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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/1/2006 2:09:29 PM | I did one time.. Just Once!
A gal emailed me and had a million excuses as to why she didn't have a photo up.
After a week of talking on the phone, she calls (again) and I asked one more time for a photo, "Oh just meet me, you won't be disappointed!" In the back of my mind was "oh sh*t". So I finally figured "OK, Why not." The worst that could happen? Nothing worse then any other of life's experiences.
Let me only say one thing "Some peoples opinions of themselves are much higher then they should be".
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/1/2006 4:50:30 PM | | you know people totaly amaze me. They say all kinds of good stuff about themselves then are to good to meet anyone unless they look a certain way. personally looks arent a number one priority to me. It is what kind of person they are. do they respect women, do they have a sense of humor, do they care about less fortunate people. look at yourself in the mirror and say, what kind of a person am I. if you can look at yourrself and smile it is a good start. | |
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catany
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Joined: 5/21/2006
Msg: 855 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/1/2006 8:31:08 PM | | It's very idealistic to say one does not care about looks. But it is not realistic. Everyone is attracted by looks if they believe it or not. I used to have my picture posted. But after reading some scary stories and getting the wrong kind of attention, I decided to take it down. If someone wants to write/chat with me, I'd like to get to know them. But I would never actually meet without exchanging photos. I might have a cartoon posted right now (I think it's cute and funny), but I would exchange a picture, of course. After emails and talking on the phone...I can tell a lot about a person from the phone. Anyway, I guess I'm trying to say you need to see basically what you are dealing with and you need to be careful because there are stalkers, maniacs and horrible people out there even if you don't want to think about it. You need a real description if you need to dial 911! yikes. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/1/2006 8:57:43 PM | catany your exactly right.
i took my pics down due to harrassment and stalking in the real world by people from this site. you people that expect us to have pics are being selfish and shallow. our own safety comes before fullfilling the wants and expectations of you internet people. | |
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Dru
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/2/2006 11:04:04 AM | A few years ago I found a free chat service on my cell phone. Nobody had pictures on their, if you wanted to see a picture you had to hope they had an email address. Although one girl actually snail mailed me pictures lol so I did the same and that was the last I heard from her.
There is nothing wrong with meeting someone who doesn't have a picture, actually it gives you a perfect out if you don't like the person when you first meet. Just try to be as polite and tactful as possible.
On another note, most of the people without pictures, actually do have pictures and you get to see them when they reply to your email. Girls that don't have pictures up are about the only ones I email now a days. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/2/2006 12:49:38 PM | Quoting headnurse;
"you know people totaly amaze me. They say all kinds of good stuff about themselves then are to good to meet anyone unless they look a certain way."
The rest of your comments are easier said then done, you have to be realistic.
Until I got spoofed by someone that didn't use their own photo(#2), I would have agreed with most of what you said above.
Now I look at it from a different view point;
You might eventually meet one of the folks that wanted a photo of you.
#1 Possibly No photo, no meet. After my last encounter with a "no-photo person" I'll take my chances and be considered "whatever".
#2 And if you use someone else's photo, I sure hope you don't plan on the meet going very well. When the lady admitted she used a photo of her daughter, I had no problem walking out.
Oh and I'm not talking about those folks that will not post a photo on a site, but will gladly email one separately.
Nurse, would you want to go out with someone that couldn't even be honest in the very beginning?
Life can be tough enough (although most of the time it's just great, I'm not complaining). But I DO feel the internet had brought dating down to a far lower level then I was used to years ago. It's become way too easy to hide behind the keyboard.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/2/2006 2:51:57 PM | So far I haven't had the "balls" to meet ne one n person but I have been chattin with someone that strikes me as ....genuin..so to speak.He doesn't have a picture but neither do I.This online stuff is kind of scary and you are taking chances so do phone calls and stuff for a while if you seem weary-so far that's what I'm doin-i gotta good feeling bout this one though. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/4/2006 7:39:04 AM | I dont mind chatting with people who dont post a picture but before meeting them i woudl defintely like to see who i'm chatting with. Unfortunately i have met a few people who's picture did not represent them.
That being said there are some pictures which makes me hessitanet to contact people. Specifically any shots where the person is in a bikini or where the picture is taken inside some nightclub. I'm also not particuarly fond of the bad webcam shots where it only shows half the face in a ultra dark setting from various angles with the person not smiling in any of them.
It always amazes me how people lie about what they look like, you are who you are so why hide it? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/4/2006 11:06:54 AM | Yeah I did that once before....that was the worst mistake I could have made to...she looked nothing like she described at all...when I saw ger face...i was like "OMG!!!!!!" ......I mean I really couldnt even eat anything...her body odor was just "SO FUNKY"....she didnt appear to wash her ass or her "KAT" or anything else either, and her lips were all cruddy lookin....I am so glad she wasnt a local resident...or I would have to relocate , just so I would never have to hear the jokes and humor on that one.....I seen this show before about people getting complete make overs....well she needs a miraculous one!...Stinkin, nasty, ....YUK YUK YUK YUK | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/5/2006 2:46:39 PM | | So when you saw her face you were like OMG... and you couldnt eat anything and she had terrible body odor and crusty lips??? But you still took the time to check out her ass and her KAT.... Now whos nasty???????????????????????? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/5/2006 3:08:18 PM | | One time ... never again. It was a trainwreck. His profile was a complete lie. Age was supposed to be 48, athletic, 6'1", dark hair, green eyes. Perfect ... so I thought. In person, around 65, pudgy, maybe 5'7", no hair ... possibly a glass eye....although I have no idea because I was suffering from shock!I am now scarred for life. | |
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dwomen
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Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 867 | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/5/2006 4:30:25 PM | | I have been brave enuff and it was the biggest mistake of my life!! Never again will I meet anyone without a pic first!! He charmed me all week before meeting and told me the same thing...I am not ugly..I'm not a cyclops or anything!! Well, let's just say that had I seen his picture before I even carried on a weeks worth of conversation...I would not have even answered his original message! I am not shallow but let's face it! When I see someone I am going out with,my mind has to at least get a little spark when I see him. I have to be able to look at someone if I am dating them, not find whatever is to the left or right of his face more appealing!! So, yeah...I was brave...ONCE!!! Now ...I'm SMART!!!!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/5/2006 5:04:53 PM | | I have met face-to-face with 3 women so far through this site, all without pictures by odd coincidence or whatever. Two were honest about their age, height, and body shape. The third had a serious weight problem (at least 40 lbs over), but still called herself "average" in her profile. Half her hair was gray, though she had listed it as "brown". She spent our whole lunch date eating large portions and complaining about the "shallow" guys who wouldn't date her a second time. Unfortunately, a woman more than 20 pounds overweight is just not attractive to me, just like many women cannot be attracted to a short man. I was a perfect gentleman, kept up a good conversation through lunch, and then offered to drop her off wherever she needed to go. I did not say one critical word to her, but I'm sure she now thinks I am yet another "shallow" jerk. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/5/2006 5:20:33 PM | | I do not have a pic online because I have so many business associates on line all across the country. I would be totally embarrased if someone called me and said I saw you on line. That is my personal business. I will provide a picture if I am interested in conversation with someone, but if someone does not even converse in a friendly way, then no way. they are "way too shallow" for me. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/5/2006 6:04:32 PM | I did ... he also didn't tell the truth about his age, had problems with the fact that I drank, while he was diabetic and 'used' sugar and was a compulsive gambler. I'm accepting of what people say, but I am not amused when I find I've been lied to.
I've seen this several times now 'few extra pounds' and they mean what CTF is saying. Seriously, when I went to school few was more than a couple but less than several. When did the invisible X a dozen get thrown in? Use the big tall and BBW and let tell them or let them wonder which you are referring to.
I have heard (on more than one occassion) 'Wow, you look like your picture'. Used to find the comment strange, but I don't wonder anymore why people are amazed that I look at least similar to my pictures. (... Course it helps that it was taken at 4 am after a bit of  &  -- okay ... more than a bit.) | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/8/2006 4:48:57 AM | I asked three women what they considered a few extra pounds i got three different answers.
1) 10 lbs 2) 40 lbs 3) 60 lbs
A persons preference can mean 100 lbs.
I have met women who are 5'0 and 200 lbs and looked good and some not so good. They called them self a medium build huh?
So weight is in the eye of the beholder like beauty.
I find whoopi Goldberg hot, but she is a few exytra pounds as well as the gorgeuos Caroline Rhea who also is a few extra pounds. And to me these women are hot.
So some ones perception may be different for others. To me 10 lbs over weight is healthy, being skinny is more dangerous and not as attractive.
40lbs to me is a few extra pounds, it can be worked off if your not injured.
As long as they don't work as a social worker I'll date anyone and give them a chance, but if they lie what they look like and you meet, then the trust is gone.
Out of the 10 dates I have had on her I have only had one bad experience, because of her personality, she was very negative and down on her self, | |
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XZJL
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Joined: 5/17/2006
Msg: 875 | |
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Posted: 8/8/2006 5:15:01 AM | | YOU;RE CUTE, BUT TATOOS BETWEEN THE BOOBS DON;T TURN EVERY GUY ON. PETE | |
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