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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/18/2006 4:07:33 PM | As for people that won't talk to people without pictures, It seams shallow and superfisual to me.
No Im the same, I dont respond to profiles without pictures - and Im definitely not superficial
What its about is that I am always wary of people who wont show themselves on a site that is dedicated to dating if they themselves are on there looking to date [ as opposed to people just on here for their friendships and forums] . And I wonder why they wont. My first thoughts is they are already involved, married or whatever - not totally about what they look like
Whether right or wrong, that is the reason I dont respond to no pictures. Each to their own, but I didnt sign up for blind dating
To the OP - good on you and Im glad for you. But I would always be asking myself why they dont put their picture up there is no real reason why he couldnt, pilot or not. Unless he is endorsing somethng about the website his love life should not be in any conflict with his job. I'd be wondering about other reasons why he doesnt put his pic?? otherwise - be cautious but still enjoy yourself but take the time to get to know him a little bit better before getting too excited, too soon.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/5/2006 9:58:37 PM | | Well, many years ago before the computer dating sites....I did meet with two different guys from a newspaper personals section. The first guy and I agreed to meet for a movie, the poor fella was definately "not" what you would call the most handsome guy in the world and he showed up in an old beat up station wagon with his kids who were both snot nosed and looked like they were living in the car. I had dinner with him, but when we went to leave to go to the movie theater, I as nicely as I could bailed and I swore to never do that again. However, a few weeks later I tried it one more time. This time the guy unseen was a real doll...gorgeous college student who took me up to the top of Clingmans dome in TN to look at the stars. I had a great time with him, but never called him back because at that time I had been divorced and had 2 young children and he was a Junior in college with so many things in life going for him. I decided that I shouldn't intervene with his dreams so I let him go. Sometimes I still wander, hmm? What if? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/7/2006 10:17:46 PM | Sure I have gone out on a date without ever seeing a photo of this very pleasant and articulate (over the phone and IM) woman. After showing up at her door to begin our date (dinner), I was very pleased with her appearance and demeanor. After a great night of conversation and getting to know one another, I was more than pleased with my "courage" to go on a date without ever seeing what she looked like.......so after this GREAT date, I would not hesitate to do it again; after all "the biggest risk.....is NOT taking one." And what a well rewarded risk this date was!!!  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/16/2006 8:21:46 PM | | Been there done that one!!! I was chatting with a guy online and on the phone.... he talked so hot and was soooo kind and romantic.... i asked for a pic for over a month ... we never had a chance to meet cause of our scheduals...finally one day he sent me a pic.... I was not happy! Im not a shallow person but i do have certain things I look for. He was just so not attractive and I was a little upset that even though I had asked over and over he never showed me and wasted my time. I know it sounds a touch shallow...its not how I mean it to sound at all! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/16/2006 9:06:04 PM | Yup. I have to admit it's a dice game. Some people are really dishonest about what they look like.
Example: I'm 5'6", 108lbs, curly blonde hair.
What arrives but a five foot woman who ways an easy hundred pounds over the quoted weight. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/16/2006 9:29:29 PM | | I don't post a pic. My preference. I have received photos and seen posted photos of ladies that were 20 or 30 years old. So, what's the point of the photo? If the person is dishonest the photo makes no difference. Don't they think you will notice when you can't recognize them at your place of meeting? You're looking for this "Hot Babe" (so you've been told) and it winds up being a "great-grandmother". The photo thing is somewhat shallow and over-rated. You can't see into the heart. Much better to chat online with someone and see what kind of a feel you get from the conversation. If you don't like it block'em. If you do, you can progress to phone conversation if you feel comfortable. By the time you meet you should have a pretty good idea who you're with. This system has never failed me. I don't rush...I follow my plan. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/16/2006 11:33:54 PM | | First, I can't blame a girl for not posting a pic on here with all of the crap that takes place and crazy stalkers who probably use this site(no offense to those of you who are not crazy stalkers, but I think you know what I mean). Second, I posted my pic because I have confidence in myself. You obviously don't know all of my features or anything but at least you can see that I look like I describe myself in my profile, such as my age, my body type, etc. Besides, I would hate to talk to someone, start to like her, send her a pic and then she suddenly stops talking to me. If you are on this site in hopes of dating, then don't you think you owe other people the same courtesy (i.e. knowing what you look like) that they would get by meeting you in person at a bar or wherever? I don't think that you are required to have a picture up on your profile for everyone to see, but I do think you owe it to someone to send them your pic early in the conversation process, like before you meet in person for the first time. Sure, some may say "but someone can give you a fake picture and you meet them and they are horribly different than the picture looked", but can't you also meet someone who looks good at a bar and after you go on a couple of dates they have the ugliest personality imaginable??? Afterall, you take the risk of facing either extreme by dating, but THAT'S JUST THE POINT! That's why it's a date and not marriage. To those who have horror stories about meeting people with no pic, a fake pic, or whatever else the problem was, I'm pretty sure that the same kinds of horrible dating experiences took place long before online dating came along. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/17/2006 6:11:49 AM | | That was kind of an ugly message no pic does not necessarily mean less than attractive. People can steal your pics and use them for whatever reason they want. That has happened on this site. If you find someone that your interested in meet them at the beginning so that if they are not attractive to you then you won't waste your time. I went out once with a gentleman that I didn't like the way he looked in his pic but thought that he was a nice guy and we could be friends when I saw him would never have recognized him. He was actually more my type than I thought. Turns out the pic was taken of him at work and he was just not photogenic. People post fake pics all of the time. If you want to date a picture buy a magazine. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/17/2006 8:08:14 AM | I don't think it's considered brave to meet someone who doesn't wish there photo to be splayed all over this or other sites.
If the chemistry in correspondence is solid over an exchange of emails and then by phone then I know that there won't be any silent moments during the meeting. I've found that unless I take my time to get to know a woman online for a few months, I will likley meet someone who only has scarce sentense fragments and to contribute to a witty conversation.
Thanks for the attractive photos ... but they don't hold a conversation most of the time.
However, I do admit that I prefer no surprises after a month of emails.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/18/2006 3:04:02 AM |
he talked so hot and was soooo kind and romantic....
He was just so not attractive and I was a little upset that even though I had asked over and over he never showed me and wasted my time.
I'm sorry, I'm a little slow; can someone explain to me how meeting someone "kind and romantic" is a "waste of time"??
So, you met someone that 95% of the women on Earth would sell thier mothers into bondage to find, and he wasn't suitable based on his appearance??
Some people are just destined to die alone and miserable. | |
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