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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 5/30/2006 11:44:31 AM | | I disagree their are good reasons for not having a pic up like a crazy ex who might find you. I had a crazy ex thank god she is way gone, but I would fear this person if she came back in my life and this person does abuse counselling. So she knows how to destroy a persons mind and I will nwever trust anyone who does counselling again with any sort of degree in the field of social work or pschiatry ect... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 5/30/2006 12:01:52 PM | | I think I am pretty truthful in my profile, no I am not a 6 ft willowy blond but a short BBW redhead! If someone wants to talk to me and get to know me as a person sure I will send a picture. I am the same way about people I am interested in. It is their thoughts and ideas that interest me and if they don't have a picture in their profile maybe they will share one when they are comfortable doing so. Show me yours and I will show you mine! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/1/2006 2:18:38 PM | | I have met someone on this site with a picture, and I have to say the picture that he had posted was nothing at all what he looked like in person, pictures can be deceiving not everyone can take a good picture. He was much more handsome in person and I told him he needed to change his picture to show his really handsome looks. Although we have more in common as just friends, he was still quite handsome. I can understand why people do not put their pictures on the site, it can weed out shallow people but it can also discourage woman who need to see who they are talking too or perhaps not talk to them at all. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/2/2006 10:47:28 PM | | Yes, sometimes pleasantly surprised and sometimes not. But that's o.k. because I've found that most guys that want your picture are superficial and not that interesting anyway. Also, I think like me, some of us come from little red neck towns where we've lived forever and want to be anyonomous to some degree. The picture I chose evokes some great conversations, sometimes pleasant & sometimes not. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 3:14:08 AM | Lots of controversy on this subject. LOL
I met a gentleman through the personals and had a 10-year relationship with him. This was before online dating became popular and it was a time consuming project. I met the love of my love (number #187) shortly after concluding that I had been lucky enough to make a couple of friends but alas I would not meet my soul mate here. We had been chatting for over a month and want I really liked about him was that he made me laugh before I even met him. He always brought a smile to my face.
We did not have the benefit of photographs to visuallly assist and had to only go on the appeal of a written ad and then how they represented themselves on the phone. I kept careful notes on all of them (no cutting and pasting of phone messages) and I do believe it is possible. I also vividly recall how many people I met that were nothing like how they described themselves.
I am not shallow but I don't have anything to hide and although I don't like getting my picture taken - I don't place a lot of emphasis on a photo either. I do have to be mentally attracted to the presentation of their profile. It is all about presentation and then being intelligent enough to carry on a phone conversation. I get a lot of mail and most of it isn't worth responding to and obviously don't expect to be taken seriously. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:43:24 AM | The thing for me about wanting a picture, I have mine up..I hate my picture taken, I often think..oh gosh is that what I look like...
by accident this one was taken on a cell phone and I like, so I have it up...I feel if I can, then why can't you? What are you hiding? I ask for recent picture. I have met a few men and they didn't look like their picture..not even sure if one of them was them..I left...if a person can't be honest enough and say when and if that is them, why would I even want to begin...
Sure, I am looking for someone I am attracted too, why wouldn't I..Has not a thing to do with being shallow, has to do with what I want...this is about me and what I seek..why is that so hard to understand??? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 5:02:37 AM | I f you always go by the visual you might miss out on some one who is great person on the inside and treat you the way you should be. The people I have met with out a photo tend to look at the personality of the person instead of just the visual. The inside of a person is more important than the looks. Every one says Andlie Jolie is Hot, I don't see it but I would still go out with her for coffee to find what she's like on the inside. Whoopi Goldberg I find sexy because of her Humour. When we start looking on the inside of a person is when we will find our soul mate and not before. If you go by the visual just expexct a short term boring sexual relationship. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 6:34:21 AM | Nope...not from online. Years ago I did agree to go on a few blind dates set up by well-intentioned friends/family, all of which turned out to be less than pleasant experiences.  It's funny how your friends' idea of who you will like differs greatly from your own....LOL
As far as the online thing goes, I don't feel comfortable if I can't identify who I am meeting--like the real world, the internet can be a scary place! It's not difficult to upload a pic on a computer these days. If someone does not wish to post one on their profile they can always send it by email once they start chatting with someone. It's not for being shallow as I do respond to profiles with no pic if I like what I read, and I will chat with guys with no pic, however we will only be online friends if I don't get to see them. In the end no matter how well the conversation goes, and how nice the person is, there still has to be a mutual attraction to seal the deal. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:25:47 AM | | Well as for mutual atrraction you may not like what they look like at 1st, but if you start out as friends and attraction can grow, because chemistry can develop. I've had femal freinds that I did not find attractive at 1st, but became attracted to them later because their personalities won me over and as for females I was attracted to at 1st by visual I've seen them turn into disgusting vile people. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:54:01 AM | | I have met one guy with no pic. I'm not sure why I did it with this one guy but I did. I have to admit I did check him out first so I did know what he looked like. I still do not understand why he won't send a pic but he says that it is about work. I can understand that but if you are going to meet someone in person they will know what you look like so why not send a photo but be a little more careful about who you send it to. Things are going well. I guess you just have to take a chance sometimes. Sometimes it will work out and sometimes it won't. It has been my experience that people who won't send a photo are usually not that great looking. I don't think that I guy has to be drop dead handsome but there has to be some attraction there. Even if the guy is ok looking as long as he is a nice guy I still go out with him. If nothing comes of it you either had a good time out or you have met a new friend and sometimes both. Or you want to run away as fast as you can. To sum this up I did meet someone without a pic and it turned out to be great. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 7:58:34 AM | | Yes, about 8 or 9 months ago I met a woman on here that messaged me without a pic, I was a little sceptical because like most people I figure theres usually a reason that u dont post a pic, i mean in todays world if u dont have a digital camera, im sure u at least know someone that does,anyway I did give her my number and we had really good conversation and since we lived close to each other(about 20 mins) she sugested that she come over,and it turned out that she was attractive,not stunningly so, nice figure and that deep down beauty some of u women have that makes u beautiful without make-up,which she was not wearing and didnt need.She said she just didnt want people to email her just because of the picture,she wanted guys to actually read her profile(I guess some of you dogs out there just see a pretty pic and dont even bother to read what she wrote),so I changed my mind about the picture thing, it dosent nessasarily mean that they are bad looking.. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:26:04 AM | I met two women without seeing their photo first. Both were exactly as they described themselves - rather attractive. I was not disappointed at all. I generally will only initiate a correspondence with a women who does not have a photo as I love the mystery of not knowing what they look like. Also, I figure the ladies with the really attractive photos receive enough mail so who needs all the competition (although I have written to a few of those too if their profile is intriguing enough).
I do, however insist on sending my photo to them (I have other, clearer pictures than the one on my profile) as I figure it is far more likely that on a first meeting they will find me less appealing (looks-wise - is that a word?) than viceversa. I would rather be eliminated sooner rather than later. And no I don't think it is shallow if a women insist on seeing a photo right up front. She is looking for someone she is attracted to. The whole point is to winnow down the contenders and find the one that is write for you - and looks often play a big part in that. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 8:26:53 AM | I recently, like, yesterday, met a girl that didn't have a picture. This was a first for me. I've met three other girls, before this girl, that all had pictures...they looked nothing like their pictures..the one girl was close, but the other two, man, talk about OUCH! So, I decided to take a chance on a blind date, since, basically, this was what it was.
I wasn't disappointed. She looked exactly like she described herself. Very beautiful girl. So, I decided that maybe blind dates are a bit better..as long as they have a description and a good excuse not to post a picture. And, it means a lot less competition. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/3/2006 10:52:50 PM | I did, met this guy online who i became very drawn to very quickly, not from pof though. He was so nice, respectful and patient considering how shy i am and he kept talking to me till i felt i was ready to meet and he insisted on doing it ocmpletely blind which made me wanna have a heart attack, but although i was terribly nervous it turned out fine, he was indeed a very nice guy and all that i had noticed from online was true, although due to past coming back to haunt him, he started having problems and kinda gave up on things, feeling confused and not knowing what we wanted.........talk about disappointing! But at least it was a friend gained!! Still think hes a wonderful person no matter what!
Then chattin to this real nice cowboy buti have seen a pic of him, spose to meet him today and got nervous and coulnd't approach him and then he calls and the cell doesn't ring......talk about upset when i realized it, i could have been down where he was gettin to know him and instead i was keepin an eye on him from a distance........lol you know who you are if your reading this "wrangler ass".......lol
Well thats my take on this
I think chattin online without a pic gives you the opportunity to get to know them by their personality which is what should truly count the most, but then after getting to know each other that way it is always so nice to put a face to the name. sometimes its a change we have to take, cuz we never know when the "love of our life" is right around the corner!!!!!
Happy Fishing Everyone!!!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/4/2006 2:01:55 AM | I did once and it went horribly, horribly bad. And the worst part was it wasn't his fault, I just didn't realize that his height/weight were going to = really, really, really, really, really fat. And then I felt like a shallow horrible human being for not wanting to date him.
On the flipside though I don't have a picture on my profile because wouldn't it be awkward if like your 7th grade math teacher, who just got a divorce saw your picture with your profile outlining how you don't want to date a guy who didn't have the old "snip snip" done at birth? And then what if she told your mother....UGH!
I also despise taking pictures, and I think that some pictures aren't very representative of what i look like in person (or I sure HOPE they aren't). I do have pics that i will show to a person (once I'm convinced I've never ever had them as a teacher and that they don't know my mother).
I think the profiles that are the creepiest aren't the ones without the pictures, but the ones where guys have cut and pasted pictures from gay male magazines (ie, the pictures of the guys who have no chest hair 20 inch biceps and are either rolling around in bed or wrapped around a surfboard) or GQ or Mens Fitness and not only insist that this picture is actually them, but in addition they are Chief of Medicine at Cedars Siani, founder of the local boys and girls club in their area, graduated first in their class at Harvard Law (no Stanford for THESE guys) and in their spare time they rescue small animals.
I know these guys aren't real, but how creepy must they be to have to go so overboard to lie? What do they do to the poor girls that actually fall for their profile? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/4/2006 4:40:16 AM | Hi Bosslady,
First of all let me say great name - I love saying it.
Ideally I want to meet a woman at least 10 years my senior but they don't seem to like being approached by younger men in England.
However, a woman with no pic messaged me a few days ago.
We have exchanged messages each day and her personality is coming through.
We have things in common and are getting on fine already.
The astrology side looks promising - Linda Goodman's 'Love Signs' is always worth consulting.
We are meeting soon in a public place and I am really looking forward to it.
Message me if you want to be an online friend and/or want to find out how things went.
I think some people are merely nervous because they may not have dated for a long time or suffered poor relationships that make them feel small. Most of us have been there. Some of these people just need a bit of love and we all deserve that. It costs nothing to be polite. It is just so sad that the weirdos out there require us to be on guard. Is it there bad experiences at the hands of others that makes them turn. There is a lot of selfishness and greed in the world and someone has to be on the receiving end of all this. So if we want less weirdos we aught to be behaving better to each other. If you don't like someone there is no need to be nasty about it as this is socially counter productive. In my town there are a lot of people with negative expressions and attitudes. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/5/2006 3:57:11 PM | Pics or no pics - It's a crap-shoot either way 
A pic may give you SOME idea of the person you're approaching but one never knows until you meet?
I've had a few good experiences where have been pleasantly surprised when meeting someone but MANY experiences where I was shocked to see that a person would lie about themselves? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/5/2006 4:26:15 PM | | I did a few years ago on another site. Men HAVE to see pictures, but he didn't have one yet. He was funny, and he said I'd drool when I met him and the waiters would have to clean it up. He was right. We fell madly for each other...but, he decided to take a job on the west coast, it was too soon for us......I still love him insanely, but he refuses to tie me down, he has been married before, and will never marry again, so, broken heart here. But, I'm with you. | |
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