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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/13/2007 6:40:45 PM | At a minimum, I want to see a picture. It has nothing to do with being shallow or stuck up either. It's only human to want to know what someone looks like that you're writing to. And believe me there are plenty of people you'll want to avoid based upon their picture.
There's isn't any excuse for not posting a picture either. The tools and techniques are readily available and simple to use. Some people say they don't want to be recognized due to their sensitive position at some company or some other BS. It really is all BS too.
I have a friend that refuses to post a picture, and I know why. He's a 150 pounds overweight. He's afraid that women won't respond to him if they know what he looks llike. Well eventually they are going to find out one way or another. For example, they often insist on a picture, so emails them one. Usually he doesn't hear from them again. Obviously they aren't going to be too happy meeting him in person.
If you're unhappy with your appearance, get some exercise and lose the weight. If you work for the CIA, why are you posting on an internet dating site?
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Nikiya
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Joined: 1/20/2007
Msg: 1354 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/23/2007 9:50:06 PM | I a gree with you. The first time i tried this..and this is my first time ever on a sight was a few months back...i decided not to post my pic for proffessional and personal reasons...if guys dont want to believe that...that is their choice...
now i do have pics up because i got tired of people asking...so here it is my f..ing picture...love it or hate it....
peace
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/26/2007 12:35:47 PM | "Foxy",I have never posted a "pic."Why?Because I'm about as attractive as nose leavings on a
door knob!Why I'm so ugly that I must sneak up on a river to take a dip!
If it (the river)spots me first it immediately changes course!
Talk about ugly!When I was a baby I had my head diapered fourteen times!
Finally they had to tatoo "Butt"on my ass!I still had my head diapered three more times after the tatoo!
I make up for this esthetic dificiency,with my wonderful personality.
Friends have often told me that I have the personality of a "cigar-store Indian"!
And the "brains to match"!
I am a multi-faceted person.(much like a some stones!)
Fun-Guy ,Bill | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/26/2007 9:13:24 PM | shysexyguy: i don't get it. why would you spend 6 mos. talking to someone whom you've never met or of whom you've never even seen a photo? most people want to meet withing 2-4 two-sentence e-mails (I know I do). whether or not they have a photo, you have nothing to lose/nothing invested after a handful of e-mails. ...but 6 months??? that's just CRAZY.
re photos: my experience has been this: 50-75% are putting out their most flattering shots (even if recent & even if they have 10+ pics...one guy looked great & has 13 pics...i could tell the photos were recent, but i couldn't see fine detail in the pis...fine detail sure showed up in real life....it was a no go from the second i saw him up close). 1-2% actually look better than their photos (one guy looked like an 8 and he turned about to be about a 9 in real time). the remainder look pretty well like their photos. i went out with one guy who didn't post a photo. i was pleasantly surprised (but not pleasantly enough to feel any chemistry...but he was at least as good, if not better, as/than the people who had posted photos.)
why do people do that? you're guess is as good as mine. i'll venture a few common sense guesses: you won't even agree to a first meeting if they put up a pic; they're married; they have multiple profiles; they don't like the over-exposure factor (those people usually WILL send a photo to your private e-mail address if you ask... & they'll usually meet pretty quickly); everyone else is doing it, so why shouldn't they?; and the list goes on. the BIGGEST red flag is someone who's not willing (or makes excuses) about meeting in fairly short order (after a handful e-mails or phone convos). in that case, it's almost guaranteed they're very unattractive/overweight/have misrepresented their ages/etc.. (even married persons will quickly meet if it's somewhere where they feel the setting is discreet - married folks wouldn't be online if they want to meet, afterall.) | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/26/2007 9:54:31 PM | to msg 1335: probaly a lame excuse. ...but you never know, this sounds awful, but the one guy on whom i had a crush...well, we dated about 3 times. it fizzled off. by then i changed my user name (changing names had nothing to do with him, btw). had no intention of contacting him again, but HE contacted me again (not realizing it was me). was going to ignore it, but a few days later, i saw a second message from him and, finally, could resist sending a one line response. i know, i know i shouldn't have done it. anyway, this went on for a handful ( 3-4) two-line emails. i finally thought to myself, "this is insane," so called it quits. then, he asked me out! i knew i couldn't go, so i told him, "lets bag it" with some sort of excuse. still feel kinda badly about it in retrospect. i'd never repeat it.
hmm...come to think of it, he never asked me for a photo on the 2nd go-around...by then, he knew i was heavily involved with someone (ok, more than that). People never ask for pics if they think you have a S.O.. (funniest thing is: i used to blatantly post my photos...S.O. ... didn't like it, but I had my reasons...and I was pretty blatant with my S.O..)
you just never know what drives people, even if for a very brief period.
at this point, i have sort of moved on in life; particularly professionally, so some of this stuff seems pretty "mickey mouse" now. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/26/2007 10:02:50 PM | I met one really wonderful guy after emailing and talking occasionally for several weeks. He did eventually send a picture of his dog with a hat on, saying it was "him" and the guy next to the dog was his pet. Kinda cute. We didn't develop a relationship because of personal circumstances and distance, but still talk sometimes.
Met another guy WITH a pic who was very attractive (in the pic). He claimed to be 57. When I met him (fortunately in a very public place) I never recognized him at all. He was at least 80 yo. I sat in my car waiting for someone who looked like him; as I was waiting I was casually watching this older man climb out of a van and put on a string tie, thinking he must have an important meeting to be trying so hard to look nice. His clothes looked very out of date. Which was the case for sure! LOL. I went into the restaraunt and ordered coffee and the man came in and joined me. I stayed long enough for coffee and conversation and he proceeded to tell me that he had been in prison for 15 years for being "accused" of a child predator offense. I RAN out of there. I have grandchildren! The man tried to follow me in his van when I pulled out of the parking lot - so I drove into the nearest gas station and went inside for awhile, then went to a friend's house in the next town when I left there just to make sure I'd lost him. Scared me to death!
You just never know. Everything with any new person you meet is a gamble. You just have to be very careful and watch your back. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/27/2007 2:19:06 PM |
the BIGGEST red flag is someone who's not willing (or makes excuses) about meeting in fairly short order (after a handful e-mails or phone convos). in that case, it's almost guaranteed they're very unattractive/overweight/have misrepresented their ages/etc..
I'm offended by this statement, as many other women will probably be. Safety is a huge consideration for many of us, not only for ourselves, but certainly more so for those of us that have children. A couple of emails is not enough to convince me that I have enough in common with someone to meet, let alone enough to trust him.
And, conversely, anyone that pushes for a quick meeting has no regard for my safety concerns, and isn't someone that I need in my life. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/28/2007 3:44:09 AM |
At least 80....AND an accused child molester? ? Yikes!
Absolutely true story. Needless to say, I'm probably obsessively cautious after that one!
Girls, don't let anyone pressure you into meeting until you're ready. Go with your gut feelings. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/28/2007 4:10:09 AM | I have met women with out pics,I won't do it again!!!! and ladies if you are that worried about meeting a guy because you fear for your life,you might as well not leave your house...I meet asap,that way there are no games,,what you see is what you get. I have not incountered a woman on here yet that has not met me with in a week and a few messages. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/28/2007 5:43:01 PM | Meeting someone in a bar is still safer. At least you know what they look like, and you already know they are an alcoholic. Everything else is the same risk as on the internet, you still don't know who they really are and believe it or not, there are far fewer people who can look you in the eye and lie to you, than there are on the internet who will lie to you.
(Just thought I would throw in a little bar humor ....) | |
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Mia828
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 1366 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/28/2007 7:09:05 PM | | I'll talk to someone without a photo, but I won't meet them. I prefer to know how someone looks before meeting them. It's not about being shallow it's about familiarity. Like you said yourself. But I do think that is a great story you share with us. Thank you | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/28/2007 7:35:12 PM | remember the old days of chatlines? No one knew what each other looked like until they met. But talked on the phone beforehand. Seems now people are more demanding on what the person does look like beforehand because physical attraction has become the main part of dating. Internet dating has changed the face, no pun intended, of dating now. Dating is becoming more and more based on looks, image. So moe than likely people with no pics will not be successful in the current dating style.
I would meet someone without a pic. Gives you more of a curiosity of how you picture them looking like from their description and their voice. | |
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voggy
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Joined: 2/19/2007
Msg: 1368 | |
| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/2/2007 1:00:20 AM | Totally agree with you, i don't have a pic up either, seriously i don't want to be judged by my appearance anyway, there are some guys who think i am the hottest chick out there and there are some that see my pic and run a mile, so what, they are not the one for me anyway.
Funnily enough i did show my pic to a guy recently and he did the dash, i confronted him and said, pic that bad, he said no i like skinny women with developing breasts!. i must update that pic then cos i dont consided a D cup developing!! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/5/2007 6:14:15 PM | | Wow that's awesome. I dated one guy from another site with no picture. I could just tell by his voice that he was my kind of hot. He was and he ended up being the one true love of my life. He was working here in town for a short time and wanted me to move back to Illinois with him. I had to consider my daughter's needs first and I just didn't feel it would be a good move for her at the time. **heavy sigh** I miss him. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/5/2007 7:15:57 PM | i have meet 2 men from pof without exchanging pictures.both experiences were pleasant. it wasn't so much about looks as that there was no spark. both were very nice men , just not for me. i once met a very attractive man on another site, we did exchange pics first. he had the great looks but no personality. men that work alot to climb the " proverbial ladder" get very rusty at social situations and conversations with women. was a very eye opening experience.
attraction is subjective. a nice kind face, warm eyes and the rest of the package to go with it will work wonders. humour and interesting converastion are attractive, attention grabbers. chemistry is way more than just physical appearance but what a nice place to start | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/9/2007 11:46:17 PM | Hahahah I made this mistake once... This is funny...
Soooo This guy IM's me one day... We're having a good chat. He sais he was 31, athletic, & joked about having a full head of hair...
We moved to msn.. Continued chatting but he kept giving excuses about not having a pic.. Now given this was about five years ago & alot of people didn't have pics online then so it wasn't such a red flag but I told him, "being a single woman I'm not willing to meet without seeing who I'm talking to".
He was understanding & we kept chatting for about two months. One night I came home from work, was chattin on msn & I decided I didn't feel like cooking & was going to this little neighborhood resturant for dinner.
He was really casual about "ohh a nice girl shouldn't eat dinner alone" & he told me that he'd come sit at my table & if we didn't hit it off I could tell him openly to leave.. So I figured hey, If he's putting like that, why not..I had after all been talking to him for a few months.
( If you read all that, this is where it gets good)
So I'm sitting in the resturant, I ordered a drink, had my eye on the door & I see this guy walk in......staring at me.........you gotta be kidding me.
This guy is at least 49....the ring around bald doo., coke bottle black frame glasses, What teeth he did have were brown & black, & I'm not joking when I say when I say the guy was dressed out of the free bin at salvation army.
He had the nerve to sit down at my table & I just starred for a second & said " when you said 31 you ment 51?"... he said " well I thought you wouldn't like an old guy like me" at which point I burst out laughing & said " so now that I know you are a scummy old lair I'm gonna like you?" and he just got up & left.
That's gotta be the shortest date in history!
I hope you had a laugh on me. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/10/2007 2:27:37 AM | From what I've seen here and other sites, having a picture posted is not necessarily a
guarantee of what someone looks like. Just because a person has a photo posted, does
not mean that is what they look like. It can be an old picture, a picture that mis-
represents their physical appearance, their age, or a picture that is of someone else. So, it seems to me that it would make no difference whether a picture was posted or not. Just make sure that you meet that person in a public place, and take proper precautions.
I will, and have, met people off of these sites with and without pictures. In both cases I have been pleasantly surprised, or disappointed. I am no beauty, lol, I'm not even classified as good looking. But, that has not stopped me from meeting some very nice people, some of whom I'm good friends with still.
Yes, there are @ss's out there of both sexes. The only way to avoid them is to hide in your home for life. You have to take some chances if you want to meet the right person eventually. Just remember to be safe. There are numerous threads on here that will tell you all the precautions to take.
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