| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 1:21:29 PM | Ahh the sense of humour. I have that and i can say that proudly. But man I don't know if it is just a streak of long bad luck of meeting uptight women or what. But if I could meet someone who has a sense of humour also that is the best.
I did let it bother me for too long. I guess 7 years just got to me. But I figured oh well, I am still having fun and so be it, single I am so I will be. Does not mean I won't enjoy life. Now if only layla was in Toronto then I would be all for making you laugh.... | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 1:32:44 PM | Ahh but I bet a guy in his mid 30's is too old huh?
I met a couple women 28-29 last summer and they said me being 36 i was too old for them. I was like huh? But I find physical attributes and looks play the big roles more now in women picking guys. But is expected anyhow. The competition for us is fierce at times, many times i wanted to just walk away from dating all together...but of course I am a sucker for punishment so I get back in there...crazy i am. | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 1:58:31 PM | @Dark:
working out doesn't just have to do with confidence, that's the gradual bonus attached to it. It has alot more to do with health or having something you "love to do" with the "health factor" as the ultimate bonus. Some people knit cuz they love it or paint cuz they love it, or go sit at a bar for 5 hours and suck down beers cuz they love it, others go to the gym, it's their santuary to get away.
I work out 5 days a week and do martial arts, cuz I "love to do them" and I feel better daily being fit and in shape and "healthy" to live longer. It's a lifestyle, it's not a preference. I study personal training, always reading up on new things, learning all the time, applying it to my life to live better, stronger, healthier, and happier.
That's the issue nowadays with people getting back to the gym or trying to get back into shape, is if you want it to work or see results, you need to make it a lifesyle change to be fit and healthy, or the weight you lose will just come back twice as fast. You can't just go into a gym and hope within 3 weeks you lose 5 lbs cuz then most will stop and gain it right back. Like most things in life, you have to tackle it mentally, before physically.
Working out, or especially martial arts that I do shows and add to self discipline, work ethic, respect towards others, how to push yourself, your limits, how you conduct yourself, and many other things.....the building "self confidence" is the added bonus you get gradually as you go.....
Some do it for sport, others do it as a lifestyle to be in shape and enjoy your every day feeling the best you can.
So you or others look at it one way, and I can give you a completely different way, that I look at it by, which to me is the way most people "should" look at it if they want to benefit from it in any way shape or form.. | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 2:19:39 PM | Brotha...
No offense, but that's EXACTLY my point...
Lots of people who "work out" all the time have made it so much of the focal point in their lives that they can't think or talk about anything else BUT working out...
Trust me -- I KNOW... Obviously, you do too...
But I'm glad my last posting gave you a reason to expand on "working out"... | |
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brian2
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Joined: 6/3/2005
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 2:21:08 PM | [ I understand where you are coming from.....It is so weird even when I was bigger I always was attracted to the smaller girls and I dont know why? But I do find some bigger girls attractive but I think people need to try to take care of themselves. PS..I think I am alright looking. I mean I do good when I go out and stuff. But it sucks because all the girls you meet in the bars seems like you dont hear from them to much longer after you meet them. ]
actually it seems to be the other way around for me....gurls i've had contact with in person seem to be around longer [no matter which place u meet 'em] than those met online.
and i think the reason is because meeting in person feels more natural while the internet takes out most of the personal vibe. | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 2:22:43 PM | Oh BTW,
Check out your profile and prove me wrong...
Now, having said that... please understand Awaiting that I'm not making a personal attack on you -- but it IS true in many scenarios. I, even, had to be very careful when I was working out EVERYDAY not to make it my focal point -- and it can be hard. It's not a bad thing -- UNLESS -- you get to the point where you feel you've got something 'on' everybody else because you constantly 'work out'.
Hell, 2 years ago, I worked out so much and was so proud of my arms and chest that I went EVERYWHERE shirtless -- like HeMan... LOL | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 2:49:09 PM | say what? u obviously didn't read my post correctly then. I said it has nothing to do with me being obsessed at all, it's things I "enjoy" doing like someone who knits or cooks. Something wrong with that? Has nothing to do with image. I would be in good shape, even if I didn't work out because I have a high metabolism!! so working out I do cuz I FEEL BEETER.
Your interpretation of me is way off base, but you have your opinion. Some of you beatch when a person is a couch potatoe and is not healthy, and still do it when someone works out and likes to stay in shape. Well you be with the bottom 20% who has diabetes, heart problems, and all that cuz you'd rather sit on your duff cuz your lazy.
Man, you completely can't even interpret a response for what it is, you like to make more of what is actually written. | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 2:50:28 PM | And "BTW" DARK:
I know what my profile says, it says what I "enjoy" doing, and about me in a nutshell, it's not my life story, so if you want to truncate it into my life story, that's your doing, don't make something into what it's not.
And when you say it's not an attack and direct it to me, than it is one, I mean come on, don't be a hippocrit.
Hate people like that, just cuz you had an issue with it in your past doesnt mean I do...i'm smart enough to know how to enjoy my life doing things I enjoy to do, I have been in sports me whole life, so knock it all you want. I don't make it my "focal point" if you read what I wrote, I said it's part of my lifestyle, I know how to "incorporate" it into my life, my job and everything else...wow big concept huh? gym rats are people who live it 24/7. Big diff. so read it a 3rd time if you need to.
I never once say I am better then anyone else cuz I do, so unless you are that shallow that you have to continue to put words out there that I am not speaking, shut it to put it lightly
I don't have to bring someone else down to prop my own self up. That's sad
so stay on topic. You don't want to get in a justification war with me :) | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 3:07:24 PM | | there are people who run every day, people who are in sports for their school, so what? they like to be fit and stay in shape....they are no different than anyone else, they just have different intrests. Leave it at that lol | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 4:35:03 PM | Great observation strings6, I happen to agree. There are times both men and women point a finger at the person who says, get back in shape. So in doing so the person who is out of shape might blame someone else for having that low self esteem. But the reality is they are in fact lazy and should step up the exercise routine.
I could even go as far as stating a person who has low self esteem could break up with Mr. or Mrs. perfect so they can feel better. It is a constant reminder for the ugly duckling or the overweight person so they will look for another lazy or less critical mate.
Perhaps...birds of a feather flock together? | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 5:40:05 PM | I like lean and muscular. I don't like overly muscular as in Arnold Schwarzenneger type...but I also don't like the super skinny string bean type. I have to say that he has to be lean, and very proportioned. I am a sucker for nice arms, shoulders and abs...so, I guess I like the men athletic :)
Think of it this way : If you are 6'1-6'2 you better be at around 220 lbs :) | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 6:47:51 PM | Wow... obviously I touched a nerve...
One thing that needs to be cleared up though -- I'm not hardly lazy OR out of shape. In fact, I'm in VERY good shape. I'm not spending all my time in the gym though -- but I think you're misreading what I'm saying...]
Brotha, I swear to God, I'm not knocking the fact that you like to workout. In fact, I think it's GREAT that anyone does...
What I was saying is that I've noticed that 'some' people who do tend to make every part of their conversation and existence and can become highly defensive about it.
I thought I said earlier that I'm not trying to personally attack you but my comments earlier obviously touched a nerve. Brotha, I can't claim to know your mind, your thoughts and I certainly don't wanna judge you -- but as you said, I'm entitled to my opinion so, what I've said is my true observation -- and I know even I have been guilty a time or two. | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 7:37:11 PM | what about you c deacon.....do you only date skinny women who look like barbie?
no it really shouldnt matter about thin, fat,muscular......if you like each other than who cares....yeah the general public will but its not about them....its about you and the other person...as long as you treat each other with respect,,,that what matters
U GO PUSSNBOOTS!!!!!   | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 8:27:20 PM |
"I like lean and muscular. I don't like overly muscular as in Arnold Schwarzenneger type...but I also don't like the super skinny string bean type. I have to say that he has to be lean, and very proportioned. I am a sucker for nice arms, shoulders and abs...so, I guess I like the men athletic :)
Think of it this way : If you are 6'1-6'2 you better be at around 220 lbs :) "
I can safely say that after 10 plus years in this game, you are not showing a 6-pack at 220 lbs unless you are on roids. "Naturals" come in well under 200 (even at this height) when they are lean and showing a six-pack. | |
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chinua
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Joined: 9/30/2005
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/16/2006 9:29:04 PM | ^^^everybody is different.....i know someone who has a six pack at that weight......my karate teacher....and he is natural........i've been into weight lifting for 20 years..
as for what i prefer............muscular | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/17/2006 5:27:09 AM | blah blah blah. can't we all just get along? everybody has somebody. just not everybody has found 'em. right? that's what i tell myself anyway.
someday i'll find the guy for me. until then.. .there's plenty of fish!! [haha] | |
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| What do you ladies prefer...Muscular, Skinny or Fat guys?
Posted: 1/17/2006 5:54:23 AM | Now I dunno about that comment ^^^^^
Not everyone has somebody out there. I think that is just your typical cliche to cheer up single people and for them to stay "in the game"
Many people come to the realization that they do not have enough to offer women. Especially today where standards are very high and women have the power to pick and choose. With so many guys single women have the odds in thier favour nowadays, they can set those standards high and not worry about it. Some may abuse the power they have but if used right, you will end up with a hot guy, who dresses great, drives a great car, has a terrific job and is sweet. So many women will not settle for less and why should they?
Until the odds are in the men's favour of having more single women than men, many of us guys will be single most of our lives.
How we look in the way of tall, skinny, in shape etc is more important now it seems for alot of ladies. Women will toss a guy away even if he is decent and great because the look he has is not up to par. But hey it is all fair and they have every right to do it...they have the power of picking and choosing. | |
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Cynnie
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Joined: 12/24/2005
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