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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/14/2006 12:38:32 PM | | I have only heard that expression once in my life time a friend of mine her husband told her that .Now I have been married for 26 yrs and my husband had always said I love you and so have I .He is dead now but I think this new set of rules is set by the man as he wants out of what he is in .This word love u is spoken today like it means nothing at all anymore it is jsut a common expression everyone uses and doesnt mean a thing at all and it is a shame .I only use the word I love you when I really mean it otherwise I will say I like u a lot or I care for u .We all need to go back to the times when peopke were sincere and trueful | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/14/2006 3:37:03 PM | Yes, I was on the receiving end of that from my ex husband - what it meant was "My****has been with another woman.........and my endorphins are following
.........its affecting my rational judgement
..... but it feels good,
oh, and I care about YOU because I might need your help in the future
........ especially as I don't know where it's going with her"
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/14/2006 9:38:12 PM | | It just means that he cares about you and respects you a lot, but the spark on the emotional level is gone for one reason or another. As for "friends" that's practically impossible to pull off when two people are on separate pages. Don't let him use you as a crutch, move on to greener pastures. | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/14/2006 9:48:21 PM |
I still love you but am not in love with you translation.......
I don't love you anymore, but this is the best way to tell you, because if i play around with the word LOVE, you'll accept whatever i say to break up with you. As long as i say the word LOVE somewhere in my farewell speech, you will contiue to see me as a nice person and not an A R S E hole. | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/14/2006 10:23:56 PM | LMAO!! Wow is that ever true !! ^^^^^
In my meager life I have expreinced that saying once and only once ... Right before I caught her sleeping with her best friend when I went by to pick up the last of my things.
It is the cheap way out of things ... Kinda like the "K-Mart Blue light special" way of breaking up with some one ... You know ... Buy it now and you get this fabulous knick nack for free !!
I have always appreciated the truth no matter how hard it was. At least if it is the truth then i can get a start on moving on and not spin my wheels.
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/14/2006 10:48:08 PM | | This is usually what one will say when they're working on another; you're simply not the favorite toy in the monkey's box anymore. What's more, some people are simply that way; they won't let go of the branch, till they have a firm grip on the next. | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/14/2006 11:12:16 PM | [I love this phrase. My ex used it on me. It's the same as "It's not you, it's me." It's just a BS line people try to use because they don't want to feel bad for hurting you. It's ridiculous. People should just be honest, but even I have to admit that saying "I don't want to f@ck you any more but I do want to f@ck othere people" sounds a bit crass.]
It is just that! My last friend that had lived with me, worked with me, used me, etc., used that line more than once. Each time he got wanderlust that phrase came up. The first time was for a girl that caught his eye and later he found out she was a lesbian and he came crawling back. He used it again and again and yet he would call me back and I was crazy enough to take him back. I loved the bum and he knew it! Finally I told him I wasn't dependant on his approval anymore and that I had better things to do. He never phoned back again and I have no idea where he ended up.
He wanted to keep me on the line. Kind of like a safe port in the storm. I think about him from time to time and I realize how far I have come. That line is to try to keep us close and then when times get rough they have someone to turn to. I got tired of being a doormat and free hotel anytime he happened to be on the west coast.
You are too pretty and I feel that you are also smart enough to realize that it is better to sever all ties and cast that one back. He might have seemed like a prize catch but when they try to keep you hanging around then that is an insult to your inteligence.
Keep your chin up and don't shed anymore tears on him. Move forward and smiling! | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/14/2006 11:59:43 PM | The truth of the matter is that you were the one that was there when he said the words and you are the one who knows his character. You are the one that can determine whether he sincerely loved you and will hold something of you inside, but does not see a relationship continuing with you and therefore you as a couple are better off apart. I can see it being said sincerely (as cliche as it may be) and wanting you to know, hopefully after many discussions to reconcile any issues that may have caused his feelings to wain. Or vice versa, maybe its a cop out. But I think everyone who has commented has their own biased experiences and that you have to trust yours.
Either way, I think it is impossible to remain friends at least for the near future. As tough as it may be, you both need to go your seperate ways and allow life to go on and for time to try and heal.
Best of luck. | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 12:27:29 AM | I've actually kind of used this line
don't hate me!!!
But it's how I felt. I still love him, to this day and care for him, but the sparks just weren't there. He becasme more of my friend that I wanted to hang out with more than someone I was head over heals in love with, wanting to spend the rest of my life with.
I've never been on the other end but I can imagine it is'nt fun. | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 1:08:56 AM | Hey there, girlfriend! Been there and done that, but with a twist. 7 years ago, I had a relationship with a man, it lasted 2 months, hot and heavy, but I ended it, as he insisted on marriage, and I was barely divorced after a 25 year abusive marriage.
I accidentally met up with the guy again, a few months ago, on POF! So we met, agreed to be friends, rekindled the relationship, the fire was still there, etc. I told him I was ready for marriage now. But he said he still loved me, but not the same as before. Said he loved me, but was no longer IN love with me. I am 50, he is 52, so, believe me, there is no age restriction on this one! Hope this helps. Katie | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 1:15:22 AM | | you know thats probably the most dumbest thing i've heard while in a break up, like honestly what guy says that to a girl? specially a good looking one yourself. My break up was all about jealously and anger. but that line means he really doesn't want anything with STRINGS attached or whatnot like i don't know that doesn't make any sense to me, but really thats a dumb sayin man sorry to say it, i'm speakin my mind right now anyways i'll leave it at that talk to you all later......... | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 1:24:35 AM | | I think there aren't that many people on this planet that don't know what the word "love" means. They need to learn to not say the word if they don't honestly mean "I love you". Some people simply don't think what is entailed in saying those 3 words. Sad sad. | |
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| pepsi 71 {tony}
Posted: 11/15/2006 1:36:53 AM | hey my names tony my wife she keeps tell me that to we been separted for now 2 years funny she still has pic of me in her apt on the wall why i dont knowi gave her back the divorce papers when she send them 2 me couple years ago but she hasnt sent them back 2 me she keeps tell me the same thing { I still love you but I am not in love with you} what the fck does that mean any ways we have 3 childern togetther some times i get so dam depressed now day for me its a love hate thing lolz i often wonder does she ever miss me the goodtimes we shared idont think shell ever find anthoer man likeme that car s for her the wayi do i still respect her cause shes the mother of my childern she still my wife but ikeep telling my self am divorce so i dont feel so down i miss my kids they with wit there mom in pennsylvania i wanted to ask you from a lady view she has a heart i think lmao i wonder if she still thinks of me time 2 time???? | |
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| pepsi 71 {tony}
Posted: 11/15/2006 1:37:50 AM | | hey my names tony my wife she keeps tell me that to we been separted for now 2 years funny she still has pic of me in her apt on the wall why i dont knowi gave her back the divorce papers when she send them 2 me couple years ago but she hasnt sent them back 2 me she keeps tell me the same thing { I still love you but I am not in love with you} what the fck does that mean any ways we have 3 childern togetther some times i get so dam depressed now day for me its a love hate thing lolz i often wonder does she ever miss me the goodtimes we shared idont think shell ever find anthoer man likeme that car s for her the wayi do i still respect her cause shes the mother of my childern she still my wife but ikeep telling my self am divorce so i dont feel so down i miss my kids they with wit there mom in pennsylvania i wanted to ask you from a lady view she has a heart i think lmao i wonder if she still thinks of me time 2 time???? | |
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| pepsi 71 {tony}
Posted: 11/15/2006 1:38:03 AM | | hey my names tony my wife she keeps tell me that to we been separted for now 2 years funny she still has pic of me in her apt on the wall why i dont knowi gave her back the divorce papers when she send them 2 me couple years ago but she hasnt sent them back 2 me she keeps tell me the same thing { I still love you but I am not in love with you} what the fck does that mean any ways we have 3 childern togetther some times i get so dam depressed now day for me its a love hate thing lolz i often wonder does she ever miss me the goodtimes we shared idont think shell ever find anthoer man likeme that car s for her the wayi do i still respect her cause shes the mother of my childern she still my wife but ikeep telling my self am divorce so i dont feel so down i miss my kids they with wit there mom in pennsylvania i wanted to ask you from a lady view she has a heart i think lmao i wonder if she still thinks of me time 2 time???? | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 1:43:13 AM | I was once on the receiving end of that line...
Basically they are telling you its over but they dont want you to be mad for getting dumped.
There are much worse ways to get given your notice its over. At least he gave you a clue rather than cheating on you or treating you like crap so you finally dump him. | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 1:52:18 AM | It is a very confusing line! A man that would say something like that is confused himself I would think. He didnt know what he had! You look like an enchantress. So my two cents are he just missin out on a great woman.
Now my experiences in this has happen almost close to the same line as yours but slightly different "I still care for you but I dont love you" It was plain and simple. I cant personally be a friend with ex for it may cause issues in the future with a possible life mate. Anyhow You hang in there girl. You got it going on. Cheers! | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 2:01:43 AM | passion_fire:
I've never had this line but it sounds like a common cop-out for many guys.
I now think it was just a way for him to keep me attached to him without the commitment. We were trying to be friends but now he has become increasingly cold to me.
I think you know exactly what's going on! And you don't need it!!
Take it for what you know it to mean, and move on.
You deserve better. Someone that doesn't always put their feelings first, under the guise of "sparing you". | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 3:30:09 AM |
I've actually kind of used this line
don't hate me!!!
But it's how I felt. I still love him, to this day and care for him, but the sparks just weren't there. He becasme more of my friend that I wanted to hang out with more than someone I was head over heals in love with, wanting to spend the rest of my life with.
I've never been on the other end but I can imagine it is'nt fun.
I'd love if you'd use the line on me. *snicker*  | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 6:02:07 AM | | passionfire, i know how you feel. a similar thing happened to me months ago. the second poster is right--- you're cute and you seem really sweet and deserve better than your ex. hang in there. when did he break up with you? pretty recently? if you ever wanna talk, just email me. i know just how it feels. :) | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 7:48:55 AM | | I have felt this way before myself, and I think it is difficult for the other person to accept because they think if you love them, you should want to be with them. Not necessarily. People grow in different ways... that doesn't change the love, but it can certainly change the relationship. | |
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| I still love you but I am not in love with you.....
Posted: 11/15/2006 9:01:52 AM | | In a way i think that line " i still love you but i am not in love with you.." is just a bunch of bs, but then again... i kinda of understand it. There was this guy i was kinda of but not really seeing it was a really messed up situaton, we became pretty much best freinds but also intimate sometimes too.. for the most part that was just fun and games, but i managed to fall in love with him, lets just say it never worked out to my advantage, but to this day i still love him, just i am not inlove with him any more, i still hold on to what made me fall inlove with him in the first place, i would still do any thing for him, i wish all the best for him in his new life and i only want whats best for him. (that is what i mean by i still love him) but as for not being in love with him any more, i dont crave his touch, how he smells, watching him cook in the kitchen doesnt make me smile from ear to ear any more, and i definatly dont want to spend every chance i get with him. i know my situation was a little bit differnt, but i am just saying i do think you can love a person but just not be in love with them any more. | |
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