| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/7/2007 6:53:11 PM | | I drink very little and most of the time it has never been an issue. I have had a few women in the past seem to get bothered by the fact I wasn't drinking as much as they were. No one I was dating, just people out in a social setting. I thought they had drinking problems myself, so by getting everyone else to drink helped them to pretend they were just like everyone else. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/8/2007 8:07:32 PM | if you are going to be so angry it is probably better if you didn't have to be involved in the real world, so my suggestions, join a monastery, by the way no one said drunk, that is your perception..judging from your comments maybe you have been fishing in an over fished pond and are re hooking the throwbacks.. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/8/2007 10:37:19 PM | To msg 178:
Why are you so interested in MY posts?? You are supposed to be answering the OP!!
I'm not the slightest bit angry. Fact is I was rather amused that you took offense at my post......thought you must have seen yourself in it.LOL. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/9/2007 12:39:03 AM | | Well if a man didn't drink I would love him more. But if he did drink, I am hoping he has brains enough to know when to put the bottle down and not get overly drunk. I do not drink. So being with a man who don't drink. I tend to lean toward them. My husband was a drunk and he was very abusive and always liked to fight with me. So I do not care as long as he drinks responsibly. And this means only once in a while. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/9/2007 3:18:42 AM | very refreshing, I think. I would rather not compete with booze or beer for that matter, when I am on a date, especially the first few dates..I want the fellow to get to know me, the real me with no other interferences..I repect A.AERS,, who are working their programs. They are to be encouraged. On the forum question though- if you don't drink, why would you want to date someone that does??? It defies explanation!!!Besides- There is a lot of fun activities out everywhere, that don't require getting tanked up....Personally if a man lets me know that he doesn't drink, well, if i am with him, I don't drink either..out of respect...!! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/10/2007 8:07:53 AM | Hi I posted this thread about 8 months ago when I was quite new to POF,I had no idea that so many ppl had comments on this subject.Since then I have had a good time going to events and have met some real cool ppl who could give a rats ass if I booze or not.I was so nervous the first event I went to,but with putting myself out there has made a huge change in my social life.POF has alot to offer if you get out and enjoy.Where I live they have somethin goin on almost every day of the week,lots of outdoor stuff and lots of dances.and these ppl rock | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/10/2007 8:44:40 AM | strats4,
Believe me, it's good to find out, up front, exactly who needs someone else to drink (or drug) with them. If you do OR DON'T drink, this is an indication that THEY have a problem - one that you don't need to get involved with unless you want to.
I've found that the best women out there actually do prefer men that don't need a drink to do anything, from a walk on the beach to sex.
Nothing can be more satisfying than just letting them enjoy their beverage, and you enjoy yours (they love the security on the drive home too). Just because it's not alcohol doesn't mean you're not drinking. If a drink isn't just a drink, no matter what it is - then there should be pause for consideration. Regardless of the old adage....real men actually don't need alcohol.
She's out there. The problem may be that you work in a bar....hee hee. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/11/2007 2:47:17 PM | | Despite the fact you say you have been round alcoholics and recovering alcoholics, they have obviously still been very sick or you have just made presumptions like too many uneducated people out there, not ALL alcoholics fall off the wagon, not all alcoholics blame others if they do and one certainly couldnt catch up on what they had missed out on. Would you make the same comments to a cancer patient that was in remisssion then they found out it was back, of course not, alcoholism is just as much a progressive illness, and fatal if left untreated and people should not make judgement or try and even comment when they are talking without knowledge. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/11/2007 3:13:14 PM | i gave up the drink 11 years ago next month
wasn't a messy drinker but i drank a lot  the amout i'd drink in a weekend would put most of todays stars in rehab, but thats getting away from the point
i choose not to drink i don't have a problem with people drinking as i send most of my free weekends in the pub with my mates or otherwise i wouldn't see them
but for someone not to accept that u don't drink your probaly better off away from them in the long run | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 6/11/2007 4:55:08 PM | | It would not matter to me if the guy didnt drink...Ive dated men in recovery before that so has never bothered me...If anything, it might be a good sign that hes exercising restraint over something he knows he has no control over... That shows clear thinking and good judgement to me as well as an ability to take care of himself...All pluses in my book | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 8/7/2007 12:03:33 PM | 14yrs sober.....................good for you. Keep doing what your doing HER lose.
Most people don't have enough knowledge about alcoholism and seem to be uncomfortable about it. (like their gonna catch it, or something).Maybe you can suggest she get some info for future reference.
If you ask me, she should have counted her blessings, (maybe she has some unresolved issues of her own, and needs to look at that, ya never know). I have no problem with a guy who doesn't drink, at least I know he'll always be present. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 8/7/2007 12:30:56 PM | | I'd want a guy who doesn't drink or maybe has a drink twice a year. I don't drink and never have, and never will, and don't like being around people who drink | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 8/7/2007 12:54:47 PM | | It wouldn't make me nervous at all. I wouldn't pass a guy up if he drinks socially, but not partaking in alcohol is a good thing. You don't have to defend your choices to this girl or anyone else. If she doesn't want you because she feels you should be drinking, move on. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 8/7/2007 1:09:47 PM | good subject strats......i have never drunk in my life i think it is not necessary to drink ,i personally think alchohol hides reality , dating somone who drinks ,they lack confidence ,i heard a person say alchohol brings out the real person that is hiding inside and he /she wants to escape but is afraid , i dated a bartender and she could not enjoy herself without a drink ,needless to say that was a short term relationship.alchohol clouds judgement and i have lost many friends to alcholism one only 9 weeks ago..
many people can justify drinking i cannot maybe i am missing something all i know is when i go to a bar and order a soft drink the bartender looks at me like ,i should not be there ,and we all know it is because he is not getting a large tip as to someone who would blow a fortune at his bar .but then, that show the mentality of a bartender.if he was nice he might get a decent tip but then he never tried .i guess thats why a lot of people are in plenty of fish ,rather than deal with the slops offered at a bar | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 9/26/2007 10:16:47 AM | | i think people that drink say red wine with a meal and have a glass or two there is nothing wrong with that but if you are buying red wine in a box and sitting on your porch drinking it in a beer glass then i would be concerned.if you consider wine a more intellectual alchohol and budweiser is the redneck of drinks ,.i do not drink ,that is an observation,i think wine comes with a certain sophistication,but if you are slugging straight from the bottle,then it is time for you to get a trailer and tickets for the jerry springer show ,beer ,has no class ,it is related to almost all sports,and when i see beer and i see a women drink beer i think low class,there is nothing more disgusting and sexually unattractive than a drunk woman,and really drunk people do look cheap and stupid ,and of course the biggest loser of all ,if you have been done for drunk driving more than once ,then that is complete idiocy,you should not even be caught once. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 9/26/2007 10:32:54 AM | Ahhhh Maybe she wanted to get you high and take advantage of you! Buy a beer, dump contents out and tell the bartender to always fill the bottle up with ginger ale. As the night progresses trip a few times and enjoy.
Anyone need a sober but fun man, call 555 5555  <img | |
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| I just move on if she has a problem
Posted: 9/26/2007 11:00:03 AM | | I'm a confirmed teetotaler. And if any woman has a problem with that, she's telling me that I'm looking for love in the wrong place. Plenty of other fish in the ocean of love! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 9/26/2007 11:00:31 AM | I've been playing clubs since I was 18 years old,I've been all over the west coast. Playing different venues,every night for months at a time.I started drinking at an early age, just rec.drinking.But after a while I put the career on hold,went through a divorce and, just kind of bottomed out.My drinking was at an all time high(no pun intended).
I won't get into everything that happened,but eventually quite smoking,quite the other rec. substances,and after a very close call from the reaper,I finally quite drinking.
I'm a much better person because of it,but I don't preach it to the choir.When I go out with some and they want a beer or whatever,it just does'nt bother me.It's my choice not everybody else's,I don't care what they do.I just don't drink,it's really no big deal.The worst that can happen is, they get home in one piece.  Cheers | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 9/26/2007 11:29:19 AM | Hey strats4, good for you. If the gal can't handle your choice, then let her go. YOu're better off in the long run.
I dated an "functioning" alcoholic and let me tell you it's no fun. As a retired drinker myself, I could do without her mood swings and personality shifts. That is just NO FUN and life's full of other folks who feel the same way.
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 9/26/2007 1:55:20 PM | I dated a sober guy for 2 years. At first this was no issue. It was nice since I always had a designated driver. He even bought me a bottle of wine now and then.
But after awhile he started making nasty comments every time I had a drink. He would withdraw if friends came over and had a drink. He refused to kiss me if I had a drink. He became controlling of my drinking telling me when I could and could not.
Soon this behaviour became verbally and emotionally abusive and I ended it.
I cannot stand heavy drinkers but , Yes I am not comfortable drinking with a non-drinker.
The fact that I enjoy wine makes this an uneasy situation. However, I would rather a non-drinker to a heavy drinker. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 9/26/2007 3:33:29 PM | You are'nt doing anything wrong,your friends are'nt either.If he's really going so far as to not kissing you,that's his problem.He's using his weakness as a controling mechanism.I would quikly jump on his self righteous ass, and remind him of that.
It's not a problem you have, it's his problem.Unless you are going to marry him.Then it's your problem as well. But, I would look at the signs that are already rearing their ugly little heads.JMHO. | |
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