| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/24/2005 11:33:21 PM | The fellow from pof that I am involved with online I have never seen his pic but his profile and words and personality rate a 10. The picture I have on my profile is full figured. I will always have certain aspects of my body but I am 26 pounds lighter and losing. Pictures can't always stay current enough to tell the complete story about a person...My smile and facial feature will be the same... A person's personality can take my breath away and cause me to swoon.. | |
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Mitsoo
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/25/2005 7:25:22 AM | ^^ You're right about personality taking someone's breath away, but I still think it would be even better if they had a picture to go with it. Has he ever said why he doesn't post a picture for you? You have a picture on your profile and he gets to see you; you have a really nice smile and my comment to Puppy sounded bad I know. I think you should work on getting a picture from this guy. I talked to a person once and it turned out he was a
15 year old kid. You never know who is behind those words sometimes. And BTW you're doing better than me, I have had no long term communication from anyone on here. It's hard enough to meet someone WITH a picture let alone without one.
I have a feeling I'm going to get smart ass cracks about the 15 year old.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/25/2005 11:32:32 PM | | mitsoo...he said it is cause he has none to post... You know I believe him because mine would not have been posted if it were not for sis doing it for me. He does plan to send me one. We are not rushing into meeting and taking our time and learning as we go along... One thing to say about pics... What is to stop someone from sending in a pic of someone older, posed by a fancy car in front of a fancy house... The person still might be very unlike the pic.. The pic might be fake... In my case.. I felt so little self esteem that I did not want my pic posted because I thought no one would write if they saw that pic...I no longer feel that way.. I now realize beauty comes from within... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/26/2005 1:00:32 AM | I have a few times, it really depends on the circumstances.
I think I've met two girls without pics, and on both occassions they were new to the site and I really believed they just didn't have the means (yet) to get a picture up.
They both also lived very closeby, so it was no big hassle to meet for a coffee.
They were both cute.
I think you have to go on instinct. These girls were new to the site and the fact that they were new and didn't have a pic was actually appealing - it meant they weren't getting inundated with email and weren't playing any games (yet).
On the other hand, there have been girls with pics in which they are far away, fuzzy, or face only, and you REALLY get the feeling they are trying to hide something on purpose. It's just a feeling. I have asked these girls if they can send a pic where I can actually see them... and if they can't, or say "meet me in person," I end it.
So, if you are good at reading between the lines, in some cases no pic can be better!
I would say a good rule of thumb is time. If someone has been online dating for a while, and they are serious about meeting someone, they HAVE to have pictures. It's ok if they don't want to post them, emailing them later is fine... but if you don't have one at all and you've been doing this a while, something is up. | |
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Joined: 8/29/2005
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/26/2005 1:33:47 AM | | Hi Ladydi8, would you take the chance in meeting with me for coffee. I am a quiet guy at first but warm up fast. I do not have a pic on here. I have nothing to hide, not married, not wanted by the law. check my profile at let me know if you are interested. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/26/2005 1:21:03 PM | hello well I dont have a picture on here and if you read my profile it says I have a few extra pounds well I met a man on here and he told me about him self he didnt have a picture and we talked for a few days then decided to meet in person I wasnt nervous because what I did know of his personality I really liked, so when we did meet at the designated place I while I was waiting I saw this hunk of a man get out of a car I said man! i wish that was him! lol well turned out it was, damn! he was fine looking!! he came over to me and he was so tall almost 7 foot it looked like but he is 6'5 and the bluest eyes I ever see brown hair and so gorgeous...
and he said to me where is your extra pounds?? lol  so it worked out good.. and now were seeing each other and he thinks im so hot and that is grreat..  but he wanted to meet someone and he just didnt have a scanner to put a pic on here so Im not complainning, I found a sweet man..  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/26/2005 5:02:43 PM | Hey bosslady,
I've had two experiences meeting men with no pictures on another site. One was absolutely great and it turned into a year long relationship. The other was absolutely the worst experience I have ever had. He told me he had no way of getting a picture of himself but game me the old "you won't be disappointed" line. When he came across the coffee shop I just wanted to crawl in a hole. He had one wee lank of hair left on his head and he twined in around and around, his shirt was open to his belly button and he had all these heavy chains around his neck. He kept grabbing my hand and putting it on his chest and he really did think he was hot stuff. It's not just the superficial stuff that turned me right off ... it was his personality as well... there was not one bit of the man I thought I had been talking to. To make matters worse, he stalked me for 6 months after that. He even emailed me pictures... yes apparantly he did have pictures... from his self taken "erotic collection" I was ready to give up on men and join the nunnery after that experience.
Bottom line... I won't ever meet a man without seeing his picture. I really do need to see a man's eyes to get a feeling. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/26/2005 8:10:54 PM | | Well personally i could never meet anyone without a photo. I mean in order to be in a relationship {i believe},u have to find the other person attractive.. It's not shallow, its just the truth.. I'm only 19, but for some odd reason i find older men, to just interest me more ,than men my age!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/27/2005 8:34:12 AM | Original, that is a great answer and it is such a shame more men don't have your attitude about this. Kudos to your wisdom in seeing beyond the surface!
I am one of those women with no pix posted. It is not because I am not attractive or am a dog, or anything else undesirable!  I simply do not have the digital camera needed to post a pix and am using a public computer until I can purchase my own.
I corresponded with one man who said I had to send a pix to even communicate. This is really shallow and who would want that man anyway? He had already said the distance was further than he wanted to travel..(3 Hrs) which was OK, so I suggested pen pals. That is when he said he would need a pix.... duhhh! How shallow is that?
So, again, good job, Original! Thanks for believing beauty is much more than just surface appearance. And some pixs on here are really scary anyway! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/27/2005 8:56:55 AM | I have, several times and have made a few casual friends out of it. I make a point of chatting a fair bit first, and of course, I stick the "first date" as described in my profile. I think chatting for a while before meeting is a better way to judge if you'll like someone, because being nice to look at doesn't mean you'll be nice to be with.
I'll voice the opposite view of this - I was chatting with this guy who was pretty good looking, and hitting it off pretty well, and it turns out I work a few offices down from the guy and his posted picture is about 12 years old! I also have a friend who met a guy tha tshe was pretty excited about - His posted photo was about 6 years old from when he was body-building competitively. He likely weighs the same, just distributed differently, and let me say he brought along pictures of a pizza and a cake he made to impress her...
The photo is a two edged sword! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/27/2005 2:00:07 PM | | don'tcallme..photos are a two edged sword.. photos can be fuzzy, unclear, too distant to really see the face or know if it is actually the person that is sending messages to you.. When the one I am writing to and interested in started writing to me.. He told me right up front he did not have a scanner to post a photo of himself.. He was honest about that and since I do not judge people by their money or lack of it That was ok with me.. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/28/2005 10:41:32 AM | To fifi47--I wish I had taken that approach. It's the best way to see if someone's interested in you for who you are or just on your looks. You are absolutely right-we can't please everybody, and we shouldn't have to.
Besides, say they're only looking for some perfect, incredibly gorgeous supermodel. Chances are when the looks fade, they move on to something more appealing. Until one day, reality strikes, and they realize they themselves are no longer appealing. What we get for living in a superficial world... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/28/2005 7:40:43 PM | Yes, I did. I was contacted by a woman (years ago, on another site) who did not have a picture posted, though I did. Her profile intrigued me, and we started emails, then phone calls, and met after a couple of weeks. I was quite impressed! We ended up going together for 5 years total, lived together for 3 years. I thought she was the best. Anyhow, she broke up with me after all that time. I didn't see it coming either, so I had no chance to try to fix whatever was wrong. It wasn't any one persons fault, it was just the way she wanted things to be. I did sort of notice a pattern similar to this in all her past relationships but thought this would be different. She also didn't have ANY friends other than relatives, which I thought was strange.
I still like her even though I don't see her, and I only wish the best for her. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/28/2005 8:09:06 PM | I did. "No pics" aren't that big a deal to me because I prefer getting to know them without the misconceptions that can occur once you see their picture.
Great man, good friendship, but unfortunately, he made the mistake of lying about his age because he wanted to meet me so badly. I have a very clearly stated age cut off of 50, and he lied significantly. It wouldn't have mattered so much, except for the fact that well, I'm "mid forties" and experience ALL that comes with "mid forties", if ya know what I mean.;) | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:15:45 PM | I have and she was not really what she said was. She described her body type as "curvy". I didn't expect "curvy" to be paper thin. I knew she wouldn't be skinny but she was just fat. We got along real well and had a good time but she was not what I was looking for, weight wise. A few extra pounds would have been fine but not that many extra. I see now why she didn't want to let me see a picture. I'll just chalk it up as experience and go on.
You never know when you might give someone without a picture a chance and she may be really nice, fun to be with, and pretty, too. I'm still willing to give someone a chance without a picture. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:10:07 PM | | Yes! Once when I was 18... I met up with a guy for a date, we had talked on the phone and the net for about a month. He saw my pics but I never saw his. I didnt know who I was looking for so I had to wait for him to come up to me. We still hit it off well in person and dated a few months, but he was in the military so that complicated things. It was an okay experience...lol. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/29/2005 9:25:50 PM | I have met a few; and they sure were not what I was expecting - hoping - or praying for! They were, however, nice girls, and I still enjoyed some good conversation with them. I can't say they were bad experiences, or overly dissapointing, just nothing there for me!!! I'm sure I will meet a few more that don't have pictures, but I may ask them how they look and tell them what I am (kinda sorta) looking for!! Meeting someone you are not interested in is time consuming, so I would wrather have a better Idea of what they looked like the next time!  | |
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