| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/20/2005 4:21:48 PM | I've met people with a pic. I consider anyone I meet to be a "blind" date whether or not I've seen a photo . . . . I was very nervous my first time. Now I consider it to be fun to look around and guess who could be the one I'm to meet.
For my own comfort, I always pick a place I'd go to anyways. That way I get to enjoy myself whether or not a) the date does not go well; or b) person does not show up. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/21/2005 9:35:42 PM | I think it would be kind of exciting and frightening at the same time to go meet someone you have never seen. especially if you got on well with that person, I think that makes the difference. I wouldn't go off and meet someone i hadn't ever spoke to or spoke very little to, that would be outright scary..not something I could do. I have trouble meeting people I have seen and talked to alot.
well except for the one person I mentioned before, him I'd meet. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/21/2005 10:14:22 PM | I've only tried this once....
A guy emailed me here on POF. I replied.. then we IM'd for 30 minutes or so. I gave him my phone number and we talked on the phone for a while. He had a really cute voice, but I was still pretty skeptical. He described himself as "not ugly" if I remember correctly.. or maybe "average". He was a self-proclaimed nerdy guy.. so I was expecting him to be sorta geeky looking. Not a problem! It was early afternoon and he asked if I wanted to meet somewhere. Our conversation had gone really well, so I agreed. We met at the mall.. he told me what he'd be wearing so I could find him easily... without that awkward moment when you're not sure, so you nervously croak out their name and hope they break into a smile.
So I'm sitting there waiting, and this really cute guy walks up, dressed in the clothes he had described. So I ended up croaking out his name after all.. couldn't believe it was him! We ended up talking for hours... but we both had prior family commitments to take care of, so we made plans to meet up later. I think it was the best first date I've ever had.
Hopefully I won't ever need to try it again  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/21/2005 10:59:40 PM | Why Not ....sometimes pictures don't even come close to what the person looks like.. then there are 40 percent on who have old pics, then there are another 40 percent on who have phoney pics....Like me, well the first pic anyway. Really it doesn't matter, you are only meeting, not having sex. The person could look like a goddess but have the personality of a idiot, so even if they are beautiful you can't stand them anyway.
So either way it doesn't matter, talk to the person, meet them for a coffee or what ever, THEN decide, if you like them or not....  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/26/2005 6:57:32 AM | | I met 2 guys when the online dating thing first began without pictures and it didn't turn out that great. While I am FAR from a shallow person, I was really looking for someone to date...not just a friend. I have plenty of friends and can make more quite easily without being on a dating site! Some people say that it is shallow to "demand" a photo before meeting, but I think it depends on what you are looking for. If you are just looking for friends, then a photo is not an issue. If you truly are looking for someone to date or more...then let's face it an attraction is usually a requirement. Even if they are not "beautiful" to everyone else you need to at least feel an attraction or the relationship usually ends. Both guys I met without the photos just did not do it for me. As a result, they kept calling and messaging and I felt uncomfortable. When I tried to be honest and polite, one got really mad and became abusive towards me. Now I require it. After all, if we are both truly looking for the same thing....we need to see if there is a mutual attraction. If not, I may continue to chat and it may turn into a friendship, but at least no one is feeling uncomfortable at the first meeting! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/27/2005 9:51:36 AM | I agree with you totally 1grayfox. I want to see a pic before I meet anyone. It scares me when I don't know who I'm meeting. I have my pic posted, so they can see what I look like before meeting me. It is also a must with me to communicate via Internet /or phone with the person before meeting. I like to see if we have any common interests. I like to get an idea of the type of personality they have.
There are just too many sicko's out there not to take any precautions. Maybe I'm being paranoid, but I also take my cell phone (fully charged) and jack knife in my purse  in case. Always meet in public place with lots of people around.
So, if you want to meet me - heads up. 
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/28/2005 12:53:47 PM | | Nope...they have to have a picture before I'd meet them...even if they didn't have a scanner and had to send me one to my house through the mail. Not because I'm shallow--their looks dont necessarily matter but its just that I like to see who I'm talking to and know that they aren't lying about who they are...and for another thing, how would I know how to look for if I went out to meet them? And I'd feel like they were a complete stranger if I couldn't see what they looked like first...seeing what someone looks like just makes me feel like I know them a bit better before I meet them. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/28/2005 5:32:25 PM |
No way would I meet someone without having an idea of what they looked like in a few pics. Maybe even a web cam. Not that looks are the most important thing, but there must be some form of physical attaraction
I find that physical attraction causes me to miss some of the most wonderful people in the world. I have "met" 7 women from POF without pics, and the personality they displayed in emails and posts enhanced their "appearance" when we met in person. If physical attraction has to be there to "meet", then true love could be passing you by! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/28/2005 8:05:47 PM | Since words can say what a person is feeling. Why can't a person at least meet the person without a pic. I had my sis help me post my picture because I wanted people to know right up front what I looked like. Then if they felt like writing they could. No pic might mean they don't have one to post here. Gorgeous guys might be out there without pics and you would never know without taking a risk. After all you are not marrying sight unseen....Take a chance. Some red hot matches might be going to waste. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/30/2005 2:50:58 AM | yeah i have it was not that bad he did not lie though i guess some people lie about what they look like to feel more secure and make others like them you know
oh well it worked out well for me but we decided to be friends you know not anything else ... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/2/2005 1:27:24 AM | Maybe no one wants to get really friendly with someone only to find stokin' the fire a bit of a chore- when the sexual chemistry is wrong ! Visuals do come into it- however intellectually shallow a concept!!
PS maybe pics should be dated...mine is about 5 years old... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/3/2005 5:14:19 AM | This is my first time writing, I'm new at this. I have been reading several forums tonight, and shirazcabernet (she's a woman) I actually emailed her to ask her this question, but I got notified that she doesn't accept emails from women nor ones my age. Yikes!
Actually, I have men only on my site also. I shouldn't feel bad.
Like I said I'm new at this. Here's my question. She said she wouldn't email a picture to this site or any dating site, but would to another email address.
Question: Why not? What can happen to your picture? Can someone take it off this site? I'm a little worried, because just tonight I emailed a picture. I think he is still sleeping and he hasn't open it yet. Should I hurry and try and delete it? I sound so parnoid. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/5/2005 12:13:59 AM | | I'm gonna have to say no... I knew some guy back in highschool that decided to meet a total blind-date... she said she was 5"4 and 120lbs. Turns out she was over 200lbs. Now, big girl or not, the point is she lied, and so for me - a profile picture is a definite must, and even then, at least 2 good pictures, anyone can steal someone's webcam shot thesedays anyway. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/5/2005 10:00:44 AM | I have and would do it again. He was reasonibly attractive and a nice person. Only fell in the friends catagory but I knew that before I met him.
Pictures can be sooo misleading. From what I've read here it seems to me that the success rate of pictures vs no pictures is about the same.
I have found that many people have pictures to share even if they don't show in their profiles. Some of us want the first attraction to be who we are and not what we look like. If you can't capture my mind then it really doesn't matter what you look like. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/9/2005 12:00:25 PM | I have met probably 50 people that had no pic because what exactly does a pic tell you about the person . Either you mesh or you don't and no matter what the pic looks like, it takes more than a picture to keep you there. And about people posting fake pics...I could post 14 of the same woman right now and you'd all think it was me but it was just some chick i found on the net that had tons of pics posted of herself. If someone wants to lie they wouldn't be so stupid as to meet you after showing you fake pics...and if they do agree to meet based on a lie then they should be committed.
I met a guy thru icq and we chatted for an hour there then we talked on the phone for like 5 hours and we both already knew we wanted to meet and neither of us had ever asked once what the other looked like...we ended up meeting for coffee at 5am after we hung up the phone and the chemistry we had on the phone was still there in person even though i'm sure neither of us was quite what the other pictured but it didn't matter...and that relationship lasted over 2 yrs until I moved 8 hours away from him and we are still great friends to this date...so sometimes not seeing a pic, you truly get to know the person on the other end and form an opinion based on compatibily other than lust....in the long run, compatibility has to be there as the lust burns out quickly. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/9/2005 9:43:56 PM | | Several of the people I have e-mailed back and forth with haven't got pics posted. It does not scare me. As a person gets to know them thru their e-mails You begin to know a bit about them. As I lose weight which I am in the process of doing, that picture will look like me minus 120 pounds by the time I am done and I will be slim. By the way I am doing it for health reasons... | |
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