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cute1
| | Joined: 5/7/2006
Msg: 102 | |
| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 12/22/2006 3:48:27 PM | | First off, I just want to say I'm sorry you were cheated on, because I know from experience that it hurts. I know that good, faithful men do exist, because I know a lot of good men, like my dad, my brothers, and other men,...however, in my case, they're all either already married, my relative, or they're too old. But the point that I am making is that I know that they do acutally exist. One day, a decent man will come along for you, though. It's easy for us as women to think that ALL men are cheaters because there are SO many of them, and it seems so common now days to hear about men cheating on women, but it is good to remember that there are still some out there who actually have some morals and integrity. I'm not Oprah or Dr. Phill, but if I were to suggest or give you or any other woman out there who are also in your shoes any advice, it would be this: First, practice what you preach. When you're with a guy, make sure you are a faithful woman. First make sure you hold yourself to the same standards as you are holding him to. Secondly, get to really know him, WITHOUT sexual involvement. Often times, sexual involvement can distort our perceptions of the people we are with and make us ignore some of the red flags that come back and smack us in the face later on down the road. One BIG red flag is a man who acts like he will absolutely die if he doesn't have sex with you early on in the relationship, regardless of how you feel about it. Run away from this type of man as quickly as you can, because he is the type that is looking out for his own physical needs, rather than your emotional needs, and more likely to be the type who will cheat on you later on down the road. Respect yourself enough to know that you are better than that and never compromise. Keep your head up, pray for wisdom and discernment, and the right man will come along one day. | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 12/22/2006 4:51:20 PM | My grasp on the english language is not as extensive as it should be, but if non fornicating means a man that does not live for sex.....HERE I AM.
Faithfulness is not a word that stands for anything in this day and age, from either men or women, and that is why i gladly shun anyone who thinks they can get away with cheating.
Abstinence rules...now if only I could find religion...... | |
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tm4ch
| | Joined: 12/17/2006
Msg: 104 | |
| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 1/30/2007 5:09:11 PM | I've been talking to God every day for the last twenty-three years. There seemed to be no solution to our problem because, first, you have to admit you have a problem, just like an alcholic has to admit he has an alcohol problem, a person who's Bipolar, too, has to admit it and get help.
There seems to be no other solution, other than God doing a miracle to save people with Bipolar disorder from themselves and others. They destroy peoples lives and hurt people without conscience. Maybe God's grace will be sufficient for these people...I hope. But, if he's not, then consequences will follow in the after life. | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 1/30/2007 5:27:29 PM | I'm not sure when, Why? Because they can (and because they're worthless human beings). The same skills they used on you (we'll call it charm) they use on selected other women they find(or found before they knew you).
Here's one for you, why do certain personality types excel in personal ads while nice guys (like me) sit and wait for women to get down to my place on their list (no idea where that is...) ?? All I want is 1 woman forever and sometimes it just seems impossible. I don't know how to tell if your guy is off(bad) or not. Maybe if he acts nice but is an ***hole to others, that could be a clue. Really nice people (men & women) are nice to everybody.
I wish you luck, be careful. | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 1/30/2007 6:08:31 PM | I'm sorry, Sweet Bliss, but you are going to be pretty much disappointed in me -- since I'm not your typical man considering the immorality in our society, and you may think I'm too "moral." I have no respect for people (men or women) who are not faithful to their partners, or who want to have sex just to satisfy an animal urge. But we are supposed to be different from animals with ability to self-control and discipline ourselves. Before I had gotten married in my early to mid-30s, I had just four stable relationships, and definitely no casual sex (and I am not a bad looking guy, nor a dumb one--I've been among the top 5-7% of all the students in college and in the university having a postgraduate education). It had taken me more than a few weeks to have an intimate relationship with all my girlfriends. As I had told you, I want to know your mind first and want to develop feelings --feelings that go beyond those for sex alone. Sexual feelings should not be confused with those of love. And now, these days, there is additional reason to wait -- to know the person from the health point of view. I had never cheated on my girlfriends nor my ex-wife. I think, it is simply wrong and not compatible with human decency, or with being a good person. It has nothing to do with being religious in the usual sense. I am not a religious person (although spiritual).
To give you an idea, how I (we) brought up your children, all our three children (who all are pursuing a post graduate degree) are still virgins. I told them it was not necessary to wait to be married in order to have an intimate relationship, provided they feel that their relationships are stable and that they have a real, honest caring feelings for their girl/boyfriends. But it was their choice, and I respect it (their choice was not dictated by faith).
Well, what else can I say?
MB | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 2/2/2007 10:31:23 AM | OP: Grow up, you have kids. Plus, learning how to spell wouldn't hurt things. Faithful is 1 L.
It really helps your case when the one word that sums up your anger is spelled wrong.
To the other posters here, who have idiotics things to say like 'Don't worry honey , you are right, men are worthless and will only hurt you'. , please go far away. Hopefully the potential suitors for you somewhere on this site will read those negative male bashing entries and avoid you like the NY Knicks. | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 2/2/2007 1:29:26 PM | Great Question.. I can't make a fair comment here. I thought I could but.. nope. I have some baggage in this department. Trust is a hard thing. I suppose you just have to keep your eyes open and don't give trust to soon. Good Luck. | |
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Lee82
| | Joined: 1/1/2006
Msg: 115 | |
| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 2/2/2007 1:48:50 PM | Dnt worry hun. U will find sum 1 that will totally adore your every move. Not all men are wankers, there are a few of us left. and i hope you'll find him swn. take care darl | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 3/4/2007 7:31:59 AM | | When hell freezes over!!! I thought mine was until I found out that he cheated during our courtship, engagement and marriage. More recently, I was dating a guy and thought things were going well, until one day he left and told me he was going to return. That was a Wednesday. On Friday, I called his cell and ... you guessed it, a woman answered. A month later he called again and said he was just "scared" and hadn't been with another woman. He said the woman on the phone was his niece. Yeah, right!!! | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 3/21/2007 4:08:56 AM | Someone said faithfull men are boring... I would like to dispute that but no woman has ever given me the chance to.
Once i find a woman I won't even think of cheating on here it would be dishonnest dishonnerable and rude.
Anyway i need more sleep i think im getting a cold. | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 3/21/2007 4:15:05 AM | i have said this before the internet makes playing the field so easy , that so many take full advantage of the need we say we have to have some one in our lives. if im sleeping in your bed that means we are in a commited relationship , and that man would know it, and if he wanted to be just dating some one then he would need to date some one else. men and women alike can chat with lots of attractive potential dates on a daily basis, the man i was living with from this sight was emailing women all the time. telling them he was home alone crying in his wine. missed them and wished he was with them while he and i were out having a good time. you hope you weed the losers out early and move on. he said he was doing it to make them feel good, he was full of bologna!
hope you feel better soon. i know i do. | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 3/21/2007 5:47:23 AM | well for one you're really attractive..having said this.
I came here just to see what would happen as far as people contacting me, but to be honest...I am not convinced one can find their match online...however I seem to be wrong what with all the testimonials and all that jazz. To address your scenario. The dude is a player...he is not serious and wanted to hook-up. Two-months is nothing.... sorry to say this but two-months is a flash in the pan. You are fortunate that you found this out now. So you are done with men eh? All that candy on it never leaves the shelf? I don't believe for one moment that a girl like you can write of all of mankind...or malekind. Look...go out by yourself opne night...don't look for a man just notice the compliments you get.... go with a girl freind if you have to, but really it is not about him , it ia about you. You have lost some self-esteem. Believe it or not your gorgeous, so flauint it and see the responses men give you..then you can know the guy made a sh----itt-y choice and is nothing but a second string player. | |
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| WHEN WILL I FIND A FAITHFULL MAN??????????????
Posted: 3/21/2007 6:04:01 AM | sad to hear your story but maybe more communication would have helped. it appears you were in the dating mode for a month or two. time to talk. how about this scenario.... "honey now that we've been seeing each other for a while i have deep feelings for you and you've said you have the same for me. i'd like to make our relationship exclusive to you and me. how do you feel about this?" if he says no you've got a decision to make. if he says yes and still cheats on you he's another low life. keep looking. find a romantic guy! and an older guy isn't always the answer but we usually have it out of our system by my age. | |
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