 PM | I am in no way dogging you strats4 and I applaud your courage and strength to stay sober for soo long.
It takes a strong person to rise above the chit that we grew up in. I personally would not have any strength left to help a substance abuser, but if it's someone who has been sober for so long and shows that the work they continue to do is FOR THEMSELVES and for THEMSELVES ALONE, I wouldn't mind so much and it's actually a good thing that someone has this experience under their belt and won't easily 'slip' again.
The people in my life who 'slipped' did attend programmes but not religiously and again, they were doing it for someone else and not for themselves.
all the best to you and take care!
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:24:42 PM | | That is a crappy reason not to like somebody. I think that girl is the one with the problem, not you. It shouldn't make her feel uncomfortable with the fact that you don't drink alcohol unless she possibly has a drinking problem? Hold you head up and say Ba-Bye to that one. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:26:43 PM | Alcohol has ruined many a man's life, so I prefer to date guys who don't drink at all, or only occasionally. I enjoy a glass of wine with dinner now, but not all the time. I used to be a professional driver for a lot of years, so my livelihood depended on my being sober every day of the week. I can't imagine anyone who drinks thinking it is okay to get behind the wheel, but people do it all the time and the price they pay can be horrendous, and irreversible.
Maybe some people need a few drinks to relax, but sometimes they say, or do, things they later regret. I have found out stuff I wish I never knew because someone blabbed their biggest secrets while they were smashed.
So if you don't drink, good on you! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:22:27 PM | | I never had to drink to have a good time,was nearly 32 before I got married (been married once) I've never been drunk never did drugs at all.and I do not belive I missed anything.But have found that a very big group of women have a problem with it | |
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