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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/31/2006 12:45:05 PM | | I dated 3 times on POF, each time they had no picture. To me just coincidence, don't really care about the picture after I know them well enough to ask for a date and they accept. I had my picture up so the way I looked at it was I trusted the person's character enough to believe that if we would be such an inappropriate physical match then they wouldn't be getting into dating with me in the first place. This is how a reasonable person would be in my mind. As it turns out, all were fine with me, the first two we just had no chemistry, the third, well we are an item, now, fully committed and loving POF for allowing us to find each other. My logic was sound. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/31/2006 10:30:44 PM | ^^^Reminds me of a police sketch artist's interpretation^^^^^^Man, get something more lively would ya!!!!^^^^^
Yeah, yeah before anybody says it, I already know I'm uglier than dirt, blah,blah,blah! At least I know my face doesn't look like something off a police blotter for the day. And it's just a suggestion.
However, to answer the OP's question. Yes I have met a woman who didn't have a pic, first time and last time for me. Let's just say, I'm very happy for you that it turned out so well, and wish we could all be so lucky. | |
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Anno41
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Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 1054 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 10/31/2006 10:43:29 PM | | I met a guy for coffee today that didn't have a pic here. He was very nice and looked just fine. Most of the profiles I have earmarked in my favorites do not have pictures. I go more for what the profile says. I know people lie, no question about it. Just have to feel them out a little and meet in a public place. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/1/2006 4:34:52 PM | | Sure. I've met some real good-looking guys who didn't have a pic posted. And I've had responses from quality guys even when I didn't have a picture posted. Go ahead and write. Ask for a pic if you're nervous. Or take a chance, it's only a half-hour or so out of your life to meet someone, right? What's the big deal? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/2/2006 4:45:37 AM | Recently, i reieved a message from a gentalmen that was kinda just like hey hows it going, however they did not have a picture but i still enjoyed reading his profile and it was his profile that actually made us continue talking. For my profile at that time i did have a picture posted so he was crealily able to see who i was, however when i asked him if he had a picture he said no. That really didnt stop of from talking though, we actually exchanged emails for a while then finally chatted on msn. I must say what hooked me was when one day he asked if he could call me so since i didnt feel like sitting at the computer i said sure. That converstation on the phone lead to another one, which lead to talking on the phone for hours. I actually just loved the sound of his voice. We had so much in common that it made it quite easy to talk and i felt i had this weird connection with him, it wasnt so much chemistry or infatuation, but comfort of having someone else that understood me. Eventually we planned to meet, and it really didnt even dawn on me that i didnt know what he looked like, sure he gave me a verbal discription but i think through out our conversations i just started to imagin what he looked like. For our first date i picked him up, at least if i needed to escape i had the wheels to do it lol. By the time i picked him up though it was slightly dark out, so when he got in to my car i couldnt quite tell what he looked like and i thought it would be rude of me to just sit there and stare lol. I must say boy was I wrong about what i imagined he looked like! BUT even so, when i am still around him now, every time i look at him the sexier he gets every day, i can say i was quite pleased with his looks. (one little confesion, even after we met when we taked on the phone some time i would catch my self still picturing the "image" of what i thought he looked like, which surprisingly isn't as attractive as he really is...ooops lol)
But on a slightly other note, even when ppl do have "their real" picture on profile, it really doesnt mean much. You sometimes still end up meeting your date some where and you stand there for 5-10 minutes contemplating on whether thats really them or not before you go introduce yoru self if they dont see you first or you just run away becasue some how the picture displayed him as tall dark and handsom, and well in real life he more resembles a troll. lol!
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/2/2006 5:29:41 AM | | I talked to someone for quite some time without a photo and he was charming, considerate, intelligent. He described himself to me and sounded presentable when he finally sent a photo he looked like Grandpa Jones from HeeHaw. I thought it was a joke and told him so...he quickly told me that it was really him and added how shallow I was. You can never tell though even if you see a photo. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/2/2006 5:49:19 AM | This is a COLD attitude to have. There are many other reasons why people don’t post pictures of themselves. Probably the top reasons are, that they have very low self-esteem of their own self worth. Or perhaps they are ashamed of their own physical appearance.
I have met several people from POF that do not have pictures of themselves posted, and I will tell you right now that they are just as human as you are, but they possess something that people like you will never have, and that is COMPASSION.
I put more stock into someone’s inner worth much more then his or her physical appearance. The people that are hung up on physical appearance will soon notice that physical beauty is only skin deep, but their ugly attitude goes clean through to the bone. | |
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Meface
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Joined: 6/20/2006
Msg: 1060 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/2/2006 6:25:03 AM | | I've met incredibly beautiful guys with no picture. That was the day of the newspaper. The rasta biker said he looked like Cat Stevens and he did, too. And that long haired one was just a beauty and a fab lover. Had other problems, but they all have other problems. I've also met a lot of guys who weren't too pretty, but they spent a lot of money on me. Why de heck I gonna care about dis picture? I have fun no matter what, unless they're insulting, which a lot are. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/2/2006 7:57:30 PM | I obviously don't have a picture posted. My excuse is that I am just a low profile kind of guy.
Anyway I got a couple of emails from gals who don't have pictures either. There wasn't much of an exchange but it got me thinking. When should we exchange photos?
Should I ask right away for a photo or is that impolite?
I am not not unhappy that I didn't give my photo out since the emails didn't last. But,
maybe if I would have sent out my picture right away I would have had some luck.
I have not yet initiated contact with anyone since I am so new to this. But, I assume I need to send a picture in my first email?
Anyone have an opinion on this? | |
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tazz66
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Joined: 7/10/2006
Msg: 1064 | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/5/2006 7:10:27 AM | Is anyone gonna get real on these forums? lol 98% of the population is visually oriented and shallow. Otherwise we wouldnt have a fashion industry, we wouldnt have Divas and super models, we wouldnt have pushup bras, make-up, matching cooordinated evening wear, etc. We wouldnt need to have cars of different styles and colors or houses of different shapes and sizes. Oh, if it didnt matter what you smelled like, we wouldnt have noses either. The sad truth is, it does matter. Just like Wheeze said, if you cant see the person, you are going to use your shallow imagination and build your own image of the person to please yourself, Only to be let down by how inaccurate your imagination is. I've met plenty of women without pics in their profiles or having seen them before meeting them. It just doesnt matter what a person looks like because as soon as they open their mouth, and you can hear their insecurity, their BS, they're trying to be someone they arent, or trying to be who you THINK they should be, then its all for nothing. What it boils down to at that point is, you are using their picture or what they look like, to decide for yourself if they are attractive enough to have sex with them, and if its good enough, it doesnt matter what kind of person they are, chances are you will fool yourself into ignoring everything about them except how good the sex is and hope it lasts you a lifetime. Or at least long enough to say "I was married for 15 years before I opened my eyes and accepted what kind of person he REALLY was".
The human race is too immature, too shallow, too insecure for you to step outside the majority into the 2% group, close your eyes and stop judging by looks, and actually start "listening" to a person's beauty.
wanna surprise yourself? Go to a nightclub with a friend, and pretend you are blind (wear the sun-glasses or whatever) but keep your eyes closed, and "listen" to everything you possibly can. This might turn you off fromever going to a club again...but you will be surprised.
Your heart "sees" more than your eyes ever will. Your ears will tell you more truths than your eyes ever will. The eyes cant hear tone of voice, hear sincerity, can't hear compassion, etc. On the other side of the coin, a persons "actions" can back up their words, give them (the words) credibility, or even speak for themselves, but yet will still have nothing to do with looks.
I don't care "what" you look like, if a child smiles or laughs because of you, or reaches out to you for a hug, or grabs your hand and pulls you to the swings or the merry go round and to come look at the mammoth behind the glass at the museum...then you have something that is important to me.
Children arent visual but they have an incredible sense of what is good and bad in this world, until we ruin them with our shallow teachings of how to judge others. Children don't care what you look like, or have preconceived notions in their heads about what your looks mean before they talk to you, until we teach them how to do that. I'll take a date to a playground, or a place like a theme park or a crowded mall and watch how the children react to my date. You cant hide from the scrutiny of the blunt and sometimes painful honesty of children.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/5/2006 11:01:03 AM | Absolutely! I've met several people without pictures. Also, I've found many people to be much more attractive than they're picture, while some have been less. I believe too much emphasis is placed on the photo. Let me sit down and be with someone, see they're facial experssions, body laungage as they speak. See they're eyes when they communicate, they're smile when they laugh. Now that shows me far more than any picture. These things also present the person I'm meeting as they reall are and may shoe me somewhat who they are : ).
Happy fishing all!
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 11/8/2006 4:00:24 PM | She wasn't assasinating his character--that guy did it all by himself! LOl. By the way,he may have had some valid remarks,but his tone was so vitriolic I decided it wasn't worth reading it.
I have no picture --"Oh my God I'm one of those"-- for 2 reasons-
1-I absolutely detest getting my pic. taken. I have pics. from 4 yrs. ago that I have used in the past--but they are too old to use now.
2- I have communicated and met more sincere men without a picture. When I had my picture posted (not on this site) I would hear from guys who were all into looks.
I have met guys without pics. and have found them to be as attractive (if not,more so) than those with pics.
I have learned not to judge anyone just because a pic. is not posted.Some of you are missing out on some cool people due to misconceived thoughts. | |
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r-nice
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Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 1073 | |
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