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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/18/2006 10:35:59 AM | | i remember my first meeting from an online experience.... it didnt turn out the way i thought it would have. i did the no pic thing with this girl, but she saw mine. i didnt think much of it at the time. anyways we end up meeting at this mall cause it seems like a comfy setting for people to meet at. this girl didnt give me much of a description other than her friends call her a gina. a gina she was not, and on top of that she was almost 2 times my size. now im not exactly a small person, so needless to say it caught me off guard. in the end, i didnt feel much chemistry between us both, but we still remained friends..... she actually got married not too long ago, so im happy that she was able to find someone. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/18/2006 2:19:36 PM | | Well to be honest, most of the time i don`t answered mails if they don`t have a pic posted, is like when you are chatting and you have a web cam but the other doesnt, it is not fair, anyway if the guy can express himself well it is possible that I will answers him. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/20/2006 10:11:23 AM | I have and it has NEVER worked.
I'm a person who enjoys meeting different types and if the profile is intriguing and the rest seems to fit what I find attractive, then yes, but I ask for a photo up front at that time.
What goes wrong happens this way... almost without fail.
1-- He comes back at me (without photo) in a hostile email -- completely out of left field.
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2--He stalls the request for the photo while getting in his questions and continuing with the emails, using one excuse after another or none at all. Note: I do NOT allow this to continue and usually it ends right there without ever having met.
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3-- He finally sends a photo and it is so dark and grainy I can't make it out.
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4-- He sends the photo and it is absolutely NOTHING at all like he protrayed himself to be and I feel terrible, because I've already emailed with him... but the chemistry/attraction just isn't there-- and I am NOT looking for Mr. Perfect.
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5-- He finally sends photo and it is 20 years old or older.
Waste of time and I finally put on my profile... no photo -- no connection.
Oops. Now and then I'm still tempted, knowing the outcome will remain the same. Such is life in the pond.  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/20/2006 1:20:41 PM | You are pretty shallow if you base a relationship on looks. You miss out on a lot of wonderful people that have a lot to offer. I don't care about the wrapping paper. That comes off very early and you see the true person or someone that you can prop up on a shelf and take to parties. Way too childish for me. How is this for a situation: Say you met Mr. Wonderful and things developed into a long term relationship. Mr. Wonderful has a terrible accident that leaves him disfigured (this could be reversed too so pay attention) Are you going to dump the man you love cause it is hard for you to look at him???? And where did you develope such an attitude that you are Ms. Wonderful.
There is just so much more to a relationship/friendship/buddy/fb/pal/whatever than looking at them. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/20/2006 1:25:36 PM | You are so right on. There is a very old one liner I will probably get booted out of here for saying but No I best keep it to myself. Share it Friday night.
I have met some just unbelievably kind, considerate, intelligent people on POF and I have also met some that are drop dead gorgeous but they were like looking up a girls skirt for a library card. Hellllllloooooooooooooo. Ask them their name and they are stuck for an answer.
Hey I will stick to who cares I want to know the inside. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/20/2006 10:49:45 PM | Well to be honest I usually will talk to them for awhile, but I always wonder why no picture. Are they married or got a girlfriend. But I really would rather talk with someone with a picture. I like seeing who I am talking too. Plus I can tell alot about a guy from his eyes and smile. But I have found that to be a problem too, because sometimes his picture maybe 10yrs old.
I recently did reply to this guy that didn't have a picture. I talked to him awhile and figured that would be it. I just don't like surprises, have had enough of them with guys with pictures. We continued to talk and then I gave him my number and he called. I loved his voice right off and he had a wonderful great sense of humor, so I figured he cannot be that bad, should I take a chance and meet him for a date. Well I did meet him for a date and we went to this club to listen to a band play. I was surprised to find that he was a very nice guy and I really like his company alot, because usually I will not talk long with a guy without a picture. But in this case, he is cute, great sense of humor, sweet, giving different than any guy I have ever met, so to me I feel I have been given a prize that is priceless. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2006 5:23:24 AM | Well , the last person I met on Tuesday had a pic, It was her but looked nothing like her when we met. she actually looked better in person.
I will not give my pic out, because I have no idea who the other person is. Sending me a pic is useless, because I don't care what you look like. People tend to fall in love with the visual 1st than the person.
we had a nice coffee at Timmy's but really didn't get a chance to talk, because too many of her friends kept dropping by.
So I asked her if she would like to meet for dinner the following week, but she said yes meaning no. Because when I sent her a message on here she didn't have enough courage to say she wasn't interested, she just deleted my message. Now thats immature.  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2006 6:44:02 AM | Yes I actually did meet someone without a pic.. but this was many moons ago when I was first dating after my divorce (2001).. People really didnt have scanners, digital cameras etc... The meeting was great and we ended up dating for over a year.. and he met me sight unseen as well.. so I guess you sometimes just need to take that chance... Ya never know.. it might be the perfect fish at the end of the line and if it isn't you can't say you didn't try.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2006 6:59:26 AM | Well, I have and they have been very interesting. Myself, I am a stickler about having nice teeth. I have nice teeth and they have opened many doors for me, but I ask guys about their teeth they like to lie...."Oh I have a gap" or I have all my teeth, and when I meet them they are missing about half of them or they are just so spaced that the look like a Jack-O-Lantern.
The bad thing is they have pics and I didnt, for a while and they didnt smile in them so how can you tell?
I am so glad that you were able to find someone that fit you. Hopefully I will be that lucky.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2006 7:21:29 AM | Yes I've met someone with no pic. He was really attractive but there was no chemistry.. We had talked on the phone several times and the initial get-to-know you went well. But when we started seeing more of each other, the same conversations repeated themselves. (He was a bit self-centred, I guess).
Then I've met other people who either looked way better or way worse than their pic. And I haven't had any disastrous meetings. But I would have alot of other contact first before meeting with someone with no pic.
And then you go by the description - height, weight, hair & eye colour, etc.
It's like the lottery - you can do instant pick or play the same numbers all the time. If you have't had success in the past it's worth meeting someone that's outside of what you've thought you wanted in the past.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2006 7:25:58 AM | | I don't think I would meet someone without a picture but would defiantly talk to them. I have also learned from past experiences (not from this site but another) that a picture doesn't mean that is what that person will actually look like but at least I have an idea. I have met guys who had a really nice picture up but when I met them they either looked nothing like the picture or they had gained quite a bit of weight since it had been taken. I don't think that I am a shallow person but there has to be some type of an attraction. I think having a picture up (a current pic) is part of being honest and wouldn't you want to meet someone that is attracted to you from the start then meeting that person and never hearing from them and getting disappointed?! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2006 10:55:32 AM | | Yes they can by downloading, one woman i met for a couple of times had their pic downloaded and placed on Yahoo as a couple. She complained to Yahoo and they wouldn't do anything, because, she had to prove it was her, even though her pic had been up a year earlier on Yahoo. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/21/2006 11:14:30 AM | | I have only met one person without a picture, but it was not from this site. He was alright looking. It just didn't work out, it had nothing to do with looks. But we did go out quite a few times before we stopped communicating. I don't have a problem with meeting someone without a picture, I don't have one myself, so it's only fair. I would need to talk to them on the phone before I meet them though. I am big on voices, I can usually get a good sense of a person by talking to them. As long as we meet in public in the day or a well lighted area, I'm cool...I'll just have the police on speed dial, just in case,lol. | |
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