| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 9/26/2007 3:39:41 PM | I also don't drink and find that it sometimes hinder the dating!! But usually those that have a problem with me not drinking....have a problem drinking!! So what if she can't get past you not drinking that just shows you what kind of person she really is!! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 9/26/2007 4:23:13 PM | OP: I think that people who drink,around people who don't drink, usually
feel they can't let their hair down and be themselves. I actually can say
she told me "She felt out of place if I didn't embibe".
I really don't care if they have a drink,or a beer,or a glass of wine as long as
they are not dependant on it. I never been a drunk and I can't stand being
around those who are. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 9/27/2007 2:27:32 PM |
I think that people who drink, around people who don't drink, usually feel they can't let their hair down and be themselves. I actually can say she told me "She felt out of place if I didn't embibe".
I think those people are drunks.
I don't care if the people around me drink or not. If I feel like having a glass of wine I'll have it. But I don't drink to get drunk. I'll drink one glass of wine, two at the most.
My boyfriend is a diabetic. He almost NEVER drinks.
Doesn't bother me in the slightest.
I'd rather have a boyfriend who doesn't drink than an alcoholic.
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/9/2007 11:58:28 AM | | i dont drink i gave it up it no big deal beeter off with out it and i dont miss it and i dont go to the pubs/clubs you dont have to drink to have a good time | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/9/2007 8:06:05 PM | It is quite odd that SO many people are actually uncomfortable around people who don't drink. I don't drink. Simply a personal choice. No issues, no alcoholism, no "holier-than-thou" attitude. But, I don't know if there's EVER been a time when I was in a social situation with people I was not familiar with that I DIDN'T get the strange look or the questioning glance about not drinking. Most temper it with, "Oh, that's no problem", but for some reason it is to many. And yes, I have actually had people tell me this quite a few times. After getting to know people, it's generally not a problem for them. Most can accept it (which in itself is even odd to say... It's not an affliction I have!). But our society is so conditioned to drink that it just seems to throw people. Of course, the bible-thumping, church-lady stereotype telling people they are all sinners for drinking never helps.  I really think it comes more from other's insecurities. I don't care that someone paint's their toenails even though I don't. No reason for me to care one way or another what you do when I don't even know you. And I'm pretty secure in the fact that I don't paint my toenails. I've certainly gotten used to it, but it's always been a curiosity. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/9/2007 8:50:55 PM | i have dated guys who drank, and i have dated guys who didnt..I dont drink myself, but I do go to the local bar on the weekends because I like to do karoake...if I could meet a man who doesnt drink, and it works out between us, then i would love it...if i met a guy who doesnt drink and we dont hit it off, well we cant blame it on the alcohol can we...lol | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/9/2007 9:01:35 PM |
Hi I was seeing someone last 2 weeks 1st woman I met here.I play guitar and we mostly went to bars cause I jam so I dont drink now 14 yrs and I have NOO problem others having fun I also have fun I just dont need booze have fun.I thought everything going fine yesterday we go to have something to eat she tells me we can just be friends.After a little digging I found out it is cause I dont drink she felt nervous sometimes around me.Does this make people nervous or what is it.I dont judge so why do people make their pre concieved judgements about me when I am just trying to be o better person.What do you think I wont have much of a social life if I stayed away from people.
I've had the same thing happen to me, although when I give my reason for not drinking....it makes it worse because they don't believe me.
I am one of the rare ones that is actually ALLERGIC to alcohol. Medical terminology is basically called 'alcohol intolerance'. the second I say that....they basically treat me like I am a leper or something.
I never understood how one could be more uncomfortable around someone who can't/doesn't drink as opposed to someone who does. I mean seriously....I don't drink, which guarantees you a safe and unmolested ride home (cause I won't try to take advantage of you when you are drunk either).....and you see this as a PROBLEM!? You would rather go out with someone who does drink, therefore guaranteeing you an unsafe ride home where more often than not he is going to try to get you into bed.
Way to go ladies....some of the mentalities I have come across REALLY scare me these days. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/9/2007 9:18:13 PM | I ALSO DON'T DRINK VERY, VERY RARELY. SPECIAL OCCASIONS, ONE OR TWO MAX. I JUST DON'T LIKE THE WAY IT MAKES ME FEEL THE NEXT DAY . I HAVE BEEN I THE BAR BUSINESS FOR OVER 26 YRS. AND PEOPLE ARE SHOCKED THAT I CAN MAKE THEIRE DRINK , BUT NOT DRINK. I GUESS IT'S EQUIVALANT TO GOING TO A BARBER WITH NO HAIR .PLUS IN THAT 26 YRS. I HAVE SEEN A LOT OF F#CKED UP SHYTE. IF YOU WERE DRUNK IN MY BAR I WOULD TAKE YOUR KEYS AND CALL YOU A CAB. $10 FOR CAB FARE IS CHEAPER THAN A DUI ON YOUR RECORD. SOME PEOPLE ARE LOVABLE DRUNKS AND SOME PEOPLE IT'S ADD ACOHOL AND IT'S INSTANT A##HOLE , BELEIVE ME I KNOW.WE IN THE BUSINESS CALL IT THE DOCTOR JECKLE MR. HYDE SYNDROME..
I DON'T MIND WHEN I GO OUT ON A DATE AND THAT PERSON DRINKS , AS LONG AS THEY DON'T GET SLOPPY DRUNK. I DON'T NEED TO BE A BABYSITTER, AND I REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE THAT HAS TO DRINK EVERYDAY. BEEN THERE DONE THAT. IN HIGHSCHOOL. KEEP ON DOING WHAT YOUR DOING. I AM SHURE THERE ARE MANY WOMAN OUT THERE THAT WOULD WANT YOU JUST FOR THAT REASON. SOUNDS TO ME LIKE MAYBE IT WAS SOMETHING ELSE THAT WAS BOTHERING HER,WHO'S TO SAY .GOOD LUCK | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/10/2007 2:37:46 AM | | I initially never drank because of religious reasons, then eventually I cracked drank a beer due to peer pressure, all of my friends were doing it so I thought "why not". I took a sip, I really wanted to get into but I just couldn't, I hated the taste and didn't see what all the fuss was about. I honestly don't think I'll ever drink again, at least now I'm not curious any more. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/10/2007 4:36:49 PM | | I have more trouble meeting women since I quit drinking. I'm kinda shy in person and the drinking fixed that up real good. On the other hand I had a real problem holding on to a woman when I was drinking so I guess I'm better off these days. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/10/2007 4:45:32 PM | while ~ a woman I'm not ~ I admire your character and I think most people would feel the same.
I'd see not drink and plus rather then a minus ~ in all situations ~dar | |
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| What do women think of guys who don't drink??
Posted: 12/10/2007 4:56:11 PM | Hi! I am a very light social drinker and prefer to date someone that is a light social drinker or not a drinker at all. If someone drinks more than a couple I would not feel comfy to let them drive me. If they were a recovering alcoholic I don't think it would bother me as long as I felt secure enough with them that they would not go off of the wagon and expect me to ride with them. I don't want to be around folks that are drinking to the point of being obnoxious as that is not my idea of fun.
Good Luck OP as there is a nice gal out there just waiting for you! Too bad you and she could not have had more open communication and maybe have found a solution.
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/10/2007 5:12:58 PM | I believe that you should not judge a person for deciding not to drink. I think that it is a very noble and responsible man that chooses not to drink and does not give in to peer pressure. However, if a man dates a woman that drinks he should be honest with her about how he feels about that in the beginning of the relationship before it gets too far. Furthermore, the woman should do the same fo the man and explain how she feels about him not drinking and ask him how he feels about her choice to drink. Everything should be out in the open so that it does not complicate things later on when feelings immerge after several dates. This is just my opinion and I don't judge anyone for how they feel about what I have said. Everyone has their own opinions. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/10/2007 5:51:14 PM | First off, I'll admit I didn't read EVERY post..but I skimmed through them.
This is a subject that is very near to me, as I'm a very strong non-alcoholic. I was horribly shy until I turned 20 years old (still am, in certain cases) and when I started to bust out, I had a choice to make. To drink or not to drink?
I chose NOT to drink because I was at the beginning of a new journey which would not benefit from artificial courage or an inability to deal with things in a clear manner.
In my journey, I've been known to spend anywhere up to 6 nights a week in various bars & clubs. I've met many different reactions to my choice of being alcohol-free.
People who are there just for the social element (and I mean genuinely there for that) usually don't care either way if you drink. They accept that you're there for the same reason they are and it's usually pretty easy to get along with them. These people, unfortunately, are almost as rare as people who don't drink at all.
The next group are what is usually referred to as a "social drinker". These are the people who would never drink alone...but have little or no control when they're out with friends. They have convinced themselves that they don't NEED alcohol to have a good time, but it makes it a lot easier for them. These people are easiest to recognize when they're the DD. They'll insist they know their limit and drink despite their DD status...or they'll be moody and take every opportunity to let you know they don't like being the DD. These people can be recognized by the number of "group" shots they encourage. They are also the most likely to be uncomfortable around someone who doesn't drink. I've often wondered what the reason for this is and have several thoughts on it. The most likely reasons are either jealousy (that they can't really enjoy themselves without a definite amount of alcohol) or because they just don't understand how you can do so well without the alcohol (because they've never really tried and it's an alien concept). Now, there are numerous other reasons, but these seem to be the most common that I've observed and have an opinion of. To me, these are the worst and most dangerous type of drinkers because they either don't know (or don't care) what their limits are and they are not honest with themselves about why they really drink.
Another type of drinker is the "unwind" drinker. To me, these are the most respectable types of drinkers and the type I integrate best with..though they're also the most rare of the different types. These are people who use alcohol for what it is. A relaxant. After a hard day of work (or play), they settle down with a glass of wine or a beer or two. These type of drinkers rarely get so much as a buzz and drink primarily for the relaxing effect that small doses of alcohol can provide. If I were to date a woman who drinks, this is the type I'd be most likely to get along with.
The final type of drinker I've observed over the last few years is the one that everyone points the finger at. The binge drinker. These are the people who drink for the sole purpose of getting drunk. They are the ones who, before having a single drop of alcohol, will tell you that they fully intend to drink 'til they pass out. I honestly have more respect for these people than for the "social drinker" category simply because binge drinkers are honest with themselves and with others. However, my respect for them is usually drowned by their actions once they've achieved their desired level of intoxication.
I'm sure there are many other categories and reasons that people drink, but these are the most prominent that I've observed in the last 7 years of going to bars and clubs. My apologies if this little essay steps on anyone's toes, but remember that this is just my opinion and if doesn't apply to you, there's not reason to be upset...and if you DO get upset, you might ask yourself why. 
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/10/2007 9:16:59 PM | | I am a recovering alcoholic, clean and sober over 26 yrs. I will be honest, there have been days when I wish I could take a drink. But I was never one for "A" drink. I can go to parties and whatever when alcohol is served. But about the time people start getting stupid, its time for me to leave. I usually leave before then anyway. What I don't care for are people who say they have "just a couple" , and really enjoy or always wind up getting lit up. It justs get old after a while. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/10/2007 10:45:28 PM | I don't know about most others here, but since I don't drink myself, I have found in the past, especially in my college life, that many girls actually respected me more because of the fact that I didn't drink. I was always able to provide a good alternative to the sloppy, stammering frat guys that were all too common on campus.
In short, don't worry about whether or not you drink. If a girl doesn't like you because of this, she is not worth the pursuit IMO | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/11/2007 5:32:45 AM | As a woman who does not drink Alcohol, this is how I see it:
1. Mature, Responsible Adults have respect for those who choose to not drink alcohol. Adults are comfortable with themselves & with those who do/do not drink alcohol.
2.Those who have not grown past thier teen-age years by using peer-pressure and other childish behaviours (name-calling, etc) towards those who do not drink alcohol have shown that they are the truly the ones with the problem. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/12/2007 1:08:57 PM | I don't drink very often, so I usually just go with that I don't drink. I have found that most guys that state they drink socially really drink tons more and often really have a problem with alcohol. I think it is nice going out with guys that don't drink or do really just drink socially. I like to drink cranberry and seven myself, sprite works if they don't have 7 up. Last night it was a strawberry daq., they want to call it a virgin, I just say no alcohol.
My question to you is, do you abondon her? Do you go play the guitar and leave her sitting the whole time? My ex would get up and walk to the bathroom and not say a word to me. He would see people he knew and would stop and talk to them. I hated sitting alone. I got so I didn't want to go out with him. I didn't feel like I was with him when I was out anyway.
You might want to leave the guitar at home when you go out. Make the guitar a sometimes thing, not an everytime thing. Women can't compete with something that isn't living. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 12/12/2007 2:03:17 PM | | my ex doesnt like American beer, and doesnt drink liquor, so really when we would go out he wouldn't get alcohol. Hey it doesnt mean he wont go out, or can't have fun. He and I used to go clubbing all the time. Its just the ones that refuse to go out and have fun, go to a sports bar, or go clubbing, that are let-downs. | |
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