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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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kame
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Joined: 4/7/2006
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/22/2006 12:07:31 AM | I've always been somewhat strict with myself and would not date men without their photos displayed. Mine was up at the time and I anticipated them to be the same... turn about's fair play, right? Anyway, a little over a year and half ago I was emailed by someone without his photo and answered sarcastically. (The ones that write back after displaying being able to hold their own are more my type.) We chatted for nearly three hours and he asked me to meet him for coffee the next day. I was dubious because the "system" for me is IMing for a few times, at least, before exchanging emails. If it remains safe, I exchange phone numbers and from there, I've typically narrowed the number down to one or two out of 30 and will meet them before deciding if I want to continue. The process takes about three months or so. This guy talked to me and somehow I decided to meet him in a public place... Starbucks. I called from my cell as I arrived and glanced around when I went through the door. The only person talking on a phone was a geeky-looking guy in the back of the place with thick-lensed spectacles. I hesitated before deciding that since I was there I should at least talk to him and approached him, seeing the relief on his face. He told me I look better than my photo (probably bunk), and made me feel good. I had coffee and we chatted for a couple of hours before I realized that he was different all around, in an odd way. Suddenly, without knowing what happened, I realized I was leaning over the table and kissing him!!! Unlike me!
Anyway, this past July 24 I gave birth to a beautiful 8.3 lb baby girl and named her "Danika" after him. She is lovely. He'd prefer to forget about us and go back to his former life with his ex-wife and two teenaged sons. For a year and a half, he was my four-year-old's "Daddy," but that came to a halt on the 23rd of July when he finally decided he didn't want to play the part of a daddy to little children... his were almost grown and out on their own.
I'll be forty in two weeks, I'm a full-time student, employee, mommy and independent woman. I can honestly say that I have no regrets, though I've had my tubes tied and have decided that perhaps I just need friends for now. My time is even more precious now and my baby girl has her daddy's beautifully irredescent blue eyes. Even as young as she is, she has most of his characteristics and I will love to see her develop into a stubborn, yet intelligent young woman.
My advice is this: Live life to its fullest and without regret, learning from every aspect possible for the good of your own preservation. Most importantly, though the person may go away, they can't necessarily take your heart unless you allow them to make you bitter. I've been in love twice in my life... my teen love whom I'd met at 15, and Dan whom I'd met at 38. I met him on here, and I have no regrets. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/24/2006 8:24:48 PM | There are some of us who have high profile careers or are high profile people. Mine is a semi high profile career, therefore, my pic is not public. It is available upon request though, and I think that if someone requests a pic after emailing back and forth, then the person should send them a pic.
I know other people who have ex-lovers who are "stalkers". Why should these people be punished because they don't have a pic?
I also think it is shallow not to speak with someone who doesn't have a pic. When I see someone post that they will refuse to talk to anyone without a pic, I won't have anything to do with them. It's typically an indication the person is full of pride or is only after looks. Very shallow.
Most of my emails have gone to people without pics anyway. For some reason or another, it seems to me females tend to post their pic less often than males. I could be wrong about that, though. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/26/2006 11:10:35 AM | to spider woman..... LIFE IS NOT FAIR. JUST THE FACTS HONEY.
you can get to know someone fast by asking good questions. if they past the "we have a few things in common" test then ask to see a picture. if they don't pass the 20 questions, should it matter that they are totally hot? The men you are attracted to are probably triggering past issues for you.
it is this reason physical attraction doesn't make a relationship work. If you don't believe this find the book getting the love that you want and you will see why going for the out side looks doesn't always work.
ps I think men should have to earn the right to see your sexy body...... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/26/2006 11:29:07 AM | | I didn't have a picture on my profile for a while and had no problem meeting people. I was new at using the computer and didn't know how to download a picture! I meet the man that I now live with and have a wonderful relationship with,without me having a picture on here. We've been together for 9 months now,and lived together for about 4 months.Needless to say,it turned out great for us with him meeting me with no picture. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/27/2006 3:51:13 PM | I met someone a couple weeks ago that didn't post a pic...
His profile said he was 5'8" and we met up and he was a total shrimp; he was probably 5'5". He was good looking and had an incredible body if you like muscles, but there really wasn't much going on upstairs so it didn't work out. Not sure if I'd do that again, but my preference is towards guys that have a pic. It's even more interesting when guys look nothing like their pic when you meet them in person :P
Happy Fishin' ya'll | |
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efm
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Joined: 6/10/2006
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/27/2006 10:35:56 PM | | I met a man that had no photo. This was not on a dating site but we met in a chat room. I was brand new to the net. I fell in love with him. He fell in love with me. It didn't work out for lots of reasons. To this day we still love one another. And I suppose there will not be another TKK. So after chatting, talking on the phone for hours and hours ( I fell in love with his voice first) after all that I blasted into his life on my big black motorcycle and WOW... Not to be again. But ya I'd meet a man with no photo again sure why not. I figure I don't have to do anything, worse cast I'd have a coffee and maybe just make a friend. Good nuff fer me. :) | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 8/29/2006 11:28:35 PM | | I guess it does set off alarms for some people not to see a pic. I haven't had a way to put up a pic until my daughter got her camera, working on getting one. I think, lol. I'm talking to a guy now who hasn't seen me, but it seems promising. I've dated men without pics and with them. Hasn't seemed to make any difference. The one's without were not ugly, had an 8 month relationship with one. Another guy had great pictures, nice looking man, but he turned out to be a horses ass. I really don't think it matters until you meet, if a person has lied about their looks, then kick them to the curb for lying. Plus, some people have been known to put up old images of themselves, BEFORE they gained those 100 extra pounds, so in some cases it doesn't matter if there's a pic or not. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/2/2006 9:49:12 PM | Who's a slow learner is it me?
I have gone on dates several times now without seeing a picture. Each time I tell myself never again, and yet I keep doing it. I guess I feel it might be rude to ask for a picture.
Maybe next time.... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/2/2006 10:14:20 PM | | I made a serious mistake and and met a woman who had a "little padding." OK- I've got some extra padding but this woman was HUGE and unattractive and totally selfabsorbed. After lunch I knew her entire life story and she know nothing about me - thank GOD! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/3/2006 1:01:12 AM | Yes, it is called a blind date! Ok, so I am being sarcastic. I have done it a few times through craigslist. I offered to buy them a nice dinner. That was semi effective. Better than nothing I figured. But it was a mismatch; but nice people and nice looking too. I could have followed up on a couple of them, but one was too far away and the other one was nice but there was zero chemistry. I just wanted to meet some females for friendship; still do. So I gambled. I mentioned that I knew computers and that was a help; seems everyone has computer problems these days...
I have to give them credit too. take a lot of guts to meet some guy you have not even talked to on the phone, at least not more than 5 minutes. There was a recent one I agreed to meet. But I got sick the same day and had to bail. I made another "date" with her but that time she chickened out. Oh well...
There was one more that stands out. We did the instant chat thing. We did a LOT of chatting. I was starting to like the outlook. She started to sound interested. She wanted to know where I lived and I told her. She agreed to meet me at a local coffee house. But she never showed. I e-mailed her to find out what happened. turns out she decided to get back together with her b/f. Oh well..easy come easy go.
I am tempted to do it again; it was sort of fun and it provides practice on managing difficult/awkward situations. Who knows; I might even find a nice friend  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/3/2006 11:55:31 AM | | I won't even Talk to those without a Pic. I am no Brad Pitt but I still post my Pic's. In the hope that someone out there think I am attractive and really looks aren't that important to me anyhow, health is tho! I want to be able to look at someone and feel honoured to be in their life and have that back. Sure their are alot of beautiful women out their but who will have me as thiers is more special then anything. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/3/2006 4:51:12 PM | | I don't see how people think that if one does not want to converse with someone without a pic then he/she is shallow. Mine is up, so they know what I look like. I would like to see whom I'm conversing with too. In the past when I ask for a pic I am labeled shallow..or other rude names. When they do send a pic.. I am not attracted to them...and life goes on. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/4/2006 8:39:17 PM | | If the lady does not post a pic but describes herself as "attractive", and her profile looks compatible with mine, I will respond to her mail. If I have no idea what she looks like and she doesn't even describe her appearance, then I won't, no matter how good the profile looks. I think (most) women and men KNOW that appearance is at least somewhat important, so if they withhold that info or pic, then it is like not including important info. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/4/2006 10:44:59 PM | | yes the woman i fell in love with was brave enough to meet me. I have no picture, and when i sent her one she said i was very cute and good looking. I am a registered microbiologist and working in that field when i did my profile made it impossible to post one. Al;so not posting a picture, i was made to realize that she had to accept me for other qualities than looks. But if looks are really that important and to many people they are then i will send you a picture of me. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/5/2006 12:59:46 AM | maybe try investigating your true reasons for drinking as it has nothing to do with your looks or feelings of self esteem or self worth.
I personally would spend more time on that and then maybe you would look better without the alcohol and begin to feel better about yourself. | |
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