| I feel guilty ....
Posted: 2/20/2007 7:01:22 PM | Well I do find it strange that you still have such a great rapport with your X wife, for I am assuming that this is not a general occurence after breakups, I do commend you for being civil and caring about another human being that at one time you were very close to.
Yet, I really don't think that it should be something you concern yourself with...as another mentioned , she is a big girl and can find a man on her own. I would think unless she asks , I would just let her explore on her own.
Matchmaking has been known to backfire, is what is coming to my mind... | |
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| I feel guilty ....
Posted: 2/20/2007 7:20:19 PM | | Absolutely right; it has known to blow completely up before. I'm not really trying to match-make. I just want her to feel better about herself. | |
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| I feel guilty ....
Posted: 2/20/2007 7:25:29 PM | | If more men were like you, the world would be a better place.......peace to you! | |
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| I feel guilty dating while my exwife isn't.....
Posted: 2/20/2007 7:26:19 PM | She has the opportunity to date also. It just may not be her time. I wouldn't let her comments or your guilt let you stop enjoying YOUR life.
When a relationship is done, it's done. It's great that your friends and have a wonderful relationship, but that's where it ends.
Go have fun. When she's really ready, she'll do the same. If she can get past the ignorant moose's who think "hey baby" is a great opening line. She'll get there. Be supportive, but don't stop moving on with your life. | |
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| I feel guilty ....
Posted: 2/21/2007 6:54:43 AM | I understand perfectly what you are trying to do OP...and how you've come to an understanding that just because you and your ex can't live together, you still respect one another and want her to be happy...very understandable indeed.
I have a good relationship with my ex-husband. We are there for each other as good friends, nothing more. He is living with a great gal and as a matter of fact, they are coming over for dinner in a week and a half. I've learned some French cooking from my ex- mother-in law and he doesn't get to enjoy it from anyone else other than me, so I've invited them both to dinner for this special treat.
I know that some people are on bad terms with their ex's and maybe they should feel that having this kind of relationship is "off the wall"..for them...but some of us part because it just wasn't working out on a husband and wife or live-in situation. We did have our upset time with each other after the initial split... but we are way past the bad part and have salvaged a good friendship out of it. So OP...I know exactly why you would want happiness and contentment for your ex-wife. No reason to feel guilty. You are a good support system for her. | |
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| I feel guilty ....
Posted: 2/21/2007 8:19:21 AM | | Babydoll, Peaceful, and Wicked - Thank you for your very kind words. With the day I'm having, they were a welcome sight! | |
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| I feel guilty ....
Posted: 2/21/2007 8:24:39 AM | man...those alimony payments must be high... | |
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| I feel guilty ....
Posted: 2/21/2007 9:27:20 AM |  LOL...if you are referring to me jukeboxfrank, there is NO alimony. So you see, there are some of us out there that don't need money to stay friends or to keep us. I LOVE my independence!
It's all unconditional...like or love...at least with me. | |
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| I feel guilty ....
Posted: 2/21/2007 11:23:24 AM | If she's as attractive as you've stated then there should be no prob. Get her to join POF and see what happens.  | |
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