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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/10/2007 2:54:44 AM | I've never met anyone without seeing a picture first, but I think I would give it a go, if it felt right, although I would wonder if they were married or something like that.
I have met up with men who haven't seen my pic first - that was in the early days, when I wasn't really comfortable about internet dating. I think they were pleasantly surprised - well they must have been, because they asked to see me again. One in particular I saw a few times, and he said it was 'the best start to a relationship he had ever had'. Then I found out he was seeing other girls too. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/10/2007 3:13:36 AM | | I have Not met that many people offline...but I do remember 1 man I met a long time ago..he was from Vermont which is about 4 hrs from me..we had been chatting on line for about 4 months..at which time I asked for a pic ,he said he didn't have time to take one..so I said ok ,he described himself.. I went with it..he also told me he was very much a ladies man..I am thinking well how bad can be...OMG Let me just say this..Remember the actor Carl Muldun with the huge nose...Well this man wghed about 3 times what he had said,Now I don't mind stocky men ,but this man was rediculously big..and Not to mention his nose, it was fat,bulbus and purple with pits in it..I do have to say I went about it the wrong way and after returning home I felt bad because he had drove so far to meet me & opted out of a business meeting..But please why not be honest..and show a pic even if it is a yr old at least you would get some idea..I am not Gorgeous Princess..but I am Honest ,sometimes to a fault.So will never meet a man w/o a pic agian. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/12/2007 3:52:53 PM | | I have had both experiences, a couple where there was no pic, ouch never again. And a couple with pics where they looked absolutely nothing like their picture. I am an average looking girl but I would rather have someone know what they are going to meet rather than have a nasty surprise either. I always make sure the guy knows I am not a skinny girl and all my pics are no older than six months old, most are only a week or so. There is nothing worse than meeting someone who says they are 39, average build, full head of hair, and six foot tall, only to meet them and they are 49, fat, bald, and five foot seven. Be honest geesh, it would make things a lot less awkward when meeting and people might not get their feelings hurt by people who are expecting something else and are not impressed by the deception. This is both men and women. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/13/2007 12:42:51 AM | Well, i can chat to women without a pic, but i would never meet one without a pic, cause i do need to know who to look for when i am waiting for them.
But any woman that says that she wouldn't even chat to a person without a pic, surely isn't worth the time, cause she isn't bothered to take the time to get to know a guy before judging them.
I get to know a woman before judging them, cause i have learnt the bad way, that looks can be decieving and that a good looking exterior can sometimes (more often then not) hide a even uglier interior.
It is also the same where a not so attractive exterior can oftenly hide a very attractive interior and the interior is far more important to a relationship then the exterior.
I learnt all this when i was 16 and i am glad i did, i just hope you ladies learn the same thing, but in a better way then i did. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/13/2007 1:58:51 AM | | Well, yes I have met women with no picture, and I won't do it again. Here's my reasons WHY. I have dated women larger than what I find attractive before, but I am really working hard on my own body, for health reasons. If you are my FRIEND, I really don't care, as I accept you for who you are. But in order for me to have a lover/long term relationship, I HAVE to be attracted to you. It might be a little shallow, I agree, but if there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry. I also want someone who is going to take care of themselves at least moderately. I don't need a supermodel, but I DO want someone who has the same or greater fitness goals than I do. And like all of the women who meet men that aren't quite what they say they are, I have experienced the same with women. So, from now on, no. I want someone I have a sexual attraction to, that I can be attracted to forever, because that's the kind of marriage I want - forever. We have different standards for those we accept as friends and those we screen as mates. That's just life. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/20/2007 7:17:05 PM | Picture or not - when I have met with some of the men, they certainly had not updated their picture for many a year, which is a shame, because in a way it is lying. Like women who put up pics of their mates so they can get dates and the poor man cant find her for looking cos the pic was never of her.
It is better to chat to the person first - sort out what you are like and if you could stand the cup of coffee timing let alone an evening together. Not leave it down to a picture.
My picture - well that was taken ten days ago, so it is pretty up to date.  what you see is what you get. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/20/2007 10:02:18 PM | Yup ,I've met really nice guys with no picture, theirs or mine. I live in a small city and my ex is on the same dating sites. I prefer he not see my picture. Also at my house the rule is no personal pictures on the internet. I am honest about who I am and what my body is like . I am willing to take a chance to meet, there are no guarentees to the outcome other than a pleasant encounter. Thanks  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/22/2007 7:02:42 PM | Hi .
I meet some one with no picture told me he was not ugly .
have to ammit we got on all right made plans to live togher after 6 mts.
Was lokking forward to a new way off life .
metting every weekend
After 6 monts of this got a phone call telling me he could not go through with it
Was devastaded after losing my husband 7 years ago .
So would advise any one not to meet some one they dont know .  | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/25/2007 6:59:23 AM | | my advice..try to see a picture...i had a blind date from here and she told me she was 5'7 and 145lbs with dark hair....and i was like yummy....well when i got to the restraunt she was about 5'2 and about 340lbs....and ate 77 dollars worth of ribs and stuff....i know that there must be a attraction at first so i would at least ask to see a picture without being to shallow.. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/26/2007 2:48:47 PM | I have met 2 people on different site that didn't have pics, actually 3, but 1 sent me 1 in the mail after we talked for a while. Only problem with that was her eating disorder kicked in from the time I got it and went to see her (2 weeks) she gained about 100 pounds. She had a pretty face.....pretty big face in fact....
But the other 2 were really nice looking ladies and were as they described themselves.
That was several years ago...The reason I don't post a pic now is because employers or prospective employeers check out the internet to see what a person is doing and some people think online dating is preverted. I see it as another venue to meet people.
Kind of like employeers checking out myspace or facebook to see if there is something posted and what views your expressing.
That said, when things get to where you exchange e-mail addresses, then it is safe to forward a picture as ex, boss, stalker, ect can't see it. If a person refuses to do so, cut em loose as it smells like trouble. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/30/2007 9:06:13 AM | I've made a personal decision, no picture posted, then I don't contact. If someone contacts me without including a picture, I ignore. I make it pretty clear in my profiles that this is the case! I didn't use to include a pic in my profile (I didn't have any relatively current) but now that I do (always within 3 mths old), well I insist on it. I also do realize that not all people look anything like their pics, well I look exactly like my pics. I don't ever wear make up (well sometimes black mascarra) and so there really is no real difference. I also include at least from the hip up as I am not skinny but consider myself average and not way overweight.
I make my own decisions for me. Simply put. I have nothing to hide re personal, nor work so none of that is a consideration. Sometimes I wonder when I get an email from someone with a picture included but not posted in profile. I address that issue at another time. But base line, no pic, no response. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/30/2007 7:29:51 PM | I like the ones who use their "jobs" as reasons not to post their pictures and / or they have a pic but on their other computer and how they always forget to send one, etc...That's a red warning flag that someone is MARRIED and is just here for their jollies and what they can hope to get away with.
I met one guy that did have a pic, he said it was recent, then when we met I barely recognized him. Then he informed me that pic was taken 10 YEARS AGO! Here was someone who lied and betrayed my trust first thing. First date/last date!
AND THE WORST:
Another guy had no pic but went on to describe himself as being clean-cut with short hair, clean shaven, athletic at 6'2 and 210 lbs and doing all kinds of outdoor activities as well as the same things I had listed. When we met....he was wearing dirty sweatpants, a dirty t-shirt with holes in it that barely covered his belly, he hadn't shaved in about a week, had greasy long hair appearing to have bathed the last time he shaved. He was maybe 5'8 and weighing close to 400+ lbs! Never again will I meet a guy with no pic. I told him he wasn't the guy he described and then tried to make me feel guilty for not finishing the "date" and that I owed him that much!
I don't mind some meat on the bones (within reason) but what do people gain by lying about anything, especially when meeting someone for the first time?????????? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 3/30/2007 8:26:45 PM | At the time we met on here, I didn't have a pic up, but my (now-)GF took a chance and emailed me. Sent her a pic with my first reply (same one thats on my profile now). I didn't have my pic up publicly because I was "hiding" from a woman on here I met who got kind of "obsessive" with me, to the point I said "no more", and continued to IM me for a couple months after. I removed that profile and created this one, but didn't put a pic up to avoid the hassle. On the flip side, no, I don't think I would meet someone without having seen a picture at all. Not having one public but sending them in an email is ok, but too many outright liars out there (of both sexes) for me to be comfortable with *no* picture whatsoever. The only woman I've ever met sight unseen was years ago (not on POF), and honestly I was scared through our whole lunch she was gonna pin me against the wall (she could have passed as a WWF wrestler.. a *male* one  ). | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/3/2007 11:21:16 AM | | I always have to see a pic to guarantee and know who I am talking to. I always ask for more than one pic to make sure it's the person I'm talking to. I also talk on the phone with them for some months first to kinda feel how they are as a person. If I feel comfortable with them after months pass, I'll set up a date. I mean meeting someone without a pic is pretty risky, you never know who you're meeting, for all you know it could be a serial killer or a rapist. | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/9/2007 8:40:08 AM | | I have met a few with no pic ! I was not disapointed when i seen them either . I have had guys send me pics that did not even look like them ! One guy i said no way that was not you in that pic ! So i don't know if pics are any good at times either ?? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/9/2007 12:16:15 PM | | yes, I refused to put a picture up, I wanted to start relationship based on respect and not what I look like ... I talked back and forth with a wondeful man named len , we went back and forth for about three months just talking .. we finally plan ned a day at the country club where I live we played 18 holes and had dinner and ... he last thing he said to me that night before he drove 4 hours home, we talked on the phone his whole way home, the best part of it is we are in love ..and he told me that night that he was already in love with me ,,,and waiting to see what I look like was the best thing I could have done.. obviously he was not looking for arm candy ... and his response when he first layed his eyes on me was " my God your beautiful more than I could have ever imagined ... but the fact is he loves me ... and thats what I wanted a man who would love me not even having a clue to what I look like ............ If a guy wants to see what I look like before he will talk to me, I don't respond and anyone who is looking for a one night stand will always want a picture ... they don't get one from me ! or anything else for that matter... not even a response! | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/11/2007 12:51:06 AM | | I agree with the poster who said that if a person is that shallow that they require a picture, then that person is not for me. I like certain parts of the female anatomy (at the risk of oversharing TMI, I won't say what part) but just because a lot of women's pics don't show it, that does not mean that I won't at least give them a chance. And even if they did, who's to say that this person is not a nut job...Tom Cruise is a handsome man, but does that make him any less crazy? | |
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| Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 4/13/2007 12:41:04 PM | | People have reasons why they don't want to post a picture on their profile. Although it would be nice to see a picture but it shouldn't matter because you never know if the picture of that a person has posted up on their profile is true of themselves. What you should look for is how they write about themselves can usually bring out the character of that person. All we can do is just be careful who we meet online , at a club , a bar and on a blind date. Just keep an open mind. Faith will connect us to that right man or women. Example : Sleeping in Seattle or Serendipty ( if anyone has seen these movies) | |
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