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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 6:28:18 AM |
No picture...at least you are sending messages back and forth with someone who is misleading you.
I just went out with a fellow... he posted a picture of himself atleast 10-15 years old. and easily 70 lbs lighter.
I would rather have honesty.
I agree no pic is just as bad as a false pic. That's why it's not only good to ask how current the pic is, but ask for a couple or use a cam. People can provide one false pic, but most aren't prepared to give you 3 false pics....hell ask height and weight and age as well; sounds strange but these are strange times.
Anything other than what you see in person whether it's a false pic or an old pic is dishonesty. No good comes of people who do that. No one's going to date you if you misrepresented yourself...no matter how great your personality is. | |
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Flear
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Joined: 5/7/2006
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 1:09:38 PM | old school queen ...
if your going to ask that much about the other person you might as well be upfront and tell them you have no desire to be willing to believe anything they have to say.
and who wants to date someone who doesn't believe them ???
and with or without a pic, ... you don't need a pic to misrepresent yourself, you don't need to hide a pic to misrepresent yourself.
for those who are showing false pics (not current, or not their own), that's their insecurity, and i'll agree, it's not good to go out with such people (although the majority of you are unable to tell the difference).
i would like to hear why no pic is as bad as a false pic though ?
from the person who is faking their pic they are knowingly deceiving you, the one without a pic, how is that deceptive ? i'm asking people to judge me on my morals, personality, feelings, and the rest of it, i'm asking people to consider those things about me instead of judging me by my looks. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 1:17:36 PM |
if your going to ask that much about the other person you might as well be upfront and tell them you have no desire to be willing to believe anything they have to say.
Pretty much. This is a total stranger. When you have met a few people who do misrepresent themselves, it's best to just ask up front. If it's not clear in the profile or conversation - it's better to ask than assume and then come here and post a thread about how you met someone that was lying about their appearance.
i would like to hear why no pic is as bad as a false pic though ?
from the person who is faking their pic they are knowingly deceiving you, the one without a pic, how is that deceptive ? i'm asking people to judge me on my morals, personality, feelings, and the rest of it, i'm asking people to consider those things about me instead of judging me by my looks.
I never said it was deceptive to have no pic, but basically you know just as much about a person with no pic as you do with a person who presents a false one...absolutely nothing. Barring what they are telling you which should be honest but until you meet them, it's a toss up - the rest is the unknown. That's how they are similar.
And hell, I'm not stating that as a new fact, I am merely agreeing with the other 99+ people (mostly without pics) that have already said that in defense of having no pic posted...as in
"What's the difference? Someone with a false pic is no better than someone with no pic."
I would quote that to a specific person, but it's everywhere in this thread. Shouldn't be hard to find. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 5:47:21 PM | well said....hermosaflor
I might be repeteing myself but Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, what's ugly to some is pretty to others etc, then there's always kinda cute too, what's wrong with that, and what's that they say......... love is blind.. thank God!
If Im not mistaken isn't this a dating site , and would that not mean you want to be physically attracted also? Or should we as some people think here just date anyone. Who cares how honest they are, or what they look like.....because we are all deporado's here.....lol.
I too know for a fact that some men here are outright lying about their age. Now there's a good reason not to post a pic.
opps/ probably some women too...I just haven't checked them out, personally. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 5:51:35 PM | | Yes, I met someone with no pic. He turned out to be one of the best looking guys I've met and a charming date. We had been emailing for months before we met and I liked everything he had to say also. That was six years ago and I still see him occasionally. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 6:34:45 PM | | Yes I did this mistake on different sites including here and was often disapointed. Perhaps men hide theyr pics because they are married or have a girl friend or for other obscure reasons, family, work... So you had a chance to find a nice guy. Women hide thery pics for more simpler reason most of the time, they don't want men to see what they look like and be rejected. They mostly lie on theyr age, weight, physical appearence. And don't tell me I generalise or I'm mysoginist, I love women, I just write about my experiences. And no I don't have a pic because I want to keep my privacy regarding my family... But I show it on demand, no problem as I'm not ugly at all... | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 6:49:32 PM | I don't think it's shallow at all to want to see someone's picture. Physical attraction is part of the dating game; and afterall, anyone looking at my profile have seen my photos. This site has a great feature where you can keep your pics private but attach them to emails to the people you choose to contact.
Sounds really awesome that things worked out with your date, however... hopefully you guys have a few more!!
Cheers! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 7:07:01 PM | Wisdom reveals the following truth...
Those people who are obsessed with seeing a picture with a profile do so because of an innate "fear of the unknown, a sublime state of paranoia, which inhibits their intelligence".
To disregard profiles without pictures means you are eliminating many opportunities for meeting "Mr. Right". A woman may claim she'll only meet with a guy if she sees his picture first because she thinks it'll make her "safe "...this mind set if foolish, as seeing a picture doesn't protect you from anything. Any "delusion of security" you indulge in only increases your vulnerability.
The wise course to take is to forget about the picture and focus on the profile and meeting the person on the profile. Leave the paranoia and superficiality at home. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 7:18:21 PM | I met a man from another site who didn't have a picture.
When I asked for one he said no one ever asked me to put a sack over my head.
He was from my home town and knew many of my relatives. Sounded like a very nice guy by his letters and our phone conversations. he called me every day some times once or twice.
I told my self when I met him I would except him no matter what he looked like as he sounded so sincere, sweet and caring.
Would I do it again no. he was nothing like he sounded, and I'm not into guys that date both men and women, he never told me this but it was very obvious when I met him, and then I found out my in-stincts were right.
I seen him twice and told him I was not at all attracted to him.
Talked to him on the phone later only as a friend, but the sweet sincere guy turned into a jealous, controlling guy, who was just into him self.
I think by then he knew I had him figured out. I think the dating female thing was just an act
so his children wouldn't figure him out, I do answer letters with out pictures, but not for long before I have them send one. I will not date again unless I see a picture first as a picture says a thousand words. even to chat with them it is more real if you can see who you are chating with. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/11/2006 7:41:32 PM | I have met a man with no pic.... he wasn't my "type" at all, but his personality was everything to me and I started to find him attractive... very much so, actually. Unfortunately we were at two very different points in life and it ended before it started.  | |
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Flear
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Joined: 5/7/2006
Msg: 1187 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/12/2006 1:23:50 AM | hermosaflor ...
We all know physical appearance is important so if you are going to keep it a secret until the last minute then be prepared for the worst!
ahh yes, physical appearance, the ultimate in superficial judging someone on looks and not on any merit of who they are as a person, the ultimate indicater of who is shallow and who is willing to see the person inside.
old school queen ...
I never said it was deceptive to have no pic, but basically you know just as much about a person with no pic as you do with a person who presents a false one...absolutely nothing. Barring what they are telling you which should be honest but until you meet them, it's a toss up - the rest is the unknown. That's how they are similar.
i do believe that is why lately i have been more willing to read who the person is i'm talking with, not their profile, but using a bit of psychic ability and reading who they are (and what they are here for), many are interested in just themselves, and many, while they say "looking for long term", are only putting that on there intests in an attempt to find someone who is more willing to stick around regardless of their own interests, which often amounts to, compairing several people and trying to judge who is the best one, ... don't care if you believe it or not, this directly shows they aren't as willing to make themselves commited to one person, but are looking for who they think is the best person.
and if you happen to find out your the 'best person', your only the best person for now, till things don't work out, then they're out looking for someone else, ... in my mind that's not "long term", that's very immediate and 'short term'
but these are things people don't write about themselves, ... but she sure do let it shine through when you have a look at who they are inside, it becomes easy to find out who is serious, who is honest about their intentiones, who is selfish, who is still carying over past hurts instead of waiting to heal and let go before considering someone new in their life.
then there is the mundane people, ... i've got nothing against the mundane specificaly, just against the shallow ones. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/12/2006 8:51:02 AM |
ahh yes, physical appearance, the ultimate in superficial judging someone on looks and not on any merit of who they are as a person, the ultimate indicater of who is shallow and who is willing to see the person inside.
One of the things that strikes me about these picture/no picture threads is the level of intolerance. Everyone has preferences, and that is their choice.
Some people feel safer knowing what the person they are talking to looks like. It doesn't make them shallow, nor does it negate their ability to see a person "inside".
Conversely, some people feel safer not posting a photo for the whole world to see. It doesn't automatically mean they're suspect, or that their hiding something.
It's all about preference and comfort level; who are any of us to judge that? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/12/2006 9:33:28 AM | mystlw,,,,,,,,,,,,
I totally agree with you ,,,,,,,,I guess I feel safer knowing what the person looks like,
If the picture is several years old we can usually judge that to a point and we know right then if the person is honest, Often guys will say if it's an older picture and I appreciate that. but we know some of them can tell a little white lie and get away with it. Not refering to any one specific, and it's not only the men,,
I don't just judge a guy by his picture I read the profile several times, and possibly between the lines. I like to know what they are looking for in a relationship, single, married, things I question them on if we communicate.
If there is a testimonial on them I think that's a bonus and it also helps to know the person a bit better. just my 2 cents worth,,,,,,, | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/14/2006 10:21:20 PM | On my dating advice website I advice women to always post of good photo of themselves. The reason is that after watching several men look for women online, the pattern is the same.
1. Look through the pictures
2. Select a women that they are attracted to
3. View her profile
4. If the profile okay then he will make the contact.
My advice to women that are contacted by men with no photo is to be carefull.
1. Is he married and does not want his wife/partner finding out?
2. Is he intenting doing harm to you?
3. Is he so gross that he dare not put his photo on for fear of rejection.
Trust you instincts and ask him to supply one or a few photos to allow you to verify that they are of him. He may have a fantastic online personality but in the real world you have to live with him. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/14/2006 10:46:33 PM |
And hell, I'm not stating that as a new fact, I am merely agreeing with the other 99+ people (mostly without pics) that have already said that in defense of having no pic posted...as in
"What's the difference? Someone with a false pic is no better than someone with no pic."
I am not sure about the rest of you but one photo would never be sufficient for me to go off and meet someone. I would want to see a few more. Yes, they might be false but it is harder to have a series of false photos. A series of professional photos is suspect, since they are easily downloaded. If there are one or two normal photos then I would be more likely to believe they a geniune.
Again how many on here cannot afford to get a webcam, this gives you a chance to not only see but hear what your potential date is like.
Trust nobody, not even yourself. How many times have your been shocked by your own actions.
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/15/2006 5:40:05 AM |
I am not sure about the rest of you but one photo would never be sufficient for me to go off and meet someone. I would want to see a few more. Yes, they might be false but it is harder to have a series of false photos. A series of professional photos is suspect, since they are easily downloaded. If there are one or two normal photos then I would be more likely to believe they a geniune.
Again how many on here cannot afford to get a webcam, this gives you a chance to not only see but hear what your potential date is like.
Trust nobody, not even yourself. How many times have your been shocked by your own actions.
Yes, ask for more than one or two pics, and a cam - that's pretty much what my original post said, in addition to asking the person's height, weight, age and how current their pics are if you want to be sure. The quote you took from me was in response to someone else, and was out of context. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/15/2006 4:15:50 PM |  Oh my .... can55adian .... e-mails me ... no pic
So I ask for one after all mine is posted. He does not send one and calls me shallow. So I tell him Im not interested in people who have secrets. Then he emails me and says he doesnt like fat people anyhow. Now what's that? Couldn't he read my profile the first time?
There's another reason not to get involved with people who don't post pics... what a jerk He couldn't even fake it here....lol | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:26:27 PM |
There's another reason not to get involved with people who don't post pics... what a jerkHe couldn't even fake it here....lol
Jerks come in all shapes and sizes, though. For example, someone that assumes that she's above the rules and names another member in an unflattering forum post.
Or did I miss the memo on that rule change?? | |
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