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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/11/2006 6:04:36 AM | I met someone without seeing his picture. I talked to him for 5 months and he never got around to taking a picture. He was fun to talk to. Well he looked like a 12 year old boy with an ugly adult head. He had lied about everything. To top it off he had thought I was meeting him for sex. That was a laugh because nothing like that was ever brought up in our conservations on line. I got away from him and said never again. I never talked to him again.
I have answered back men on POF that did not have pictuers. There was a reason that they did not have a pictures on line. They sent pictures to my email and then I knew. Now I do not talk to anyone without a picture. Forget sending them to my email. Granted I realize that people do not always put their own pictures on line or they put a 20 year old picture of them on, but that only makes the first "date" last 15 minutes. I get the hell out and away from them. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/11/2006 6:06:35 AM | This post made me realise that the nice guys could be the ones with no photos... I usually assume if a guy doesnt have a picture up he must be married or attached even. I never answer an email that has no photos.
Thanks Bosslady | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/11/2006 6:09:51 AM | | Good for you..... That should help to show others. that Pics aren't always necessary....I don't post one.. I've never had any trouble getting dates. Have met some nice people. Some of them looking nothing like the pics they post. That can be good and bad.!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2006 12:12:08 PM | I met one without a pic. He'd told me he was considered attractive...apparently by his mother. He didn't open the car door for me, laughed when I had trouble getting out of his rather high truck and hurt myself, rushed me through a small coffee, and demanded a "real kiss" at my door when it was over.
All that aside..thank you for renewing my faith, bosslady. I might just try it again someday. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2006 2:43:20 PM | oh
my
god ...
this has to be one of the most SHALLOW posts on this whole forum that I have EVER seen ... yet!!
i mean, really. come on! even I have pics, but so what? what if i didn't? I see so many people on here who write in their profiles "dont expect a reply if you have no pics" or "i will not talk to people who have no pics" - have you ever thought that maybe someone does not want to be seen on the internet and they might just be wanting to protect their own privacy and not want everyone on the internet to know what they look like? Believe it or not, there are PEOPLE in this world, both "ugly" and "not ugly" (you may even call them beautiful on the outside) who DO NOT wish for the whole world to know what they look like. Some Native Americans even believe that for a photo to be taken of them, that it steals their soul (or a part thereof).
IF a person has no pics, WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL ??? WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN UPON MEETING SOMEONE WHO NEVER HAD ANY PICS TO SHOW YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE?? WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN???
so tell me this? WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN with hanging out with someone who turns out to be ugly (to you) - if they turn out to be ugly, SO WHAT? does that mean you should RUN AWAY IMMEDIATELY? WHAT HARM WILL IT CAUSE YOU TO SIMPLY BE A KIND PRESENCE in hanging out with that person? IS IT SOMEHOW "wrong" to hang out with someone just because they dont look like how you might expect? And even if a person did have false pics, or lie about their appearance, does that mean that, once you meet them, that you should CASTIGATE THEM and never talk or see them ever again???? I hate lying, so i can understand that part, and nothing drives me even further away like a liar, but ... SO F*CKIN WHAT ???
IF they are "ugly" ... then SO WHAT ?!?!!
Does that then mean that they should THEN be viewed as only sub-human? somehow "beneath you" as a lower form of life, not even worth your presence or company, or even your words in an email or phone conversation, simply because they dont look "hot" enough to you or others, or maybe because they somehow bruise your own eyes just by looking at them because for some SHALLOW reason you just cannot find it in you to LOOK PAST one's physical defects ???
ya know i never really watched that old show on TV long ago, called "Beauty and the Beast" but now i wish I had, because I think that I might have learned valuable lessons had I done so.
i just dont understand you people!!!
whatever happened to "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? and "beauty is only skin deep"?
WHY should a person be DESPISED or "shunned" just because they don't happen to have looks that are up to YOUR standards? I can understand if a person doesn't appear to take care of themselves but WE CAN ONLY DO SO MUCH WITH WHAT GOD HAS GIVEN US and if a person still has their dignity and does take care of themselves with the best of what they have, then WHY should a person SHUN them or want to "get away from" them upon meeting them, just because they don't find them attractive or "easy to look at"???
This is just ****ing EVIL, folks.
to shun or want to escape from someone who, you think, doesn't "look good enough" is PURE UNADULTERATED EVIL VANITY upon YOUR part. Obviously it can't be said that it is vanity on the part of the person you are observing since I can bet that in most cases they probably won't want to run away from someone who DOES happen to be good looking as it is. But for someone who would want to do that to someone whom they deem to be "ugly" is THE SIN OF VANITY, even if it is never directly applied to that other person, IT IS A SIN to treat someone with less respect, courtesy, dignity, and kindness (ie: get up and leave, or not talk to, or judge, or shun, or not be kind to ... them)!!!
Whatever happened to valueing someone for WHO THEY WERE, and FOR WHAT THEY ARE, in regards to THE INSIDE OF their OWN HUMANITY? Rather than how "good looking" they seem to appear on the outside ... which is only skin deep????
I have never had problem in admitting to my own humanity as far as the fact that YES, a woman's LOOKS ACTUALLY DO play a major part in what i look for in a love interest, and of course attraction has to be there, even physically, for any sexuality to be mustered and even basic, simple procreation of our species has near-eternally depended on this fact of life.
BUT, to put that aside for a moment, I dont think i would EVER want to "refuse a meeting" just because i dont know what someone looks like, nor would I "want to run away" or escape from someone just because I have just then met them and they happened to look ugly. That is the most INHUMANE AND COLDEST thing I have ever heard!!!
I know I really don't know much of anyone on this website yet and i am still new here, trying to get to know people .... but when i see things like this, it just burns my britches (and it's not as if i have ever been told that I wasn't easy on the eyes, women tell me they think i am good looking as well, but that doesn't matter to me anymore).
I swear i don't think i can write much more on this topic, I saw it on the list on the opening page of the main site and i had to jump on this because i couldn't believe that someone would write such a ****ing shallow thing and now i am wishing that i hadn't SPILLED MY GUTS just now and VENTED about how ANGRY i am about that because now i FEEL SICK THAT PEOPLE ARE LIKE THIS, IN THIS WORLD!!! THAT PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD ACTUALLY THINK AND FEEL THE WAYS THEY DO AGAINST OTHER PEOPLE WHO ARE MOST LIKELY INNOCENT OF ANYTHING EXCEPT JUST NOT LOOKING "hot".
I think I really need to BARF now :-(
this VANITY "prettier than thou" shit is ROTTEN SIN TO THE CORE, and people like that make me sick... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2006 3:26:44 PM |
ya know i never really watched that old show on TV long ago, called "Beauty and the Beast" but now i wish I had, because I think that I might have learned valuable lessons had I done so.
It was one of my favourite shows when it was on...........and I have meet more then one person without a picture, friends are always welcome in my world. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/12/2006 11:09:33 PM | Prophet PX, you make a great point about people protecting things we should all hold in high regard, like our privacy, our dignity, and (I love this) our souls!
It is rare to find such brutal honesty on the side of the underdogs, and it is sorely needed.
As for the unfortunate instances of taking the chance and finding the reward to be more of a punishment: I truly am sorry. You do not deserve such things happening to you. NO ONE DOES...
I can't blame anyone for anything, to tell the truth. Vain or not, we're all human, and we have our opinions.
As far as whether I've tried, I have not gone the full way, and I admit that there's a little bit of fear of the unknown (totally human feeling), but I'd go for it if it felt right. At least I think so...
So ends the 2 cents of a man who might call himself a wise hypocrite on all accounts of life.
Peace | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:09:08 AM | I don't know if the topic is about all that much...it's more that these people are here to date and want to know they are attracted. It's not about really good looking people throwing stones at not so good looking people...it's just not that type thing.
There are no underdogs. There are no winners. Everyone is attractive to someone and ugly to someone...it's all relavtive, so how are people talking about things like there's a great divide? It's a bit too dramatic....and extreme.
Are there mean people out there who will just cast out who they think isn't worthy? Yes....it goes all the way back to the elementary school yard...who cares? So we just ignore those people.
We are living in an age where pics are possible, and it's just easier if you have them - not having anything to do with looks or attraction, at first it's just good to know who you are talking to. In real life, you have to see the person, so I don't understand the difference, or the big secret about not wanting to post/send a pic. If you have seen a pic, and don't want to send one, it's one sided....so I know no one's gonna tell me that's part of the argument, it's simply unfair, and people expect the person they are talking to to be just as brave about it as they were. It's a like minded thing.
I TOTALLY agree with someone who doesn't want to post it publicly, but not e-mailing a pic is just silly...if you don't want to send a pic, why meet the person? They are going to see you when you get there. What's the difference?
People online are looking to eliminate factors and since we've all been doing this since the beginning of time offline, here's the system:
Find people you are attracted to; out of those people
Find some you connect with on another level; out of those people
Find at least one person that you connect with on all or most levels.
Mission accomplished. If the dating process fails, repeat from the first line.
That's it. That's how a majority of people do it. For those who date, the find someone attractive part comes first - and it's missing if someone doesn't have a pic. If you do, you expect that they would. Simple. If the person is either mysterious or not someone you are attracted to, you move on to someone that is. If you make a few good friends in the process fine, but that's the REASON most people are here. If you aren't attracted should you date that person anyway so as not to hurt their feelings? Because that's the alternative.
If neither of you have pictures and want to talk and meet - throw a party. But I still want to know how the hell you people know who you are looking for in a crowd without a lot of guessing and confusion. It's common courtesy to pass along a current pic if for no other reason than to be able to find them when you do finally meet them, it's still perfectly fair to ask for it.
Those who won't talk to someone without pics have probably started out meeting people without pics and found a pattern emerged from it, and got to a point where they just started ruling those people out, i.e. they were never attracted, they were married, they grossly misrepresented themselves by lying about it. You can understand why eventually people with no pictures are thought of as trying to hide something.
Yes some send old pics, or pics of someone else, and that's also deception and a waste of someone's time.
So please, people - this is not about people treating people like crap and running from them in public and all that...it's about those who are looking for dates using the dating service for what it was intended. Attraction is part of that equation, and there's no way to get around that. Most people are still polite and will spend time with someone they aren't into, and probably make a good friend.
If you don't have a pic, some will meet you anyway, and some won't. That's their choice...no one's right or wrong, it's just preference and they can choose to do whatever they want, and shouldn't be called names over it.
Y'all need to relax. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:25:30 AM | | I have met several people without pics and it has been fine. Looks are not that important to me but if a person decribes themselves, it's okay with me. I am here to meet people and if the person is lying, I'll find out then. No big deal. I have made some good friends. I don't have a picture, and I am honest about the way I look. When we meet, he always has the option to not call again | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:56:25 AM | | I am so skeptical of "no photo"-ers. Shallow shmallow! Listen, if I was "porking out" I'd be reluctant to show a pic. But since I am working out a lot, I can't wait to post newer pictures. Let's face it though, as I said in a different post, in this "on line" medium we don't get those "in person" nuances that may make us more attractive when one meets us face to face. In the meantime, why hide your face? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 8:05:55 AM | Yes, I have, met a man , and recently,too,without seeing a photo. I have to say, I'm so glad I took the chance. He is the sweetest,adorable, down to earth, sexy, guy ,I have met in a long time. He wasnt from this site though,lol. Seems this site has lots of Game Players.
I hope we will be friends for some time. Being open & upfront is best.
My Instints seem to be working well.
People who use photos from years ago, or of others should not ever be trusted.
I say, you never know, the Person of your Dreams, could be the one your meeting for coffee today. Take a chance make a friend.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 8:41:10 AM | ProphetPx makes an awesome point but I think we are talking about dating here and not judging one's innate worth as a human being.
As I said before, in this "on line" medium we don't get those "in person" nuances. In real life, I have been attracted to fat women and plain looking gals who had that "certain something" that made them really hot.
I am not 20 years old anymore. At 47, I feel like I am aging in dog years now. And I'm sorry but I don't think I'm going to be turned on by someone who looks like Aunt Bea and wears those polyester pants with those embroidered sweaters with snowmen on them. And I probably won't have that much in common with them;not to mention the other side of the coin - the biker chick with tons of make up, smokes, and an atheist.
Pictures do reveal more than looks. Why NOT weed out possible non-compatibles? If we are not to prejudge, hell, why bother to have even a written profile? What if I my profile was simply "Hello! Date me."? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 8:45:24 AM | | I don't get why some people would lie or have pics that are 10 years old ect. Don't they ever expect to meet or are they just playing games? I don't have a pic because I have no scanner or a digital camera. Besides, I take all the pictures so I am not in them lol! I describe myself acurately and go from there. If some guy is only after looks, he isn't for me anyway. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 8:57:58 AM | Those who have recent pics up, often expect to see recent shots. I think that's pretty simple. Is it shallow? The no-pic guy who contacts me and comments on my figure...is he deep because he has no picture? C'mon.
Am I missing out on the 'love of my life', if I choose to see a picture? Maybe...but that would be my business, and my choice as to how to conduct my own personal search.
Someone coming here to JUDGE other people's judgment, doesn't impress me...nor inspire me to make any changes in my own standards. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 11:14:44 AM | here`s a twist ... i met someone with pics that said they met someone who had fake pics posted ... I don`t know how they expected the person not to notice but yeah ... to all of you " no pic no reply people " give the person without a pic some credit ... perhaps they have "private pics " & are waiting for a compatable personality before they show some random person their face online either hottie or fugly aren`t we all here to meet someone we can get along with .. nobody else needs to see us     | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:07:39 PM | | Initial attractions are physical, since i'm looking for a longterm relationship I won't respond to people without a pic. In some ways i really don't see what the difference is because some people can't face the truth about themselves. It seems that when people write their profile they use their own dictionary. Like saying their a few pounds over, when their actually 30, or post 20 yr.old pics, or glamor shots. I'm looking for an honest person not a deluted one. If you can't be honest with yourself, who else are you goin to be honest with. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 9/13/2006 9:57:48 PM | I don't think it is shallow to want to see a picture. I think it is only fair. I would be hesitant to meet someone who isn't willing to show me a picture at some point while chatting with them online. what are they trying to hide? I am going to see you if we meet? so why not show me a picture! If someone asks me for a picture,, I say sure! or lets get on MSN and have a real conversation with a web Camera, so you can see who you are talking to!! make's it a lot easier to meet if you know what they look like!!
Cheer's everyone! | |
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