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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/16/2006 11:47:39 PM | Now, this is not recommended by any means. ****kids don't try this at home****
I met someone online without a pic.... we talked briefly online, didn't even mention pics...neither of us. I didn't hear any warning bells. We met 3 months ago, and we still see each other almost every day. If we don't see each other, we talk. I think the world of him, care about him and am falling more and more every day for him. Now, I can't tell exactly what he feels, so the jury is still out on that one. In my eyes, he's the most beautiful person I know. Never trust what you see on the outside completely.......
The moral of the story, trust your gut. I did, and for now, I am blissfully happy.
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| Hideous dates...
Posted: 6/17/2006 3:02:38 AM | ohohoh Yes..
A friend of mine met someone online and agreed to a date after chatting for a week or two (no photo of him in the offing). . .
She didn't demand one, not wanting to sound too shallow, and asserting that she wasn't fussy about looks anyway (it's true that her previous boyfriends have been more about personality than persona)
However when she met him.. . Let's just say that he was pretty close to Elephant Man in attraction.
She did the decent thing and spent the day with him, but we've learnt since then, that pictures really oughta be viewed before meeting. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/17/2006 5:07:30 PM | I see that cynicism is alive an well on the POF Forum!
The problem, of course, is that there are so MANY elements that have to click that writing a message, or posting a pic simply aren't enough.
I've sent many messages, with and without pic. I've responded to profiles with no pic, if what the gentleman in question had something to say that appealed to me, and I've rejected messages from men with good looking pics who had nothing in their profiles/messages that clicked for me - we're all different and have our preferences for sure.
Finding 'the one' is not such an easy job. You have to weed through all of it here with an open mind and a good understanding of who you are and what you will/will not be comfortable with in a potential partner. I agree that we're "not here to make friends", but a lover who isn't a friend is not what I'm looking for either, since that would never last.
C'est très compliqué et, parfois, découragent. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/17/2006 5:30:51 PM | all the men i have dated in the last 4 yrs.. do not have pictures.. why.. i do not take a man on his looks.. i have dated men who look like peewee hurman and mr. been.. i have dated men who look skinner then crist on his death bed.. and baby i mean skinny.. i have meet men who were 287lbs.. i have meet men who are 5'6" and i am 5'8"..
I do not date men with pictures.. only once have i and well.. he looked nothing like his pictures.. they do lie.. his picter was 3 yrs old.. and well he had gained weight and he had aged and he well had changed.
Me i do weekly pictures.. i love the digital camra..
other then this.. it dose not matter if thy have the picture or not most of them dont know how to use a computer or how to down load.. lol | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/17/2006 5:45:41 PM | I'm not going to read the whole 29 pages, so if someone has already pointed this out, I apologize. One of the first things my friend, a male, and a certified, card-carrying player told me, is not to get involved with anyone who doesn't have a pic posted. "And why is that?", I asked. "Can't they just send me a pic?" This was his reasoning; The guy is either married or involved in a relationship and doesn't want his partner to find out. He is a player, and without a pic, he can be on lots of sites, or just change his nick when things get too hot. He thinks he's great looking, and is so conceited, he believes women will swarm him. And the last is that he is lying about something, so why even get started with someone like that?
Perhaps I have missed out on some great guys, but so far, no bad experiences either. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/17/2006 11:39:26 PM | | This is my outlook, same as last about reading all the pages. If you dont want to put forth effort to put a pic on here you arent interested in meeting me. In the same respect, I put a pic on here for the simple fact if someone has something against the way I look I dont wanna waste my time with them. Im a straight up person, very comical, and easy to get along with unless you make me really mad. To sum it up, my advice is to put your picture on there and be honest about your appearance and overall situation......make the world a better place with honesty | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/20/2006 12:36:03 PM | yikes! No...never would i meet someone without MORE THAN ONE pic..although alot of people look better in person than in their pics...and alot look better in their pics than in person! LOL
I had a very good experience awhile back (not from this site) when i met someone who's pic was 'so so' but his personality was cool.. i took a chance, and ended up dating him for a long time..so as they say "you never know"! (he was better looking in person too)
In life, we must take some chances, without them, we may be missing out on alot!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/20/2006 6:03:51 PM | | I have to agree about the Pilot scenario. I'm in the Military and the specific nature of my job precludes me from blatantly throwing my face out there on such sites. However, in my profile I stated that and also have no earthly problem with sending a picture to someone after we've chatted for a bit. If you're here on this website, for some reason my opinion leads me to beleive that you may be out there for something other than just looks. Don't get me wrong I believe physical attraction is an important factor, however it shouldn't be the sole basis of a decision on the relationship. I'm not condoning those who would lie about their appearances, and I'm not condeming those who have been burned in the past I'm just saying that if you're a career oriented individual, and wish to maintain a professional image in a job that brings you into contact with a vast majority of people than I think that's a pretty valid excuse. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/20/2006 6:04:43 PM | I don't like it when people make a momentary split second decision on looks and they rule out any possibility of getting to know someone just because of something trivial in regards to their physical appearance. I know multidudes of people of BOTH genders have been continiously hurt and put down over something they didn't deserve to be put down over, they then also feel like crap or like there is something wrong with them when there isn't.
See folks this is NOT whining but merely telling you the truth as clear and nicely as i can.
Op, YES i would be willing to meet someone even without a pic, but I would have to get to know them over the phone atleast so I have a general idea of what they are about and like. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/20/2006 11:22:28 PM | If you dont want to put forth effort to put a pic on here you arent interested in meeting me.
Very true. Your statement presupposes that those of us without photos would want to meet someone like you, which is not the case. You've admitttedly neglected to read through this entire thread, so you've obviously missed myriad valid reasons for not posting a picture (including my own), and I won't bother to repeat them here.
I'll just say this: almost every time one of these picture/no picture threads shows up, it's posted to by at least one (I repeat: at least) one man that I've met from here, who has been pleasantly surprised by his experience meeting someone with no picture posted.
Most of us know from experience that appearance means nothing; attractive people can be pure nastiness, less-attractive people can be the most personable, incredible human beings, and pictures aren't always accurate, anyway. I look for something beyond the shallowness of appearance; I look at character. I resent being judged for wanting to find someone who does the same. Those who refuse to mail someone without a picture merely serve to make my job easier by weeding themselves out for me. And a great big, "Thanks!" for that! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/21/2006 4:48:32 AM | I like to say pysical attraction is unimportant to a relationship, my 2nd GF was not attracted to me at 1st. We were friends 1st and were their for one another. We were friends 1st and grew together and fell in love. Falling in love hurt us more because we were young and she wanted her carreer 1st. I understood because we Sat down and talk to each other. It was the best two years of my life and having her in my life for over 5 years was even greater. She was hot I was not. Friendship can out grow the pysical attraction. Looks and physical attraction fades. Physical attraction marriages tend to fail because its not based on love. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/23/2006 6:05:12 AM | "...I'll just say this: almost every time one of these picture/no picture threads shows up, it's posted to by at least one (I repeat: at least) one man that I've met from here, who has been pleasantly surprised by his experience meeting someone with no picture posted."
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. I was very pleasantly surprised when I met my "no-pic" lady! We had IM'd and emailed for a while, and I was very interested in her as a person. Then we met, and my "interest" grew. Everytime I see her, which is a lot (but never enough), I am glad that I didn't require a picture to get to know this wonderful woman! Btw... It is not bravery, it's maturity. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 6/24/2006 4:56:48 PM | | I had never met anyone from online before. I decided to take a chance for dinner at a resturant. I didnt give communication much time, and i knew it at the time, but I figured "WhyNot", being I didnt want to judge him on what he looked like and he seemed to be sweet and have the same interest I had. He was not my type a all concerning looks,(to countryfied) but still, I was going to give it a chance.I knew his wife had died, but while still trying to get past his looks, he informed me she had only been dead less than 2 weeks. He explained how he knew how it looked but he did his grieving while she was sick.I still tried giving him a chance.So now, I was trying to get past his looks and his late wife. Then he informed me he had her creamated and sprinkled her ashes around his back yard. This was too much so I thanked him for the dinner and went home. The next day, I received an e-mail from him telling me he wanted to see me again. I told him that he seemed nice but I didnt feel serious about him and never e-mailed him again. I have learned my lesson well.I may meet someone without a pic, but I will get to know them better online before I meet them. | |
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| I too have met guys without photos ??
Posted: 6/24/2006 8:41:08 PM | I took have met guys without photos and it can be good/ and or bad .....
One guy - was very good looking and I was completly surprised I was expecting to meet some over weight/ not the age they stated person and was completely surprised...
Others told me they were slim/trim into sports and unless lifting YOUR 24 over your shoulders to get it into the car counts... they were overweight and I would not have even noticed them. Let alone the guy whom told me he was early 40's and turned out to be early 60's
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| I too have met guys without photos ??
Posted: 6/25/2006 2:45:40 PM | i have met with out picture...that was terrible...i had night marres after that for a long time. And i have met person who put somebodies picture up....i think it is just not smart of them and scary for us | |
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| I too have met guys without photos ??
Posted: 6/25/2006 3:29:12 PM | | I know this sounds wierd, but I won't post a picture because I had some teenybopper STEAL my pic one time and use it for his own, for the life of me I can't figure that one out. BUT here at POF you CAN attach a picture of yourself in the email you send, or respond to. I've met a few ladies before who didn't have a pic and have been surprised, both good and also not so good and a couple were exactly as I had visualized them. | |
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