| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/17/2006 2:16:33 PM |
I'm non-religious, too and wouldn't date a man who's religious, because it just wouldn't work.
Well being a man of faith I know for a fact I wouldn't date someone who does not share my faith for the same reasons. It definitely won't work.
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/17/2006 8:27:48 PM | You may want to hear what this old owl has to say about this.
After the illusion of lust, love or whatever one may call the early "feelings", and when disillusionment sets in, the couple must have a similar base value system to really connect on a "spiritual" level.
Notice, I said spiritual not religious or sexual.
So drummer she may realize that this is a major part of her value system and is a little ahead of you. I believe she may be on her way of finding what SHE wants. | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/18/2006 2:38:55 PM | | This women used exactly that 'equally yoked' statement. "If we are not equally yoked, I couldn't date you, says the Bible." That is her exact quote. I did remind her that there are plenty of scumbags who are very religious working in the churches molesting kids, cheating on their wives etc.. By the way, this woman's ex fiance was a drug addict who left her for drugs! She said she dated him because she believed in giving people second chances. Is that strange or is it me? I plan on remaining friends and leaving it at that. | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/18/2006 4:52:55 PM | | I don't think it's fair of her (or anyone here) to say you are not equally yolked. I have been mad at God at certain times in my life too, but that does not mean I totally rejected Him in my life at those times. If anything, if this girl cares for you, as a friend or more, she should be trying to help you get past whatever it is you are going through and get back on track. You probably have a core set of values and faith, and just because you are having a hard time right now in your life does not mean this is the way it's always going to be. If she rejects even friendship with you right now, she's not being very christian, IMO. | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/18/2006 5:09:10 PM | | May I ask what religion she Is ? Because Myself as well goign through an issue in my personal Life that has a concern with religion , Not on my part but with the man I was seing | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/20/2006 10:54:10 PM | | That's about the oddest thing! That EXACT thing just happened to me. The guy even suggested I was going to hell because I didn't have God in my life..Interesting concept. The best thing to do is walk. I have yet to meet anybody who made it past date # 1 or 2 when religion was high on the other person's list. They have this bizarre idea that they're somehow superior to anyone who doesn't have as strong a conviction as they do.. Consider yourself lucky..:) You could have actually dated her...EWWWWWWWWWW | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:03:23 PM | She said she dated him because she believed in giving people second chances. Is that strange or is it me? I plan on remaining friends and leaving it at that.
Alright OP I am going off base with this but if she gave this guy a second chance, and won't even take a chance on you, she used the religion as an excuse.
I am sure there are many who will not agree, thats fine, but one ting religion teaches is tolerance of others, now of course everyone has there preferences, it seemed like she had a strong bond going on with you.
Now did she ask you why you felt "down" on religion or just figured you were not worth the time romantically, theres a difference there, saying your religous and practing it are two different things.
Maybe you are better off as friends cause in a relationship you want someone who will listen to your feelings, and share thoughts with you, not just dismiss you because of the way you feel at the moment, but taking the time out to see why you feel as you do. | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:12:26 PM | | I have seen many relationships break apart because of this. Religion is a deeply personal thing and shapes your life in every facet. So your lack of it can potentially move her life in a direction that she does not want to go. If you like her and respect her, then respect her feelings. | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/21/2006 3:41:40 PM | | I did mention why I was down on religion in one of my first emails to her. She has emailed me 1-3 times a day for a month now. And she leads a busy life. I did tell her I'd start going to church again once in awhile and that made her happy. She said,"Maybe you'll get something out of it you weren't expecting." Now what could she have meant by that? | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:04:18 PM | of course it's NOT wrong for her to feel that way. Religious beliefs should be the center and rule the way a person runs their entire life...if they are SERIOUS about it.
If their religion is just a JOKE or some label they hang around their neck just because "they grew up with it", if it's just something they do on a couple of holidays annually well then.....that kind of JOKE religion isn't very serious and maybe you guys could work out. But if she is a true faithful believer and tries to live her life according to her religion then you would be a BIG PROBLEM for her and she is smart enough to see that. She doesn't need to waste time gettin involved with someone who is going to cause her grief about it (and that will happen) or someone she cannot share this belief system with. Come on.....what a crazy question.
You and she BOTH need to find people with whom you share passionate deeply held beliefs and attitudes. | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:55:55 PM | | I would say give other people a chance. She let you go for a concrete reason. It may be neither wrong nor right, but there doesn't seem to be enough flexibility for you to pursue this any further. Heartbreak is difficult and you are not alone. We are all in this together, but we all know that it is very possible to move on and to find happiness with someone that will love you exactly as you are. Keep your spirits up and keep looking. It's easier said than done, but, once again, many many of us have been through this. Someone out there will have enough compassion for your "streak of bad luck" and they won't turn away from you because of a temporary setback in your beliefs. | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/21/2006 5:24:49 PM | I would say be who your are. If she cant take or want you for you she is not worth your time bud. She not have to change who you are just to be with someone I feel.
Only person who can change is you and only if you want to make the changes.  | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/21/2006 5:38:37 PM | | You find out who you really are pertaining to God when you have been stripped down to nothing and you have no one to turn to and you're wondering if you'll walk again.Especially if you step out into the unknown. | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/21/2006 5:53:37 PM | | Hell, I want em' to be nonreligious. Even though they're going to hell, I can enjoy them for a little while, lol. I think it should be a private, introspective thing. I'm a christian, but it ticks me off when somebody just spews it out like water. I think to myself, don't you know people think your an idiot? Don't cha? | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:04:28 PM | | I agree with you! There are plenty of scumbags working in churches doing bad stuff on the side. Girls should judge guys by their personalities and not their religious beliefs. I am willing to be more into religion for this girl. She is worth it. It's wrong to say that I have no shot with her. But I respect everyone's opinions and thank you all for your responses! | |
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/27/2006 7:39:39 PM | | I'm pretty much into God myself. If someone told me that God is not a big part of their life because of bad luck, then my friend, I say it's time to pick up the bible, know it, understand it because to blame God for the problems in your life, is to now understand God! | |
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ecleo
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Joined: 11/16/2006
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| Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down?
Posted: 11/27/2006 8:01:01 PM | For me, religion is a major element of compatibility. I'm non-religious (but spiritual) and would turn a man down depending on his religious beliefs. While I respect all religions and the sacredness of one's faith, my personal ideology is based on the rejection of religion. Clearly, this would create conflict with someone who is particularly religious. 
We all have the right to choose what we want or don't want in a partner. Let this one go. Another woman, who doesn't care about (or shares) your religious beliefs, is waiting for you.  | |
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