| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/29/2006 5:44:30 PM |
Why is it so uncomfortable to be with someone who does not drink?
In my experience, it's typically the people who have a drinking problem that have a problem with someone who doesn't drink. People who don't care and don't have a problem with alcohol in their life couldn't care less if someone drinks or doesn't. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/29/2006 5:57:55 PM | | I would love to meet a man who didnt drink. The occasional beer is fine, but I was with a man who drank all the time for 2 years. That was a very bad time for me. I promised myself that I would never date a drunk again! If a person doesnt want to go out with you because You dont drink, then they have a problem. Let them go, there are alot of women who would be honored to go out with you! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/29/2006 6:03:49 PM | | well after being married to a drunk for 31 1/2 yrs i find it very nice to meet a man who doesn't have to drink to be himself so don't give up there are women who love and appreciate a man who does not drink | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/29/2006 7:24:45 PM | Im not comfortable dating someone who doesnt drink.....but, thats because I like to go out llet loose and be a little silly. When I have done that with non drinkers they tend to be very judgemental from experience...so, now I feel like i should hold back....
Wouldnt make or break the situation, but it would leave me with some reservations.... | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/29/2006 7:30:33 PM | Well since I have been on this site .I have been honest about that I have had a wild past.
I don't hide the fact that I did have a problem with things ,However people should realize that it takes great strength and courage to change, I myself have gone out on dates and they didn't have a problem at first with me not drinking, then when they start drinking a few bottles of wine , then do things and can't remember then they dont want to be around as it shows them that it's them not me, if a woman doesn't want to be arond me because I don't drink , It cool with me as it's none of my buisness what people think, I know what i think about myself and that's what really matters,.
Further more I don't want to be with people who don't want to be with me, A person decides not to be with me because they drink and I don't , maybe they don't want to look at themselfes so it's easier to walk away from, me than it is to walk away from drink.
Then there are people who want to be able to have a drink with there partner . all in all what do I want for me ,is the real issue, so laddies be wise and be kind , to those who don't drink. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/29/2006 7:45:28 PM | I prefer men not ot drink. Nor do any ohter kinds of substances. To its about morals and its about what a person believes. And as a christian, it is ok to drink but not over doin it. I just prefer men who dont less drama and temptation. I did at one point drink but it is not for me and I am not above any one nor do I feel as though what I say should be on the top list. But what I am saying is that people these days take drinking to a whole nother level. where they think its fun to look stupid and make an idiot out of them selves. Any ways. Its up to you to drink I just prefer not to date men who do. Its about respecting your temple and knowing your limit. And if you dont know your limit, then dont do it al all.  and God bless | |
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tsi7
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Joined: 8/23/2006
Msg: 107 | |
| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/29/2006 7:49:25 PM | i am glad that u mention that u only seen her for two weeks and this was ur first date, give urself a chance to meet others... as u have mentioned a lot of women respect a man that doesn't drink and r ready to explore this avenue because maybe it's something new to them. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/30/2006 3:35:49 AM | To answer the OP, I'd prefer to date someone who drinks socially. I'm 23 and like to go out once or twice a week to bars and meet up with friends, have wine with dinner, etc. I don't NEED to drink to have fun and have plenty of fun without it too, but I enjoy it and have it very much under control.
I've dated people who drank TOO much, and thats no fun. I've dated barely recovering alcoholics also and thats not fun (i'm the "healer" type of person, and it was hard for me not to be able to just help him, plus he had a lot of other emotional/psych issues). | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/30/2006 4:08:01 AM | Strangely, having smoked and been known for going WELL over the top with drinking antics, I actually had a ten year relationship with a guy who was completely straight edge. His dad was a wine merchant and connoisseur but he just never drunk, not for any dubious past but for the same reasons he would never eat certain food or drink tea or coffee, he simply did not like the taste.
I just weirdly seem to go for really straight edge/clean living guys. Couldn't imagine going out with someone who wasn't creative enough to do anything but go to the pub at the weekend. It is kinda boring.
The woman sounds a bit weird. What would she rather, you got really wasted all the time??? | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/30/2006 10:03:27 AM |
Gramps always said: "Never trust a Man who won't Cuss, or take a Drink". Now I figure Gramps was a pretty smart man to live as long as he did, and not get into trouble with the law, or end up being jammed in one of those managed care facilities, so there must be something to it huh? Nuff said.
Alot of people live long lives, and never get in trouble with the law.
Not to say this is your gramps, because I do not know anyone here, but
some people have some really bad advice, are completely interminable to be around,
and make life misery for others that have to be around them.
They live long lives, and don't get in trouble with the law- but some are pure
Face, Air, and Noise Pollution. Such as some politicians.
Stand Still. Here come the mimes. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/30/2006 2:11:01 PM | | Hey I dont drink either, and I recon its cool with the ladies. I used to drink and I decided it was a load of crap, and now I get up in the mornings and Do Stuff! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:19:46 PM | | I don't drink regularly, or go to bars either. For one thing my body has such a low tolerance for alcohol, one glass of wine will get me tipsy. For another I can't stand the loud music played at many bars. It may have limited the circle of possible dates for me, but given the issues alcoholism can give a family, I'm glad to not have attempted it that often. I don't mind drinking a glass of wine for a date, but beware, it makes me more talkative than usual! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:23:58 PM | I don't really drink, just because I see no purpose to it for me any more...and no one has ever made a scene over it, nor have I ever been treated differently for it.
I appreciate a man who does not drink, or drinks sensibly. I have no issue with it, I just don't do it myself very often. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:31:15 PM | | I'm glad you posted this message. I feel the same because I also don't drink and I think it scares some people off. It's probably just the ones with drinking issues anyway. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:41:50 PM | | I would prefer to stay away from the heavy drinker. An occasional drink is okay as long as your judgement is still intact somewhat. Be proud of the fact you don't drink. It gives a woman a chance to see the real you. Drunks get loud and obnoxious which is a real turn off. A social life is out there. I have met you and think you are a very kind hearted man that is not pretentious. I will enjoy remaining friends with you. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:52:36 PM |
so I dont drink now 14 yrs
Might be because she worries about this lapsing. OR perhaps she's borderline Alcoholic herself and thinks you would spot it in her and try to fix her. | |
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mefein
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Joined: 7/7/2006
Msg: 118 | |
| good for you non drinker .......
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:00:11 PM | | as an irish man who dosent drink, i can tell you that being a non drinker is great. better health, better friends and a superior life all round. forget the alcos or the aspiring (social drinker) alcos. they only want people to accompany them on their selfish drunken binges. most of them work on pure selfishness. they find you dont drink and suddenly there's supposed to be something wrong with YOU. forget drunken WASTERS. get on with your life. best of luck to you. me fein. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:08:17 PM | you said you did a little digging  what you dug up who did it come from  her or someone else  cause if it was someone else then Shirley you sound like maybe you need a drink so go have one and get over yourself  | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:27:01 PM | Well maybe it's just unconceivable how some can be happy and relaxed with out it.
Maybe they worried that beer breath and beer breath mingle better. Kinda like the peanut butter thing,,, it stinks unless every one is eating it!!
Maybe they drinking and make fool out of self and want you to participate....loook we's a couple of sillies tonight!!! wooohoooo! and the drink made us doooo it!
All the maybes... I surely not want to have some one that drinks excessively.
And If you are standing for what you believe in and it's not accepted then oh well count yourself happy you find out early, then later. Save some arguments.
This almost sounds like a teen presure situation, got to do it cause everyone else is.
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/2/2006 1:12:06 AM |
OP, in my case I'd say it depends on why someone doesn't drink. If they simply don't like it, that's one thing; if they've had addiction problems with it, that's another thing. I dated a recovering alcoholic before, and after that experience, I prefer not to deal with it again. Not only was I uncomfortable drinking in front of him (though that was a minor thing) but he had a number of other issues that not only led to his drinking,
I totally agree with you prolibertate. I have dated a few men that I discovered after I got involved they were in recovery too and prefer not to do it again. One reason is that I like to drink socially and I always felt guilty drinking in front of them. And two in my experiences even though they had broken that addiction, they hadn't been healed of the underlying cause & it was impossible to have a healthy relationship. They also seemed to transfer the addiction to another source. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/2/2006 1:54:30 AM | I don't drink because I don't drink and I don't give a dam what anyone thinks, when the right woman comes along she won't ether and we will get along just fine.   | |
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