| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/21/2006 9:34:37 PM | Women who are not willing to at least ask a guy to show a picture, are shallow. You immediately ignore a guy only because he doesn't show his picture! Yet.. he's willing to show it to you!
Possibly the reason is that he wants you to check him out instead of seeing his pic and immediately making a judgment purely on looks!
Since there seems to be a lot of women on here that will decide yes or no strictly on a picture without even seeing if the guy has personality too!
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jeep05
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Joined: 7/16/2006
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:19:31 PM | Well, for what its worth... I have sat by people who look through photos and laugh. There is something funny or wrong or crooked or...well you get the idea. Some of us actually dont want to be "public" because of who we are in the community. Not that we are from the secret service, but you just dont want everyone to know your face? I hope that makes it a bit better. Trust me, I am a good looking guy who has had dates and no one has ever told me my looks are a problem. In fact, most women tell me looks are only kind of important. (I'll never understand that one). So, if you like what you read next time, give it a try. You may be passing by someone who is yours??
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:24:07 PM |
Since there seems to be a lot of women on here that will decide yes or no strictly on a picture without even seeing if the guy has personality too!
shallow indeed.
lol.
so what if you talked/emailed with a woman for a couple of weeks, became totally smitten & then she sent you a picture & she had 14 facial piercings & full sleeves?
wouldn't you feel like you wasted your time?
it's not shallow to want to see if there is any physical attraction BEFORE you invest a bunch of time. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/22/2006 6:00:07 AM | | Yes it is shallow and I'm sure the woman with the piercings would have mentioned it in a conversation. Looks fade personality doesn't. I skip the people who demand photos because they are the type of person who can't look on the inside Rollergirl. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/22/2006 6:28:24 AM | Yes, my very first dating site date. It turned out that he was not bad looking and he was soooo nice. The problem I had would not have shown in his picture had there been one. I entered the restaurant just a few minutes after him and he was using a walker. A lot of you are going to think I am an awful person but it was such a terrible shock. I had been married to a man for many years who had multiple health problems and he had been gone for three years before I even thought about dating. To walk into a situation like that was so disappointing. We email every few months and get together for an occasional meal.
I still think a picture is very important. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/22/2006 6:39:48 AM | Look people this is not an argument thread. No one's right or wrong here.
If you like pictures, there's nothing wrong with that, and it doesn't make you shallow. It makes you thorough...people can look on the inside for days, but you have to like what you see. If someone is meeting a person for a date, the attraction has to be there, and they have to know who the hell they are looking for in a public setting. Some are trying to actually find someone they are attracted to, and in life - well sorry, but you meet people face to face before you know anything else about them. It's a habit to want that, and it's justified.
Personally, I think the people who gripe about people who want pictures are either insecure about their looks or trying to gain ground because they have no means to get one....if in this day and age that's even possible. Basically, everyone has a recent hard copy picture and there are drugstores and copier places everywhere that will scan a pic for you....but if you can't you can't. Don't knock people who want to see em. That's their right.
If you don't care about pictures that's fine too. Two people who don't have pics may never meet and walk around in circles in some place and never find each other, but hey that's their choice. If you are here for forums or not looking to date or meet a pic isn't necessary, and no one should make you feel like you have to post one - it's just not relevant. If you have a job or other situation where you don't want to make the pic public that's fine too.
 What's with all the arguing and name calling? Pfftt! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/22/2006 1:32:38 PM | Rocky444 said:
Yes it is shallow and I'm sure the woman with the piercings would have mentioned it in a conversation. Looks fade personality doesn't. I skip the people who demand photos because they are the type of person who can't look on the inside Rollergirl.
i don't get the "shallow" argument AT ALL.
if i'm meeting someone in person, i know if there is any attraction. there MUST be physical attraction to have a successful relationship. sure people can fall for someone without seeing what they look like, but to say it's shallow to want to see someone's face is ABSURD.
we're not all looking for Johnny Depp, but everyone is attracted to different kinds of people. because you want to see a picture does NOT mean that you are looking for a GQ model. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/22/2006 3:45:44 PM | | Yes yes...rollergrrrl has it. It is NOT shallow. For one thing, it is only natural to want someone you are attracted to physically as well as mentally. Yes, someone you aren't initially attracted to CAN grow on you, but I couldn't be with a guy no matter how nice he is, if I were totally turned off by his appearance. Better to be friends, yes?! And second, it is not SAFE to meet someone who refuses to show their picture. I remember ages ago I met a guy online who fed me some BS about not being able to upload photos because it was his company's computer. Surprise, surprise...turned out he was over 40 AND terribly, terribly unattractive. I am instantly suspicious if someone won't send a photo, and I will not meet anyone who simply refuses to. After all, there are a lot of fish in the ocean, no? :) | |
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Joined: 5/21/2006
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/23/2006 7:52:36 AM | I have no faith in the pictures at all -- I know that my own pictures look like two completely different people, and yet they are both recent and both taken within a few months of each other.
I have met FABULOUS men with no pic, and have decided not to meet men who are too hung up on their own pictures.
For me, the only real purpose of the picture is so I don't wander around the coffee shop asking every guy "Are you Ted?".  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/23/2006 12:53:14 PM | | Brave enough , your still meeting a person and that person still has feelings . and to be honest I love meeting women from here with no pic cause they are likely just don't want you to want them for what they look like but what they have to offer as a person and thats what really counts . | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/23/2006 1:18:09 PM | wow...bosslady.I'd say you lucked out.....iI on the other hand would never be that brave..i read alot from ppl's pics.so I guess you could say i judge their eyes before meeting them.lol.not so much their appearence more from thier eyes.I don't know guess that workes for me.cause people can deciving and I feel that the eyes tell all about the inner side of them...but hey to each their own... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/23/2006 1:47:24 PM | | To date I have met ladies that didn't have a photo posted, and have been disappointed every time. I have also met ladies that didn't look anything like their photo and that too is disappointing. I however continue to be optimistic that I will someday find the one that's right for me. I don't set the bar very high, but I will not compromise because that will lead to a failed relationship. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/23/2006 2:40:35 PM | | I never meet anyone who sends me naked pictures... If they have to advertise that up front(no pun intended) then I assume they dont have much else to offer.I have met one man who absolutly would not post a picture. He is an attorney and would not risk it. I gave in and met him because his profile was everything I was looking for. We met for lunch since I figured thats an easy escape if he has one eye or fangs... He turned out to be a fabulous man and that was 10 months ago. He drove all the way from New Jersey then and he is still driving here now whenever he can. My biggest concern is that someone be who they say they are. If you are 70 and trying to pass yourself off as 50 you wont be getting past lunch. Did you think I wouldnt notice???? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/23/2006 4:59:49 PM | | Pictures mean absolutely nothing. A person can just as easily take pictures from another person's website, save them to their own computer and upload them onto this site. It's happened to me before. Go with your instincts. If you've got red flags waving, don't do it. If you feel safe, go for it! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/23/2006 5:20:28 PM | | Absolutly I have gotten pictures of movie stars that men have tried to pass off as themselves. One guy has a very young picture of Ernest Borgnine as his photo. Unfortunately I am old enough to know who that is. Another has the guy who played Ponch on CHips as his photo. If only................ | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 7/23/2006 11:19:32 PM | Hey, I have only met one person one time.
and he was really great, ended up being a very good friend of mine.
But no only is no picture a problem, the posting of a guy who is really good looking
and you chat for a while, and then you ask for more pictures and they send you one that has no resemblence of the primary photo. It is like a five year old picture, and those five years have not been to kind.....
I have put on my profiles, do not email me with out a picture. It is only fair.
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