| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/18/2005 7:13:46 AM | I was writing back and forth and talking to someone with no pic.
I'm not shallow, but this "friendship was going on for several weeks, and still she kept coming up with excuses.
Said she would msil me one.
Never did.
The "Disembodied Voice" thing got tiresome after a while. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/18/2005 7:28:39 AM | | Some of the most Attractive women i have met online have had no pic posted. I met them with out every seeing a pic. Actually women that don't have their pics posted i find are less jaded (I am guessing because they haven't been contacted by every jerk on the planet) If i was a woman on here i would not post a pic and just contact the men you want to meet instead of sifting through and endless pile of mail and IM's | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/18/2005 7:29:58 AM | It probably depends on where you are, but in my smallish city, a lot of women are embarassed that their friends might find that they've been looking online. I've also dated a couple of women who had understandable professional concerns about their employees discovering their online ads.
I've met a number of women without pictures up, and found them all to be about average-looking. No big surprises either way. Personally, I have bad pictures up because I don't want anyone to be disappointed on meeting me -- and I don't want anyone who will give me a hard time about the occasional long lazy cosmetically-challenged weekend. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/18/2005 7:48:26 AM | The picture is a detriment to learning about the other person. It blinds all the other instincts and mental operations. That is why the divorce rate in Hollywood is so high. The people here look at pictures in their mind and set up expectations that are immature and never met.
I am extremely beautiful. I put my picture on the web once and got hundreds of response. Not one of them listened to the real inner me. They were operating from a sense of their imagination about how I would provide them with the "trophy" wife or girl friend. Or how I could complete them by fulfiilling their insecurity about themself when they would be able to be seen with such a beauty.
I find that a chat and some correspondence does wonders for the way we "see" each other. In the old days before television and photos people wrote their love letters absent a visual stimulus. Those letters gave rise to an truly spectacular image that was unrelated to purely physical stimulation. In our mentally challenged society
intellectual challenge and imagination are rare to find in a man or women. We look for caricatures of people in their exterior personnas and lose the "real essence" of the inner person and beauty that resides in the spirit.'
So I don't only have the courage to get in contact with a person without a picture. I prefer it. The picture is a shortcut and detriment to inner chemistry.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/18/2005 8:11:18 AM | | You obviously got lucky, meet a guy with no pic and him turning out to be hot. I would never meet any woman without a pic. The common lie ppl profess about "looks don't count" or "looks aren't important" is a total lie to most of us so let's be honest. I have met up with many women from several dating sites and in 99% of the cases the pics they posted were fake. Either years out of date or not even them at all! A form of entrapment in that they hope that once you meet with them you will fall for them or something? Yes, oh, yes... I would just love to be with a liar....hmmmm. Let's be honest with ourselves and others, then maybe we won't have such a difficult time with our relationships. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/18/2005 8:40:17 AM | | Well, here's my 2 cents worth....I usually only look at/respond to profiles w/pics but a guy w/no pic (not on pof) started e-mailing me and we chatted on im and he was great and funny...we really hit it off, so when he did put on a pic...he was not my usual type(looks-wise) but since I had gotten to know him beforehand--I didn't care --I think he's great! So it just goes to show ya--you can't judge a book by it's cover! LOL! I will definitely respond to profiles w/out pics --after all, I don't want to limit myself! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/18/2005 5:46:27 PM | | brightskies, I understand where you are coming from, and I've heard the same thing from other women. However, I think that by saying repeatedly in your profile that you are "beautiful" and a model, you are undercutting your own efforts. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/19/2005 12:52:08 PM | | i dont have a picture on my page and no-one ever sent me replies to my messages, then i put on a picture and still no-one replied to my mail!!! oh well, i guess i just dont look good on pictures!!! haha!! seems people on here are just interested in the way people look, someone can look good in the flesh but come across really bad on pictures like me and fair to say it has knocked my confidence a bit but i suppose there is more things in life to worry about. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/24/2005 3:50:56 AM | Omega..
Please explain this to me. You say that the women you have met had fake pictures...yet, you say you will not ever consider a profile without a picture.
I don't see the sense in that.
I don't post a picture because I will not accept being judged for how I look. And, I am quite good looking. It is clear that a fake picture is intended to lure you in by playing on the fact that you will judge them by this picture.
You should try to figure out why you think meeting people with fake pictures is a better process. | |
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mogrl
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Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 411 | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/24/2005 2:51:04 PM | | d me scared to click the wrong button on the computer so i had to wait for them to put my pic on the computer so i felt everyone must have their own reasons and yes i did meet some handsome men with no pics in fact i think they were just or more handsome than the ones with pics | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/25/2005 11:51:32 PM | | This was a story that a guy friend told me about upon meeting a girl on the net. She didn't have any pic and a week before they were about to meet, she put up a pic. The pic was HOT! So, he went out of his way to another state to meet her...well, when he knocked on the door, a very large and unattractive girl opened the door...so he was a little scared but the big girl was like, " Oh, you must be so and so...my sister is upstairs getting ready "...he was happy about that and sat in the living room with the big girl, waiting for the " real girl " to come down....half an hour later, he was starting to get worried bc the big girl was asking him so many questions, as if she was the one who wanted to get to know him...finally, he got nervous and goes, " Look, I am going upstairs to get your sister "...the big girl blocked his way and started crying...and bawling and then got on her knees to forgive her. There was no one upstairs getting ready..the big girl, was the girl! My friend got so freaked out and was getting ready to run out of the door and she was still begging and crying, and she even offered to suck his**** He was so freaked out and left...never again did he go on an online dating thing. I think it was scary enough that the girl lied...but she got desperate! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/26/2005 12:50:14 AM | | Well, I usually won't respond to anyone that doesn't have a photo other than to send them a polite thanks, but no thanks. I have responded a few times & ended up on blind dates with women who looked like they had fallen off the ugly wagon & had been run over by it. I realize that beauty is only skin deep, but sometimes you just can't get past ugly.... & these were women that told me that they were attractive... So much for honesty. I did respond to a woman about a year ago who contacted me without a photo. We really hit it off right away & decided to meet after talking for about a month. I was very apprehensive on the way to meet her, but was very pleasantly suprised to find out that she was very attractive & very charming in person. The only drawback was the fact that we lived 3 hours apart & the distance was just too much for both of us. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/26/2005 7:16:43 AM | | It seems to me that all the men/women that look for pics are looking for Bratt Pitts, Catherine Zeta-Jones's or something. Give a guy/girl a shot, and if you dont like him/her, or there are no commonalities between you, then say see ya. We might be catching something great, and just because of our strongheaded ways we may be losing it... | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/29/2005 10:17:30 PM | | I went on a blind date with a man who I hadn't seen in pics, but I liked his personality, though he was a little bit gruff. I decided, what the heck, can't hurt. We met for coffee and when I saw him, I thought I was going to hurt myself! He was drop dead gorgeous. He told me he didn't put up a picture because when he DID have one up, he got tons of email from lots of women that didn't impress him much. Most of his emails consisted of "you're so hot!", which he said did nothing for him because these women were basing their contact solely on his looks. It's a personal choice, I guess, but not seeing the person first wouldn't make me not contact them or meet with them. If I met them and found out that the description they had given me was an out and out lie, I would call them on it. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/31/2005 12:06:43 AM | | When i first got a computer about 10 yrs ago. I loaded aol on my computer and entered a chatroom. The first person talking to me was a guy from chicago. We emailed for about a month then talked on the phone for a month . Then he invited me to visit him in Chicago. I live in NY. I never saw a picture of him and he never saw one of me. I became very close to him from talking to him for hours and trusted him 100 percent. When I got of the plane he was waiting for me and it was love at first sight for both of us. We dated for about 3 years. I think that liking someone from the inside is way more important then looks. He was 6ft 2 and a hung the man of my dreams and i was the girl of his dream so he said. Anyway since I have a child it became hard to see him and things ended . I would definitly meet somoene with or without a picture looks have never been an important thing to me and never will be. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/31/2005 7:09:03 AM |
I once met a girl without a pic on a chat room, but when we met she was a religious freak and wanted to convert me to her thing.... so I say hasta la vista baby....
Dang, must have been my ex-wife!
I did the same thing and I was married to her for 14 years at that point. | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 421 | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/1/2006 11:16:11 AM | I agree with you. I don't respond to those withouts pics, and I don't respond to those that take half naked pics of themselves.
It's not that I'm shallow I just want to see who I'm talking to... I mean there has to be an attraction between 2 people and to be honest looks are important, I Don'twant to be seen with a slobby person that doesn't bathe or take care of them selves... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/3/2006 8:58:06 PM | I met a women who had no picture on her profile.
We talked for weeks, met and finally began dating.
After 5 months of dating I began to see she was a
very hateful person and I broke it off. She was too
negative (hateful) for me to be around.
It wont stop me from meeting people without pictures.
It's just one bad apple... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/6/2006 8:39:39 AM | | I'm only interested in women who don't put up any pictures. And in fact, who don't create profiles at all on any Internet site. If I find that a woman does this, she sinks in my eyes. It's one step away from walking the streets. | |
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