|
|
|
|
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/24/2007 8:39:06 AM | | Yep Twice and only after talking online and on the phone several times. Really liked WHO they were so I thought it worth the chance. Neither of them were unattractive, but they weren't for me either. It was worth the chance and we had great dates....and it geared me up for messaging men without Pics posted because I liked what they had to SAY. The last one I messaged turned out to be terrific, and very attractive. Better looking than his pictures he sent me privately and he thought the same about mine. Pictures can be deceiving in BOTH directions. So I say...Take a CHANCE..IF you like the profile go for it! We are on here to meet people and see where it goes so why limit yourself?? Most people will send a picture privately and if not...and you like them, then I say MEET. You will either make a great friend or they could be who you have been waiting for. My "blind date" and I are on three blissful months of togetherness and I could have missed out on someone wonderful all because there was no picture posted...... | |
|
| |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/24/2007 11:18:30 AM | | I totally agree with you fifi47. I don't have a pic with my profile for several reasons besides mainly not having a way to upload one. But I am like you, if the guy is too shallow to respond to my profile because he is just looking for a model type or barbie doll, then he is not for me. I understand that there has to be some mutual attraction to begin a relationship. However, if I have a man asks for a picture of me right off the bat, then I see a red flag, that he is all about looks and probably doesn't care about the women's personality. I think that the part that I find ridicoulous and funny is that the least attractive guys are usually the pickest. I wonder if they ever look in the mirror at themselves. And if they do-do they face REALITY! I think that the biggest problem is that some guys (not all) just ASSUME that because you don't have a pic with your profile, that you have to be dog ugly. However, to make assumptions is wrong and you fellows could be missing out on a nice and pretty woman, because of this judgements. Good luck to all in your search! | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/24/2007 12:45:32 PM | As someone who believes that looks arent everything, I have been on a couple of dates without seeing a photo but only because I felt I knew them well enough from telephone chats.
My last encounter has taut me a big lesson though !! His profile photo was of 2 red Ferraris ! We met in September and he bombarded me with texts and phone calls telling me he was missing me, he loved me etc.......after three months I found not only had he been married for 18 years but he had two young children and I never did see the Ferrari ! Now I know why there was no photo on here or on the other sites I found that Ferrari photo on. No more no photo dates for me !!!! | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/24/2007 12:54:43 PM | | Hey when I first tried this site, I though hey it would be shallow to only go for people with pics. Im still traumatized from that incident, flashbacks nightmares whoa!!! Now I dont even respond because, I felt like a total and complete horrible person after meeting this person that was excuse me, very homely- man my head is twitching. | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/24/2007 1:05:54 PM | I saw this post and had to jump to it .
because looks arent excatly going to tell you the characterisitics of a person.
and even if they had pics i would look past the pic.
I also think it goes further even after contacting some one for a certain amount of time the love is already in the air, so why not catch it before it gets away ...isnt that what we are all here for anyway ..so pic, no pic they could all be good but anyway could be trouble unless you dont get to know them ...and for those that just want pics ...you are too shallow , and missing out .
I think one key to a relationship is MYSTERY . if ya cant have a little fun to it where would it get you ?
There i said my piece i am happy . | |
|
| |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 11:46:42 AM | | I have a few times, Same as with you , I saw the profile, read it and thought this guy is charming, but what does he look like? Well I haven't been disappointed yet. Meeting for coffee is the best,, that way if he is no prince charming in real life, it doesn't have to last long. I have met some really nice guys, some just don't know how to post a photo or do not have a camera to do so, I give them a chance, I even had one guy mail me photos of him. I was so nervous opening the envelope ,, but I was very relieved once I did, What A CUTIE!!!! Well I will not discourage anyone from contacting and meeting even if there is no photo posted, what have you got to lose. ???? | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 11:55:49 AM | | i'm batting 50/50 so far. two recent meetings with no picture from either. one turned out very delightful and honest to her self description. the other who had said she was of average build was a pleasant woman but extremely shy and about twice the size she said she was. i made the best of it but i'm only 165 pounds myself. she was near 280. | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 11:57:29 AM | I met a guy without a picture and it was one of the nicest guys I have ever met. We only met for coffee a few times but it was very enjoyable talking to him. He still had feelings for the girl he just broke up with so it didn't last too long, but I did consider him a friend for the few weeks he was in my life, even if it was only meeting him for a chat over coffee. I would have no problem meeting someone without a picture again. The way someone looks has nothing to do with why I would be happy to spend time with a person.
When I decide to meet someone, it is only because of how I feel about how the person communicates before I meet them, with or without a picture. People don't always look like their picture. Some people just can't take a good picture, but they are nice people when you meet people in person. Some people's picture doesn't do them justice. They may look better or worse in person.
Meeting someone in person is the only way you will ever know who the person really is. You don't know until you met and talk to them in person so you can watch the body language and know if the person is who he says he is. It is easy to know by watching when he is talking. If he doesn't look in your eyes when he says something, you can bet he isn't being honest. If you get him talking and you see he doesn't tell you the same story twice, you know it is time to move on. It is good to ask the same question in a different way to see if the answers match, but it is better to do that when you are talking face to face to watch his expressions while he is talking to you to know the kind of person he really is. | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 12:17:39 PM | I ll talk to someone without a pic but I will not! meet them! They must have 2 forms of picture ID for me to meet anyone. Onces I met a guy from a sight and he showed me a pic of himself and he was a cute latin guy. I went to meet him and he was a 6ft black guyyyyyy not that I have anything agaist black men but come onnnn didnt he know that I was going to see it wasnt him? | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 12:37:49 PM | Hello Bosslady, SURE I had a lady address my profile and was very interested with what she had read, She sent me an email with no pic. asking to chat I replied by letting her know that I was going to read her profile before I would get back to her...Opened up her profile and NO pic., so I read the profile and I allso was surprised with what her Interest were,ECT . WELL the more we chatted,,asking her for her pic. was the last thing from my mind.. We exchanged phone ###'s continued talking about our life styles and compadibilities, then decided on meeting a week later :-) She called me the day we were to meet and asked; Why would you not ask for my pic., well I said; if you are who you say you are in your profile and with talking on the phone with her, I found after quite sometime what I have been searching for and A PIC., was not going to sway me one way or the other, so she sent me one anyway before we met that day :-) We met the chemistry was there and we have been dating ever since... WE are doing great and I concider myself very fortunate to have replied to her .... Hea but I must admit the pic. she sent the day we had met "WOW" But I say to you and others,if your Trully looking for a best friend/solemate, THEN.. "READ THE BOOK,THE PICs.,TELL YOU NOTHING" Marty | |
|
bunkin
|
Joined: 11/3/2006
Msg: 1313 | |
| |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 1:32:06 PM | | I'm not looking for Barbie or a model. In fact I prefer someone who is average looking but still a picture is a must. I won't buy a car, a house, clothing or anything else unless I see it first. I am open to dating someone who is thin, average, stocky or a few extra pounds if it's carried well. Eyes and a nice smile are the most important features to me. I have had two bad experiences even though photos were posted. | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 2:14:59 PM |
But I say to you and others,if your Trully looking for a best friend/solemate, THEN.. "READ THE BOOK,THE PICs.,TELL YOU NOTHING" Marty
That is the best thing I have read in this place yet.. I am very happy you for you Marty. Thanks so much for sharing your experience. Maybe I will find a good 'book' to read too some day. One of my better experiences meeting someone from POF was someone I didn't see a picture before I met him. He described the truck he was driving and I had no problem at all finding him. I would do it again in a minute. | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 3:22:30 PM | I would rather have no pic than a pic that's 10 years old! Men (and women) -- Are you dumb enough to think that we aren't going to be able to recognize that the picture was not made recently? Or their profile says they're 60 years old; but the picture in their profile shows them in their basic training uniform from the military or a high school prom dress?? Will we not be able to recognize that their weight is double what it was when the pic was made? I read (and hear) so often from guys how disappointed they are that women post pictures that were made years before. It goes both ways.
For me, it's not all about looks (although I agree that looks are important). It's more about the fact that it's a form of lying or deception and that's a huge red flag right from the beginning. My first thought is always, "If you're not honest about something as basic as your looks, what else will you lie about?"
That said (and before I get blasted  ) I have no picture posted for very personal reasons (no I'm not married and I'm not involved with anyone and I'm not looking for extracurricular activities and I don't have outstanding warrants). Once I've talked with someone for a while and get to know them a little better, I'm always happy to send a picture -- and it will be a tasteful and RECENT picture. I have very few people on this site show any interest at all since I don't have a pic posted and that's okay. I mainly come here for the forums anyway as I find some of them quite enlightening.
I think there may be some great opportunities on here with people who have no pics posted -- but people have to be willing to take that chance. Just like anything else in life sometimes taking a chance works and sometimes it doesn't. | |
|
richw
|
Joined: 8/7/2006
Msg: 1317 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 3:30:30 PM | | I have met people without seeing a picture, I am always happy to do so, I will not put my pic on pof any more, anyone who thinks they can judge someone's character from a little image on a monitor, is either too clever for me, lying, or too shallow! | |
|
| |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 4:21:11 PM | When I was a wee lass, before the invention of internet dating, I went on many MANY blind dates with all kinds of guys.... even some missing body parts.
I was never "dissapointed" because what exactly does one little old date hurt.
I did dissapoint myself on the last blind date... I was off my game or whatever - talking kind of stupid - so he never called.
At least on line you "chat" directly with the guy and on a blind date you typically just hear about the guy from someone else's point of view. | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 4:32:38 PM | | I have met quite a few without requesting a photo. I figure its not only a matter of how someone looks. I like intrigue. I am brave. Met someone today without seeing his photo. I will most likely do it again. Ahh, and hopefully whom ever I meet photo or no photo, I will connect and start dating someone, its time. | |
|
richw
|
Joined: 8/7/2006
Msg: 1321 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 5:25:46 PM | | Honest & Open, you obviously live up to your name, it's so nice to hear that someone has the same view as me on this subject, what really 'gets up my nose' is the girls who won't even talk or email without a pic, they are really sad & don't know what they're missing. | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 6:44:35 PM | I would never meet someone without seeing a picture. And if someone writes me and doesnt have a pic, i ask for one. And, i'm NOT shallow and i'm NOT picky. I know what type guys i like. And its lots of different looks.
I do think that you never really know til you meet someone in person, but i'd like to have an idea of what someone looks like. I've been on plenty of dating sites to know how it works.
I dont think there's any excuse for not posting a pic. When i was on WebTV, i had a friend with a scanner scan pics of me, and email them to me at my account. Its easy. Even Radio Shack will do it for free (around here).
I know most guys are looking for models, no matter what they themselves look like, that's why i put plenty of pics of me up...so they will know that i'm NOT ONE... LOL...
 | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 10:17:37 PM | From a dating site? Once years ago, but only after talking on the phone. The only problem is that she put "a few extra pounds" on her profile instead of something else that indicated *alot* heavier (and I like big girls!). Maybe people project that in themselves so it's somewhat subjective when looking in the mirror, but what's amazing to me reading some of the posts that someone would lie about something indisputable like their age or the fact that they are bald or something, I can understand the mentality that they hope their charm will overcome, but to me it also sets a precedence for the whole relationship that lies are acceptable, which they aren't.
Not from a dating site? When I did tech support I have met a couple of women in person who I never saw a picture of. Sometimes you're on a tech support call for an hour and if we had a good rapport we might hit it off and exchange emails, then phone calls. Ten years ago alot less people were tech savvy and didn't have a photo on their computer. On the phone I guess I am a good judge of character and style and that is more important than looks (not to discount the importance of chemistry tho), so if she survived the phone test lol, it was worth at least meeting.
I think sometimes women here are bombarded with emails and can only afford to look at the ones with photos just from a standpoint of practicality. | |
|
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 10:24:06 PM | | To add... in this "new" age everyone should be able to manage a photo, and while not showing it to the world is totally understandable, they should be sent privately at that certain stage, otherwise I would think they have something to hide. If you think you trust someone enough to meet them, you should trust them enough to send a photo and vise versa. IMO | |
|
| |
|
| Page 53 of 97
|
39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59, 60, 61, 62, 63, 64, 65, 66, 67, 68, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 77, 78, 79 |
|
Home
login 
