| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/8/2006 5:56:11 AM | I have never met a person from POF without a picture, but when I was younger I did meet someone from the net that I never seen a picture of. I can't even remember his name, but it was a bad experience.
I suppose that if you get good instincts from talking to them online, with as bosslady (see quote below), then I wouldn't have a problem meeting someone with no picture. Makes it that much more exciting! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/8/2006 6:39:46 AM | No. And i won't.
It is 2006. Anyone can have a picture on their computer. You don't even need scanners or digital cameras. You can take a picture, go to CVS and get digital on a CD.
I can understand in some cases not having a picture on their profile. Professional reasons maybe, small town. Whatever. But they can at least include it in the email contact. There is the choice to upload and keep pictures private for that purpose. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/8/2006 8:15:09 AM | | I think initially its ok to talk to someone that doesnt have a pic up if you really have things in common. BUt eventually im gong to want to see a pic. NOt trying to be shallow but being physically attracted to someone is important in a relationssip as well. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/8/2006 11:00:07 AM | hey Spiderwoman,
I think your selling yourself short! I agree with some of the comments, sometimes there is a perfectly good reason for no picture. Like wanting to trade fotos in private, I have a picture on my profile, but I don't get very many replies to my profile and I am no weirdo, or married, or have a g/f.
Most if they really knew me would be surprised that I am pretty decent, clean cut, honest, deserving person. So till someone willing to take a chance, I am here in the forums!! Lalalalalalalalalalalala, Blah, Blah, Blah!!!
Good luck in your search Spiderwoman
Bob aka busterrm
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/9/2006 5:45:12 AM | | I tried this to be fair but it turned out to be a very unpleasant experience. No, the person was not ugly, just not the looks set me off. It is worse to have to reject someone when they have already met you. Some will insist on taking it personally and get angry. I fially had to block her e-mail. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/10/2006 9:41:29 AM | I used to be more open minded about meeting people without pictures, but since more than 1/2 of the men turned out to be married I won't do that again. Pictures are nice to have, but there again, some of the pictures are old and they look nothing like that picture anymore.
Hey guys, women are not the only ones that have a hard time being honest with you or themselves about their bodies. There are pictures of men that are fat like me calling themselves "athletic". I keep teasing that one of these days I am going to change my profile from BBW to athletic. Ha, ha. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/13/2006 12:52:48 AM | | all you women say looks dont matter but appearently it does to you cause i dont show a pic you refuse to chat with me i think you all need to look at what you might be missing instead of just the looks just cause you dont have a pic dont mean nothing you might be missing out on the best thing that ever happend to you all cause you cant get past the looks.Myself ive never jugded on that but iguess some still do beauty is not skin deep all these poeple think it is some need to take chance cause you might miss alot more then you know. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/13/2006 1:27:01 AM | It's hard enough meeting someone who you've seen pictures of,on cam,& spoken to
I couldn't see going into it totally blind.Let's face it,we all have our own attractions
so why set yourself & the other person in a potentially awkward situation? I went on
one blind date & I won't do it again.Unless of course intentions from both is strictly
friends then it wouldn't matter. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/13/2006 7:44:31 PM | As I said in an earlier post in this thread .....Yes, I have met several men without pics , np.
On the other hand....I met 1 man from POF who HAD a pic and the pics were at least 10 years old!!! {not only that but when I wasn't interested in being more than he wanted he stalked me for weeks.....made 5 profiles here....and kept it up until he had a VERY friendly warning to leave me alone.}
I'll take my chances with a guy with no pic any day....most peoples pics are probably old or fake!!
PB | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/19/2006 9:16:24 AM | No. I want to see the man's face, and especially his eyes, before I decide.
I did meet a man who had a full body shot, from a distance, where I couldn't see his face clearly... but I believed that this was the only or best photo he had of himself at that time, and he turned out to be very nice, and a pleasant surprise (even trimmer than in his photo... he'd lost weight) and had a very nice face and eyes, when I was able to see him more clearly.
I never like to respond to men who have no photo up at all (even one that they can show me by selecting an option if they choose to email me)... I wonder what they're hiding... or why they are hiding... and I feel that if I am choosing to "show my face", then I want to see theirs clearly, also, before I decide to tell them anything more about me... after all, "fair is fair" and I believe I can tell a lot about a person's character from their face... so I want to see a recent and up-close photo of the man's face, before I will chose to correspond further.
To me "a picture is worth a thousand words"... being an artist, and a portrait artist... for me this is even more true than possibly for others. I believe a relationship has to be based upon honesty and trust for it to evolve over time into something more meaningful.
I want a man to be open and trusting enough of me from the beginning, that he will send me a true and recent photo of his face "up-front"... from the very beginning... at least privately, so I can decide if I would like to reveal more of myself and get to know him better.
No "games"... although "playfulness" and humor, and creativity are encouraged and quite acceptable! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/19/2006 9:44:23 AM | | I have an usually I regrett it big time, try to meet someplace like a Waffle House where can have a quick cup of coffee. Having said that one of the most beautiful girs I have ever dated was a blind date. Hmm maybe it was because she hadnt seen me LOL, Besides what happened to the guys are so vain, and girls look for whats inside bit that we always hear? LOL, Lou | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/19/2006 10:15:49 AM | | hey ya i had the same expierice and i was 19 last year and the guy i met said he was 29 but he was really 31 and he has 3 kids he told me this after he had no pic but i had a good feeling it was ok and he was hot and i was falling for him but the worst was i met his kids and i went out with him for 8 months and he jus ended it in june this year so im pretty hurt but hey im 20 and im young so we move on and its all good | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/19/2006 10:42:41 AM | yes, i have met people without a picture, two times actually. and I found them to be very attractive. But I met them because they were so attractive in their profiles/emails, so I guess I was already prepared to have an attraction for them. The one was the first person I'd ever met online (from a different site)--I was involved with him for 10 months until I discovered that he was in love with someone else who happened to be married. The second was someone who was in my life very briefly but touched me emotionally and spiritually in a way that no man has ever been able to. Ironically, these two non-photo men have had the biggest impact on me but they were also two men who were both not available. Maybe that's why they didn't use their photo.
Would I meet someone again wtihout a photo--yes, but I'd be much more wary. I wonder now what they might be hiding. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/20/2006 4:57:53 PM | I've met two guys without seeing pictures first.
The first guy was someone who I had spoken to over the phone for weeks before meeting. Three phone calls before we met, he asked me to send him a photo, which I did, but I never asked for one in return. Two phone calls before we met, he asked me if I would give up my pets if the man of my dreams asked me to; I responded that if the guy really was the man of my dreams, he wouldn't ask me to, and he responded by calling me a hard-a**. In the phone call before I met him, he said that he received my picture, that he thought I was cute, and that he wanted to meet me. When I arrived at the restaurant, I was met by a 400 pound gelatinous blob dribbling salsa down his shirt. (Oh look: It's Mr. Creosote...) It took all of my restraint not to warn him against calling someone a hard-a** when you look like a lard-a**.
The second guy was really cute. Six months later we were engaged. A year later we were broken up. Cute don't mean much if the guy's a sociopath.
Hope you weren't looking for a moral to this story... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/20/2006 6:13:27 PM | I have absolutely gone out with guys without a pic and had a great time...even dated them! My last bf was a guy that i ordinarily would not have noticed at all. It was because of our emails, phone conversations and sexy voice that he hooked me! 
Similarly, I would like a guy to be attracted to me based on my personality. I know if I posted a pic I'd get a lot of shallow guys emailing me and I'm just not interested in that anymore. I love meeting guys who are different from the regular guys who ask me out in "real life".
Besides, so many people don't look like their pic anyway. Just my 2 cents. Life is short...might as well take some risks. I
ps in terms of pics...i think this green banana is clearly the cutest on POF. He also looks like he has length, girth and stamina ;)...i'm thinking of asking him out teehee | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/21/2006 6:37:53 PM | | YES and I never would again ..........This guy was truley I thought on line a very nice guy, I thought dont be shallow, look at his personality, dont go for the GOOD looking guys they tend to be the ones you cant trust because women will always flirt with. experiance talking her. Well let me tell you this guy and I are suppose to meet for coffee, he figures out where I live and before I know it he's calling me and telling me he's ready just drove by and he's on his way,O.k I say knowing Iam safe from this guy,(125pd Rot who would kill literally if someone touched me she didnt know,and 3 grown sons) thinking I've talked at length with this guy and really enjoyed the many conversations weve had.... OH MY GOD this guy has no front teeth,bald,said he had lotts of hair that was brown not he had more snow on top than my roof in the winter,and the body...please dont make me go there...and a man of 46 should have some idea of how to dress atleast how to match his clothes,I do not constitute white old tennis shoes,black dress socks the longer ones,light blue shorts and a grey tee the outfit to meet a women the best idea..we have a nice coversation he leaves and for 3-4 days all I get is this guy e-mailing me...This guy told me he knew I was out of his league ( I really didnt know I was in any kind of league,IAM 45) I finally just had to say stright out I AN NOT INTERESTED and I got back with my x, I really hated to lie but dear god in heaven this guy was NOT what he said he was...Now Iam so pickey and I know its not fare to the guys that arnt all that and you can call me shallow but I cant do ugly... | |
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