| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/11/2006 6:33:51 AM | people are paranoid and by the responses from this thread obsessed with looks.
as far as the people who say 'i just like to know who i'm talking to', who the fawk cares? like come on its the internet not real life. chances are 99 percent of the people u talk to online will never have to guts to talk to u in person, so why care what they look like? i don't understand whats with all the interest in how a stranger looks. i talk to anyone because they are a person ( and as humans we should just treat others with respect, its not rocket science geez), i don't talk to people because of how they look but its really pathetic that the majority of this site does. are we not complex creative thinkers who care about substance not nice packaging?
sadly i think the answer for most of you is no. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/11/2006 8:19:02 AM | I just think without a picture you are either going by someone's biased opinion of themselves, or you are dealing with a completely wrong description. Again, I guess people who are looking to find someone could meet people without pictures, but in this day and age there's just no need for it. There is a chance the person on the other end is just what you're looking for, but it's just a very small chance.
If you are looking to make just friends or hang out with no romantic intentions, then looks don't matter. But personally I just don't like blind dates.
To each his own...if you are ok with it fine, and if you aren't, that's fine too.
And P.S....if I was going to meet anyone pic or no pic that said they were hot, sexy, beautiful, etc. I would just cancel the date. Who says that? I can't stand that kind of sales pitch. It's not up to you to tell someone that, it's up to each person you meet to decide that. It's either extreme ego or insecurity that brings on that crap, and it's real unattractive.
Take me for instance....I may be attractive to some, I may be crap to others. Some look and some walk right past me. That's life and none of us are so good looking that it's not up for debate. Pfffft. Get over yourselves and try some humility. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/11/2006 8:37:13 AM | | I have met with people with and without. I don't have a pic but nobody has run away screaming when we meet. I am honest about how I look. I do however, think it is a little shallow not to talk to somebody without a picture. Who says the pics that are posted are for real anyway? And honestly, isn't what the person is like the most important? Of course everyone wants a good looking person, but let's face it, looks fade. | |
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| I don't have any problem meeting someone without seeing a picture.
Posted: 7/11/2006 11:57:06 AM | I don't have any problem meeting someone without seeing a picture.
The fact that they are capable of meeting and keeping a simple appointment means a lot compaired to the zillions who are just internet only and keep putting meeting off forever...
Someone could have the best pictures ever, but if they are local and not capable of meeting, then it's not all that exciting after while... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/13/2006 11:15:01 PM | | i wouldnt meet a guy without a pic.. in this day and age its so easy to get one online...something about it screams married to me...or discreet relationship...or unattractive...I am not shallow but i like to know what i am getting into | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/14/2006 3:20:16 AM | I don't have a pic up for other reasons, ie, a particular person who wants to continue 'pursuing' me long after most normal people with any self-esteem would have said "I guess no really means no". I had to change names to escape. Doesn't mean I don't have one up to email and wouldn't gladly send it to someone if they want it.
I dont' think I'd *meet* someone, in person, without seeing a pic first, though. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/14/2006 9:32:26 AM | The best meets I have had from POF where without picture exchanges. If we hit it off talking I figure the worst that will happen is we share a good conversation. If all you want is sex then get several pictures and make the desicion to go forward based on that. When I was younger I had all kinds of ideas about what attracted me.....slim, fat, tall, short, dark hair or blonde..... I learned that enjoying a conversation led me to find some people very attractive that I wouldn't have given a chance to before. I have made some wonderful friends and some great memories. I also learned pictures can be very misleading and therefore disappointing. Surprise me!
I also wonder about how comfortable people would be if their clients/co workers or neighbours had access to you and could get personal information on you without your knowledge? A friend from here made the point to one of his employees one night when he messaged her and told how much he liked the red dress she wore to work that day.....needless to say she really freaked when he used her name.....he told her who he was and then asked her to rethink posting her picture. Safety is never stupid ladies. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:30:42 PM | I just had to chime in on this thread.
When I first started dating again, I got an email from a gal. The photo in her profile was really quite nice, very "girl next door" type and she looked much younger then her age. We emailed for a week, then phone calls for a week. I finally agreed to meet her (yes, she asked me). I walked-in to the restaurant, expecting to see something at least close to the photo. After I walked through the entire place, and didn't see her, I figured I got stood-up. As I was starting to walk towards the door, this gal comes up to me and says "xxxx?" (I'm thinking WTH?) To make a long story short, she used a photo of her daughter!
Another time and without going in the particulars, a lady had used a photo that had been re-touched. When I realized the lady sitting there was who I was supposed to meet, I was embarrassed beyond belief, turned and walked out.
Admittedly, two out of the 10-15 ladies I've met isn't bad, but from then on, I always meet "out in the parking lot". If a person can't be truthful, why should I be concerned about their feelings?
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/17/2006 7:54:30 AM | If you ever been on a chat line you don't see their pic. I met my best female friend off a chat line with out a pic and we have been friends for 10 years. We got to know each other before we met and came to love each other as friends after. A lot of people make prejudgements on people on how they look and miss out on some one who can be great wonderful person in their life. The people who to me who say no talk no pic, are losing out on a great number of indivuals who could make thier life better. I know the people with out pics are less shallow. And I would say at least 25% of pics are incorrect. I have seen pics of actors and actresses and WWE stars saying that they r them. I had to send a letter to one WWE star who I know personally how she was being misrepresented, to her home.
I do have a pic but don't post it because it isn't a good picture of me. And if some one is going to judge me on my pic I know that person would not make good friend for me or anyone. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/17/2006 8:10:53 AM | There are several reasons not to have a pic, here are mine, and I get LOTS of people talking to and wanting to meet me. I work with criminal teens, what if one of them sees my pick and uses it for bad purposes? I know a woman this happened to at work, it was awful. What if a woman is really pretty but doesn't want 800 letters because of that, with no thought to other things about her? What if a woman doesn't want the whole city to know she is shopping for men online? The whole anonymity thing pretty much goes out the window there, might as well put your real name and address too! What if my computer is a piece of crap that barely works some days and can't do pics! Many reasons, and the men who still talk to me have some courage, ones who won't are no loss to me, chickenshits. Have fun fishing!
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/17/2006 8:40:03 AM |
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
I recently emailed a lady from POF that didn't have a pic and in her 1st reply, told me that she'd be in the mall that day and to come meet her, she added her cell # so I called it and said I'd be there within the hour. I parked my car by the food court where she said she was, as I was walkin' up to the mall I called her, she described what I was wearin' and I said ya have one last chance to run away now, she stayed and waved as I entered the door, we had a nice chat for about an hour and we parted friends.. She is just a friend now and I wasn't romantically inclined towards her but she IS very nice to look at..
I don't post my pic online in a datin', relationship site because it seems to "get legs" and show up elsewhere online.. I do use the "Photobucket.com" website where all my pics are stored, and all I have to do is send the link and JUST the pic shows up on your screen, not the website itself, thus no Spam from any sites..
I don't really care what ya look like anyway, Like everyone else says. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.." and "Beauty is only skin deep... Fugly is too the BONE.." Glamour shots of anyone can be had at Wal-Mart for $6.95 But, they don't show the TRUE YOU at all.. Post a pic of what cha look like when ya 1st get up in the morning and it will be a true-to-life-picture of who and what you really look like.. I'd rather get to know the REAL person INSIDE before lookin' at the superficial OUTSIDE anyway.. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/20/2006 3:55:23 PM | I met up with a guy who didn't not post a pic on his profile. he described his looks to me and as I am not here to judge I went ahead and met him. He was actually better looking than he described, I guess we sell oourselves short sometimes.
We ended up in a relationship for the next 6 months before he decided that he wasn't really ready for it after all. His looks were fine but he lacks in diplomacy. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/20/2006 6:37:14 PM | For me personally, I wouldn't meet someone from online without seeing a few pics. I mean
it's hard enough for ppl to look like their pics when I finally do meet them, why would I want to roll the dice. I don't mean to sound shallow but what would u women do if the guy u met looked like steve urkel with the pants up to the ribcage and taped coke glasses???Is that someone u would want to be seen in public with.
I'm not so sure I'd equate meeting someone without seeing their pics as being "brave". If u think doing this is some kind of adventure then by all means go 4 it. I just equate it with being "foolish" and will more then likely being a waste of time. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/20/2006 10:38:02 PM | Hi Spiderwoman:
If I might throw my two cents in on the issue of no picture.I am in a strange situation that I'm sure a lot of people are in.I had a picture that I scanned in and saved but it was a picture of me but it was not a close up.My scanner died and this is the only picture I have and it won't work when I try to post it on most sites.
So until I get a new scanner I have no picture to post unless I email or snailmail it.Also,might I mention the fact that women usually accuse men of being shallow because of looks and it seems as though looks are the first thing in your book.I'm not saying that looks are not important but this is just a date,what if this person who does not have a picture is in my shoes and can't send you a close up of themselves? Do you automatically disqualify this person?? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/20/2006 11:04:17 PM | I have met several women form other sites without seeing a pic. I don't see anything wrong with it.Those women turned out to be nice, and I have become good friends with one of them. On other occasions, I have had pics e-mailed to me prior to meeting.
I have never had the "That picture was really my younger prettier sister" experience either.
The 2 most notable observations are that several of the more attrctive women seem to have next to nothing written in thier profiles, or they demand that pics must be supplied by whomeever is contacting them. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/21/2006 6:56:30 PM | | I have and had mixed experiences. One had a great picture (years ago) and equally great communication skills, but he looked totally different when we met. Another had no picture at all, but liked his profile and communication exchange so we met. Looks count initially but in the end it's how you think and feel whether you'll be able to maintain your interest with each other and sustain the relationship in the long run. | |
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